{"id":152798,"date":"2022-06-12T10:08:03","date_gmt":"2022-06-12T10:08:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=152798"},"modified":"2022-11-23T13:22:03","modified_gmt":"2022-11-23T13:22:03","slug":"mi-marido-malinterpreta-todo-lo-que-digo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/mi-marido-malinterpreta-todo-lo-que-digo\/","title":{"rendered":"Mi marido malinterpreta todo lo que digo: c\u00f3mo solucionarlo"},"content":{"rendered":"

Does this seem familiar to you: you ask your husband what he wants to eat for dinner, and before you know it, you’re at each other’s throats, shouting, crying, and fighting about something that has nothing to do with dinner?<\/p>\n

Si cada conversaci\u00f3n que mantienes con tu marido tiene la posibilidad de convertirse en una discusi\u00f3n y hacer que os enfad\u00e9is el uno con el otro<\/strong>, one of the biggest complaints you have about your marriage is probably something like, “My husband misinterprets everything I say.”<\/p>\n

\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 lo hace? \u00bfPor qu\u00e9 te hace sentir impotente e incomprendida?<\/strong> Hay muchos problemas posibles que podr\u00edan estar detr\u00e1s de este comportamiento, y algunos de ellos se pueden arreglar si ambos se comprometen a trabajar en su matrimonio.<\/p>\n

Here are 35 possible reasons why he does it, so let’s see what’s going on. When you figure out which of these applies to you, we’ll talk about what can be done.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Por qu\u00e9 mi marido malinterpreta todo lo que digo<\/h2>\n

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If questions like “Why is it that my husband misinterprets everything I say?” or \u201c\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 mi marido me echa la culpa de todo?<\/a>\u201d have been plaguing you, you probably already have some idea of why it might be happening. After all, nadie lo conoce mejor que t\u00fa.<\/strong><\/p>\n

The difficulty in dealing with this depends on why he does it, but don’t rush to break up with him just yet. Algunas de las causas de sus problemas pueden resolverse con un poco de trabajo, mientras que otras son se\u00f1ales de advertencia que delatan problemas m\u00e1s profundos.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Para averiguar cu\u00e1l de estas razones es la m\u00e1s parecida a tu situaci\u00f3n, presta atenci\u00f3n y piensa bien c\u00f3mo es tu marido y c\u00f3mo son vuestras peleas.<\/strong> Dependiendo de la respuesta que encuentres, podr\u00e1s resolverlo con \u00e9xito o decidir que priorizar el amor propio es la mejor opci\u00f3n para tu bienestar.<\/p>\n

1. He doesn’t listen.<\/h3>\n

Sometimes it might seem that he’s listening, but if he always misinterprets your words, he’s not hearing what you’re saying. A common reason for this is that he’s probably esperando su turno para hablar en lugar de escuchar lo que tienes que decir.<\/strong><\/p>\n

2. He\u2019s insecure.<\/h3>\n

If he’s insecure about his shortcomings, he might be too focused on them. If sus pensamientos siempre est\u00e1n en lo que se siente inseguro<\/strong>, he’s constantly waiting for comments or criticism about that, so he’s not paying attention to your actual words.<\/p>\n

3. He\u2019s overly sensitive.<\/h3>\n

Una persona sensible se enfada r\u00e1pidamente si percibe algo que se le ha dicho como hiriente o irrespetuoso<\/strong>lo que puede provocar reacciones de confrontaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

4. He\u2019s emotionally immature.<\/h3>\n

Comportamientos como negar su participaci\u00f3n en la discusi\u00f3n, insultarte y culparte de todo pueden apuntar a inmadurez emocional<\/a>. Puede que a \u00e9l le cueste aceptarlo y, por tanto, a ti tambi\u00e9n.<\/p>\n

5. Tiene problemas de autoestima.<\/h3>\n

Low self-esteem can cause a constant state of being on the lookout for criticism because he\u2019s hyper-aware of all of his defectos reales e imaginarios<\/strong>, and he\u2019s waiting for you to bring them up.<\/p>\n

6. Se siente vulnerable.<\/h3>\n

He starts arguments because he\u2019s trying to draw the attention away from whatever he believes is making him vulnerable at that moment. To compensate for it, he attacks before it comes up.<\/p>\n

