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<\/p>\nSiempre digo que casarse con alguien tambi\u00e9n significa casarse con sus amigos y su familia. Bueno, el peor de los casos en esa situaci\u00f3n ser\u00eda acabar con SUEGOS t\u00f3xicos.<\/b><\/p>\n
I\u2019m sure Jennifer Lopez still has PTSD from making the movie Monster-In-Law<\/i>que describe a la perfecci\u00f3n lo t\u00f3xicas (y divertidas) que pueden ser las relaciones con los suegros.<\/p>\n
Don\u2019t get me wrong. Not all in-laws are toxic, and if you\u2019re lucky enough, you\u2019ll manage to establish a <\/b>relaci\u00f3n sana<\/b> con ellos.<\/b> If you\u2019re not, then distancing yourself from in-laws is probably the right thing to do.<\/p>\n
Ahora, la pregunta es: \u00bfCu\u00e1ndo hay que distanciarse de la familia pol\u00edtica?<\/i> Creo que una pregunta mejor ser\u00eda: \u00bfCu\u00e1les son las formas m\u00e1s indoloras de hacerlo?<\/i><\/p>\n
I won\u2019t lie to you. Distancing yourself from in-laws can be really challenging, but if it\u2019s done right, it can work out perfectly.<\/b><\/p>\n
Keep in mind that distancing doesn\u2019t mean cutting off all contact with them. It means setting boundaries and forming a healthier relationship with them.<\/p>\n
Below, you\u2019ll find a list of legit reasons you should distance yourself from in-laws and the best ways to do so.<\/p>\n
Si tus suegros interfieren en tu matrimonio m\u00e1s de lo debido y hacen todo lo que est\u00e1 en su mano para sabotear tu felicidad, distanciarte es sin duda imprescindible.<\/p>\n
There are also other equally important reasons you shouldn\u2019t tolerate their toxic behavior. So, let\u2019s see:<\/p>\n
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I bet things are seldom worse than your parents or your partner\u2019s parents (or other family members) turning you and your partner against each other. It\u2019s when they can\u2019t help themselves but constantly try to find ways to destroy your marriage.<\/p>\n
Fronteras de la sociolog\u00eda<\/b> confirman la seriedad de mi tesis en uno de sus art\u00edculos de investigaci\u00f3n sobre las relaciones entre parientes pol\u00edticos:<\/b><\/p>\n
\u201cIn-laws and their \u2018meddling\u2019 rank high among the sources of conflict in contemporary marriages, often higher than such potential flash points as financial issues or mismatched values.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n
Ni que decir tiene que este comportamiento es 100% t\u00f3xico, y ni una sola pareja deber\u00eda tolerarlo. If that\u2019s what\u2019s happening to you at the moment, then you know it\u2019s time to distance yourself from them.<\/b><\/p>\n
Your in-laws should be supportive of your marriage, and they should be on the same team as you. If they aren\u2019t, then they\u2019re deliberately destroying your marriage.<\/p>\n
Are your in-laws constantly interfering with your family life or your decisions as a couple in particular? For example, if you\u2019re thinking of buying a new car, does your in-law or in-laws tell you that you shouldn\u2019t?<\/p>\n
\u00bfImponen constantemente sus opiniones en tus decisiones y te dan consejos no solicitados? <\/b>If yes, then they\u2019re officially interfering with your marriage, which they shouldn\u2019t be doing.<\/p>\n
If you ask them for advice, then that\u2019s one thing, but if they\u2019re persistent in interfering with your decisions, you\u2019re not obligated to accept this behavior. (Things get worse if your in-laws suffer from daddy issues or problemas de maternidad en las mujeres<\/a>\/hombres.)<\/p>\n After all, you\u2019re no longer in <\/b>instituto,<\/b> and you\u2019re capable of making your own decisions as a couple. <\/b>If they don\u2019t respect that, then distancing yourself from them is a smart choice.<\/p>\n \u00bfSus suegros utilizan con frecuencia <\/i>reuniones familiares<\/i> como una oportunidad para menospreciarte delante de otros <\/i>familiares<\/i>? \u00bfO no esperan a ocasiones especiales para hacerlo, sino que lo hacen casi todos los d\u00edas en diversas circunstancias?<\/i><\/p>\n Algunos suegros llegan a avergonzarte en <\/b>redes sociales<\/b> con sus comentarios groseros.<\/b><\/p>\n Este comportamiento t\u00f3xico puede tener graves consecuencias para tu salud mental. Por eso, deber\u00edas pensar seriamente en poner en pr\u00e1ctica el distanciamiento.<\/p>\n Algunos adultos nunca maduran ni crecen, por lo que hablar a tus espaldas se convierte en su principal afici\u00f3n. Cuando estas personas forman parte de tu vida, tu propia familia se convierte en una carga en lugar de un refugio seguro.<\/p>\n You should never think that gossiping is a normal thing to do. It\u2019s not, and you shouldn\u2019t expect it from your in-laws or other <\/b>familiares<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n If they have something to say to you, it\u2019s best for them to say it face-to-face. Healthy communication is one of the most important things in a marriage and your relationship with your in-laws. If that\u2019s been compromised, then you have every right to retreat and set boundaries.