{"id":151532,"date":"2022-05-25T08:09:32","date_gmt":"2022-05-25T08:09:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=151532"},"modified":"2022-09-14T08:22:43","modified_gmt":"2022-09-14T08:22:43","slug":"problemas-de-maternidad-en-las-mujeres","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/problemas-de-maternidad-en-las-mujeres\/","title":{"rendered":"S\u00edntomas, causas y tratamiento de los problemas mamarios en la mujer"},"content":{"rendered":"

We\u2019ve all dealt with at least one guy with an Oedipus complex. That\u2019s right, I\u2019m talking about men who remain little mama\u2019s boys<\/a> a pesar de su edad y que esperan que su pareja femenina siga cri\u00e1ndolos.<\/p>\n

But what about mommy issues in women? Is that even a thing? Why isn\u2019t this topic addressed as much as the Oedipus complex?<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1les son las causas? \u00bfCu\u00e1les son los signos de los problemas de mam\u00e1? Y lo m\u00e1s importante, \u00bfpuede curarse, y c\u00f3mo?<\/p>\n

If you read on, you\u2019ll get all the answers you need and more!<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 son los problemas de mam\u00e1?<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Los problemas de mam\u00e1 son c\u00f3mo influy\u00f3 negativamente en su vida adulta una relaci\u00f3n malsana que tuvo con su madre cuando era ni\u00f1o.<\/strong> Si tienes problemas con tu madre, significa que la relaci\u00f3n que ten\u00edas con ella ha tenido un impacto negativo en tus relaciones sentimentales y en la relaci\u00f3n con tus hijos.<\/p>\n

\u00bfPuede una mujer tener problemas con su madre?<\/h2>\n

Yes, women can have mommy issues. Mommy and daddy issues are in no way connected to the child\u2019s sex.<\/strong> Actually, it\u2019s a common misconception that females struggle more with daddy issues due to relaciones poco saludables entre padre e hija<\/a> mientras que las heridas de madre est\u00e1n reservadas s\u00f3lo a los machos.<\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1les son las causas de los problemas mamarios en las mujeres?<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

\u00c9stas son las causas m\u00e1s comunes de que una mujer desarrolle una herida en la madre:<\/p>\n

1. Abuso en la infancia<\/h3>\n

El primer desencadenante para desarrollar problemas tanto de mam\u00e1 como de pap\u00e1 es, sin duda, la abusos que sufri\u00f3 de ni\u00f1o<\/a>. But let\u2019s be clear about something here: I\u2019m not only talking about physical or sexual abuse here.<\/p>\n

There are other types of abuse, such as emotional abuse as well. The worst thing about emotional abuse is that it\u2019s incredibly hard to identify, and victims don\u2019t even recognize it as abuse.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Whatever abuse you\u2019ve been through, it has left consequences on your mental health \u2013 one way or another. And if your mother was the primary abuser or the enabler of the abuse (in the way that she didn\u2019t do anything to prevent it), you\u2019ll likely develop mommy issues later in life.<\/p>\n

2. Mother\u2019s neglect<\/h3>\n

Mother\u2019s neglect is another cause of mommy issues. The problem with neglect is that people assume a neglecting parent is just one who doesn\u2019t provide food, shelter, and schooling for their children.<\/p>\n

Aunque se trata de un trato horrible, hay otros patrones de comportamiento que se clasifican como negligencia. Por ejemplo, si ella didn\u2019t provide protection<\/a> o apoyo emocional en tu primera infancia, definitivamente te descuid\u00f3.<\/strong><\/p>\n

We\u2019re talking about the most important figure in an innocent person\u2019s life.<\/p>\n

If you didn\u2019t feel like your mother loved you enough, who will? If you didn\u2019t feel like you could go to her if you needed advice or just a hug, don\u2019t you think an experience like that would shape you into the person you are today?<\/p>\n

3. Una madre pegajosa<\/h3>\n

However, being completely the opposite isn\u2019t right either. Your child should be the center of your world, right? Well, the thing is that your mom took this concept too literally.<\/p>\n

