There\u2019s a quote that says, “If you run into an <\/b>gilipollas<\/b> por la ma\u00f1ana, te encontraste con un <\/b>gilipollas<\/b>. Si se encuentra con <\/b>gilipollas<\/b> all day, you’re the <\/b>gilipollas<\/b>.”<\/b> (Raylan Givens, Justificado <\/i> ) Esta l\u00ednea describe perfectamente este punto.<\/p>\n
If all of your interactions with other people lead to them being mean to you, there\u2019s something about you that rubs them the wrong way. If it\u2019s an occasional rude or <\/b>persona mezquina<\/b>entonces tienen un problema. <\/b><\/p>\n
Para llegar al fondo del asunto y averiguar por qu\u00e9 la gente es mala, hay que explorar ambas posibilidades.<\/p>\n
La gente es mala contigo por sus propios problemas<\/h3>\n
It\u2019s far more likely that not every single person is mean to you, but that you simply run into rude and hurtful people so often that it seems they\u2019re everywhere.<\/b><\/p>\n
Imagine a day like this: first someone bumps into you on the street and proceeds to yell at you while you\u2019re on your way to work. Later, your boss snaps at you when you ask them about a project deadline. To top it off, your friend ignores you when you text them to ask them to go out while you\u2019re getting ready to leave work.<\/p>\n
With such encounters it\u2019s easy to forget all the kind things that happened that day: the neighbor who greeted you with a smile, the co-worker who helped you out, the family member who called to ask how you are. So the next time you think, \u201cEveryone is so mean to me,\u201d take a moment to remember the other side of the story.<\/b><\/p>\n
Sin embargo, las personas que son malas lo son por motivos totalmente ajenos a ti. La gente es mala por sus propios problemas.<\/b> It\u2019s insecurities and unhappiness that make people act rude, mean and unkind.<\/p>\n1. Tienen baja autoestima<\/h4>\n
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La baja autoestima hace que una persona dudar de su val\u00eda <\/a> , and their unhappiness needs to be expressed somehow. Sometimes it manifests as false self-confidence that\u2019s fragile and ready to shatter at any time.<\/p>\n Una persona con bajo <\/b>autoestima<\/b> doesn\u2019t see anything good in themselves, and they\u2019ve convinced themselves that they are <\/b>indigno de amor<\/b><\/a>.<\/b> Como se sienten poco queridos, creen que deben caerles mal.<\/p>\n They\u2019re afraid you won’t like them as they are anyway, so by being mean they give you something that\u2019s easy to dislike \u2013 the mean version of themselves that deserves hate. As mean as they are to you, they\u2019re meaner to themselves.<\/b><\/p>\n A common reason for being mean is when a person is facing something that they\u2019re insecure about. Las interacciones entre las personas suelen estar influidas por el hecho de que alguien suele llevar las de ganar<\/b> por mucho que cueste reconocerlo.<\/p>\n When someone who\u2019s feeling like you\u2019re above them in some way is mean to you, they\u2019re trying to protect themselves. Because they\u2019re feeling powerless and insecure about their <\/b>autoestima<\/b>, they\u2019re trying to put you down before you get the chance to put them down.<\/b><\/p>\n Some people who don\u2019t like themselves can espiral de autodesprecio <\/a> and have trouble in social interactions because they feel like they don\u2019t have anything to offer. They believe others might think they’re boring and annoying, so they overcompensate by being mean.<\/b><\/p>\n La ansiedad ante las interacciones sociales les lleva a menospreciar a los dem\u00e1s. Al hacerlo, las rebajan a su propio nivel.<\/p>\n A lot of people have grown up in unhealthy environments and never learned how to act when they\u2019re having negative emotions . If they were taught that it\u2019s acceptable to take out your feelings on others, they might lack <\/b>autoconocimiento<\/b> y ni siquiera se plantean examinar su comportamiento.