{"id":151543,"date":"2022-05-25T08:33:36","date_gmt":"2022-05-25T08:33:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=151543"},"modified":"2022-05-25T08:33:36","modified_gmt":"2022-05-25T08:33:36","slug":"con-que-frecuencia-se-pelean-las-parejas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/con-que-frecuencia-se-pelean-las-parejas\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00bfCon qu\u00e9 frecuencia se pelean las parejas? (+9 consejos para una discusi\u00f3n sana)"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u00bfDiscut\u00eds demasiado t\u00fa y tu pareja? Antes de responder a esa pregunta, tienes que responder a la pregunta \"\u00bfcon qu\u00e9 frecuencia discuten las parejas en general?\".<\/p>\n

Is there a number of times you shouldn\u2019t go over so your relationship becomes classified as toxic? Is there a number of times you must fight unless you want to be accused of suppressing your emotions or being called conflict-avoidant?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Aqu\u00ed tienes algunas cosas que te ayudar\u00e1n a resolver todos tus dilemas \u00a1y mucho m\u00e1s!<\/p>\n

\u00bfCon qu\u00e9 frecuencia se pelean las parejas? 6 factores<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Despite popular opinion, the frequency of arguments is no predictor of a relationship\u2019s happiness and health. Of course, I\u2019m not talking about the situation where you can\u2019t go a day without a huge fight.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, there are numerous issues that have to be discussed before answering the question, \u201chow often do couples fight?<\/strong>\u201d Before anything else, it\u2019s important to keep in mind how they resolve their disagreements.<\/p>\n

But let\u2019s first see the factors that impact the frequency of fights.<\/p>\n

1. \u00bfCu\u00e1nto dura la relaci\u00f3n?<\/h3>\n

Lo primero que hay que tener en cuenta es la duraci\u00f3n de la relaci\u00f3n. Seg\u00fan los expertos en relaciones, las parejas que m\u00e1s se pelean llevan juntas entre 6 meses y un a\u00f1o. \u00bfPor qu\u00e9?<\/p>\n

Primera fase<\/h4>\n

Well, when you first start dating, you don\u2019t show your true colors. I\u2019m not saying that you\u2019re deliberately deceiving your partner, but we all feel the need to present ourselves in a better light.<\/p>\n

Besides, you\u2019re in the fase de luna de miel<\/a>, and there are butterflies flying around in your tummy. You\u2019ve got your rose-tinted glasses on, and even the annoying things your partner does look cute.<\/p>\n

Even when you\u2019re bothered by something they do, you\u2019ll bite your tongue.<\/strong> You don\u2019t want to be perceived as naggy or overly-demanding.<\/p>\n

Segunda fase<\/h4>\n

But when your relationship reaches a certain length, you\u2019re both relaxed enough, and it\u2019s seguro para cambiar<\/a>. You no longer have a problem stating what\u2019s bothering you.<\/p>\n

Al mismo tiempo, ambos mostr\u00e1is vuestros verdaderos colores. Las mariposas se alejan poco a poco y todas vuestras rarezas salen a la luz.<\/strong><\/p>\n

That\u2019s when arguments become more common. Don\u2019t be scared \u2013 happy couples go through this phase as well.<\/p>\n

Tercera fase<\/h4>\n

After spending years together, you\u2019ve seen todas las banderas rojas<\/a>. And you\u2019ve decided to live with them. Otherwise, you wouldn’t have stuck around for that long.<\/p>\n

What is the amount of times you argue at this stage? Well, if you\u2019re in a relaci\u00f3n sana<\/a>la frecuencia deber\u00eda disminuir considerablemente.<\/strong><\/p>\n

On the other hand, if you can\u2019t really stand each other and are together for the wrong reasons (a habit, co-parenting, finances, comfort zone), you\u2019ve got yourself a problem. In that case, you literally can\u2019t communicate without fighting.<\/p>\n

