{"id":148505,"date":"2022-04-04T13:32:04","date_gmt":"2022-04-04T13:32:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=148505"},"modified":"2022-04-04T13:32:04","modified_gmt":"2022-04-04T13:32:04","slug":"celos-retroactivos","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/celos-retroactivos\/","title":{"rendered":"C\u00f3mo detectar y detener los celos retroactivos"},"content":{"rendered":"

We\u2019ve all dealt with jealousy in relationships. But you haven\u2019t seen hell if you haven\u2019t experienced retroactive jealousy.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 es? \u00bfC\u00f3mo se reconoce? Y lo m\u00e1s importante, \u00bfc\u00f3mo tratarla?<\/strong><\/p>\n

There\u2019s only one way to get all the answers: by reading on!<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 son los celos retroactivos?<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

En pocas palabras, retroactive jealousy is jealousy of your significant other\u2019s romantic history. You obsess over their ex-partners, sexual history, and past romantic relationships and interests.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sin embargo, hay una diferencia entre los celos retroactivos y los celos retroactivos TOC.<\/strong> In the first case, you\u2019re just interested in their previous romances.<\/p>\n

Pero si esto se convierte en un trastorno obsesivo-compulsivo<\/a>, these thoughts turn into compulsions you can\u2019t control.<\/p>\n

Signos de celos retroactivos<\/h2>\n

If you experience most or all of these signs, you\u2019re guilty of retroactive jealousy.<\/p>\n

1. Obsessive thoughts about your partner\u2019s previous relationships<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

The first sign of retroactive jealousy OCD is connected with intrusive thoughts about your significant other\u2019s past love life. Even though you\u2019re perfectly aware that they\u2019ve had their share of previous relationships before you \u2013 their past starts to influence your mood.<\/p>\n

Of course, there is a difference between retroactive jealousy OCD and just being jealous of your partner\u2019s ex. When you suffer from this obsessive-compulsive disorder, you can\u2019t control your thoughts.<\/strong><\/p>\n

At the end of the day, you become obsessed with your partner\u2019s past relationships, and it is the only thing you can think of.<\/strong><\/p>\n

2. Digging through your partner\u2019s sexual past<\/h3>\n

One would think that these unwanted thoughts are only concerned with your SO\u2019s romantic past, in the way that you experience jealous feelings not just towards the people they were in serious relationships with but including those you know they cared for.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, este no es el caso. De hecho, tambi\u00e9n te obsesionas con su pasado sexual. Les haces preguntas, exigiendo respuestas detalladas.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1l es su n\u00famero de cad\u00e1veres? \u00bfCon cu\u00e1ntas personas se han acostado sin tener relaciones sentimentales?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

You\u2019re snooping through their sexual history and want to know literally everything about their sexual experiences.<\/p>\n

Of course, once you get all the details, your negative thoughts start to bother you even more. But at the same time, it\u2019s like there is a force pushing you to find out more and more. Before you know it, you\u2019re trapped in a vicious cycle without seeing a way out.<\/p>\n

3. Comparing yourself to your partner\u2019s exes<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Consequently, you start to compare yourself to your partner\u2019s exes.<\/p>\n

\u00bfHay alguien a quien hayan querido m\u00e1s que a ti? \u00bfSon ellos sobre su ex<\/a>? \u00bfAlguien de su pasado le proporcion\u00f3 un placer sexual mayor del que t\u00fa podr\u00edas proporcionarle jam\u00e1s?<\/em><\/p>\n

What do your partner\u2019s exes look like? Are they more attractive than you? Are they more interesting? More successful? More educated? Funnier?<\/em><\/p>\n

Were your partner\u2019s past relationships more serious than your current relationship? What can you do to be better than their previous partners?<\/em><\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 puede hacer para que olviden su historia rom\u00e1ntica?<\/em><\/p>\n

Sigues representando diferentes pel\u00edculas mentales en tu cabeza con tu SO y su ex como protagonistas. Y sigues compar\u00e1ndolos con vosotros como pareja.<\/strong><\/p>\n

4. Stalking your significant other\u2019s activities<\/h3>\n

Another sign of retroactive jealousy OCD is snooping through your SO\u2019s social media, text messages, phone records, and even stalking them \u2013 as in following them around. Of course, this is not something you willingly do \u2013 your jealous thoughts make you do it.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re basically trying to find some clues about their past romantic life. You want to see if they\u2019re in touch with some of their exes or if you could find any info about them.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Su objetivo final es averiguar si they\u2019ll get back together with their ex<\/a>.<\/p>\n

