{"id":151800,"date":"2022-05-30T12:24:26","date_gmt":"2022-05-30T12:24:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=151800"},"modified":"2022-05-30T12:26:17","modified_gmt":"2022-05-30T12:26:17","slug":"cuanto-tiempo-salir-antes-de-comprometerse-a-los-30-anos","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/cuanto-tiempo-salir-antes-de-comprometerse-a-los-30-anos\/","title":{"rendered":"Cu\u00e1nto tiempo salir con alguien antes de comprometerte a los 30: 10 cosas que debes saber"},"content":{"rendered":"

When you\u2019re in your 30s, it feels like everything starts speeding up at an incredible pace. You\u2019re no longer in high school, and finding out that your friend is getting married or is pregnant isn\u2019t the biggest rumor you\u2019ve heard during recess \u2013 it\u2019s actually the only type of news you\u2019ve been getting lately.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Por otro lado, no pasa gran cosa en tu relaci\u00f3n seria. As\u00ed que.., you can\u2019t help but wonder how long to date before getting engaged in your 30s.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Well, that\u2019s why I\u2019m here \u2013 to clear all your doubts away and give you the answer you\u2019ve been looking for.<\/p>\n

Cu\u00e1nto tiempo salir con alguien antes de comprometerse a los 30 a\u00f1os<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

I\u2019ll tell you right away: there is no set time in which you must get engaged if you\u2019re in your 30s.<\/strong> Pero si quieres consejos de expertos, seis meses es lo m\u00ednimo que deber\u00edas salir con alguien antes de empezar a hablar de ponerle un anillo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Es el tiempo m\u00ednimo que necesitas para conocer a la otra persona. Lo que importa a\u00fan m\u00e1s es que la fase de luna de miel haya terminado.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t even think about getting engaged to someone whose true colors you haven\u2019t seen. When you\u2019re in the fase de luna de miel<\/a>nada de lo que hacen te molesta. Sin embargo, eso cambia con el tiempo, y tienes que ver si realmente pod\u00e9is aguantaros el uno al otro.<\/p>\n

Por supuesto, la respuesta a esta pregunta depende de muchos factores. No todas las relaciones alcanzan el mismo nivel de seriedad al cabo del mismo tiempo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sometimes, you meet each other\u2019s families, go on a few vacations (or at least weekend getaways) and talk about the future in the tres primeros meses<\/a>. On the other hand, there are situations where you haven\u2019t made things official and have no clue where you stand after a whole year of dating and sleeping together.<\/p>\n

Do you see where I\u2019m going? It all depends on the dynamics of your relationship.<\/p>\n

10 preguntas que debes hacerte antes de comprometerte a los 30:<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

I know you\u2019re wondering how long to date before getting engaged in your 30s, but trust me, there are also other questions to answer before taking this big step. Some of these questions will make you understand that the amount of time you\u2019re dating someone is not the only thing to consider before tying the knot. Here are the most important ones:<\/strong><\/p>\n

1. \u00bfLo hago por la presi\u00f3n de grupo?<\/h3>\n

Before you ask yourself, \u201chow long should you wait before getting engaged?\u201d you must ask yourself, \u201cwhy do you want to get engaged in the first place?\u201d<\/strong> \u00bfTiene algo que ver con tu edad?<\/p>\n

Would you even think about spending the rest of your life with someone if you weren\u2019t 30 years old? Would you see them as your persona para siempre<\/a> si fueras m\u00e1s joven?<\/strong><\/p>\n

S\u00e9 que la mayor\u00eda de tus amigos ya est\u00e1n casados y tienen hijos, o al menos comprometidos. Debes de estar pensando en tu el reloj biol\u00f3gico avanza<\/a> tambi\u00e9n.<\/p>\n

However, trust me when I tell you that you mustn\u2019t think about these factors when making such a big decision. This is not high school, and it\u2019s not the same as when you started wearing make-up just because all of your friends were doing it.<\/p>\n

Repeat after me: you can\u2019t get engaged because of peer pressure. Well, technically, you can, but it shouldn\u2019t affect your decision in any way whatsoever.<\/p>\n

2. \u00bfSomos financieramente estables?<\/h3>\n

Lamento ser yo quien rompa tu burbuja y acabe con el romanticismo, pero comprometerse y finalmente casarse no es s\u00f3lo cuesti\u00f3n de amor. Antes de tomar una decisi\u00f3n tan importante, tambi\u00e9n hay que tener en cuenta una cosa que se llama seguridad econ\u00f3mica.<\/p>\n

Si desea un matrimonio exitoso<\/a>Tanto t\u00fa como tu pareja deb\u00e9is ser econ\u00f3micamente estables.<\/strong> You\u2019re not teenagers, and as harsh as this sounds, at this age, you should be aware that you can\u2019t live on love.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong \u2013 I\u2019m not saying that you must marry rich. I\u2019m not telling you to marry for money if you don\u2019t love the person you\u2019re with either.<\/p>\n

