{"id":151195,"date":"2022-05-20T07:31:24","date_gmt":"2022-05-20T07:31:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=151195"},"modified":"2022-11-22T12:15:41","modified_gmt":"2022-11-22T12:15:41","slug":"si-le-gusto-por-que-sigue-con-las-citas-online","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/si-le-gusto-por-que-sigue-con-las-citas-online\/","title":{"rendered":"Si le gusto, \u00bfpor qu\u00e9 sigue teniendo citas online? 9 razones comunes"},"content":{"rendered":"

If he likes me, why is he still online dating? I don\u2019t think there is a girl in the world of citas modernas<\/a> who hasn\u2019t asked herself this question at least once before.<\/p>\n

S\u00e9 que lo he hecho.<\/p>\n

Ya conoce el procedimiento: hay qu\u00edmica fuerte<\/a>. You like him, and you know he likes you. You\u2019ve been dating for a while, but all of his dating profiles are still active.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Seg\u00fan mi experiencia, \u00e9stas son las razones m\u00e1s comunes por las que se comporta as\u00ed.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Si le gusto, \u00bfpor qu\u00e9 sigue teniendo citas online?<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Echa un vistazo a estas razones y comprueba si tu hombre cumple alguna de ellas:<\/p>\n

1. Mantener abiertas sus opciones<\/h3>\n

Odio reventarte la burbuja desde el principio: este hombre mantiene abiertos sus perfiles de citas online porque es manteniendo sus opciones abiertas. <\/a><\/p>\n

I\u2019m not saying he doesn\u2019t like you, but the fact is that he isn\u2019t sure about you.<\/p>\n

Does this mean that he\u2019s seeing other girls? Probably yes. I can\u2019t claim this for sure, but he\u2019s definitely texting them. Otherwise, why would he still have all of these dating websites installed?<\/p>\n

The harsh truth is that he\u2019s checking to see which girl he likes the most. You\u2019re just one of sus elecciones<\/a> \u2013 not his priority.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you\u2019re doing the same thing, this shouldn\u2019t bother you too much, especially if you\u2019re in the initial stages of your relationship.<\/p>\n

Tambi\u00e9n tienes que darte cuenta de que las citas online pueden ser incre\u00edblemente adictivas. Las mejores aplicaciones para ligar<\/a> est\u00e1n dise\u00f1ados esencialmente para ser un juego que te haga volver a por m\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

If you don\u2019t check the app for a few days you start getting notifications or emails telling you about all the other women you\u2019re missing out on.<\/p>\n

This can be really tough for anyone to ignore. If you\u2019re trying to diet but are constantly bombarded by your Instagram feed full of delicious-looking food you might be tempted to look at a few posts!<\/p>\n

However, if you\u2019re not keeping your options open, the last thing you need is a guy who can\u2019t make up his mind about you<\/a>. By accepting this kind of treatment, you\u2019re settling for less.<\/p>\n

Despu\u00e9s de todo, \u00bfqu\u00e9 deber\u00edas hacer? Sentarte pacientemente y esperar a que escoge t\u00fa<\/a>?<\/p>\n

Compete with all these other girls on his dating apps and try to prove to him that you\u2019re the best? No, not if you have any self-respect.<\/p>\n

2. Un est\u00edmulo para el ego<\/h3>\n

Si le gusto, \u00bfpor qu\u00e9 sigue con las citas online?<\/a>? Well, have you ever thought that he\u2019s dealing with some major insecurities, and Bumble, Tinder, OkCupid, Match.com, and other online dating apps serve as an ego boost?<\/p>\n

No, this is not me asking you to understand him. You\u2019re a grown woman, and you shouldn\u2019t have to deal with hombres inseguros<\/a> que tienen problemas para sanar su autoestima de forma saludable.<\/p>\n

Perm\u00edtanme explicarles qu\u00e9 ocurre exactamente. You\u2019re not enough for this guy.<\/strong><\/p>\n

But this doesn\u2019t mean that you, as a person or as a woman, are not enough. Nothing you or anyone else ever does or gives this type of man will ever be enough.<\/strong><\/p>\n

The fact is that he craves attention from a bunch of girls. It doesn\u2019t matter how these women look, behave, or treat him.<\/p>\n

If some of them swipe right on Tinder, he\u2019ll think of himself as man enough. He immediately starts feeling better and considers himself more attractive than he actually is.<\/p>\n

Emocionalmente inmaduro<\/h4>\n

\u00bfEsto le convierte en emocionalmente inmaduro<\/a>? Desde luego.<\/p>\n

Tengo que advertirle que este hombre tiene serios problemas para mantenerse fiel. S\u00ed, eso incluye las relaciones serias y el matrimonio tambi\u00e9n.<\/p>\n

