\u2022 Perhaps a mother\u2019s intentions were pure, but she failed to express them the right way, so the child ends up being raised in a toxic environment, which can influence their further growth.<\/em><\/p>\n \u2022 We shouldn\u2019t forget that a mother is never just a mother. She has many roles that she either imposed on herself or is expected to perform by others or society.<\/em><\/p>\n \u2022 Also, we shouldn\u2019t forget that sometimes even our mothers grow up having a toxic relationship with their parents, which later on shifts to their children. Speaking of a vicious cycle.<\/em><\/p>\n Pero no toda esperanza est\u00e1 perdida.<\/p>\n Si aprendes m\u00e1s sobre el comportamiento t\u00f3xico caracter\u00edstico de un padre t\u00f3xico, tendr\u00e1s la oportunidad de romper ese c\u00edrculo vicioso y protegerte a ti mismo y a tus hijos actuales o futuros.<\/strong><\/p>\n Below you\u2019ll find the most common 8 signs you were raised by a madre t\u00f3xica<\/a>comportamientos de una madre t\u00f3xica, y c\u00f3mo esto influye en tu salud mental.<\/p>\n Si algunos o todos los signos siguientes te suenan, lo m\u00e1s probable es que hayas sido criado por una madre t\u00f3xica:<\/p>\n Cuando eras ni\u00f1o, siempre hac\u00edas todo lo posible por complacer a tu madre para ganarte su amor y su afecto. Pero eso rara vez o nunca ocurr\u00eda.<\/p>\n Como adulto, sigues sintiendo la necesidad de dar prioridad a los dem\u00e1s antes que a ti mismo. Establecer l\u00edmites<\/a> es un verdadero reto para ti.<\/strong><\/p>\n No se puede c\u00e9ntrate en tus propias necesidades<\/a> because you feel responsible for other people\u2019s happiness and well-being (just as you feel\/felt responsible for your mother\u2019s happiness).<\/p>\n Debido a eso, a menudo terminas siendo tomado por sentado, y atraes a personas que se alimentan de tu amor y empat\u00eda, como jugadores, narcisistas y similares.<\/p>\n De todas las 8 se\u00f1ales de que fuiste criado por una madre t\u00f3xica, \u00e9sta es una de las m\u00e1s dolorosas. Luchas con baja autoestima<\/a> y el perfeccionismo constante.<\/p>\n Ser duro contigo mismo se ha convertido en tu rutina diaria. If your mother ever acknowledged your worth and gave you unconditional love, you\u2019ll feel like you were never deserving of it in the first place.<\/strong><\/p>\n In other words, you feel like you\u2019re not and will never be suficientemente bueno<\/a> no importa cu\u00e1nto te esfuerces por crecer y lograr cosas en la vida.<\/p>\n Por ello, es posible que acabes trabajando en exceso y complacer a los dem\u00e1s<\/a> mientras descuidas tu propio bienestar.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll do all that only to prove to yourself and others that you are good enough and worthy of love and attention.<\/strong> Sin embargo, este juego de perseguir el perfeccionismo s\u00f3lo dar\u00e1 lugar a m\u00e1s decepciones.<\/p>\n This one is connected with the previous sign. If you feel like you\u2019re not good enough, you\u2019ll also feel the need to constantly seek approval and validation from others.<\/p>\n Regardless of whether it\u2019s something regarding your job or outfit, your choices (self-esteem and self-worth) will greatly rely on other people\u2019s opinions.<\/strong><\/p>\n If they say that they don\u2019t approve of something, you\u2019ll instantly feel the need to change it and adapt to their preferences. En busca de validaci\u00f3n<\/a> pronto se convierte en respirar.<\/p>\n The more you depend on others, the more you lose yourself. \u201cI don\u2019t know who I am anymore<\/a>\u201d is a sentence you hear yourself saying often.<\/p>\n If you grew up with a controlling parent, chances are you\u2019ll have difficulty making decisions both as a child and as an adult-child. Even the simplest tasks, such as choosing between two T-shirts, will overwhelm you. Why?<\/p>\n Because you\u2019re scared of making a mistake. That is why you often resort to serious pensando demasiado<\/a> antes de tomar una decisi\u00f3n definitiva.<\/strong> However, I\u2019m not talking about a healthy amount of overthinking, but the kind that ruins your salud mental<\/a> y provoca insomnio.