2. \u00bfHasta qu\u00e9 punto es seria la relaci\u00f3n?<\/h3>\n

Another factor that impacts the answer to the question of \u201chow often do couples fight?\u201d is the level of your relationship. Is it something serious? Are you married? Or are you just dating?<\/p>\n

La respuesta a esta pregunta es bastante l\u00f3gica. You won\u2019t fight with someone you don\u2019t see a future with<\/a>. Al menos, no tan a menudo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Because, to be honest, why would you waste your energy? I mean, you don\u2019t give a damn if he leaves his dirty socks under the bed if we\u2019re talking about a casual hookup.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You have no idea when you\u2019ll see him next, and even though this might bother you, you\u2019ll tolerate it.<\/p>\n

Pero, \u00bfqu\u00e9 pasa cuando lo hace tu pareja? Pues que te vuelves loco porque te ves toda la vida recogiendo sus calcetines sucios.<\/p>\n

Y hay un mont\u00f3n de estas cosas aparentemente peque\u00f1as por las que incluso las parejas felices discuten.<\/p>\n

3. Sus personalidades<\/h3>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

It seems like some people enjoy arguing. They pick a fight wherever they appear, and they\u2019re able to argue for hours and hours, even when it becomes completely pointless.<\/p>\n

They must get their way, and they won\u2019t give up until the other side admits that they\u2019re right.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, there are those who\u2019ll do everything in their power to avoid getting into a fight. Suelen ser complacientes<\/a> who don\u2019t have trouble nodding their heads at everything the other party says just to avoid conflict.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Y luego est\u00e1n todos los dem\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

La conclusi\u00f3n es que todos tenemos un conjunto diferente de rasgos de personalidad. Reaccionamos de forma distinta ante las cosas que nos molestan y afrontamos las disputas de diversas maneras.<\/strong><\/p>\n

This is a major factor when it comes to the frequency of arguments and one of the main reasons why there is no universal answer to the question, \u201chow often do couples fight?\u201d<\/p>\n

4. Diferentes niveles de compromiso, amor y devoci\u00f3n<\/h3>\n

Una de las peores cosas de las relaciones rom\u00e1nticas es cuando uno de los miembros de la pareja est\u00e1 totalmente dentro mientras que el otro entra en ella a medias<\/a>. Cuando uno est\u00e1 comprometido y entregado mientras que el otro ve la relaci\u00f3n como algo temporal. Cuando una persona ama m\u00e1s<\/a>.<\/p>\n

In that case, one of the people always feels like they\u2019re not getting as much as they deserve. They feel emotionally neglected and taken advantage of.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Cuando esto ocurre, las peleas son inevitables y constantes.<\/strong> La persona que da menos se vuelve evasivo<\/a> y no suele ser el que busca pelea.<\/p>\n

Por otro lado, el emocionalmente descuidado<\/a> quiere justicia y es el que empieza las discusiones todo el tiempo. \u00bfQui\u00e9n podr\u00eda culparles?<\/p>\n

5. 5. Habilidades de comunicaci\u00f3n<\/h3>\n

You and your significant other\u2019s communication skills are extremely important when it comes to the frequency of fights.<\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo suele expresar emociones<\/a>? \u00bfSe le da bien decir lo que piensa? \u00bfTiendes a malinterpretar lo que la otra persona intenta decirte?<\/p>\n

\u00bfEs usted un emp\u00e1tico<\/a> who has the ability to feel your partner\u2019s feelings? How do you get along with communication in general, i.e., outside of your relationship?<\/p>\n

Todas estas cosas marcar\u00e1n la diferencia a la hora de pelearse con su ser querido.<\/p>\n

6. Igualdad en una relaci\u00f3n<\/h3>\n

Todo coach sentimental le dir\u00e1 que la frecuencia de las discusiones tambi\u00e9n depende de la jerarqu\u00eda de su relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

There are numerous relationships where one person is afraid to speak up. In that case, there is no fighting \u2013 the dominant person makes a demand, and that demand must be fulfilled.<\/strong><\/p>\n