<\/b><\/p>\n People who have suffered abusive behavior often perpetuate what they\u2019ve experienced unless their feelings are dealt with. This, or anything else on this list, isn\u2019t an excuse for behaving in a hurtful way to others, but it can give you a glimpse into por qu\u00e9 a algunas personas les cuesta relacionarse con los dem\u00e1s de forma sana y productiva.<\/b><\/p>\n People are often mean to cope with their feelings. Maybe you remind them of their pain, or you\u2019re in the wrong place at the wrong time, but their lashing out has nothing to do with you. It\u2019s a coping mechanism to deal with <\/b>dolor emocional<\/b><\/a> and handle damage that you don\u2019t see.<\/b><\/p>\n Some people convince themselves that they\u2019re right even when they aren\u2019t and echar la culpa a los dem\u00e1s <\/a> . If they decide that you\u2019re the villain, they get a feeling of superiority when they\u2019re mean to you \u2013 if you’re awful, then they must be the good guy.<\/b><\/p>\n La primera vez que act\u00faan as\u00ed, se dan cuenta de que les gusta la sensaci\u00f3n, as\u00ed que siguen haci\u00e9ndolo. Because they enjoy being mean, they refuse to let go of their anger and think about how they\u2019re affecting the other person.<\/b><\/p>\n Ser mezquino puede mostrar falta de comunicaci\u00f3n y de habilidades sociales . Alguien que se enfada y se vuelve mezquino en el momento en que no est\u00e1 de acuerdo contigo probablemente ha aprendido esta forma de comunicarse al crecer.<\/b><\/p>\n \u00bfHas hablado alguna vez con alguien que empieza a hablar por encima de ti con una voz m\u00e1s alta que la tuya en lugar de esperar a que termines? Este es otro comportamiento que demuestra falta de habilidades comunicativas.<\/p>\n Enfadarse por defecto al hablar con los dem\u00e1s es especialmente f\u00e1cil de detectar en <\/b>redes sociales<\/b>. It\u2019s often found among people who\u2019ll disagree with you just for the sake of it.<\/b><\/p>\n You don\u2019t know what\u2019s going on in someone\u2019s life at the moment. They could be having a bad day or personal problems occupying their thoughts. They could be hungry or sleepy or worried, and too preoccupied with their own life to have any patience for others. Mal humor<\/b> causada por el estr\u00e9s afecta a todo el mundo, pero no todo el mundo sabe c\u00f3mo afrontarla.<\/b><\/p>\n Someone who\u2019s emocionalmente inmaduro <\/a> doesn\u2019t have the ability to cope with their feelings, which can often result in acting out and trying to drag you down to their level. If you cross their path, they\u2019ll try to make you unhappy because they\u2019re unhappy.<\/b> Recurrir\u00e1 a insultos, gritos y ataques para expresar sus sentimientos negativos.<\/p>\n La gente con derechos cree que les debes algo. It can be your time, attention or anything else, but they can become enraged when they don\u2019t get what they believe they deserve.<\/b><\/p>\n This is the kind of rude people who imagine scenarios about how a situation should go, and when you don\u2019t act in accordance with their imagination, they react to you behaving in a way they didn’t expect with anger.<\/b><\/p>\n These are toxic people who don’t even realize they are the problem and they\u2019ll blame you for ruining their day, even when you had nothing to do with it.<\/p>\n Cuando alguien se siente profundamente infeliz y frustrado, intentan buscar validaci\u00f3n <\/a> arrastrando a otras personas a su nivel. La miseria ama la compa\u00f1\u00eda, as\u00ed que quieren que te sientas tan mal contigo mismo como ellos.<\/b><\/p>\n The things they don\u2019t like most about you are the things they don\u2019t like most about themselves, and therefore they\u2019ll throw every ounce of hatred and vitriol that they believe they deserve at you.