<\/p>\n Cuanto m\u00e1s seria es la decisi\u00f3n que tienes que tomar, m\u00e1s frustrado te sientes.<\/strong> The pressure is high. If your mother never allowed you to make mistakes, you\u2019ll feel enormous pressure to avoid failing at anything, which is connected with making a wrong decision.<\/p>\n \u00bfTu madre siempre te criticaba cuando comet\u00edas un error o fracasabas en algo? \u00bfTe hac\u00eda sentir incompetente?<\/em><\/p>\n If yes, then you know why you have difficulty processing failure. Let\u2019s say that you fail an exam or fail to create a project the way your boss expected you to. How would this make you feel?<\/p>\n Deja que te ayude. If you grew up with a toxic parent, you\u2019d immediately feel like an ultimate failure who is not allowed to make mistakes.<\/strong><\/p>\n You\u2019ll feel disappointed not only in yourself and your boss or parents but also in the whole world. In such cases, tantrums become inevitable.<\/p>\n You process even the smallest failures for weeks and even months. You have difficulty understanding that you\u2019re allowed to make mistakes, and this doesn\u2019t make you less worthy.<\/p>\n If your mother had manipulative tendencies, chances are you\u2019ll develop problemas de confianza<\/a> hacia otros miembros de tu familia, tus mejores amigos, tu pareja y otras personas de tu vida.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll have difficulty opening up to other people because your first thought is that they\u2019ll hurt you one way or another<\/strong>. Your toxic relationship with your mother is a prototype of every other relationship you\u2019ll have with others.<\/p>\n You don\u2019t trust anyone, and you need lots of time and testing of other people\u2019s intentions before you decide to trust them.<\/p>\n If your parent-child relationship wasn\u2019t healthy, you would become a legit candidate for developing an estilo de apego evitativo<\/a> during adulthood. Here\u2019s how la psicolog\u00eda del estilo de evitaci\u00f3n-apego<\/a> se explica por Insider:<\/p>\n “When our needs aren’t met consistently by our primary caregivers, we form the belief that they won’t be met by any significant other, [and] that we can’t ever rely on others.”<\/em><\/p>\n If you feel like you can\u2019t rely on your potential partner, you\u2019ll avoid investing in them emotionally to protect yourself. Sometimes, you\u2019ll avoid relationships altogether.<\/p>\n Indisponibilidad emocional<\/a> puede pasarle factura e impedirle establecer una relaci\u00f3n sana y significativa con los dem\u00e1s.<\/strong> Even if the person is right for you, you\u2019ll still find a way to justify your refusal or inability to commit.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll do all this out of fear that you\u2019ll be hurt like you were hurt by your parent(s).<\/p>\n Have your emotional needs ever been met by your mother? If not, you\u2019ll have a hard time loving yourself and creating relaciones sanas<\/a> con otros.<\/p>\n Falta de amor propio<\/a> y codependencia<\/a> (dependencia emocional o psicol\u00f3gica de una pareja) dominar\u00e1 tu ser.<\/p>\n If you\u2019ve never experienced a mother\u2019s amor incondicional<\/a>, you\u2019ll feel undeserving of it. Subconsciously, you\u2019ll think that you\u2019re the one to blame for not being properly taken care of and loved as a child.<\/strong><\/p>\n You\u2019ll feel the consequences of this in every aspect of your life, from communicating with others to your job performance. Lack of self-love means having low self-confidence and not believing that you can achieve greatness.<\/p>\n Tambi\u00e9n puede manifestarse como ansiedad social, miedo a los discursos en p\u00fablico y miedo a ser el centro de atenci\u00f3n en general.<\/p>\n Now that we\u2019re done with the 8 signs you were raised by a toxic mother, it\u2019s time to check out the behaviors of a toxic mother.