However, if you two can\u2019t pay rent, put food on the table, and take care of other living expenses, it means you should wait to get engaged a bit longer.<\/p>\n

Wedding planning itself takes a lot of time and money, let alone the actual marriage. Please, don\u2019t forget that this is also an important part of the equation.<\/p>\n

3. \u00bfQu\u00e9 pasa con la compatibilidad?<\/h3>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1nto tiempo hay que salir antes de comprometerse a los 30? Bueno, antes de daros la respuesta a esta pregunta, debo preguntaros si vosotros dos hab\u00e9is comprobado vuestra compatibilidad de relaciones.<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

I guess you\u2019re in a relaci\u00f3n seria<\/a> a estas alturas. Pero, \u00bfhas pasado mucho tiempo a solas para saber si funcion\u00e1is juntos o no?<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s forget about butterflies now. I\u2019m not talking about all those great, romantic dates you had together.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m talking about spending time together in terms of living together. Trust me, dating someone and vivir con ellos<\/a> son dos conceptos completamente diferentes.<\/p>\n

Can you stand being with this person 24\/7? Yes, I know that you won\u2019t be spending all of your days together, but sometimes, that will happen as well.<\/p>\n

\u00bfTienen horarios similares? \u00bfTen\u00e9is los mismos puntos de vista sobre la vida y el futuro? \u00bfCoinciden en valores importantes? \u00bfQu\u00e9 hay de sus gustos y aversiones?<\/p>\n

Look, the truth is that you\u2019re both old enough to change the essence of your personalities. Therefore, if you can\u2019t find common ground on some important things, maybe you should reconsider your decision to get engaged.<\/p>\n

4. \u00bfQueremos tener hijos?<\/h3>\n

Here\u2019s something else you should consider before choosing your life partner: how do you both feel about having children. Do you even want a family? If yes, when?<\/p>\n

\u00bfPiensas trabajar para tener hijos de inmediato o crees que deber\u00edas esperar? \u00bfCu\u00e1ntos hijos esperas tener? \u00bfTienes la misma opini\u00f3n sobre la educaci\u00f3n de los hijos?<\/p>\n

Este es otro punto innegociable.<\/strong> If you don\u2019t want kids and your significant other dreams of becoming a parent, you can\u2019t marry them and expect them to change their mind sometime in the future. Of course, it goes both ways.<\/p>\n

A lot of couples date for a significant amount of time without tackling this topic. Don\u2019t get me wrong \u2013 you shouldn\u2019t be talking about it in the first couple of months of dating usually.<\/strong><\/p>\n

However, if you\u2019re already wondering how long to date before getting engaged in your 30s, it means that you\u2019re in a serious relationship, and these questions must be answered.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ser padrastro o madrastra<\/h4>\n

Si no es su primer matrimonio y ambos (o uno de los dos) ya tener hijos de una relaci\u00f3n anterior<\/a>Por lo tanto, tambi\u00e9n es un factor que hay que tener en cuenta antes de responder a la pregunta de cu\u00e1nto tiempo salir con alguien antes de comprometerse a los 30 a\u00f1os.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re not bringing a new person into your life only \u2013 you\u2019re bringing a step-parent into your child\u2019s life, and that is a huge deal.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Lo mismo ocurre en ambos sentidos. Si tu posible pareja ya tiene hijos, \u00bfest\u00e1s preparado para asumir el papel de madrastra o padrastro?<\/p>\n

5. \u00bfMe hacen mejor persona?<\/h3>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Instead of rushing things just because \u201cit\u2019s time\u201d or because you are at the \u201caverage age to get engaged and married,\u201d why don\u2019t you ask yourself some more important questions, such as, \u201care they making me a better person?\u201d<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong \u2013 I\u2019m not saying that your potential life partner should change you. On the contrary, you should only get engaged to someone who loves the true you.<\/p>\n

However, they shouldn\u2019t make you pi\u00e9rdete<\/a>y, desde luego, no deber\u00edan sacar lo peor de ti.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you\u2019ve been together for enough time, they should know you enough to get the best out of you. They should be the wind beneath your wings and the person who makes you become the mejor versi\u00f3n posible de ti mismo.<\/a><\/p>\n

If they\u2019ve achieved that, it really doesn\u2019t matter if you\u2019ve been together since last year or three months ago.<\/p>\n

6. \u00bfNos divertimos juntos?<\/h3>\n

La vida ya es bastante dura por s\u00ed sola. Nunca sabes qu\u00e9 tipo de dificultades te esperan en el camino.<\/p>\n

Por supuesto, el persona adecuada<\/a> won\u2019t back out on you the first time you encounter a problem \u2013 that shouldn\u2019t even be a debate.<\/p>\n