\u00bfSon normales los celos retroactivos?<\/h2>\n

\"chica<\/p>\n

As long as you\u2019re only curious about your partner\u2019s romantic history, you feel like most people; they just refuse to admit it. You get a bad feeling every time someone mentions their name, and sometimes, you even compare yourself to them. This is an issue we all face from time to time.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, if you can\u2019t control these jealous feelings, if you obsess over your partner\u2019s exes, and if their previous relationships become the center of your life, you\u2019re probably suffering from obsessive-compulsive disorder and should visit a psychiatrist.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 causan los celos retroactivos?<\/h2>\n

Retrospective jealousy doesn\u2019t appear just like that. It\u2019s a serious problem caused by some deeply rooted issues connected to your mental health.<\/p>\n

1. Trauma pasado<\/h3>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

First of all, you\u2019re definitely dealing with something from your past. To be exact, you haven\u2019t dealt with something from your past \u2013 at least, not in a healthy way.<\/p>\n

Estos sentimientos de celos retroactivos pueden estar causados por una ruptura dolorosa del pasado.<\/p>\n

\u00bfAlguna de tus relaciones anteriores termin\u00f3 con tu ex volviendo con su ex?<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfFuiste t\u00fa traicionado por alguien<\/a> de tu pasado?<\/strong> This doesn\u2019t have to only be a romantic partner \u2013 it can be a best friend or primary caregiver. The bottom line is that we\u2019re talking about someone who left you when you needed them the most.<\/p>\n

Todo esto est\u00e1 reapareciendo en la superficie y est\u00e1 causando problemas en tu relaci\u00f3n rom\u00e1ntica actual.<\/p>\n

2. Cuestiones de confianza<\/h3>\n

Te cuesta confiar en la gente. You\u2019re an overthinker<\/a> que sigue buscando se\u00f1ales de que alguien intenta enga\u00f1arle y de que algo est\u00e1 pasando a sus espaldas.<\/p>\n

\u00bfPor qu\u00e9? Debes encontrar la causa principal de tu problemas de confianza profundamente arraigados<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Lo primero y m\u00e1s importante, you have to ask yourself if you have a reason not to trust your partner or if you\u2019re dealing with problemas de confianza<\/a> en general.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If your partner has done something to violate your trust, it\u2019s clearly still bothering you, even though you\u2019ve allegedly forgiven them.<\/p>\n

3. Inseguridades personales<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Otra causa com\u00fan de los celos retrospectivos se esconde en tus inseguridades<\/a>. You clearly think that you\u2019re not suficientemente bueno<\/a>; otherwise, you wouldn\u2019t be comparing yourself to your partner\u2019s exes.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 le impide ver su propia autoestima<\/a>? Does your partner make you feel like you\u2019re insuficiente<\/a>? \u00bfO estas inseguridades est\u00e1n relacionadas con algo o alguien ajeno a vuestra relaci\u00f3n?<\/p>\n

Antes de seguir adelante, tienes que responderte a estas preguntas.<\/p>\n

4. Estilo de fijaci\u00f3n<\/h3>\n

I\u2019m sure you\u2019re familiar with the different estilos de fijaci\u00f3n<\/a>. Bueno, si usted puede relacionarse con el estilo de apego ansioso<\/a>es una de las razones de tus celos retroactivos.<\/p>\n

Your relationship and your SO are your only preoccupation. You\u2019re obsessed with them, and your biggest fear is losing them.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It\u2019s more than obvious that you\u2019re emotionally dependent on this person, which is never good. In that case, you\u2019re not only dealing with retroactive jealousy \u2013 your obsessive thoughts refer to your entire relationship.<\/p>\n

5. Falta de comunicaci\u00f3n sana<\/h3>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

If you don\u2019t have comunicaci\u00f3n saludable<\/a> in your relationship, these feelings of retroactive jealousy shouldn\u2019t surprise you.<\/p>\n

Instead of talking to your partner about what\u2019s bothering you both (yes, that includes your past lives as well), you direct different mental movies in your head.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Every time you asked your partner about their exes, they gave you vague responses, and it\u2019s made you doubt the entire thing. Even when you try to share your intrusive thoughts with them, they don\u2019t take you seriously and refuse to talk about it.<\/p>\n

Consequently, you think that you\u2019re right for feeling this way. You assume that you\u2019re jealous for a reason and that they\u2019re clearly hiding something from you!<\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo son los celos retroactivos?<\/h2>\n

Los celos retroactivos son a combination of intrusive thoughts you can\u2019t control, insecurities, self-doubts, trust issues, irrational paralyzing fears, and low self-esteem.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo detener los celos retroactivos?<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Overcoming retroactive jealousy is possible and here\u2019s exactly how it can be done!<\/p>\n