<\/p>\n Algunos suegros son realmente decididos cuando se trata de no respetar tus l\u00edmites y tu intimidad. They come to visit whenever they want (uninvited), they don\u2019t accept no for an answer, and your boundaries mean nothing to them.<\/b><\/p>\n If you\u2019re dealing with these kinds of in-laws, I offer you my sincerest condolences and a potential solution: distancing.<\/p>\n If that doesn\u2019t work, then you can always go no contact permanently or until they realize the consequences of their actions.<\/b> En algunos casos, el distanciamiento no es una soluci\u00f3n, pero cortar los lazos es necesario.<\/p>\n Is there anything more annoying and disrespectful than others talking about you as if you aren\u2019t there? Let me rephrase the question: Do you know what\u2019s worse than talking behind your back?<\/b><\/p>\n It\u2019s talking about you as if you aren\u2019t there. I\u2019ve experienced this a few times and can confirm how depersonalizing this behavior can be.<\/p>\n Si su<\/b> la familia pol\u00edtica te trata como a un extra\u00f1o<\/b><\/a> hablando de ti delante de ti, tienes todo el derecho a sentirte herido por ello.<\/b> It shows that they don\u2019t have an ounce of respect and appreciation for you. In these and similar cases, distancing is the way to go.<\/p>\n V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: 9 maneras en que los amigos destruyen matrimonios y qu\u00e9 hacer al respecto<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n Yes, it\u2019s perfectly okay to distance yourself from-in laws if your relationship with them is not healthy and it\u2019s negatively affecting your marriage and well-being.<\/p>\n Ten en cuenta que distanciarse no es lo mismo que cortar todo contacto con tu familia pol\u00edtica. <\/b>Distanciarse significa establecer l\u00edmites, limitar el contacto y poner en pr\u00e1ctica otras medidas para que puedas establecer una relaci\u00f3n decente con ellos.<\/p>\n We\u2019re talking about a healthy distance and not a toxic one where both sides hold grudges. Un distanciamiento sano puede hacer maravillas por tu matrimonio y la relaci\u00f3n en general con tu familia pol\u00edtica.<\/b><\/p>\n However, if you have a good relationship with your in-laws, then there\u2019s no need to distance yourself from them.<\/p>\n V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: 10 se\u00f1ales de que tienes una nuera t\u00f3xica y c\u00f3mo lidiar con ella<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n Ser nuera o yerno en un entorno familiar t\u00f3xico puede ser extremadamente doloroso. Por eso, distanciarse puede ser lo m\u00e1s adecuado, as\u00ed que aqu\u00ed tienes algunos consejos \u00fatiles sobre c\u00f3mo hacerlo de la forma correcta:<\/p>\n Recuerdo cuando mi mejor amigo tuvo que lidiar con una suegra t\u00f3xica<\/a>. Un d\u00eda, me dijo que hab\u00eda creado un lista de l\u00edmites para su suegra<\/a> y otros suegros que interfer\u00edan en su matrimonio.<\/p>\n The list was really extensive, and as I was reading it, I realized how toxic her in-laws must be. If you\u2019re going through the same, it\u2019s important to <\/b>establecer l\u00edmites<\/b> con ellos.<\/b><\/p>\n Inf\u00f3rmales de las cosas que no son aceptables y establece normas b\u00e1sicas en lo que se refiere a tus hijos (si los tienes) y a las visitas.<\/p>\n Tell them that you won\u2019t tolerate talking behind your back or other toxic behaviors. Setting healthy boundaries is a must.<\/p>\n If you live under the same roof as your toxic in-laws, then it\u2019s time to separate yourself from them. I understand that this is easier said than done, and there are many factors to consider.<\/p>\n Quiz\u00e1 no tengas ad\u00f3nde ir por tu situaci\u00f3n econ\u00f3mica. O necesitas quedarte con tus suegros para ayudarles en caso de enfermedad.<\/p>\n Sea cual sea el motivo, intenta encontrar la mejor soluci\u00f3n que te permita separarte definitivamente de tu familia pol\u00edtica.<\/b> Living in your own household will certainly reduce their impact on your marriage. Trust me, it\u2019s two different worlds.<\/p>\n As always, topics regarding your in-laws should be discussed with your partner. If you aren\u2019t sure how to start this sensitive topic, try something like:<\/p>\n \u201cDear husband\/wife, I know you love your parents, but I\u2019m having a <\/i>mal rato<\/i> dealing with their constant criticism and interference in our marriage.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n Ser un <\/b>frente unido<\/b> with your partner because that\u2019s the most effective way to deal with these issues.<\/b> Hagan una lluvia de ideas sobre los problemas con su familia pol\u00edtica y las posibles soluciones.<\/p>\n Aseg\u00farate de que ambos est\u00e1is de acuerdo en que distanciarse o dejar de tener contacto es una buena idea.