On the other hand, if you\u2019re both equals and there is no submissive person who isn\u2019t allowed to confront the dominant one, arguments will be way more frequent.<\/p>\n

\u00bfCon qu\u00e9 frecuencia deben pelearse las parejas?<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

No existe una respuesta universal a esta pregunta. En primer lugar, \u00bfqu\u00e9 consideramos una pelea?<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfSe trata s\u00f3lo de una gran discusi\u00f3n, o el t\u00e9rmino se aplica a peque\u00f1as ri\u00f1as? \u00bfEstamos hablando de dos extrovertidos que no tienen problemas para expresar sus emociones? \u00bfO tal vez de dos personas complacientes que nunca dicen lo que piensan?<\/p>\n

Cada pareja tiene su rutina. And as long as they don\u2019t argue on a regular basis and have a way of resolving their conflicts \u2013 they\u2019re good to go.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfCon qu\u00e9 frecuencia se pelean los matrimonios?<\/h2>\n

Most married couples squabble every couple of days. But that doesn\u2019t mean they\u2019re at each other\u2019s throats all the time.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s, todo depende de m\u00faltiples factores. A veces, un matrimonio discute un par de veces a la semana y, otras, pasan meses sin la menor ri\u00f1a.<\/p>\n

\u00bfEs normal pelearse cada semana en una relaci\u00f3n?<\/h2>\n

If we\u2019re talking about huge fights, it\u2019s definitely too frequent to argue every week.<\/strong> But if you\u2019re referring to irrelevant disagreements that come and go, there is nothing wrong with that.<\/p>\n

\u00bfEs normal pelearse todos los d\u00edas en una relaci\u00f3n?<\/h2>\n

No, no es normal que parejas sanas<\/a> discutir todos los d\u00edas.<\/strong><\/p>\n

According to clinical psychologists, fighting every day in a relationship is extremely harmful to your mental health. If this is something you can relate to, you\u2019re in a toxic relationship, and you have two options: to work on your conflict resolution as a couple or part ways.<\/p>\n

9 consejos para una discusi\u00f3n sana<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

I\u2019ll tell you right away: you can\u2019t avoid getting into a fight. Or, to be precise, you shouldn\u2019t do.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, existen algunos consejos que pueden ayudarle a argumentar de forma m\u00e1s productiva<\/strong>. Aqu\u00ed est\u00e1n:<\/p>\n

1. La honestidad es siempre el camino a seguir<\/h3>\n

When you\u2019re bothered by something, you should speak up. Happy couples fight more often than you might think, but that\u2019s because they\u2019re honest about everything they want to change in their relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n

And that\u2019s a great thing. I\u2019m not saying you should pick fights whenever you get the chance to, but you should definitely be comfortable enough to be honest about the things you\u2019d like to repair.<\/p>\n

2. El respeto es obligatorio<\/h3>\n

No name-calling, humiliating, and insulting your partner! Remember: just because you argue with someone doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re allowed to disrespect them, especially when we\u2019re talking about your romantic partner.<\/p>\n

Cr\u00e9eme, la primera vez que cruces esta l\u00ednea, las cosas cambiar\u00e1n para siempre. If you insult each other once and you both let it slide, it will become a normal way of communicating, and that\u2019s the last thing you want.<\/strong><\/p>\n

3. Validate each other\u2019s feelings<\/h3>\n

You don\u2019t feel like you\u2019ve done anything wrong. Okay, that\u2019s your point of view. But at the same time, your partner feels hurt and heartbroken.<\/p>\n

\u00bfHay que luchar para decidir si tienen derecho a sentirse as\u00ed? \u00bfO est\u00e1n exagerando? \u00bfEs realista su reacci\u00f3n?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Esto no se puede discutir.<\/strong> You must validate each other\u2019s feelings \u2013 that\u2019s the whole point!<\/p>\n

4. Don\u2019t make it personal<\/h3>\n

Remember, if you\u2019re criticizing something your partner has done, you\u2019re not criticizing them as a person. The same goes both ways.<\/p>\n

