{"id":152166,"date":"2022-06-03T10:18:02","date_gmt":"2022-06-03T10:18:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=152166"},"modified":"2022-06-08T08:58:29","modified_gmt":"2022-06-08T08:58:29","slug":"senales-de-que-estas-saliendo-extraoficialmente","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/senales-de-que-estas-saliendo-extraoficialmente\/","title":{"rendered":"Se\u00f1ales de que est\u00e1s saliendo extraoficialmente: \u00bfSeguir adelante o DTR?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Defining your relationship with someone you\u2019ve been seeing can be something you both dread and wish for. What if you\u2019re not on the same page?<\/strong> \u00bfY si la otra persona quiere otra cosa y lo que tienes ahora puede perderse?<\/p>\n

A lot of signs you are unofficially dating can tell you that you\u2019re beyond hanging out and moving into a new phase of your relationship. When you\u2019re involved in what relationship experts call a situationship, there are a few ways it can go.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Dependiendo de tus sentimientos e intenciones, y de si los dos quer\u00e9is lo mismo, it might be time to either define your relationship or make space for a real one if this isn\u2019t it for you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Here\u2019s how to find out where you stand and what to do about it.<\/p>\n

Se\u00f1ales de que est\u00e1s saliendo de forma no oficial<\/h2>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

Hay muchas se\u00f1ales de que est\u00e1s saliendo de forma no oficial<\/a>y pueden decirte mucho sobre el tipo de relaci\u00f3n que puede desarrollarse.<\/p>\n

A casual relationship or a situationship may seem like a gray area, but it\u2019s important to note that it doesn\u2019t have to be a bad thing. You don\u2019t always need to have the talk \u2013 you can just enjoy having fun together.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Aun as\u00ed, hay algunas se\u00f1ales que le indicar\u00e1n que tu relaci\u00f3n ha cruzado el territorio del romance,<\/strong> mientras que otros advierten you that you\u2019re on the threshold of a toxic relationship.<\/strong> There are ways to tell \u2013 you just have to take the leap.<\/p>\n

M\u00e1s que un ligue, menos que una pareja.<\/h3>\n

A lot of time, unofficial dating never turns into a serious relationship. This is completely fine if you\u2019re okay with it. Usually, las cosas se complican si cambia el equilibrio de las emociones,<\/strong> y mientras una persona es feliz como est\u00e1, la otra desarrolla sentimientos y quiere seguir adelante.<\/p>\n

Here are some signs that, at the moment, you\u2019re happy being in a dating relationship. It\u2019s casual but not unimportant.<\/strong> Right now, you\u2019re just having fun, and while things might change in the future, at the moment, you\u2019re happy the way it is.<\/p>\n

1. Os veis con regularidad.<\/h3>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

Even though you probably don’t call it going on dates, you see each other on a regular basis. Sometimes you go out, sometimes you stay in, but you see each other more often than not. Both of you take it as a given that you’ll see each other even when you don’t talk about it.<\/strong><\/p>\n

2. Os mand\u00e1is mensajes todo el tiempo.<\/h3>\n

Even when you’re not together, you stay in touch. It’s not only that os mand\u00e1is mensajes todos los d\u00edas<\/a> \u2013 it’s that your texting never really stops. You don’t even hesitate to text them when you think of something they would like. There’s always something to talk about.<\/strong><\/p>\n

3. You\u2019re sexually compatible, but it\u2019s not just about that.<\/h3>\n

You\u2019ve had chemistry from the start, and this may be what drew you together. Still, there\u2019s something between you that’s more than just amigos con beneficios.<\/a><\/strong> You hang out without having sex, and things don\u2019t revolve around it. And yet, you\u2019re not quite together either.<\/p>\n

4. Te pones celoso.<\/h3>\n

\"encuentro<\/p>\n

You’re not a couple, but you don’t like it when there are hints that other people may be in the picture. Any mention of exes is irritating. This could be a sign that you want to change your relationship, or you’re just the kind of person who gets jealous easily.<\/strong><\/p>\n