However, you should spend the rest of your life with someone who is fun to be around as well. But be careful, I\u2019m not talking about the fun you have when you meet someone new.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you two have reached the one-year mark and they can still make you laugh like no one else, it\u2019s definitely time to start discussing engagement \u2013 if you get along in other ways as well, that is.<\/p>\n

7. \u00bfEstamos enamorados o nos amamos?<\/h3>\n

This one might sound weird, but trust me, I haven\u2019t made a mistake with this question. Actually, it\u2019s one of the most important questions to ask yourself before figuring out how long to date before getting engaged in your 30s.<\/p>\n

Being in love is awesome. There are butterflies in your tummy, and you feel like you\u2019re in seventh heaven.<\/p>\n

Todo lo que hace tu persona es incre\u00edblemente tierno, y crees que podr\u00edas perdonarle cualquier cosa.<\/p>\n

Well, this is a fairytale. On the other hand, getting engaged and eventually married is real life. And for that, it\u2019s not enough for you to be in love with your partner. You must love them.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s right, there is a gran diferencia<\/a>. Estar enamorado de alguien y quererlo<\/a> son dos conceptos diferentes.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You love someone when you\u2019ve seen them at their best and their worst. You love them when you can put up with them being sad or angry.<\/p>\n

You love them when their presence feels like home \u2013 when they become your best friend besides your lover.<\/p>\n

So now you tell me, how long does it take for a couple to reach that phase? I\u2019ll help you and tell you that there is no universal answer \u2013 it\u2019s all individual.<\/strong><\/p>\n

However, if you\u2019re still not there, it\u2019s a good sign that you shouldn\u2019t get engaged just yet.<\/p>\n

8. \u00bfEs una relaci\u00f3n sana?<\/h3>\n

Intenta observar tu relaci\u00f3n como un espectador objetivo. \u00bfParece sana?<\/p>\n

\u00bfOs respet\u00e1is mutuamente? \u00bfEres libre de decir lo que piensas aunque no est\u00e9s de acuerdo?<\/p>\n

\u00bfCon qu\u00e9 frecuencia os pele\u00e1is? \u00bfSois capaces de pasar una semana entera juntos sin pelearos?<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 es lo que hacer despu\u00e9s de luchar<\/a>? \u00bfC\u00f3mo resolv\u00e9is vuestras discusiones? \u00bfLas llev\u00e1is al dormitorio, las escond\u00e9is debajo de la alfombra o habl\u00e1is de ellas?<\/p>\n

\u00bfSois iguales? \u00bfOs dais prioridad el uno al otro? \u00bfPon\u00e9is aproximadamente el mismo cantidad de esfuerzo<\/a> en este romance?<\/p>\n

Take off your rose-tinted glasses and do your best to answer these questions as honestly as possible. Each of the answers is important because they all determine whether you\u2019re in a relaci\u00f3n sana<\/a> o no.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Keep in mind that some couples don\u2019t manage to build a healthy relationship after years of dating while others do it in months!<\/p>\n

9. 9. \u00bfSoy feliz?<\/h3>\n

\u00bfEs esta persona haci\u00e9ndote feliz<\/a>? Y lo m\u00e1s importante, \u00bfcrees que tienen lo que hay que tener para seguir haci\u00e9ndote sentir as\u00ed el resto de tu vida?<\/p>\n

Because that\u2019s the only thing that matters at the end of the day \u2013 if you\u2019re genuinely happy with someone or not.<\/p>\n

You can love them to the moon and back, and you two can share the same life values and plans for the future, but if they\u2019re making your life even more difficult than it already is, what\u2019s the point?<\/strong><\/p>\n

S\u00e9 lo que debes estar pensando ahora: todo el mundo deber\u00eda s\u00e9 feliz<\/a> on their own. And I couldn\u2019t agree more. But your partner should make you at least a bit happier!<\/p>\n

10. \u00bfQu\u00e9 me dice mi intuici\u00f3n?<\/h3>\n

Por \u00faltimo, debe preguntar a su intuici\u00f3n<\/a> para que te d\u00e9 su opini\u00f3n. \u00bfEs demasiado pronto para hablar de compromiso? \u00bfO es el momento adecuado para abordar esta cuesti\u00f3n?<\/p>\n

Do you feel like you\u2019ve had the chance to get to know your significant other enough? Do you sentirse seguro<\/a> \u00bfcon ellos?<\/p>\n

\u00bfLos ves envejeciendo juntos? \u00bfTe los imaginas como la madre o el padre de tus hijos?<\/p>\n