<\/p>\n Esto te ayudar\u00e1 a entender mejor la relaci\u00f3n paterno-filial con tu madre. Y lo que es m\u00e1s importante, evitar\u00e1 que cometas los mismos errores que tu progenitora:<\/p>\n Manipulaci\u00f3n, culpabilizaci\u00f3n y luz de gas<\/a> are the most common signs of a toxic parent. A toxic mother will manipulate her child into doing what she wants and not what\u2019s best for her child. She\u2019ll use guilt trips and gaslighting to establish control and create confusion.<\/p>\n Healthy parents give their children space to make mistakes. Toxic parents are highly demanding, and if you don\u2019t meet their expectations, they give you the tratamiento silencioso<\/a> o recurrir a medios f\u00edsicos o abuso verbal<\/a>.<\/p>\n All children make mistakes, get their clothes dirty, and are stubborn because they\u2019re children, and this isn\u2019t something mothers should take too seriously.<\/p>\n If a mother can\u2019t help herself but overreact every time a child makes even a minor mistake, this can leave severe consequences on her child.<\/p>\n Toxic mothers don\u2019t acknowledge their children\u2019s accomplishments.<\/p>\n En cambio, aprovechan cualquier oportunidad para seguir recordando a sus hijos que sus logros no son algo digno de celebraci\u00f3n.<\/strong><\/p>\n They treat their children this way because they aren\u2019t satisfied with themselves in the first place, so they project it on their children.<\/p>\n Establecer l\u00edmites sanos es imposible. Si intentas poner l\u00edmites, ella los rechazar\u00e1 al instante y los ignorar\u00e1.<\/p>\n Respecting boundaries would interfere with her manipulative and controlling behavior, and that\u2019s why she\u2019s hesitant to implement it.<\/strong><\/p>\n Adem\u00e1s, le cuesta entender la necesidad de establecer l\u00edmites y c\u00f3mo es realmente el concepto de relaci\u00f3n sana.<\/p>\n Being raised by a toxic mother is often connected with a lack of empathy. This is especially true if we\u2019re talking about abuso narcisista<\/a> por una madre narcisista o padres narcisistas<\/a>. Such people don\u2019t understand the consequences of their words and actions.<\/p>\n Even if a child tells them how they feel when they\u2019re treated like that, their parents express zero concern and empathy. Instead, they resort to echar la culpa a otros<\/a> y haciendo que el ni\u00f1o se sienta responsable de recibir este trato por su parte.<\/p>\n Gente t\u00f3xica<\/a>\u2019s main method of manipulation is, without a doubt, controlling behavior. You know you\u2019ve been\/you\u2019re being raised in a toxic family if one or both of your parents exhibited such behavior.<\/p>\n Esto incluye controlar tu comportamiento en las redes sociales, tus aficiones, tus deseos, elegir amigos por ti y cosas similares.<\/p>\n Because of that, children start suffocating and feeling like they don\u2019t have a choice. As a result, in the future, they become indecisive adults who have difficulty making even the simplest decisions.<\/p>\n Tanto los padres como los hijos cometen errores. Todos los cometemos. Pero, \u00bfsabes cu\u00e1l es la diferencia entre una crianza sana y una crianza t\u00f3xica?<\/p>\n The main difference is that toxic parents will never feel the need to apologize to their children because they think they\u2019re superior to them.<\/p>\n Nunca admitir\u00e1n sus errores por miedo a perder autoridad ante sus hijos.<\/p>\n Losing authority = losing power. The real truth is that children appreciate and respect parents who don\u2019t have a problem admitting when they\u2019re wrong and apologizing for it.<\/p>\n Las madres t\u00f3xicas tienden a menospreciar a sus hijos, invalidar sus opiniones, compararlos con otros, chantajearlos, hacerles cuestionar su val\u00eda, etc.<\/p>\n Las madres t\u00f3xicas suelen decir inconscientemente cosas hirientes a sus hijos debido a sus luchas mentales internas o externas. He aqu\u00ed algunos ejemplos:<\/strong><\/p>\n \u2022 \u201cLook at yourself in the mirror. You\u2019re too small, fat, ugly, too thin.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n \u2022 \u201cI don\u2019t understand why you have to act so weirdly?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n - \u201cWhy do you talk like that\/walk like that?\u201d<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n \u2022 \u201cI wish you were different.