<\/p>\n Depression isn\u2019t just sadness, it\u2019s a lack of will and it\u2019s often accompanied by irritability and short temper. Lack of patience for people around them and anxiety make it f\u00e1cil de arremeter. <\/b> Other mental health issues can also contribute to someone\u2019s rude and mean behavior , such as certain personality disorders.<\/p>\n A menudo, las personas que est\u00e1n enfadadas con alguien o con algo recurren a la ira fuera de lugar para hacer frente a problemas no resueltos. Puede que seas la vig\u00e9sima persona que les ha molestado hoy, y ha sido la gota que ha colmado el vaso. <\/b> It happens more than you think \u2013 someone made them mad, now they\u2019re making you pay for the other person\u2019s behavior.<\/p>\n Sometimes people are mean because they\u2019re angry at you specifically. You don\u2019t have to have done anything in particular \u2013 a veces las personas pueden guardarte rencor por la forma en que te perciben en relaci\u00f3n con ellas mismas.<\/b><\/p>\n Por ejemplo, pueden odiarte porque no est\u00e1n de acuerdo contigo en algunos valores o te envidian <\/a> because you have something they don’t.<\/p>\n You might be complaining about lack of free time because you\u2019ve made too many plans, and they\u2019ll resent you because they\u2019re lonely and bored.<\/p>\n Si la mayor\u00eda de las personas con las que te relacionas son groseras o malas contigo, lo m\u00e1s probable es que you\u2019re probably not as nice as you think. <\/b> Cada uno tiene su propio punto de vista, y a veces podemos juzgar a los dem\u00e1s con m\u00e1s dureza de la que nos juzgamos a nosotros mismos.<\/p>\n Most of the time we value our own actions by their intent, and the others\u2019 by their results. <\/b> For example, if you accidentally spill coffee on someone, you\u2019ll insist that it wasn\u2019t on purpose if they get mad. If someone else spills coffee on you, you\u2019ll be all sticky and angry and won\u2019t care that they did it by accident.<\/p>\n This is how we justify things that we did but didn\u2019t mean to do, while we still blame other people if they do the same thing. When you hold people to standards that you don\u2019t apply to yourself, it can become easy to see yourself as a victim who is under attack by everyone.<\/b><\/p>\n Examine everything from the previous section closely to see if anything applies to you. Are you the one who\u2019s mean in the first place for some reason? Do you have unresolved anger issues?<\/p>\n If you don\u2019t like yourself, if your life is stressful or you don\u2019t know how to cope, you might be dealing with it by being rude to people<\/b> lo que hace que tambi\u00e9n sean groseros y malos contigo.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re nice and everyone is mean to you, people might be thinking that your niceness is fake. Overly nice people can seem like they have an agenda and are trying to gain something by their niceness, so people might feel like you\u2019re dishonest.<\/b><\/p>\n Make sure that you\u2019re not nice because you\u2019re trying to be liked. People can feel the lack of sincerity, and if you\u2019re nice because you expect niceness back, you won\u2019t get it. En lugar de ser simp\u00e1tico, s\u00e9 amable.<\/b><\/p>\n Asking the question \u201cWhy is everyone so mean to me?\u201d in the first place can mean that you\u2019re a person who looks at everything in a negative way.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re seeing <\/b>comportamiento medio<\/b> y cosas malas por todas partes, deber\u00edas intentar examinar por qu\u00e9 es as\u00ed. <\/b> If you\u2019re pessimistic and can\u2019t seem to find anything good around you, you might be feeling depressed or sad for some reason.<\/p>\n Intenta cambiar poco a poco tu forma de ver la vida y, si es necesario, pide ayuda a un profesional.