1. Identificar la causa<\/h3>\n

It\u2019s like this with everything in life: you can\u2019t cure the symptoms without identifying the cause. So now that you know what causes retroactive jealousy, tienes que ver cu\u00e1l es la ra\u00edz principal de tu problema.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Which of the causes can you relate to the most? Once you have that figured out, you\u2019re good to go!<\/p>\n

2. Don\u2019t repress your feelings<\/h3>\n

At first, you might think that ignoring your jealous thoughts will make them go away. Well, guess what \u2013 it won\u2019t.<\/p>\n

These are unwanted thoughts, and all OCD sufferers know it\u2019s impossible to just ignore them. Besides, repressing your emotions is never healthy.<\/p>\n

En su lugar, tienes que mirarlos profundamente a los ojos y preguntarte por qu\u00e9 los sientes.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfDe qu\u00e9 tengo miedo? \u00bfQu\u00e9 es lo peor que me puede pasar?<\/em><\/p>\n

Why am I so obsessed with my partner\u2019s romantic history? Am I allowed to have a romantic past? If the answer is yes, why is my SO different?<\/em><\/p>\n

\u00bfMe falta algo en mi relaci\u00f3n que me hace sentir as\u00ed?<\/em><\/p>\n

3. Identifica tus patrones de comportamiento t\u00f3xico<\/h3>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

The next step is to work on your behavior patterns. You can\u2019t snap your finger and chase away your intrusive thoughts, but you can be in charge of your actions.<\/p>\n

How many times a day do you check your SO\u2019s ex\u2019s social media profiles? How many times a day do you look at that one photo of them together you managed to find?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Well, it\u2019s about time to reduce it and finally stop with this habit.<\/p>\n

The same goes for snooping through your partner\u2019s phone and reading their text messages. After all, if you can\u2019t trust the person you\u2019re with, maybe it\u2019s better to break up right away!<\/p>\n

4. S\u00e9 sincero con tu pareja<\/h3>\n

Whether you like to admit it or not, your partner feels your retroactive jealousy. It\u2019s time to be honest with them regarding this issue. Tell them how you feel and do your best to explain everything in detail.<\/p>\n

Make sure you tell them that you don\u2019t lay any responsibility on their shoulders. They\u2019re not giving you any reason to feel retroactive jealousy, but you feel it nevertheless.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Por supuesto, esto s\u00f3lo es posible si hay una buena comunicaci\u00f3n. Si no es as\u00ed, esto es algo en lo que tienes que trabajar antes que nada.<\/p>\n

5. Trabajar la autoestima<\/h3>\n

En resumen, hay que aprender a ponte en primer lugar<\/a> en tu vida.<\/p>\n

Tener un relaci\u00f3n sana<\/a> with your partner is significant \u2013 nobody can argue against that. But you know what\u2019s even more important? Building a healthy relaci\u00f3n contigo mismo<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Si usted trabaja tu autoestima<\/a> and learn how to love yourself, you\u2019ll realize that you don\u2019t need this person. Actually, you don\u2019t need anyone besides yourself.<\/p>\n

Once you understand that, you\u2019ll realize that even the worst-case scenario wouldn\u2019t be the end of the world. So, what if they really did go back to their ex?<\/p>\n

Puedo garantizarte una cosa: \u00a1sobrevivir\u00edas!<\/p>\n

6. Reformule sus patrones de pensamiento<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Your thought patterns have become a compulsion, and if you think about overcoming retroactive jealousy, it\u2019s time to reframe them. What does that mean?<\/p>\n

En primer lugar, cada vez que centrarse en el pasado<\/a>reorienta tus pensamientos hacia algo hermoso en tu relaci\u00f3n actual.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Every time you think about the qualities of your partner\u2019s ex, name a few things that make you such a great girlfriend or boyfriend.<\/p>\n

Cada vez que pienses en el amor que compart\u00edan, redirige tus pensamientos hacia la incre\u00edble relaci\u00f3n que ten\u00e9is vosotros dos.<\/p>\n

7. Pedir ayuda profesional<\/h3>\n

Finally, if you suffer from a form of OCD, you\u2019re unlikely to resolve it without psychotherapy.<\/p>\n

La TCC (terapia cognitivo-conductual) ha demostrado ser eficaz para muchas personas que padecen TOC, por lo que deber\u00eda plante\u00e1rsela. con su profesional de salud mental.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Either way, what\u2019s important is to know that there is no shame in asking for help.<\/p>\n

Para terminar:<\/h2>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

I know this is easier said than done, but please, don\u2019t allow the past to destroy your present and future. The worst part is that it\u2019s not even your past to begin with.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let retroactive jealousy get the best of your current relationship. Remember: if your SO wanted to be with any of their exes, that\u2019s exactly what they would have done. But they are with you, aren\u2019t they?<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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