5. You\u2019re not seeing other people.<\/h3>\n

De alguna manera terminaste siendo exclusivo<\/a> aunque nunca hablasteis de ello. You’re not dating anyone else, there are no flings, and you’ve forgotten you even had dating apps installed.<\/strong> It probably isn\u2019t even on purpose \u2013 it\u2019s just that it never occurs to you at all to look elsewhere.<\/p>\n

6. Tienes chistes internos.<\/h3>\n

Lots of your jokes are of the \u2018you had to be there\u2019 kind because when you spend as much time with someone as you do, you have lots of experiences and make memories that don\u2019t include other people.<\/strong> Tambi\u00e9n es probable que teng\u00e1is apodos que utilic\u00e9is entre vosotros.<\/p>\n

7. Pueden hablar entre ustedes.<\/h3>\n

You\u2019re able to talk to each other about more than just what you\u2019ve been up to and what you\u2019re into. You\u2019ve shared things with each other that you don\u2019t talk about easily, and you were there to listen when they shared theirs.<\/strong><\/p>\n

8. You’re comfortable with each other.<\/h3>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

It might take a while for people to become comfortable around each other, but you\u2019re already there. Os sent\u00eds lo suficientemente relajados como para ser quienes sois.<\/strong>. You might not have reached the point of intimacy yet, but you don\u2019t feel like you have to hold back around them.\u017e<\/p>\n

9. Hay algunos sentimientos.<\/h3>\n

Maybe it\u2019s not love, but there\u2019s probably some level of caring for each other that you feel. If someone asked you how you felt, defining it might be hard. You like them, that\u2019s for sure, but you don\u2019t really know what you want to do with those feelings at the moment.<\/strong><\/p>\n

10. Evita etiquetar las cosas<\/a>.<\/h3>\n

What are you? You don\u2019t know, and you might or might not care. At this point, things might work for the both of you as they are, but it\u2019s unlikely that your relationship will stay the way it is. Se desvanecer\u00e1 o se pondr\u00e1 serio.<\/strong>. Only the two of you can decide which way it\u2019s going.<\/p>\n

\u00bfDeber\u00edas hacerlo oficial?<\/h3>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

A veces una relaci\u00f3n casual es ya una relaci\u00f3n rom\u00e1ntica. Si sientes que lo necesitas, \u00e9ste puede ser el momento de definir la relaci\u00f3n y llamarse oficialmente pareja<\/strong>. Hacerlo puede darte un empuj\u00f3n para acercarte a\u00fan m\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

Here are the signs that you\u2019re already unofficially official:<\/p>\n

1. Los dos quer\u00e9is estar juntos.<\/h4>\n

This is really the most important thing when you think about relationships \u2013 s\u00f3lo puede tener \u00e9xito si ambas personas lo desean.<\/strong> Only then will you put in the work and give it your all. If you\u2019re both on the same page, then making it official is just a formality.<\/p>\n

2. Os quer\u00e9is el uno al otro en vuestras vidas.<\/h4>\n

Because you want to be part of each other\u2019s lives, os hac\u00e9is espacio y tiempo el uno para el otro<\/a><\/strong>. It goes from small things, like keeping toothbrushes in each other\u2019s bathrooms, to more significant ones, like a standing invitation to each other\u2019s family gatherings.<\/p>\n

3. Ya parece oficial.<\/h4>\n

The only difference between a \u2018real relationship\u2019 and what you have is that you\u2019ve never really sat down and talked about it. Lo m\u00e1s probable es que nunca lo hayas visto necesario y te hayas dejado llevar por la corriente.<\/strong> Si tus sentimientos al respecto cambian, quiz\u00e1 sea el momento de hablar.<\/p>\n

4. People sort of assume you\u2019re together.<\/h4>\n

Una buena se\u00f1al de que you\u2019re giving off couple vibes<\/a> is if people already think you are one. It doesn\u2019t even have to mean that you\u2019re doing couple-y things where others can see, just that something about the two of you tells others that you\u2019re together.<\/p>\n