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re selfish <\/a> and focused only on yourself, it\u2019s hard to notice how other people feel. Si tiendes a culpar a los dem\u00e1s de tus problemas, \u00e9ste podr\u00eda ser el caso. <\/b><\/p>\n If you\u2019re making everything about you, and judging others, their mean behavior might be a reaction to the way you treat them. Algunas se\u00f1ales de que puedes ser ego\u00edsta son que juzgues a los dem\u00e1s por cosas a las que crees que tienes derecho y que persigas tus propios deseos y necesidades a costa de los dem\u00e1s. <\/b><\/p>\n Empieza a lidiar con esto centr\u00e1ndote un poco m\u00e1s en los dem\u00e1s en lugar de necesitar ser siempre el centro de atenci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n Si siempre tienes que decir la \u00faltima palabra y tener siempre la raz\u00f3n, la gente puede considerarte un mand\u00f3n. If you get upset when things don\u2019t go your way, people might think <\/b>you\u2019re controlling<\/b><\/a> y no hacer las cosas que quieres a prop\u00f3sito.<\/b><\/p>\n Ser alguien que critica, rega\u00f1a y trata de controlar a los dem\u00e1s puede hacer que reaccionen con rudeza o que no quieran estar cerca de ti.<\/p>\n V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: Por qu\u00e9 mi novia es tan mala conmigo (16 razones + formas de superarlo)<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n When people are mean to you, don\u2019t take things personally. You can react in kind and cause an argument, but you won\u2019t gain anything from it. Or you can get sad, but they\u2019re not worth it.<\/p>\n The best thing to do when people are rude and mean to you, is to fully understand that people\u2019s reactions to you are their problem.<\/b><\/p>\n Don’t expect people to be nice. If they turn out to be nice, that\u2019s great. If they don\u2019t, it\u2019s not your problem.<\/p>\n When you\u2019re in a situation where you\u2019re forced to deal with someone who\u2019s being mean, try to ignore their behavior until you don\u2019t have to interact with them and then simply focus on the reason you\u2019re there.<\/b><\/p>\n For example, if you need a co-worker who\u2019s being rude to give you a file, don\u2019t react to their rudeness, but every time they say something mean, only talk about the file you need. Don\u2019t give them the validation they\u2019re looking for \u2013 only deal with them for the reason you have to.<\/p>\n Otra forma de reaccionar ante la gente mezquina es ser amable con ellos. Por supuesto, you don\u2019t have to be kind to someone who\u2019s rude to you, but the results might surprise you.<\/b><\/p>\n If it\u2019s someone who\u2019s mean because they\u2019re not feeling good about themselves, your kindness can completely change their day around and make them reconsider the way they\u2019re treating you.<\/p>\n If it\u2019s someone who\u2019s mean because they feel like they have the right to be mean, they\u2019ll get confused and potentially even more angry. Si usted <\/b>persiste en tu bondad<\/b><\/a> and completely ignore that they\u2019re being rude, you\u2019ll end up much less upset.<\/b><\/p>\n Sometimes it\u2019s best to simply leave the situation. If you don\u2019t have to deal with the person who\u2019s being mean, don’t engage them at all. Just turn around and leave and don\u2019t give them a time of day. Sometimes it\u2019s really not worth it.<\/b><\/p>\n Cuando alguien se comporta de forma grosera con usted, debe mostrarse firme y establecer l\u00edmites <\/a> . Let them know their behavior isn\u2019t acceptable and tell them that you refuse to deal with it. <\/b> If they cross your boundaries after you\u2019ve let them know, don\u2019t allow them to get away with it. Sea claro y decidido.<\/b><\/p>\n Sometimes you have to speak up and call out someone\u2019s rudeness . Deciding when to do it and when to walk away is difficult, but keep in mind that tienes que elegir tus batallas. <\/b><\/p>\n If you see that speaking up only leads to more conflict, it\u2019s better to remove yourself from the situation. When you think that you\u2019re able to reach the other person, then you should speak up.