Sometimes, you have to turn off all logic and let your heart guide you. That\u2019s the best way to make the right decision!<\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1nto tiempo tarda la gente en comprometerse a los 30 a\u00f1os?<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Seg\u00fan algunas investigaciones sobre parejas que se casaron a los 30 a\u00f1os, la mayor\u00eda de los encuestados dijeron que se comprometieron en el primer a\u00f1o de noviazgo<\/strong>. If they hadn\u2019t made it official, they started living together or at least began discussing the possibility of getting engaged.<\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1nto tiempo pasa antes de comprometerse?<\/h2>\n

Aunque no existe un plazo determinado para comprometerse, La mayor\u00eda de las parejas se comprometen entre uno y cinco a\u00f1os de noviazgo.<\/strong> Sin embargo, hay otros factores que influyen en esta cifra, como la edad, la educaci\u00f3n, la estabilidad financiera y otras diferencias individuales.<\/p>\n

\u00bfEs m\u00e1s dif\u00edcil salir con alguien a los 30?<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Mirar las cosas desde una sola perspectiva, las citas se vuelven realmente m\u00e1s dif\u00edciles cuando se llega a cierta edad.<\/strong><\/p>\n

En primer lugar, hay menos solteros con los que salir. Adem\u00e1s, asumes que cada vez tienes menos tiempo para sentar la cabeza, as\u00ed que mucha gente se lanza a relaciones serias y matrimonios por pura presi\u00f3n social.<\/p>\n

Otra cosa que dificulta las citas a los 30 es toda la carga emocional<\/a> everyone carries by that age. You\u2019re not just falling in love with a new person \u2013 you\u2019re also learning to love all of their heartbreaks, abandonment traumas, trust issues, and everything else that has shaped them into who they are today.<\/p>\n

Of course, it goes both ways. You\u2019re bringing all of your emotional baggage as well, and you\u2019re aprender a amar<\/a> a alguien de nuevo.<\/p>\n

Pero, \u00bfsabes por qu\u00e9 es m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil salir con alguien a los 30?<\/strong> Well, for the first time ever, you know what you want. And most importantly, you know what you don\u2019t want.<\/p>\n

You won\u2019t lose time and energy on relaciones condenadas al fracaso<\/a> desde la primera cita. Usted tiene normas y importantes puntos de ruptura<\/a>, and you\u2019re not ready to change for anyone!<\/p>\n

\u00bfEs demasiado tarde para casarse a los 30?<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Firstly, let\u2019s get one thing straight: it\u2019s never too late to get married<\/strong> if you\u2019re marrying the right person. If you feel like it, you might as well get married in a nursing home. Or you don\u2019t have to marry at all<\/a> \u2013 the choice is all yours.<\/p>\n

Actually, according to many experts, it\u2019s better to get married in your 30s than sooner.<\/strong> At this age, you\u2019re mature enough to know what you want, what you\u2019re ready to put up with, and what you shouldn\u2019t tolerate, no matter what.<\/p>\n

Esta es la edad en la que aprendes a reconocer amor verdadero<\/a> but also the age when you know that love isn\u2019t the only thing necessary to spend the rest of your life with someone.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s the age when you no longer romanticize love and when you\u2019re more than capable of seeing all the banderas rojas.<\/a> The age when you\u2019ve probably reached some level of financial security and when you can take care of yourself.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que, seg\u00fan todo esto, \u00a1parece que los 30 son en realidad la mejor edad para casarse!<\/p>\n

Para terminar:<\/h2>\n

Lo m\u00e1s importante es no obsesionarse con la cuesti\u00f3n de cu\u00e1nto tiempo salir antes de comprometerse a los 30 a\u00f1os. Trust me: you won\u2019t be late whatever you decide and whatever happens.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Even if you don\u2019t get engaged and even if the worst-case scenario happens and this relationship fails, so what? You still have a lot of time on your hands.<\/p>\n

Time for heartbreaks, first dates, and time to master this dating game. Just make sure you follow your own pace and don\u2019t let anyone tell you there is a time frame in which something like this must happen.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

When you\u2019re in your 30s, it feels like everything starts speeding up at an incredible pace. You\u2019re no longer in high school, and finding out that your friend is getting married or is pregnant isn\u2019t the biggest rumor you\u2019ve heard during recess \u2013 it\u2019s actually the only type of news you\u2019ve been getting lately. On…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":151809,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29623],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-151800","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-marriage"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29623,"label":"marriage"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/How-Long-To-Date-Before-Getting-Engaged-In-Your-30s-10-Things-To-Know-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29623,"name":"marriage","slug":"marriage","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29623,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Establishing a happy marriage is not an easy task. Learning how to recognize red flags and deal with issues will help you make your marriage successful.","parent":29620,"count":474,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29623,"category_count":474,"category_description":"Establishing a happy marriage is not an easy task. Learning how to recognize red flags and deal with issues will help you make your marriage successful.","cat_name":"marriage","category_nicename":"marriage","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/151800","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=151800"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/151800\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/151809"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=151800"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=151800"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=151800"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}