He\u2019ll always choose la lujuria a corto plazo por encima del amor a largo plazo<\/a>. And at this point, it doesn\u2019t even matter si le gustas<\/a> or not and if you\u2019re in love with him.<\/p>\n

The bottom line is that you don\u2019t need a man like this by your side.<\/p>\n

3. Un viejo h\u00e1bito<\/h3>\n

Let\u2019s not jump to conclusions before checking all options. I\u2019m not here to justify this man, but it\u2019s possible that he isn\u2019t planning to date other women just because he is active on online dating sites.<\/p>\n

Bueno, lo que sigues olvidando es que los viejos h\u00e1bitos son dif\u00edciles de perder. Y para \u00e9l, esto no es m\u00e1s que un h\u00e1bito.<\/p>\n

Yes, the truth is that it\u2019s a habit that affects you badly. But have you ever considered talking to him about it?<\/p>\n

Maybe deleting his online dating profiles didn\u2019t even cross his mind. That\u2019s exactly why you should remind him to do so.<\/strong><\/p>\n

But there is something you should pay close attention before deciding whether he\u2019s still on dating apps out of habit or if there is another hidden reason behind it.<\/p>\n

\u00bfPasa tiempo en estas aplicaciones de citas online? \u00bfO simplemente las tiene instaladas?<\/p>\n

If he doesn\u2019t receive notifications when you two are together, if he doesn\u2019t post new pics, and if he\u2019s always offline (even though he\u2019s online on Messenger or WhatsApp), he\u2019s probably forgotten he\u2019s even got them installed.<\/p>\n

4. He\u2019s just bored<\/h3>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s give him the benefit of the doubt and assume that he\u2019s just doing it out of boredom. I know what you must be thinking right now: \u201cHow can he be bored if he has me?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

You know how you pointlessly scroll through Facebook, Instagram, and other social media? Truth be told, most of the time, you have no idea what you\u2019re looking at because your mind is somewhere else.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Well, that\u2019s exactly what he\u2019s doing with all of these dating websites.<\/strong><\/p>\n

He\u2019s checking whether he\u2019ll find some of his friends, coworkers, or acquaintances there. No, he won\u2019t ask them on a first date \u2013 he will maybe tease them a little. In fact, if he runs into his buddies, he\u2019ll probably even make fun of them, and that\u2019s it.<\/p>\n

This is another scenario in which you should be open and tell him that you\u2019re bothered that he is still online dating. If a este tipo le gustas<\/a>, he\u2019ll delete all of his profiles immediately.<\/p>\n

5. He doesn\u2019t trust you<\/h3>\n

Newsflash: women aren\u2019t the only ones who deal with serious trust issues.<\/p>\n

Have you ever tried looking at things from a different perspective? Has it ever crossed your mind that your man is still on dating apps because he\u2019s afraid you\u2019ll hurt him?<\/p>\n

LOL, that sounds insane, doesn\u2019t it? Well, the truth is that it makes a lot of sense to him.<\/p>\n

He\u2019s actually a great guy, and he\u2019s crazy about you. In fact, he\u2019s so in love with you that le asusta.<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

As\u00ed que en lugar de abrirse y llevar su relaci\u00f3n al siguiente nivel, su problemas de confianza<\/a> le est\u00e1n frenando. La conclusi\u00f3n es que espera lo peor de ti.<\/p>\n

He is almost sure that you\u2019re going around behind his back, and he is basically trying to beat you to it.<\/p>\n

In this case, dating apps serve as a defense mechanism for him. The only way for you to make him delete them is to show him that you\u2019re trustworthy.<\/p>\n

6. Malinterpret\u00f3 sus se\u00f1ales<\/h3>\n

Okay, this one is a tough one, but I\u2019m sorry, it simply has to be said. You\u2019re asking yourself, \u201cIf he likes me, why is he still online dating?\u201d But how are you even so sure that he likes you in the first place?<\/p>\n

Is it possible that you misinterpreted his signs? You\u2019re into this man \u2013 that\u2019s clear. But does he really feel the same way about you?<\/p>\n

\u00bfAlguna vez te pidi\u00f3 salir? Si la respuesta es afirmativa, \u00bfllegasteis a la segunda cita?<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re not sure whether he\u2019s into you<\/a> or not, there is no shame in asking him directly. Tell him that he\u2019s been sending you mixed signals and that you have no clue if he\u2019s just being nice<\/a> o si le gustas de verdad.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Even if he gives you an answer you don\u2019t want to hear, at least you\u2019ll know where you stand. It\u2019s much better than leading yourself on.<\/p>\n