<\/p>\n Estar descontento con algo en su vida hace que la gente busque cualquier forma de expresar su insatisfacci\u00f3n. Enredarse en tus sentimientos puede ser muy f\u00e1cil, y empiezas a ver a los dem\u00e1s como tus enemigos.<\/b><\/p>\n When you\u2019re feeling like you\u2019ve been treated unfairly for something minor and you react with what seems to be justified anger, you feel a sense of superiority because the other person is clearly awful and you\u2019re the one who\u2019s right.<\/p>\n In this way it\u2019s easy for your feelings of righteousness to lead you into being mean, and to feel satisfaction when you give someone what you believe they deserve. <\/b> Have you ever gossiped about someone and happily listed every bad thing about them, pleased that they\u2019re so terrible and you\u2019re not?<\/p>\n La forma en que las personas tratan a los dem\u00e1s est\u00e1 relacionada con c\u00f3mo se sienten consigo mismas.<\/b> Becoming someone who isn\u2019t mean starts with compasi\u00f3n<\/b> \u2013 for others, but also for yourself. If you’ve been unkind, start by being kinder to yourself.<\/b><\/p>\n \u2022 Forgive yourself for your past mistakes.<\/p>\n \u2022 Face your fears and your flaws that make you mad when you recognize them in others.<\/b><\/p>\n \u2022 Don’t criticize yourself and don\u2019t judge yourself.<\/p>\n \u2022 See your own anger at yourself and recognize you’re not a bad person.<\/b><\/p>\n \u2022 Acknowledge that some of the things that are important to you, might hold no value in someone else\u2019s life.<\/p>\n \u2022 On the other hand, just because you\u2019re not even thinking about something, doesn\u2019t mean it\u2019s not an issue for someone else.<\/b><\/p>\n To stop being mean, it\u2019s important to consider other people\u2019s lives and their own perspectives, which might be completely different from yours. Elige curarte<\/b><\/a> y decide ser amable en lugar de mezquino. Primero contigo mismo y luego con los dem\u00e1s.<\/b><\/p>\n Being mean is an easy way to cope with things that aren\u2019t going well in someone\u2019s life. Not everyone deals in that way, so the question, \u201cWhy is everyone so mean to me?\u201d is something that needs some thought.<\/p>\n2. They\u2019re plagued by insecurities<\/h4>\n
3. They\u2019re feeling inadequate<\/strong><\/h4>\n
4. Su educaci\u00f3n les ha influido<\/h4>\n
5. They\u2019ve suffered abuse<\/h4>\n
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<\/p>\n6. They\u2019ve been hurt<\/h4>\n
7. Su enfado sienta bien<\/h4>\n
8. Carecen de habilidades comunicativas<\/h4>\n
9. They\u2019re going through something<\/h4>\n
10. They\u2019re emotionally immature<\/h4>\n
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<\/p>\n11. They\u2019re feeling entitled<\/h4>\n
12. They\u2019re trying to make themselves feel better<\/h4>\n
13. Tienen problemas de salud mental<\/h4>\n
14. They’re taking it out on you<\/h4>\n
15. Por algo les caes mal<\/h4>\n
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<\/p>\nLa gente es mala contigo por tu comportamiento<\/h3>\n
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<\/h3>\n1. You’re rude to people<\/h4>\n
2. Pareces falso<\/a><\/h4>\n
3. You’re negative<\/h4>\n
4. You’re selfish<\/h4>\n
5. You’re bossy<\/strong><\/h4>\n
\u00bfQu\u00e9 hago cuando la gente se porta mal conmigo?<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n1. C\u00e9ntrate en el asunto en cuesti\u00f3n, en lugar de en el comportamiento grosero<\/h3>\n
2. Don’t pay them back in kind, sea<\/i> amable<\/h3>\n
3. Alejarse<\/h3>\n
4. Establecer l\u00edmites<\/h3>\n
5. Habla m\u00e1s alto<\/h3>\n
\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 es tan f\u00e1cil ser malo con los dem\u00e1s?<\/h2>\n
Sea amable<\/h2>\n