I know it\u2019s hard not to take relationship arguments personally, but please, do your best to separate the art from the artist.<\/strong><\/p>\n

This kind of approach will help you both see things more realistically, and you\u2019ll gain the objectivity you didn\u2019t know you had.<\/p>\n

5. Abordar la cuesti\u00f3n<\/h3>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t replay old hits. Don\u2019t tackle all the what-ifs, could-haves, and should-have-beens. Don\u2019t go beating around the bush either!<\/strong><\/p>\n

Yes, this is quite challenging, especially when you\u2019ve been together for ages, but trust me on this one.<\/p>\n

Aborda el problema que inici\u00f3 todo este alboroto. Solo cuando lo resuelvas podr\u00e1s abordar cualquier otra cosa.<\/p>\n

6. Sin juegos mentales<\/h3>\n

Stonewalling<\/a>, tratamiento silencioso<\/a>, chantaje emocional<\/a>y t\u00e1cticas similares son abuso emocional<\/a>! The same goes for other techniques that should magically tell your partner what you\u2019re bothered by.<\/p>\n

This is not a game \u2013 it\u2019s a relationship, and you must always be direct if you want things to work for the best.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t be a child and post a social media song or a status update addressing your partner. Don\u2019t expect them to read your mind and magically know what\u2019s wrong.<\/p>\n

Instead, be mature enough to start a fight if it\u2019s necessary.<\/p>\n

7. Aprender a escuchar<\/h3>\n

El arte de escuchar con atenci\u00f3n es crucial para una lucha sana. You can\u2019t be the only one talking, and you must take the other person\u2019s point of view into consideration.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Listen to what they have to say, and don\u2019t interrupt them until they\u2019re finished. Don\u2019t be rude, no matter what\u2019s going on.<\/p>\n

8. Don\u2019t be impulsive<\/h3>\n

Reaccionar en el calor del momento es divertido hasta que tienes que sufrir las consecuencias de tus actos. Discutir con tu pareja ser\u00e1 mucho m\u00e1s productivo si respiras hondo o incluso sales un momento antes de continuar.<\/strong><\/p>\n

9. Aceptar el desacuerdo<\/h3>\n

Todos los terapeutas familiares te dir\u00e1n lo mismo: it\u2019s you two against the problem, not against each other. It doesn\u2019t matter who\u2019s right and who\u2019s wrong \u2013 what matters is you solve the problem.<\/strong><\/p>\n

As\u00ed que, por favor, ten esto en cuenta la pr\u00f3xima vez que discutas con tu ser querido sin soluci\u00f3n a la vista. Recuerde que no se trata de una lucha de poder.<\/a><\/p>\n

Sometimes, you won\u2019t have the same attitudes and opinions. And that\u2019s perfectly okay.<\/p>\n

Por eso hay que aprender a estar de acuerdo en estar en desacuerdo.<\/p>\n

Para terminar:<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Are couples who don\u2019t fight happier? Absolutely not!<\/strong> In fact, in most cases, they\u2019re like a bomb waiting to go off. And when it happens, it will blow the whole place up.<\/p>\n

\u00bfSon m\u00e1s felices las parejas que se pelean todos los d\u00edas?<\/strong> Absolutely not! It\u2019s a clear sign of a toxic relationship, and it\u2019s awful for everyone\u2019s mental health.<\/p>\n

\u00bfSe pelean las parejas en una relaci\u00f3n sana? S\u00ed. \u00bfLas parejas se pelean en una relaci\u00f3n enfermiza? S\u00ed.<\/strong><\/p>\n

At the end of the day, there is no answer to the question, \u201chow often do couples fight?\u201d It\u2019s not like an exact number of arguments that fit you into a category of a healthy couple exists.<\/p>\n

Lo que m\u00e1s importa son otras cosas, como las formas productivas de poner fin a una pelea y las maneras respetuosas de discutir.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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