5. You\u2019ve talked about the future.<\/h4>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

While you\u2019ve never talked about having an official relationship, you\u2019ve already talked about doing things together in the future. Including each other in your future plans \u2013 such as having made vacation plans for the summer together or even more long-term plans \u2013 means that ya os veis como compa\u00f1eros.<\/strong><\/p>\n

6. Being vulnerable with each other isn’t scary.<\/h4>\n

Sharing your softer sides with each other doesn\u2019t make you feel like you\u2019re at risk of getting hurt. Instead, tienes confianza en que la otra persona te aceptar\u00e1 y te har\u00e1 sentir querido y comprendido.<\/strong><\/p>\n

7. Estar juntos es una prioridad<\/a>.<\/h4>\n

You always have time for each other. When you don\u2019t, you make time. Pasar tiempo juntos es lo m\u00e1s importante para los dos<\/strong>y prefieres sacrificar otras cosas a descuidar el vernos.<\/p>\n

8. You care about each other’s opinions.<\/h4>\n

Cuando os pasa algo en la vida, quer\u00e9is compartirlo con la otra persona y saber qu\u00e9 piensa al respecto. Cuando tienes que tomar una decisi\u00f3n importante, quieres escuchar su opini\u00f3n. Taking into account each other\u2019s opinions and thoughts is one of the signs that you see each other as partners.<\/strong><\/p>\n

9. Conf\u00edan los unos en los otros.<\/h4>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

You\u2019re the first person they come to when something good, bad, funny, or important happens and vice versa. Cuando necesitas algo, conf\u00edas en ellos para que te ayuden.<\/strong> Saben que pueden contarse cualquier cosa sin ser juzgados.<\/p>\n

10. You know each other\u2019s friends and families.<\/h4>\n

You have not only met each other\u2019s family and friends, but you\u2019re also close to some of them by now. No manteneros separados de vuestros seres queridos es otro paso para incluiros mutuamente en vuestras vidas.<\/strong> They all probably assume you\u2019re official.<\/p>\n

11. Sigues citas rom\u00e1nticas<\/a>.<\/h4>\n

You don’t just hang out; you go on actual dates that have been carefully planned. You’re happiest when you’re together, and you want that time to be as special as possible.<\/strong> You have a good time when you’re together casually, but you also make an effort to spend romantic time together.<\/p>\n

12. Os veis como una unidad.<\/h4>\n

Pasar mucho tiempo juntos y estrechar lazos hace que empec\u00e9is a veros como una unidad. Both of you use \u201cwe\u201d to talk about what you\u2019ve been doing because you\u2019re always doing things together.<\/strong> Pero tambi\u00e9n sientes que estar juntos es lo que lo hace especial.<\/p>\n

13. You’re not interested in anyone else.<\/h4>\n

Even though you\u2019re not officially in a committed relationship, in your hearts, you are. Ninguno de los dos tiene inter\u00e9s en ver a otras personas, y la sola idea les incomoda.<\/strong> Other people don\u2019t really exist for you, and you don\u2019t mind at all.<\/p>\n

14. You’re always talking about them to other people.<\/h4>\n

Whatever you\u2019re talking about, you can always find a way to turn the topic of conversation to them. Your friends and family members think it\u2019s cute and just a little bit annoying.<\/strong> But you can\u2019t help yourself \u2013 they\u2019re such an important part of your life that you can\u2019t think of anything that doesn\u2019t involve them.<\/p>\n

15. Sientes un conexi\u00f3n emocional<\/a> durante el sexo.<\/h4>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

When you have sex, it feels intimate and significant. You\u2019re comfortable and uninhibited with each other, and you\u2019re able to communicate freely. Tu vida sexual es divertida y sana, pero hay algo que va m\u00e1s all\u00e1 de pasar un rato agradable juntos.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Cu\u00e1ndo seguir adelante<\/h3>\n