7. He’s easily offended.<\/h3>\n

En su ego es fr\u00e1gil<\/a>, a man becomes offended at the smallest slight. For example, if he thinks what you\u2019re saying is even a little critical, he\u2019ll misinterpret it as being much more than it is.<\/p>\n

8. He\u2019s projecting.<\/h3>\n

Whatever it is that he\u2019s feeling, he\u2019s projecting it onto you<\/strong>. He might not be aware of it at all and really believe that it\u2019s you who is responsible for whatever it is that he considers a problem.<\/p>\n

9. He’s lashing out because he has other problems.<\/h3>\n

He could be experiencing problems at work, mental health issues, or trouble with other people and feel like it\u2019s safe to unload all his stress on you because you\u2019ll forgive him. He doesn\u2019t think about how it might affect you.<\/p>\n

10. Se siente poco apreciado.<\/h3>\n

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En he feels like you don\u2019t value him<\/a>tu marido interpretar\u00e1 cualquier cosa que digas como un ataque personal. He\u2019ll find a way to understand your words as criticism<\/strong>, even if it\u2019s something completely innocent.<\/p>\n

11. He\u2019s self-righteous.<\/h3>\n

Because of his holier-than-thou attitude, he thinks that whatever he does is good, correct, and moral and can\u2019t admit when he makes a mistake. When you talk to him, and he doesn’t like it, or it triggers something in him, he’ll never accept that it’s him who’s at fault.<\/strong><\/p>\n

12. He understands but doesn’t want to deal with it.<\/h3>\n

If you\u2019re talking to him about something he doesn\u2019t want to handle, he\u2019ll pretend that he\u2019s misunderstood you because that\u2019s easier than taking responsibility<\/strong>. Cuando adquiere el h\u00e1bito de la evasi\u00f3n, puede resultarle muy dif\u00edcil dejarlo.<\/p>\n

13. He’s convinced he’s right.<\/h3>\n

Tu marido malinterpreta lo que dices si de alguna manera choca con sus opiniones o ideas. Puede causar problemas incluso de algo peque\u00f1o<\/strong>, such as asking him to do a chore that he doesn\u2019t want to do and thinks he shouldn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

14. He can’t admit that he’s wrong.<\/h3>\n

He refuses to ever admit that his actions or beliefs might be anything less than perfect. Even if he knows that you\u2019re right, he\u2019ll never own up to it and accept that he made a mistake<\/strong> porque valora su ego m\u00e1s que nada.<\/a><\/p>\n

15. Fue educado para pensar que un hombre siempre tiene raz\u00f3n.<\/h3>\n

If he was brought up to hold sexist beliefs, he\u2019ll never accept that there\u2019s a possibility of him not being right. A man like that cree firmemente que todo lo que dice debe ser escuchado y aceptado sin cuestionarlo <\/strong>and that a woman\u2019s opinions don\u2019t matter.<\/p>\n

16. Le beneficia.<\/h3>\n

Puede que oiga y entienda muy bien lo que le digas pero prefers to pretend that he doesn\u2019t because he gets something from it<\/strong>, such as when he doesn\u2019t want to do something you ask him to or wants to get a certain reaction from you.<\/p>\n

17. Se siente con derecho.<\/h3>\n

Si su marido feels like it’s his right to have only his opinions valued<\/strong>, his whole thought process might be directed in that way. For example, you might be talking to him about something you believe is a problem, and he won\u2019t accept that it\u2019s a problem because he doesn\u2019t think it is.<\/p>\n

18. Le gusta discutir.<\/h3>\n

Algunos hombres simplemente se alimentan de la negatividad y la adrenalina de las discusiones, y \u00e9l podr\u00eda estar provoc\u00e1ndolas a prop\u00f3sito. He doesn\u2019t care at all about what you\u2019re talking about or reaching a solution<\/strong>, as long as you\u2019re arguing.<\/p>\n

19. No tiene empat\u00eda.<\/h3>\n

He can\u2019t see your point of view because he\u2019s incapable of understanding how you feel.<\/strong> A man who has no empathy can\u2019t understand that things aren\u2019t only about him, and for this reason, he can\u2019t take other people\u2019s feelings seriously.<\/p>\n

