{"id":151242,"date":"2022-05-20T17:20:10","date_gmt":"2022-05-20T17:20:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=151242"},"modified":"2022-05-25T11:47:16","modified_gmt":"2022-05-25T11:47:16","slug":"por-que-el-poliamor-es-malo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/por-que-el-poliamor-es-malo\/","title":{"rendered":"Por qu\u00e9 el poliamor es malo: 11 razones sinceras"},"content":{"rendered":"

Las relaciones poliamorosas existen desde el principio de los tiempos. Pero este estilo de vida ha ganado cada vez m\u00e1s popularidad en los \u00faltimos tiempos.<\/p>\n

I bet it\u2019s captured your attention, too; otherwise, you wouldn\u2019t be here. Admit it, you\u2019re thinking about giving it a go, but you\u2019re not sure about all the advantages and disadvantages of this type of relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n

On the one hand, you\u2019re ready to try out something new. You think that you\u2019re not cut out for monogamous relationships because being committed to just one person has never been your thing.<\/p>\n

But on the other hand, you\u2019re also scared that you don\u2019t have what it takes to enter the poly community. No paras de o\u00edr que este tipo de acuerdo es lo mejor del mundo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sin embargo, usted quiere conocer la otra cara de la moneda. Quieres saber por qu\u00e9 el poliamor es malo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

And that\u2019s what you\u2019re about to find out. If you read on, you\u2019ll get all the cons of polyamorous relationships.<\/p>\n

Por qu\u00e9 el poliamor es malo:<\/h2>\n

Aqu\u00ed tienes 11 razones sinceras por las que deber\u00edas pens\u00e1rtelo mejor antes de iniciar una relaci\u00f3n poli.<\/p>\n

1. La cuesti\u00f3n de los celos<\/h3>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Polyamorous people claim that they don\u2019t get jealous. And I\u2019m really happy if that is the case. It means that they\u2019ve grown as people and succeeded in surpassing this toxic emotion.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, en realidad no hay tanta gente que pueda calla sus celos<\/a> off completely. Don\u2019t get me wrong: I\u2019m not talking about the possessive, unhealthy kind of jealousy.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m talking about the way we all feel uncomfortable when faced with the idea of losing our partner to someone else. You can be the most confident person in the world, but you won\u2019t be happy if you see your loved one texting someone else.<\/p>\n

Y aunque los pol\u00edgamos no sienten celos al principio de su nueva relaci\u00f3n, con el tiempo, eso cambia.<\/strong> Elizabeth Sheff realiz\u00f3 un estudio en el que sigui\u00f3 a varias parejas poli durante 15 a\u00f1os.<\/p>\n

Al principio de su nueva relaci\u00f3n, ninguno de ellos sinti\u00f3 celos. De hecho, sent\u00edan compasi\u00f3n. Sin embargo, al cabo de 15 a\u00f1os, las mismas parejas afirmaron que luchaban con pensamientos celosos.<\/p>\n

2. La conexi\u00f3n emocional<\/h3>\n

Por qu\u00e9 el poliamor es malo: Una de las primeras razones est\u00e1 relacionada con tus emociones.<\/p>\n

Look, you\u2019re a human being, not a robot. Por mucho que intentes tener una relaci\u00f3n sexual ocasional con alguien<\/a>tarde o temprano, aparecer\u00e1n los sentimientos.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 ocurre cuando se establece una conexi\u00f3n emocional con alguien nuevo? \u00bfY si llegas a quererla m\u00e1s que a tu pareja principal?<\/p>\n

What if they fall in love, but you\u2019re unable to reciprocate their feelings? Either way, heartbreak every now and then is inevitable.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, it\u2019s impossible to form an conexi\u00f3n emocional<\/a> with everyone who comes along. Won\u2019t all of those meaningless physical encounters leave you feeling empty and drained?<\/p>\n

3. La igualdad es imposible en la pr\u00e1ctica<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Una relaci\u00f3n mon\u00f3gama se basa en la igualdad. Al menos, as\u00ed deber\u00eda ser una relaci\u00f3n sana.<\/p>\n

Pero, \u00bfes realmente posible la igualdad relaciones poliamorosas<\/a>? En teor\u00eda, s\u00ed.<\/p>\n

Of course, I\u2019m talking about poly relationships with no primary partner or, to be exact, when all partners are \u201cprimary.\u201d As much as poly folks try to create equality in this kind of romantic relationship, it\u2019s quite impossible in practice.<\/strong><\/p>\n

What about hierarchical poly relationships? How do the people positioned \u201cbelow\u201d the primary partners feel?<\/p>\n

4. Inversi\u00f3n emocional<\/h3>\n

La cuesti\u00f3n de la igualdad no est\u00e1 en los regalos ni en el tiempo que pasamos juntos. Puedes hacer un calendario seg\u00fan el cual tengas el mismo n\u00famero de citas con todas tus parejas, en el que te acuestes con todas el mismo n\u00famero de veces a la semana, en el que les compres los mismos regalos, etc.<\/p>\n