<\/p>\n Distanciarte de tus suegros significa crear un calendario de eventos familiares como cenas familiares, picnics, etc. Puedes restringir las visitas casuales y verlos solo en las grandes reuniones familiares.<\/p>\n Once you create a schedule, stick to it. Also, your in-laws should respect your decisions as a couple because you wouldn\u2019t be doing this in the first place if they had respected you before.<\/p>\n Esta es probablemente una de las cosas m\u00e1s importantes a la hora de desvincularse de la familia pol\u00edtica. En lugar de separarte de ellos solo f\u00edsicamente, debes hacerlo tambi\u00e9n mentalmente.<\/p>\n Esto significa que debe <\/b>suelta<\/b> of their hatred and negative energy. Don\u2019t let their toxic behavior influence your <\/b>autoestima<\/b> y <\/b>bienestar<\/b>.<\/b> Don\u2019t even bother calling them bad people or criticizing them face-to-face.<\/p>\n Detach yourself from their behavior and try not to take it personally. Remember that their behavior has nothing to do with you but the internal struggles they\u2019re dealing with.<\/p>\n Cuando mi mejor amiga tuvo que lidiar con su suegra narcisista<\/a>suegro y cu\u00f1ada, estaba realmente devastada.<\/p>\n Prob\u00f3 todos los m\u00e9todos, incluido el establecimiento de l\u00edmites (por ejemplo, reducir <\/b>pasar el tiempo<\/b> con ellos), pero nada funcion\u00f3.<\/b><\/p>\n Por eso, se dio cuenta de que aplicar la regla del no contacto era su mejor opci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n Su <\/b>pareja<\/b> al principio dud\u00f3 en hacerlo, pero luego se dio cuenta de que era la \u00fanica soluci\u00f3n. <\/b>They didn\u2019t regret their decision because, after a while, their in-laws changed for the better.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re in the same situation, don\u2019t hesitate to cut all contact. After some time, you can reconnect with them again to see if anything has changed. If not, then continue with the no contact rule.<\/p>\n So, you decided to distance yourself from your in-laws, but you\u2019re not 100% sure about it. There\u2019s still that little voice inside your head telling you: \u201cMaybe you shouldn\u2019t do this.\u201d The following tips will help you make the right choice:<\/p>\n Before distancing yourself from in-laws, make sure you get to know them first. You know what they say: \u201cDon\u2019t judge a book by its cover.\u201d<\/p>\n En cambio, aseg\u00farate de pasar cierto tiempo con tu familia pol\u00edtica antes de decidir separarte o distanciarte de ellos.<\/b><\/p>\n Maybe they aren\u2019t gente t\u00f3xica<\/a> by default, but they\u2019re just going through a tough period. However, if they\u2019ve mistreated you for some time, there is no excuse for that behavior.<\/p>\n CLICHE ALERT:<\/b> Haz siempre caso a tus instintos (y consulta a tu pareja).<\/p>\n If your partner agrees with you, then you know you\u2019re not imagining things, and distancing is probably the right thing to do.<\/p>\n Keep in mind that every family has different family dynamics. What\u2019s normal in your family may not be normal in your spouse’s family.<\/p>\n Because of that, it\u2019s important to understand and respect your differences. Still, this doesn\u2019t mean you should tolerate their terrible behavior toward you and your partner.<\/b><\/p>\n Learn the difference between differences that can be respected and crappy behavior that shouldn\u2019t be tolerated. Sometimes there\u2019s a thin line between the two.<\/p>\n Remember that you and your spouse are your own family. (That\u2019s probably one of the greatest pieces of consejos matrimoniales<\/a> out there.) This means you shouldn\u2019t let other in-laws be active participants in your everyday decision-making.<\/p>\n3. menospreciarte (especialmente delante de los dem\u00e1s)<\/h3>\n
4. Hablar a tus espaldas<\/h3>\n
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<\/p>\n5. No est\u00e1 dispuesto a respetar tus l\u00edmites y tu intimidad<\/h3>\n
6. Talking about you as if you aren\u2019t there<\/h3>\n
\u00bfEst\u00e1 bien distanciarse de los suegros?<\/h2>\n
6 mejores maneras de distanciarse de los suegros<\/h2>\n
1. Establecer ciertos l\u00edmites<\/b><\/h3>\n
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<\/p>\n2. Separarse de la familia pol\u00edtica<\/h3>\n
3. Hable de ello con su pareja<\/h3>\n
4. Crea un horario y c\u00famplelo<\/h3>\n
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<\/p>\n5. Separarse de su comportamiento<\/h3>\n
6. Aplicar la regla de no contacto (si es necesario)<\/h3>\n
4 cosas que hay que tener en cuenta para distanciarse de los suegros<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n1. Aseg\u00farate de conocer primero a tu familia pol\u00edtica<\/h3>\n
2. Understand and respect your in-laws\u2019 differences<\/h3>\n
3. Tiene una familia con su c\u00f3nyuge<\/h3>\n
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