People get into relationships out of convenience or boredom and spend time with someone they don\u2019t really like enough to see themselves having a serious relationship with. Estar juntos puede acercaros, pero tambi\u00e9n puede hacer que os caig\u00e1is mal.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sometimes it\u2019s an acquaintance you start having sex with and hanging out with, so it\u2019s not even a clear FWB situation but something not here nor there.<\/p>\n

Things can change, though, and you\u2019re in for heartbreak if one person starts developing feelings for the other.<\/strong> Then it\u2019s nothing but bad news because the other person might still not really care.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s how to tell that it\u2019s better to get out before someone gets hurt:<\/p>\n

1. You don’t make plans.<\/h4>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

When your relationship is one of convenience, you don\u2019t really try. You\u2019ll meet up only if the mood strikes and you have nothing better to do.<\/strong> If you\u2019ve made plans and something more interesting came up, it would be annoying, so you usually see each other on a whim.<\/p>\n

2. You don\u2019t talk about the future.<\/h4>\n

Los planes de futuro sobre todo nunca salen<\/a>. You don\u2019t think about them in that sense at all \u2013 picturing yourself with them down the road makes you feel bad because that would mean no one better came along. Prefiere mantener abiertos sus planes de futuro.<\/strong><\/p>\n

3. You don’t go on romantic dates.<\/h4>\n

No ten\u00e9is ning\u00fan inter\u00e9s en ser rom\u00e1nticos el uno con el otro. Hanging out is fine, even when it\u2019s just the two of you, but doing lovey-dovey stuff with them makes you break out in hives<\/strong>. You\u2019d rather not share romantic dinners or cuddle with this person if you have a choice.<\/p>\n

4. If someone else came along, you’d stop seeing them easily.<\/h4>\n

Otra persona podr\u00eda arrebataros f\u00e1cilmente a cualquiera de los dos. If someone you liked better came along, you\u2019d have no problem never seeing them again.<\/strong> It\u2019s not that you\u2019re sitting around and waiting for a better option, but if one came along, it would be easy to leave your current situation.<\/p>\n

5. You don’t really mention them to others.<\/h4>\n

\"tres<\/p>\n

Puede que sientas que los dem\u00e1s te juzgar\u00edan si supieran que sales con ellos. Puede que no, pero you don\u2019t want to risk it because you yourself don\u2019t like the fact that you\u2019re together, so you don\u2019t even want to be reminded of it.<\/strong><\/p>\n

6. You’re not crazy about being seen with them in public.<\/h4>\n

Maybe you\u2019re a little ashamed of your current relationship, or maybe you simply don\u2019t want to make any effort when it comes to them, but you don\u2019t want other people to see you together. If someone you know spotted you together, it would lead to questions and explanations, and you really don\u2019t want that.<\/strong><\/p>\n

7. Sales a lugares apartados.<\/h4>\n

Beyond just not being seen together, you\u2019re not too keen on going to places where there are a lot of people because you\u2019d feel uncomfortable about your behavior. You don\u2019t really like yourself when you\u2019re together, and you\u2019d rather keep it to yourself.<\/strong><\/p>\n

8. There’s no evidence of you being together.<\/h4>\n

You don\u2019t take pictures together, you don\u2019t share anything involving each other on social media, and you don\u2019t keep anything to remind you of them<\/strong>. At the moment, you\u2019re not eager to share your status, and you know that when you split up, you won\u2019t want to be reminded of this relationship.<\/p>\n

9. You’re only ‘together’ because it\u2019s convenient.<\/h4>\n

The main reason there\u2019s anything between you is because it\u2019s convenient. You\u2019re having fun hanging out and hooking up, but that\u2019s all there is.<\/strong> Sin embargo, cuanto m\u00e1s tiempo permanezcas con ellos, m\u00e1s te alejas de una relaci\u00f3n con futuro.<\/p>\n

10. Ninguno de los dos quiere nada serio<\/a> entre s\u00ed.<\/h4>\n

If neither of you really wants to be together, it\u2019s a clear sign that your relationship should probably end. It\u2019s not that you dislike each other, and it\u2019s not just a physical relationship, but something about them simply makes you not want to actually be together.<\/strong><\/p>\n