20. Quiere controlarte.<\/h3>\n

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Tanto si puede ver tu perspectiva como si no, si quiere controlarte<\/a>, he\u2019ll use whatever means necessary to get what he wants<\/strong>. A man like this doesn\u2019t even care about being right, only about how he can get you to do what he wants.<\/p>\n

21. He’s gaslighting you.<\/h3>\n

If you\u2019re tormented daily and can\u2019t stop questioning yourself thinking, \u201cIs it that my husband turns everything around and makes me seem crazy, or am I really going crazy?\u201d debe tener cuidado con signs that he\u2019s gaslighting you.<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

22. Quiere hacerte sentir culpable.<\/h3>\n

If he wants to punish you for something or achieve some goal, even when he knows what you\u2019re saying, he\u2019ll pretend he doesn\u2019t. He\u2019ll try to turn things around on you to make you feel guilty<\/strong>. It\u2019s a devious manipulation technique that is emotionally abusive and can have long-term consequences.<\/p>\n

23. He’s a narcissist.<\/a><\/h3>\n

Muchas de las cosas mencionadas hasta ahora podr\u00edan apuntar a que es un narcisista.<\/strong> If you\u2019re feeling trapped in a toxic relationship and like you don\u2019t know what to do, you might be a victim of abuso emocional narcisista.<\/a><\/p>\n

24. You’re indirect.<\/h3>\n

Algunos hombres son literales y can\u2019t understand subtler methods of communication.<\/strong> Si a esto le a\u00f1adimos que a las mujeres se les ense\u00f1a a no ser directas porque parecen controladoras, obtenemos una receta para la falta de comunicaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

25. Tu acercamiento lo desencadena.<\/h3>\n

How you talk to him can be a trigger for him to stop listening and start arguing. If he thinks you sound like you\u2019re accusing him or criticizing him, he might get angry and close off. It doesn\u2019t matter if you weren\u2019t doing it in the first place.<\/p>\n

26. Te frustras y escalas las cosas.<\/h3>\n

If he\u2019s slow to respond or tends to ignore you, it\u2019s natural that you might become frustrated. Esto puede hacer que percibas su silencio como un desacuerdo y empeorar las cosas.<\/strong> iniciando una pelea en lugar de esperar a que te muestre su reacci\u00f3n real.<\/p>\n

27. You make a big deal when it’s not.<\/h3>\n

Algunas cosas pueden ser muy importantes para ti y no significar nada para \u00e9l. Cuando ten\u00e9is formas diferentes de ver los asuntos, pod\u00e9is enfadaros porque he doesn\u2019t understand the importance of something that matters to you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

28. Esperas a que cometa un error.<\/h3>\n

Si la experiencia le ha ense\u00f1ado que he\u2019ll misinterpret your words or blame you for things, you start expecting it every time.<\/strong> Even at times when he\u2019s not doing it, if you\u2019re waiting for any hint of disagreement, it\u2019ll eventually end in just that.<\/p>\n

29. T\u00fa le juzgas.<\/h3>\n

Sentirse juzgado por ti puede ponerlo a la defensiva y emocional<\/a>. If he believes that you\u2019re judging his behavior, reactions, or feelings, he might not know how to respond and act when something you disagree on comes up.<\/p>\n

30. Luchas para ganar.<\/h3>\n

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Una discusi\u00f3n acalorada puede ser saludable, pero if either of you is looking to win at fights, you\u2019re damaging your relationship<\/strong>. If you\u2019re using your arguments as weapons against each other instead of a tool to deal with issues, you might have a problem.<\/p>\n

31. You don’t know how to communicate.<\/h3>\n

Sentir que ten\u00e9is que andar con pies de plomo el uno con el otro o empezar peleas de la nada puede significar que you don\u2019t know how to communicate with each other.<\/strong> Cuando ninguno de los dos sabe c\u00f3mo hablarse, incluso sus mejores intenciones pueden ser malinterpretadas.<\/p>\n

32. You’re both stubborn.<\/h3>\n

Not wanting to give in because you\u2019re both stubborn<\/strong> can make you regret your actions. If you\u2019re stonewalling each other or resorting to the silent treatment just because you won\u2019t let the other person be right, you\u2019re causing damage to your relationship for the sake of pride.<\/p>\n