But there is something you simply can\u2019t divide as much as you try, and that is exactly why polyamory is bad. Whether you like to admit it or not, you can\u2019t divide your heart into equal parts.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You can\u2019t give all of your partners the same amount of emotions. Besides, who measures this kind of thing?<\/p>\n

\u00bfY si te sientes desatendida emocionalmente<\/a>, but your partner claims that they\u2019re invested in your relationship? Who decides who\u2019s right?<\/p>\n

Por otro lado, \u00bfy si realmente empiezas a querer a alguien m\u00e1s que a tu pareja principal? \u00bfY si te sientes m\u00e1s feliz teniendo una cita con esa persona que con tu novia o novio principal?<\/p>\n

You\u2019re still equally invested in both relationships looking from the outside. Nevertheless, deep inside, you feel a huge difference.<\/p>\n

5. Una lucha de poder<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

We\u2019re all human beings, which means that we\u2019re not perfect. As much as we try to disregard and surpass our egos, this is another impossible thing to perform in practice.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que even if you manage to fight jealousy off, power struggles will always be there. Competition and winning against an opponent is in every person\u2019s nature, as much as we try to hide it.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Truth be told, some people start polyamorous relationships to boost their egos. They enjoy the idea of multiple people \u201cfighting\u201d for their love and attention.<\/p>\n

Of course, this is not what healthy polyamory looks like. Nevertheless, in practice, this \u201cfighting\u201d happens more than you might imagine.<\/p>\n

And I\u2019m not only talking about women fighting over one man or vice versa. I\u2019m talking about the power struggle between you and your primary partner.<\/p>\n

Who\u2019s slept with more people? Who went out on more dates? Who gets hit on more?<\/p>\n

6. 6. Cuestiones jur\u00eddicas<\/h3>\n

If you don\u2019t know why polyamory is bad, I\u2019m sure you haven\u2019t thought of its legal aspects. I\u2019m no lawyer, but I do know that being married to more than one person at the same time is illegal in all western cultures.<\/p>\n

S\u00e9 que algunos piensan que el matrimonio es un concepto anticuado, pero oye, ese trozo de papel realmente significa algo. No obtienes nada tras poner fin a una relaci\u00f3n, pero tienes una serie de derechos tras divorciarte.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Y por mucho que odie abordar este tema, \u00bfqu\u00e9 ocurre cuando uno de los socios fallece sin dejar testamento?<\/strong> If you\u2019re not their legal spouse, you have no right to their inheritance or anything else.<\/p>\n

In fact, you\u2019re not considered their family by the authorities or medical staff.<\/p>\n

7. La monogamia es suficientemente compleja<\/h3>\n

\"chica<\/p>\n

Juegos mentales<\/a>t\u00e1cticas de manipulaci\u00f3n, se\u00f1ales contradictorias<\/a>, toxic behavior… I\u2019m not saying that every monogamous relationship is like this, but let\u2019s be honest, most mono couples are guilty of at least some of these behaviors.<\/p>\n

Relationships are tough \u2013 nobody can argue against that. It takes a lot of time, effort, and energy to make it work.<\/p>\n

Al fin y al cabo, dos personas con or\u00edgenes, niveles de inteligencia, necesidades, pasados y caracteres diferentes tienen que encontrar un t\u00e9rmino medio y una forma de vivir juntos felices para siempre.<\/p>\n

\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 suponer que estas cosas desaparecen por arte de magia en el momento en que te pasas al poliamor? Al contrario, todo se vuelve a\u00fan m\u00e1s complejo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Hasta ahora, dos personas intentaban llegar a un acuerdo. Ahora hay tres o m\u00e1s adultos intentando hacer lo mismo. \u00bfC\u00f3mo puede esto no complicar a\u00fan m\u00e1s las cosas?<\/p>\n

8. Normas poco claras<\/h3>\n

\u00bfQui\u00e9n es la pareja principal? \u00bfCon cu\u00e1ntas otras parejas rom\u00e1nticas se permite estar? \u00bfS\u00f3lo se puede salir con otras personas solteras, o todo est\u00e1 restringido a otras personas poli?<\/p>\n

Do people outside of the polyamorous community know about the couple\u2019s practices? Where is it acceptable to look for other partners?<\/p>\n

\u00bfPueden publicar fotos con ellos en todas las redes sociales? \u00bfQu\u00e9 pasa si alguien se enamora?<\/p>\n

A lot of people interested in polygamy have no idea that this list of questions can go on and on forever. And even veteran polyamorists don\u2019t have all the answers.<\/strong><\/p>\n

S\u00ed, la verdad es que cada relaci\u00f3n poliamorosa es diferente. No hay reglas universales que se apliquen a todas relaci\u00f3n abierta<\/a>de la misma manera que no hay normas universales<\/a> que se aplican a todas las personas mon\u00f3gamas de ah\u00ed fuera.<\/p>\n