C\u00f3mo definir su relaci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

\"feliz<\/p>\n

The first thing before you decide to go into defining your relationship is to make sure that it really bothers you that there\u2019s no label. Don\u2019t feel pressured to define it if you\u2019re happy with it the way it is.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Cuando abras el tema, it\u2019s very important that you\u2019re able to express what you feel to the other person without worrying about what will happen to your relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You might both agree that you\u2019re fine with things as they are or that one of you needs more time before talking about the status of your relationship. A healthy relationship is based on open communication, and you have to be able to tell each other your concerns for a long-term relationship to be possible.<\/p>\n

1. Aseg\u00farate de que realmente te interesa.<\/h3>\n

Primero deber\u00edas empezar por pensar en tus propios sentimientos. \u00bfTe interesa esta persona?<\/a>\u00bfo su relaci\u00f3n es un h\u00e1bito en este momento?<\/strong> \u00bfQu\u00e9 opina de ellos? \u00bfSe ve con ellos en el futuro?<\/p>\n

2. Piensa en tu relaci\u00f3n.<\/h3>\n

What\u2019s your relationship like? We talked about different versions of an unofficial relationship \u2013 which one does yours resemble? \u00bfTe gusta c\u00f3mo te hace sentir?<\/strong> \u00bfLe gusta pasar tiempo juntos? \u00bfLe gustar\u00eda que las cosas cambiaran o siguieran igual?<\/p>\n

3. Averigua qu\u00e9 quiere la otra persona.<\/h3>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Incluso antes de empezar la conversaci\u00f3n, you can tell how the other person feels from their behavior, but you shouldn\u2019t jump to conclusions.<\/strong> It\u2019s good to wait until you have an inkling that they might be on the same page, but you\u2019ll never know for sure until you actually talk to them.<\/p>\n

4. S\u00e9 sincero.<\/h3>\n

Don\u2019t try to downplay your feelings in fear that they\u2019re not reciprocated or that you\u2019ll get hurt. S\u00e9 abierto y haz saber a la otra persona si necesitas que cambie tu situaci\u00f3n sentimental.<\/strong> Maybe they\u2019ve been waiting for you to make the first move this whole time. Maybe they\u2019re not ready.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019ve done the earlier steps and carefully examined your feelings, your relationship, and thought about what how they act tells you about their feelings, there\u2019s a chance that you\u2019re at the point where the both of you want the same thing.<\/strong><\/p>\n

5. Hazlo de manera informal.<\/h3>\n

Don\u2019t try to force anything, though. Make sure you\u2019re not coming on too strong<\/a> and demanding things if the other person isn\u2019t ready.<\/strong> If it\u2019s too soon, and you still need to spend more time together to be sure, give the both of you time and revisit the conversation later.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s a chance that both of you will decide that it\u2019s time to end things. It might be for the best if it just wasn\u2019t working, but you shouldn\u2019t grieve for something that wasn\u2019t right for either of you<\/strong>. Instead, look forward to the first date with someone new you\u2019re about to meet.<\/p>\n

Si os dais cuenta de que ambos quer\u00e9is una relaci\u00f3n rom\u00e1ntica oficial, \u00a1enhorabuena! Take things easy at this point, and treat it as a new relationship even though you\u2019ve been together for some time.<\/strong> The reason for this is that things have changed, even though it seems they haven\u2019t that much, and it might take some time to get used to it.<\/p>\n

Haz que funcione<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

When you\u2019ve moved past hanging out and you\u2019re actually spending significant time together, you might recognize yourself in some of these signs you are unofficially dating.<\/p>\n

Some of them mean that a casual relationship is fine at the moment. Some tell you to have the talk and make your romance official, while it\u2019s also possible that you shouldn\u2019t really continue this relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Any relationship coach will tell you that it\u2019s the feelings of both people involved that make all the difference, and this applies in this case as well. When the willingness to invest yourself in the relationship is on the same level, you\u2019re able to make things work.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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