33. You’re not discussing the same thing.<\/h3>\n

Sometimes you\u2019re talking about two completely different things and don\u2019t know it<\/strong>. For example, you might be talking about something that\u2019s been bothering you, and he\u2019s focused on a specific situation, so he disagrees.<\/p>\n

34. You’re unwilling to compromise.<\/h3>\n

When you\u2019re both convinced that your way is the only way, encontrar un compromiso puede ser imposible.<\/strong> If you\u2019re unwilling to make space for each other in your thought process, arguments are inevitable.<\/p>\n

35. Hay problemas mayores.<\/h3>\n

Sometimes the real issue has nothing to do with what you\u2019re arguing about.<\/strong> Puede haber resentimiento, ira, celos, inseguridad y otros sentimientos o problemas que est\u00e9n causando problemas en su relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: 12 beneficios que nos aport\u00f3 la feminizaci\u00f3n de mi marido<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfPuedo arreglar mi relaci\u00f3n con mi marido?<\/h2>\n

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La respuesta a esta pregunta se reduce a tres cosas: \u00bfhay mala voluntad detr\u00e1s de su forma de actuar, de sus sentimientos mutuos y de la disposici\u00f3n a trabajar en su matrimonio por parte de ambos?<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you can say with certainty, “My husband misinterprets everything I say because he wants to hurt me,” then you’re better off without him.<\/strong> If he hurts you but genuinely regrets it or wasn’t aware of what he was doing, then there is hope if you’re both willing to make an effort for your marriage.<\/p>\n

1. Trabaja tus habilidades de comunicaci\u00f3n.<\/h3>\n

Una vez que aprender a comunicarse eficazmente<\/a>, you\u2019ll be able to use those skills to improve all your relationships for the rest of your life. It will take time, many tries, and lots of willingness to work on it, but este es el primer paso que ambos deben dar<\/strong> si quieres mejorar tu relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

2. Comunicar con claridad.<\/h3>\n

Don\u2019t expect him to read your mind and don\u2019t assume anything, and this goes for him as well. S\u00e9 muy claro con tus palabras y muestra siempre buena fe<\/strong>. If both of you focus on understanding the other person instead of proving a point, you\u2019ll be much more successful in communicating.<\/p>\n

3. Esc\u00fachate.<\/h3>\n

Practicar la escucha activa<\/a> and try to do your best to understand each other. Some techniques include paying attention, asking questions when you don\u2019t understand something, and providing feedback to check if you understood what the other person was trying to say.<\/p>\n

4. Sea concreto.<\/h3>\n

Being vague about what it is you\u2019re talking about can easily cause misunderstandings. Elija cuidadosamente sus palabras<\/strong>, and don\u2019t leave space for ambiguity to make sure that the other person knows exactly what you\u2019re trying to say.<\/p>\n

5. Don’t blame each other.<\/h3>\n

Cuando se culpan mutuamente, se ponen a la defensiva y no quieren dar explicaciones. Si te das cuenta de que lo haces, da un paso atr\u00e1s y vuelve a intentarlo. Por ejemplo, don\u2019t say, \u201cYou make me feel ~<\/strong>.\u201d Instead, say, \u201cI feel ~.\u201d<\/strong> Hace que la otra persona se sienta menos presionada y le permite hablar sin miedo.<\/p>\n

6. S\u00e9 paciente con los dem\u00e1s.<\/h3>\n

A tu marido le puede llevar tiempo aprender a cambiar su forma de relacionarse contigo, y a ti te puede llevar tiempo aprender a hablar con \u00e9l. Mientras a los dos os importe vuestro matrimonio y quer\u00e1is mejorarlo, las cosas pueden funcionar. Ten paciencia mientras ambos aprend\u00e9is a hacerlo.<\/a><\/p>\n

7. Intentar entenderse.<\/h3>\n

Truly try to put yourself in one another\u2019s shoes. Try to understand why you\u2019re doing the things you do, and give each other the benefit of the doubt. Becoming each other\u2019s best friend and being compassionate can make a real difference.<\/strong><\/p>\n

8. You don’t always have to be right.<\/h3>\n

Would you rather have a happy marriage or always be right? If either of you chooses the second answer, there\u2019s a problem. If your marriage is the priority, then the both of you have to learn to swallow your egos and try to see the other person\u2019s point of view.<\/strong><\/p>\n