7. Percibe vuestra relaci\u00f3n de forma diferente<\/h3>\n

You\u2019re craving a committed relationship. But does the guy you like feel the same way?<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong \u2013 there is definitely alg\u00fan tipo de atracci\u00f3n<\/a> entre vosotros dos. Pero tal vez en realidad te est\u00e1 enviando se\u00f1ales de que s\u00f3lo est\u00e1 interesado en ligues casuales<\/a>?<\/p>\n

You enrich his sex life, but he\u2019s not ready to take your relationship to the next level. Yes, he should have been clearer about it, but if you look at his signals close enough, you\u2019ll see that his actions speak louder than words.<\/p>\n

Este hombre isn\u2019t interested in an exclusive relationship<\/a>. When you come to think about it, he never promised you anything \u2013 you jumped to conclusions by yourself.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nunca habl\u00f3 de etiquetar tu relaci\u00f3n,<\/a> e incluso cuando intentas abordar ese tema, lo evita a toda costa.<\/p>\n

Whenever you two meet up, he only cares about one thing: physical pleasure. I hate to break it to you, but you\u2019re probably nada m\u00e1s que una llamada de bot\u00edn<\/a>.<\/p>\n

And there would be nothing wrong with that \u2013 if you wanted the same. But the problem is that you two clearly have different aspirations.<\/p>\n

He\u2019s obviously a player and not the type of man you\u2019re looking for.<\/p>\n

8. He\u2019s emotionally unavailable<\/h3>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

If he likes me, why is he still online dating? Another possibility is that, sadly, you\u2019re tratando con un f\u00f3bico al compromiso.<\/a><\/p>\n

This man is quite different from a player. He doesn\u2019t have any intention of jumping from one hook-up to another. Keeping his sex life spicy is not his number one priority.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, no es material novio<\/a> tampoco. Este tipo tiene miedo de las relaciones serias.<\/p>\n

He was probably hurt in the past, or he just values his independence. He\u2019s emotionally unavailable.<\/p>\n

En cuanto empieza a enamorarse, intenta huir.<\/p>\n

And that\u2019s exactly what happened with you. He\u2019s fallen head over heels for you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Pero a\u00fan no est\u00e1 dispuesto a admitirlo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

So, he is still active on dating apps just to prove a point to himself. He won\u2019t ask any of these girls on a first date, let alone initiate something more with them.<\/p>\n

Online dating sites keep him convinced that he is a single man and that you haven\u2019t succeeded in caging him!<\/p>\n

9. Prefiere la vida en l\u00ednea a la vida real<\/h3>\n

Modern dating wouldn\u2019t exist without social media, dating sites, and platforms. And yes, looking from one point of view, they really do make dating a lot easier.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, Algunas personas se ven tan envueltas en el mundo online que pierden la capacidad de funcionar en la vida real. Si tu chico es uno de ellos, siento dec\u00edrtelo, pero nunca borrar\u00e1 sus aplicaciones de citas.<\/strong><\/p>\n

He\u2019s addicted to online dating, and he won\u2019t heal from it overnight. He\u2019s not interested in going out or hanging out with his friends to meet new people.<\/p>\n

He\u2019s replaced clubs, restaurants, hobbies, and his entire social life with the online world. You don\u2019t have to worry about him cheating when he goes out, but you definitely should be worried about the girls on his phone!<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: 21 tipos de chicos de citas en l\u00ednea para evitar y tener cuidado con<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 hacer al respecto?<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Now that you got the answer to the question, \u201cIf he likes me, why is he still online dating?\u201d it\u2019s time to do something about your problem!<\/p>\n

1. Averig\u00fce lo que quiere<\/h3>\n

Before you act on this issue, you have to know what it is that you want. Why are you actually bothered by your man\u2019s online activities?<\/p>\n

Are you scared that he\u2019ll date other women? Are you jealous because you care about him or because his behavior hurts your ego?<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfQuieres una relaci\u00f3n comprometida o te gustan las aventuras?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Maybe you want to keep your options open as well. Maybe you\u2019re not sure whether he\u2019s the one<\/a> you should settle with. In that case, you\u2019re both on the same page, and there is absolutely no problem.<\/p>\n

No obstante, si quieres algo m\u00e1s, debes seguir los siguientes pasos.<\/p>\n

2. \u00bfTienes derecho a quejarte?<\/h3>\n

You won\u2019t like this, but you have to ask yourself if you have the right to complain before actually complaining. Pero, por favor, olv\u00eddate aqu\u00ed de tus deseos y mira tu relaci\u00f3n de la forma m\u00e1s realista posible.<\/strong><\/p>\n