Moms who are overly clingy to their own children aren\u2019t doing them a favor either. We\u2019re talking about a woman who didn\u2019t have a life outside of yours.<\/p>\n

Your birth gave her meaning, and all of her love and attention was directed towards you. This might sound amazing at first, but trust, it\u2019s not a healthy relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n

This woman\u2019s only role was that of your mother. You replaced her partner, her female friends, and her entire family.<\/strong><\/p>\n

And whether you like to admit it or not, this kind of behavior suffocated you, especially in your teen years. She didn\u2019t allow you to be independent and never taught you the importance of setting boundaries.<\/p>\n

4. Madre excesivamente permisiva<\/h3>\n

How about a doting mother? Well, that\u2019s not good either.<\/p>\n

Yes, your mom should love you, no matter what you do. But that doesn\u2019t mean that she must love everything you do. Do you see the difference?<\/p>\n

Una madre demasiado permisiva te hace creer que eres el due\u00f1o del mundo. Tienes derecho a tratar a la gente como te plazca y puedes hacer lo que quieras sin consecuencias.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Cuando eras ni\u00f1o, nunca te disciplinaron. Nunca te castigaron y nunca sufriste las consecuencias de tu comportamiento.<\/strong><\/p>\n

On the contrary, you were permitted anything. You had unlimited finances, and your mother never told you \u201cno.\u201d And look how that turned out!<\/p>\n

Yes, she did this out of love. But at the same time, her behavior enabled bad actions, and that\u2019s never okay.<\/p>\n

And what happens when the real world hits you? That\u2019s right, you finally understand that it\u2019s not how things work.<\/p>\n

5. Madre excesivamente protectora<\/h3>\n

Finally, we arrived at overly protective moms. I\u2019m sure you know the type.<\/p>\n

Mira, todos los padres del mundo est\u00e1n muertos de miedo de que les pase algo malo a sus hijos. A nadie le gusta ver a sus hijos caerse y golpearse, y mucho menos algo m\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

But healthy parents know that they can\u2019t protect their children from every bad thing in this world. So they let them learn by letting them go.<\/strong><\/p>\n

However, your mother was different. She kept you in her arms for as long as she could \u2013 literally and figuratively.<\/p>\n

Esta mujer ten\u00eda miedo de vivir, y transfiri\u00f3 sus miedos irracionales a ti.<\/p>\n

Unlike the child from the previous passage, you were never allowed to do anything. You couldn\u2019t have a boyfriend, weren\u2019t allowed to travel with your friends, she didn\u2019t let you go out…<\/p>\n

La lista es interminable, pero la conclusi\u00f3n es que este tipo de comportamiento te dej\u00f3 cicatrices a ti tambi\u00e9n. Y, por supuesto, desarroll\u00f3 una relaci\u00f3n malsana con tu madre.<\/p>\n

6. Papeles equivocados<\/h3>\n

Your mom shouldn\u2019t be your best friend. And you shouldn\u2019t play the role of her mother either.<\/p>\n

\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 te digo esto? Bueno, muchas madres t\u00f3xicas invierten los papeles con sus hijos para que los ni\u00f1os acaben cuidando de ellas.<\/p>\n

O tal vez tu madre quer\u00eda ser guay, as\u00ed que siempre actuaba como tu mejor amiga en lugar de ser estricta cuando era apropiado. Esta mujer, obviamente, no ten\u00eda amigas, as\u00ed que plane\u00f3 convertirte en una.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Aunque estas relaciones madre-hija pueden ser muy divertidas, al fin y al cabo significan que tu madre nunca ha desempe\u00f1ado su papel mientras crec\u00edas (a pesar de que tu madre est\u00e9 f\u00edsicamente presente en tu vida).<\/p>\n

S\u00e9 lo que debes estar pensando en este momento: cada tipo de mam\u00e1 y cada estilo de crianza puede causar problemas a las mam\u00e1s. Parece que nada es suficientemente bueno. Entonces, \u00bfc\u00f3mo debe comportarse una madre para evitar causar una herida materna en sus propios hijos?<\/p>\n