Pero quieras admitirlo o no, lo cierto es que estas normas son algo dif\u00edciles de entender y seguir.<\/p>\n

9. STI<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not claiming that every poly relationship is only a sexual relationship. However, it is true that sex lives between more than two people carry more risk, regardless of one\u2019s sexual orientation.<\/p>\n

Yes, there is a bigger chance of getting an STI. It\u2019s actually pretty logical \u2013 you sleep with a lot of people, all of those people sleep with other people, and your partner does the same.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, if you\u2019re all responsible, STIs can be avoided.<\/strong><\/p>\n

First of all, always use protection, even when sleeping with your primary partner. Nevertheless, that\u2019s not always enough.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s crucial to ask everyone to get tested before sleeping with them for the first time. Make sure they know you\u2019re not accusing them of anything \u2013 it\u2019s just a matter of precaution.<\/p>\n

Besides, if they refuse to get tested, they\u2019re either hiding something or they\u2019re not mature enough to see where you\u2019re coming from.<\/p>\n

En cualquier caso, \u00a1no son candidatos para una relaci\u00f3n \u00edntima!<\/p>\n

10. Insalubre para los ni\u00f1os<\/h3>\n

\u00bfEs este tipo de arreglo poco saludable para los ni\u00f1os criados por padres no mon\u00f3gamos? \u00bfPuede este tipo de imprevisibilidad e incertidumbre afectar negativamente a su salud mental? Los estudios dicen que s\u00ed.<\/p>\n

Por un lado, S\u00ed, el poliamor les da la oportunidad de ser queridos y cuidados por m\u00e1s personas. Sin embargo, este arreglo tampoco les proporciona la estabilidad y firmeza que necesitan.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s, \u00bfqu\u00e9 ocurre si dos miembros de la pareja tienen un hijo biol\u00f3gico? \u00bfC\u00f3mo se sentir\u00eda la tercera persona?<\/p>\n

\u00bfSe sienten excluidos? \u00bfSienten celos del v\u00ednculo que une a sus compa\u00f1eros?<\/p>\n

11. Rupturas<\/h3>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

\u00bfY las rupturas?<\/p>\n

\u00bfNecesitas un consejo oficial para decidir cu\u00e1ndo alguien est\u00e1 fuera? \u00bfY si quieres romper con un compa\u00f1ero, pero tu otro compa\u00f1ero sigue queriendo tener una relaci\u00f3n con \u00e9l? \u00bfO al rev\u00e9s?<\/p>\n

\u00bfFunciona aqu\u00ed la democracia?<\/p>\n

Breakups are practically impossible in polyamorous relationships. Don\u2019t get me wrong \u2013 I\u2019m not talking about the kind of romances where you have a primary partner and a couple of intimate relationships outside of the primary one.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m talking about that type of relationship where there are more people involved in the same romance; when you\u2019re dating or even living together.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s say you want to cut ties and go no contact with one of your partners. How is that possible if your boyfriend or girlfriend is still involved with this person?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Of course, I\u2019m presenting you with imaginary scenarios, but trust me \u2013 something like this is highly possible.<\/p>\n

\u00bfEs el poliamor una enfermedad mental?<\/h2>\n

Polyamory is definitely not a mental illness \u2013 it\u2019s just a way of life.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Polyamorous people have different personality types, attachment styles, and personality traits. They\u2019re regular human beings \u2013 they just prefer non-monogamy.<\/p>\n

\u00bfEs poco \u00e9tico el poliamor?<\/h2>\n

Siempre que todas las partes implicadas den su pleno consentimiento a este tipo de relaci\u00f3n rom\u00e1ntica, el poliamor es perfectamente \u00e9tico.<\/strong> Of course, it\u2019s not acceptable behavior according to most religions and according to some conservative views, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with it as long as nobody is forced into it.<\/p>\n

Para terminar:<\/h2>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

The truth is that I\u2019ve given you all the reasons why polyamory is bad. However, I\u2019m sure that you can also find a bunch of studies about por qu\u00e9 funciona realmente<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

So, what\u2019s the verdict? Is it something you should avoid at all costs, or is it an arrangement you ought to try out and see where it takes you?<\/p>\n

I have to be honest with you: there is no right or wrong answer here. But if you\u2019re used to monogamous relationships, switching from mono to poly will definitely be a difficult task.<\/p>\n

At the end of the day, it all depends on what you want and what makes you feel comfortable. After all, even if you try giving it a chance, you can always go back to monogamy \u2013 it\u2019s not like you have to spend the rest of your life in polyamory.<\/p>\n

Decidas lo que decidas, ten en cuenta una cosa: el consentimiento es lo m\u00e1s importante.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It\u2019s not polyamory if your partners aren\u2019t familiar with the other people in your life. In that case, it\u2019s called cheating, and that\u2019s something monogamous relationships already have!<\/p>\n

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