As much as you’d like to, you can\u2019t sleep with a guy once and call him the next day demanding exclusivity and asking him to delete Tinder or any other dating website he is on.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not saying that you should wait ages before you do so, but you have to ask yourself if he\u2019s given you any reason to think that he likes you for real.<\/p>\n

3. Hable con \u00e9l directamente<\/h3>\n

Once you\u2019ve established this, it\u2019s time to talk to him straightforwardly. Look, your man is not a mind reader.<\/p>\n

I know you\u2019d want him to delete these apps by himself, but honey, most men don\u2019t work like that. Sometimes, they need to be explicitly told what is expected of them.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Por eso hay que dile c\u00f3mo te sientes.<\/a> Tell him that his apps make you feel insecure and that you feel like he doesn\u2019t respect you enough.<\/p>\n

Be honest and don\u2019t play any mind games because that approach might backfire on you.<\/p>\n

The \u201cwhat are we?\u201d talk<\/h4>\n

Nevertheless, you have to be ready for this conversation to be followed by the infamous \u201cwhat are we?\u201d talk. It\u2019s natural that you\u2019ll tackle the issue of your relationship and finally decide where you stand.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t avoid this talk, and don\u2019t be afraid that it will make you look desperate. You\u2019re a woman who knows what she wants, and it\u2019s finally time he realizes this as well.<\/p>\n

4. Catfish \u00e9l<\/h3>\n

\u00bfY si acepta iniciar un relaci\u00f3n comprometida<\/a>\u00bfpero sigue activo en sitios de citas en l\u00ednea?<\/p>\n

Vale, este no es el consejo m\u00e1s sano posible. Y s\u00e9 que te dije que no jugaras, pero a veces, tiempos desesperados requieren medidas desesperadas.<\/p>\n

If you don\u2019t know what your guy is doing on all those dating sites, make a fake profile. Or just ask a close friend to get in touch with your guy.<\/p>\n

I bet he\u2019ll act as if he were single. This way, you\u2019ll have proof that he\u2019s lying to you.<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Just a heads up: this is only a good idea if you are really leaving him! You can\u2019t show up with a bunch of screenshots just to end up forgiving him.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: \u00bfPor qu\u00e9 los chicos son groseros cuando les gustas? (11 Razones +Consejos)<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo saber si le gustas de verdad a un chico?<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

\u00c9stas son algunas de las se\u00f1ales m\u00e1s comunes de que un chico online est\u00e1 realmente interesado en ti:<\/strong><\/p>\n

1. Te manda mensajes todo el tiempo.<\/p>\n

2. Inicia la conversaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

3. You don\u2019t have to wait for his reply.<\/p>\n

4. Te pide una primera cita.<\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1ndo debe eliminar su perfil de citas?<\/h2>\n

Un hombre deber\u00eda borrar sus perfiles de citas en el momento en que empieza una relaci\u00f3n seria<\/a>. Ideally, he shouldn\u2019t wait for his girlfriend to nag about it, but he should do it himself.<\/p>\n

Para terminar:<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Instead of asking yourself, \u201cIf he likes me, why is he still online dating?\u201d why don\u2019t you ask yourself, \u00bfQu\u00e9 hago todav\u00eda con este hombre?<\/em><\/strong> Don\u2019t ever give more than you receive, and don\u2019t settle for less<\/a> \u00a1de lo que te mereces!<\/p>\n

I know you\u2019re tired of looking for the one, but trust me, it\u2019s way better to ser soltero<\/a> que estar con alguien que s\u00f3lo te trata como una de sus opciones.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not telling you to leave right away. But if he continues spending time on online dating sites even though you specifically ask him not to, it\u2019s more than clear that he doesn\u2019t care about you enough!<\/p>\n

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If he likes me, why is he still online dating? I don\u2019t think there is a girl in the world of modern dating who hasn\u2019t asked herself this question at least once before. I know I have. You know the drill: there is strong chemistry. You like him, and you know he likes you. You\u2019ve…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":42,"featured_media":151197,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29646],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-151195","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-understanding-men"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29646,"label":"understanding men"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/If-He-Likes-Me-Why-Is-He-Still-Online-Dating-9-Common-Reasons-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Selma June","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/selmajune\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29646,"name":"understanding men","slug":"understanding-men","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29646,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Wondering about what's going on inside his head? Or do you need explanations for his actions? Learn to understand men, and your life will become easier.","parent":29643,"count":570,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29646,"category_count":570,"category_description":"Wondering about what's going on inside his head? Or do you need explanations for his actions? Learn to understand men, and your life will become easier.","cat_name":"understanding men","category_nicename":"understanding-men","category_parent":29643}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/151195","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/42"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=151195"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/151195\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/151197"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=151195"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=151195"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=151195"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}