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n \u2022 \u201cYou have no idea how hard it is to take care of you.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n - \u201cWhy do you have to be like that? Why aren\u2019t you like other children?\u201d<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n \u2022 \u201cYou\u2019re useless and stupid!\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n \u2022 \u201cYou\u2019ll never make it because you\u2019re incompetent.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n - \u201cIf you keep behaving like that, I\u2019ll leave you.\u201d<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n \u2022 \u201cDo this\/say this one more time, and you\u2019ll never see me again.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n \u2022 \u201cIf you do (this), I\u2019ll buy you (this).\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n - \u201cHow dare you contradict me?\u201d<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n \u2022 \u201cI don\u2019t remember giving you permission to speak to me.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n If you\u2019ve carefully read these 8 signs you were raised by a toxic mother, you already know the answer.<\/p>\n Ser criado por una madre t\u00f3xica repercute en tu salud mental de diversas maneras, y todo ello depende de la cantidad de tiempo que pases con ella, la gravedad de su toxicidad y otros factores.<\/p>\n Por lo general, los ni\u00f1os criados por un progenitor t\u00f3xico tienen altas probabilidades de padecer ansiedad,<\/a> depresi\u00f3n,<\/a> y TEPT.<\/a> Algunos tambi\u00e9n encuentran consuelo en el abuso del alcohol y las drogas.<\/strong><\/p>\n Ser criado por un progenitor t\u00f3xico tambi\u00e9n puede dar lugar a tener una relaci\u00f3n t\u00f3xica con tus propios hijos.<\/p>\n If the above 8 signs you were raised by a toxic mother resonate with you, I\u2019m truly sorry for what you had to go through or are still going through.<\/p>\n Recuerda que haber sido criado por un padre t\u00f3xico no es culpa tuya. You\u2019re not responsible for their behavior, and no matter how hard you try to be \u201cperfect\u201d for them, you\u2019ll never succeed<\/strong>. \u00bfPor qu\u00e9?<\/p>\n Because the problem is not you but them, to be more exact, the problem lies in the battles they\u2019re fighting with themselves, so they end up projecting them on their children.<\/p>\n Protegerse de un padre t\u00f3xico es imprescindible, y puedes hacerlo estableciendo l\u00edmites y aprendiendo a separar tu autoestima de su toxicidad.<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Mothers are strong and divine human beings. They carry you for nine months in their bellies without ever complaining. After that, they feed you, cook for you, dress you, and love you unconditionally. 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<\/h2>\n1. No puedes evitar anteponer las necesidades de los dem\u00e1s a las tuyas propias<\/h3>\n
2. Sientes que no eres y nunca ser\u00e1s lo suficientemente bueno<\/h3>\n
3. Buscas constantemente la aprobaci\u00f3n y validaci\u00f3n de los dem\u00e1s<\/h3>\n
4. Le cuesta tomar decisiones (incluso las m\u00e1s sencillas)<\/h3>\n
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<\/p>\n5. Le cuesta aceptar y procesar el fracaso<\/h3>\n
6. Tiene graves problemas de confianza<\/h3>\n
7. Tiene un estilo de apego evasivo<\/h3>\n
8. Falta de amor propio<\/h3>\n
Los 8 comportamientos m\u00e1s comunes de una madre t\u00f3xica<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n\u2022 Manipulation, guilt trip, and gaslighting.<\/h3>\n
\u2022 Unrealistic expectations.<\/h3>\n
\u2022 Overreacting.<\/h3>\n
\u2022 Criticizing your accomplishments.<\/h3>\n
\u2022 Inability\/unwillingness to respect boundaries.<\/h3>\n
\u2022 Lack of empathy.<\/h3>\n
\u2022 Controlling behavior.<\/h3>\n
\u2022 Not feeling the need to apologize or admit her mistakes.<\/h3>\n
\u00bfQu\u00e9 dicen las madres t\u00f3xicas?<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nLa influencia de una madre t\u00f3xica en tu salud mental<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nProtegerse es imprescindible<\/h2>\n