Well, the emphasis here is on the word \u201coverly.\u201d There is no balance in being overprotective, overpermissive, or overclingy.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: 11 se\u00f1ales de chicos con problemas con su madre (+ 7 formas de tratarlos)<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1les son los signos de problemas mamarios en las mujeres?<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Una relaci\u00f3n complicada con tu madre da lugar a otras relaciones complicadas en tu vida adulta, y es exactamente as\u00ed:<\/p>\n

1. Comportamiento pegajoso<\/h3>\n

You tend to be overly needy in all of your personal relationships, especially romantic relationships. It\u2019s more than clear that you crave the attention, love, and validation you didn\u2019t get from your mother when it should have been given to you.<\/p>\n

You live in constant fear that your partner will leave you when you least expect it. You\u2019re unaware of it, but you have some serious problemas de abandono<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

O tal vez piense que ser pegajoso<\/a> is the only way to show love? After all, that\u2019s what your mother taught you.<\/p>\n

If your boyfriend doesn\u2019t give you his undivided attention 24\/7, you assume that he\u2019s stopped loving you.<\/p>\n

The truth is that you know nothing about healthy boundaries. You\u2019re jealous and possessive, and the worst part is that you don\u2019t even see it.<\/p>\n

2. Estilo de apego malsano<\/h3>\n

Seg\u00fan la teor\u00eda del apego, su estilo de fijaci\u00f3n<\/a> depende de la relaci\u00f3n que hayas tenido con tu cuidadora principal. En pocas palabras, tienes problemas de apego debido a la tensa relaci\u00f3n que mantienes con tu madre.<\/p>\n

Por ejemplo, si tiene un estilo de apego evitativo<\/a>, it\u2019s because your mother neglected you as a child. The same goes for insecure attachment \u2013 you didn\u2019t get enough attention from your own mother and father.<\/p>\n

Por otro lado, si tienes un estilo de apego seguro, significa que tuviste una relaci\u00f3n afectuosa y cari\u00f1osa con tu cuidador principal.<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 tiene que ver esto con tus otras relaciones personales? Bueno, transfiere esto estilo de fijaci\u00f3n<\/a> a tus relaciones rom\u00e1nticas, a las relaciones con tus amigos y a todo lo dem\u00e1s en tu vida adulta.<\/strong><\/p>\n

3. Comportamiento maternal en las relaciones<\/h3>\n

Motherly behavior in other relationships is quite common for mommy issues in women. You didn\u2019t have a healthy mother figure in your life, and you think that you\u2019ll compensate for this by becoming a mother figure to your romantic partner or friends.<\/p>\n

This is especially true if you are an older sibling. You were responsible for the caretaking of your entire family. You had to worry about your little brothers and sisters\u2019 well-being, and you transferred these behavior patterns to your adult relationships.<\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s, echas de menos tener una figura materna. Por eso supones que los dem\u00e1s tambi\u00e9n la echan de menos. Para ti, \u00e9sta es la m\u00e1xima expresi\u00f3n del amor: criar a tu pareja sentimental o a tu mejor amigo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

4. 4. Baja autoestima<\/h3>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

You weren\u2019t given enough validation in your early childhood. You were never told that you were beautiful or smart.<\/p>\n

Pero lo m\u00e1s importante es que tu madre no te demostr\u00f3 que eras lo bastante bueno. La cruda verdad<\/strong> is that she didn\u2019t love you how you wanted to be loved.<\/strong><\/p>\n

So now you think that you\u2019re unworthy of anyone\u2019s love. If the person who gave birth to you didn\u2019t see you as valuable enough and if she couldn\u2019t get herself to love and respect you, what can you expect from the rest of the world?<\/p>\n

Todo esto ha causado algunas inseguridades importantes y baja autoestima<\/a> you don\u2019t know how to deal with properly. You have a distorted sense of self, and at the end of the day, you don\u2019t know how to love yourself.<\/p>\n