9. Tener argumentos constructivos.<\/h3>\n

Los expertos en relaciones hablan a menudo de que las discusiones son necesarias en las relaciones, pero \u00bfqu\u00e9 significa eso? It means that when you argue, you shouldn\u2019t be trying to come out on top and prove that you\u2019re right.<\/strong> Por el contrario, las discusiones deben ser una forma de expresar opiniones diferentes y aprender a aceptarlas y a llegar a compromisos.<\/p>\n

10. Don\u2019t threaten each other.<\/h3>\n

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Threatening each other with leaving can make you do it in the heat of the moment. It\u2019s not the only kind of threat that creates problems, though. Any time you try to make your partner afraid of doing something by holding something over their head, you damage your relationship.<\/p>\n

11. Evita ser acusador.<\/h3>\n

Don\u2019t bring up something that happened yesterday, last week, or in high school when you\u2019re talking about whatever is bothering you at the moment. Don\u2019t accuse each other of things that might be only in your head. Approach every conversation with openness and willingness to understand.<\/p>\n

12. Cuida tu tono.<\/h3>\n

Don\u2019t yell, scream, or use foul language when you disagree with each other. Don\u2019t be sarcastic or mean. Don\u2019t use words you know trigger each other. All of this s\u00f3lo har\u00e1 que te enfades m\u00e1s y sea menos probable que busques un compromiso.<\/strong><\/p>\n

13. Don’t get frustrated when you disagree.<\/h3>\n

While you\u2019re working on solving your problems, there will come a time when you\u2019ll disagree. Unless you let yourself and your husband make mistakes and understand that they will happen, you can get frustrated to the point of giving up.<\/p>\n

14. Try to see each other’s perspectives.<\/h3>\n

Trying to understand your partner\u2019s feelings and see their point of view is of the utmost importance. Stop looking at things from your own perspective and intente comprender el punto de vista de la otra persona <\/strong>para acercarte.<\/p>\n

15. Accept each other’s differences.<\/h3>\n

En las relaciones humanas se dan opiniones, ideas y sentimientos diferentes. Aparte de algunos valores fundamentales, you don\u2019t have to agree on everything to be happily married<\/strong> \u2013 you only have to accept each other\u2019s differences.<\/p>\n

16. Take a break if you’re too upset.<\/h3>\n

Learn how to stop things when you see that your argument is about to escalate. Agree beforehand what to do when you notice that you\u2019re on the way to saying or doing something that will hurt each other and para hasta que te enfr\u00edes.<\/strong><\/p>\n

17. Don’t punish each other.<\/h3>\n

Don\u2019t be passive-aggressive or give each other the silent treatment to make the other person regret what they\u2019ve done. These things only make things worse in the long run.<\/p>\n

18. 18. Perdonarse mutuamente.<\/h3>\n

When you do make a mistake, don\u2019t let it turn into a grudge. Perdonaros todo lo que pod\u00e1is<\/strong>y darnos la oportunidad de hacerlo mejor.<\/p>\n

19. Tratar los problemas subyacentes.<\/h3>\n

If there are any issues on either side, from mental health to past issues in your relationship, that might be causing problems now, try to handle them. You\u2019ll feel better if you both do your best to face things head-on and approach your marriage as a work in progress.<\/p>\n

20. Pruebe con ayuda profesional.<\/h3>\n

Ninguna de estas soluciones es f\u00e1cil. Si sus problemas son profundos, acudir a un consejero profesional puede ser de gran ayuda.<\/strong>. Un consejero matrimonial puede ayudarles a ver los verdaderos problemas y ense\u00f1arles a comunicarse. Todo lo que necesitas es la voluntad de trabajar en tu matrimonio.<\/p>\n

Para concluir<\/h2>\n

Do your arguments with your husband start over small things and leave you both feeling angry, frustrated, and sorry? Are you constantly wondering, “What’s the reason that my husband misinterprets everything I say?” and trying to talk to him about it, only to cause more arguing?<\/p>\n

I hope I\u2019ve helped you find the answer to these questions<\/strong>. If you’ve figured out which one applies to your relationship and you want to work on it, I hope you’ll put my advice on how to deal with it to good use.<\/p>\n

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