5. Idealizar otras relaciones<\/h3>\n

I hate to break it to you, but you\u2019re a good candidate for bombardeo de amor<\/a>. You\u2019re so desperate to receive the love you never got that you fall for other people\u2019s lies without any hesitation.<\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1ntas veces has pensado que \u00e9l era el elegido? \u00bfCu\u00e1ntas relaciones sentimentales imaginaste que acabar\u00edan en matrimonio?<\/p>\n

Mira, fantasear no tiene nada de malo. Pero tu problema es que idealizas tus relaciones personales.<\/p>\n

Every time a new person enters your life, you assume that you\u2019ve finally found someone who will heal your inner child and fill your void.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Those expectations put rose-tinted glasses over your eyes. You fail to see someone\u2019s flaws, and you are blind to the red flags.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que, naturalmente, acabas cada vez m\u00e1s decepcionado.<\/p>\n

6. Dependencia emocional<\/h3>\n

You don\u2019t know what healthy boundaries mean. You\u2019re unfamiliar with the term independence.<\/p>\n

On the contrary, you\u2019re emocionalmente dependiente<\/a> en todos los que amas. Y eso crea relaciones insanas.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t breathe without your partner. You think that your life would be pointless without them, and consequently, you develop relationship anxiety.<\/p>\n

This can be the result of many factors, but they\u2019re all related to your madre t\u00f3xica<\/a>. Si era demasiado pegajosa, mostraba signos de dependencia emocional, y a ti te ense\u00f1aban que eso era amor.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Por otro lado, si te descuid\u00f3, pasaste toda tu infancia anhelando su amor. Y eso tambi\u00e9n podr\u00eda causar este tipo de dependencia.<\/p>\n

Whatever the reason is, the bottom line is the same: you can never allow your happiness to depend on someone else. And that\u2019s exactly what you\u2019ve been doing all along.<\/p>\n

7. Cr\u00edtica excesiva<\/h3>\n

Mommy issues in women are connected with nagging, grumbling, and fault-finding. If you\u2019re one of those moms or wives who keep on criticizing her entire family, this is why you act that way.<\/p>\n

Desde que tienes uso de raz\u00f3n, nada de lo que hac\u00edas era suficientemente bueno. Te gritaban y te maltrataban de diferentes maneras, y adoptaste estos patrones de comportamiento como normales.<\/p>\n

Aunque en el fondo sabes que se trata de un comportamiento t\u00f3xico, al mismo tiempo sigues actuando de la misma manera.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Why? Well, it\u2019s actually pretty simple: you don\u2019t know better.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Here\u2019s a little secret: people don\u2019t like this about you. They don\u2019t care if you\u2019re doing it for their own good \u2013 they feel like they\u2019re under constant attack, and nobody feels comfortable that way.<\/p>\n

8. Indisponibilidad emocional<\/h3>\n

We\u2019ve already discussed overly clingy and emotionally dependent females with mother wounds.<\/p>\n

Pero \u00bfqu\u00e9 pasa con indisponibilidad emocional<\/a>? \u00bfPuede ser uno de los signos de problemas de maternidad en las mujeres? Definitivamente, s\u00ed.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re simply scared. La relaci\u00f3n m\u00e1s importante que tuviste de ni\u00f1o result\u00f3 ser infructuosa.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Entonces, \u00bfqu\u00e9 se puede esperar de los mejores amigos, las parejas rom\u00e1nticas y otros miembros de la familia?<\/strong><\/p>\n

With time, you\u2019ve developed a defense mechanism. You\u2019ve decided that the only way to keep yourself safe is to keep everyone else out.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t let people see the true you. You\u2019ve built thick and high walls around your heart to protect it.<\/p>\n

And you think that you\u2019re doing just fine like that. Well, you\u2019re not. You\u2019re actually missing out on a lot.<\/p>\n

9. Cuestiones de confianza<\/h3>\n

Cuestiones de confianza<\/a> are also very common with females who suffer from mommy issues. It\u2019s actually the same as with love.<\/p>\n

La persona en la que m\u00e1s deber\u00edas haber confiado (y lo peor es que realmente lo hiciste) te traicion\u00f3. Te apu\u00f1al\u00f3 por la espalda y te trat\u00f3 como si fueras su peor enemigo.<\/p>\n

So how could you ever get yourself to trust anyone again? If the woman who brought you into this world deceived you, why wouldn\u2019t some random guy you met a few months ago?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Bueno, d\u00e9jame contarte un peque\u00f1o secreto: no todo el mundo es como tu madre.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong \u2013 this doesn\u2019t mean that you should live life recklessly. It doesn\u2019t mean that you should trust everyone who comes your way.<\/p>\n

Pero, por favor, conceda a algunas personas el beneficio de la duda.<\/strong> Quiz\u00e1 le sorprendan.<\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo se pueden tratar los problemas mamarios en las mujeres?<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

\u00bfPueden curarse los problemas de mam\u00e1? \u00bfPuedes romper el ciclo y ser un tipo diferente de madre para tus hijos? S\u00ed, y s\u00ed. Y esto es exactamente c\u00f3mo hacerlo.<\/p>\n

1. 1. Identificaci\u00f3n del problema<\/h3>\n

Adquirir conciencia de uno mismo es el primer paso para resolver cualquier problema, incluido \u00e9ste. As\u00ed que, por mucho que te duela, tienes que volver a tu infancia y reproducirla en tu cabeza.<\/p>\n

First and foremost, you have to accept that you have had a troubled relationship with your mother forever. This doesn\u2019t mean that you love her any less or that you accuse her of anything right away \u2013 you\u2019re just acknowledging that fact.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Which of your mother\u2019s behaviors hurt you the most? How did she impact your life right now? Why was your relationship unhealthy? What could have made it better?<\/p>\n

Dig deep inside of you to find the answers because you can\u2019t move on with your healing journey until you do.<\/p>\n

2. La fuerza para perdonar<\/h3>\n

\u00a1El perd\u00f3n es crucial para todo progreso! \u00bfSignifica esto que debes perdonar a tu madre aunque fuera tu maltratadora?<\/p>\n

Well, you\u2019re the only one who can answer that question. However, letting go of resentment and hatred will take a huge burden off your chest \u2013 I can promise you that.<\/p>\n

I won\u2019t lie to you: it would be great to forgive your mother, especially if she didn\u2019t mean to hurt you (disclaimer: I\u2019m not talking about abusive mothers here). Esto no es una excusa para su comportamiento t\u00f3xico, pero cr\u00e9eme, lo hizo lo mejor que pudo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

She loved you the way she considered best. It is likely that she was a victim of toxic parents herself. But unlike you, she wasn\u2019t strong enough to break the cycle.<\/p>\n

Y lo que es m\u00e1s importante perd\u00f3nate a ti mismo<\/a>. Remember: you\u2019re the victim here, and a little child can never be blamed for his or her parents\u2019 actions.<\/p>\n

3. Sanar al ni\u00f1o interior<\/h3>\n

Finally, it\u2019s time to heal your inner child. Date a ti mismo lo que m\u00e1s ansiabas cuando eras s\u00f3lo un ni\u00f1o.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I don\u2019t care if we\u2019re talking about that toy you never got or more important things such as emotional support or validation. Sometimes, you have to engage in self-parenting practices, and that\u2019s perfectly fine as well.<\/p>\n

The point is to do whatever makes you happy. Engage in self-care and learn how to love yourself \u2013 that\u2019s the key to everything.<\/p>\n

Para terminar:<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

I\u2019ll be honest with you: mommy issues in women are as common as the Oedipus complex. And both conditions should not be taken lightly.<\/p>\n

However, as long as you\u2019re here, it means you\u2019re perfectly aware that you have a problem. By just accepting that, you\u2019re one step closer to healing.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Good luck, you\u2019ve got this!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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