{"id":154007,"date":"2022-06-22T10:13:50","date_gmt":"2022-06-22T10:13:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=154007"},"modified":"2022-06-29T15:15:46","modified_gmt":"2022-06-29T15:15:46","slug":"no-hemos-hablado-en-una-semana-despues-de-la-pelea","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/no-hemos-hablado-en-una-semana-despues-de-la-pelea\/","title":{"rendered":"No hemos hablado en una semana despu\u00e9s de la pelea - \u00bfSe acab\u00f3?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Couples fight, no matter how much we’d all like to deal with our relationship problems in an easier way. Opinions clash, needs don\u2019t get met, and everyone makes mistakes \u2013 conflict in a relationship is inevitable.<\/strong><\/p>\n

La forma de afrontar una discusi\u00f3n cuando surge depende en gran medida de tu capacidad de comunicaci\u00f3n y de tu inteligencia emocional. Sin embargo, tu actitud es lo que m\u00e1s influye en el resultado del conflicto: what it is you\u2019re looking to achieve from an argument with your partner.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Una discusi\u00f3n puede convertirse r\u00e1pidamente en una pelea cuando las emociones est\u00e1n a flor de piel y things are said in the heat of the moment that you\u2019d normally never say to your partner.<\/strong> If either of you is looking to win the fight instead of striving to solve your problems, then the last thing you\u2019re going to reach is a solution.<\/p>\n

This is what usually leads to situations in which you might end up thinking, \u201cWe haven’t talked in a week after fight \u2013 what should I do?\u201d There\u2019s really only one thing to do if you want to save your relationship: tr\u00e1gate tu orgullo y tiende la mano.<\/strong><\/p>\n

We Haven’t Talked In A Week After Fight \u2013 What Should I Do?<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Lack of contact doesn\u2019t have to mean that the relationship is over. If your anger has subsided by this point and all you\u2019re left with is the thought, \u201cWe haven’t talked in a week after fight,\u201d your worry that things might be serious is understandable.<\/p>\n

Si su pareja ha cortado la comunicaci\u00f3n tras una fuerte discusi\u00f3n, la preocupaci\u00f3n y la incertidumbre pueden provocarle ansiedad.<\/strong> Your partner keeping their distance can make you think they want to break up, but it\u2019s too soon to panic.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s normal for parejas para luchar<\/a>, and your relationship can recover as long as you’re prepared to work to solve your problems. So what should you do \u2013 contact your partner, or give them space?<\/strong> \u00bfMejorar\u00e1n las cosas si les das espacio o si te pones en contacto con ellos?<\/p>\n

Resolver esto es un reto porque unless they\u2019ve let you know what\u2018s going on<\/strong>, you can\u2019t be sure whether they want you to contact them or not, but this is exactly where the answer lies. Deciding what to do depends on which one of the following two situations you find yourself in.<\/p>\n

1. Si tu pareja te ha hecho saber que necesita espacio<\/h3>\n

D\u00e9jalos en paz.<\/p>\n

Si inmediatamente despu\u00e9s de la pelea, su pareja le ha dicho directamente que necesito espacio<\/a> or told a mutual friend that they can’t talk to you right now, you\u2019re aware of the reason for the lack of contact. This isn\u2019t the time to push and be clingy.<\/strong><\/p>\n

In this case, respect your partner\u2019s wishes and give them space to work out their issues. You can\u2019t make your partner talk to you until they\u2019re ready.<\/strong> Don\u2019t try to get them to explain things right now, and especially don\u2018t try to continue the argument.<\/p>\n

Puede que necesiten tiempo para enfadarse. Forzar las cosas despu\u00e9s de que tu pareja te diga que no te pongas en contacto solo prolongar\u00e1 la situaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

If you dwell on what happened and what they might decide, you\u2018ll drive yourself crazy thinking about what\u2019s going on. D\u00e9jalo pasar por ahora para centrarte en ti y en tu propia vida.<\/strong> Es m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil decirlo que hacerlo, pero la forma m\u00e1s sencilla de distraerse es encontrar algo que te mantenga ocupado, preferiblemente haciendo algo que te guste.<\/p>\n

2. If your partner hasn’t contacted you since the fight<\/p>\n

P\u00f3ngase en contacto.<\/h3>\n

If you haven\u2019t heard from your partner at all since the fight, you can\u2019t possibly know what\u2019s going on. Your partner might be hurt and need space to work out their feelings, or they might be punishing you. They might be playing games, but avoid the temptation to push back.<\/p>\n

Your partner might be stuck in a win\/lose mindset and believe that you\u2019re to blame for whatever happened and that you should take the first step.<\/strong> Este tipo de pensamiento no tiene cabida en un relaci\u00f3n sana<\/a>, and it\u2019s something you should work on after things have calmed down a little.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, if you\u2019re trying to avoid a breakup, the first thing to do is put your ego aside. Someone has to take the first step, and it might as well be you. Right now, stop focusing on who was right or wrong. Think of your relationship: is being right worth losing it? Pon el amor por delante del orgullo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1nto tiempo hay que esperar despu\u00e9s de una pelea?<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Unless your partner has explicitly told you not to contact them, then do it as soon as possible. If your partner has told you that they need space, don\u2019t contact them until they do. Otherwise, you won\u2019t know what\u2018s happening until you get in touch.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Puede que ignoren tu mensaje, en cuyo caso you shouldn\u2019t contact them again.<\/strong> They\u2018ll know you made a move and that the ball is now in their court. They might let you know that they need some time until they\u2019re ready to talk, in which case, darles espacio<\/a> hasta que lleguen.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Puede que su pareja estuviera esperando a que usted diera el primer paso y le demostrara que le importa. If there\u2019s goodwill and a desire to continue your relationship on both sides, you can get over this.<\/strong> Don\u2019t wait for your partner to contact you \u2013 reach out and extend an olive branch. Let them know that you\u2019re willing to work for your relationship.<\/p>\n

Una buena forma de ponerse en contacto es enviando un mensaje de texto o un mensaje de voz. This doesn\u2019t put immediate pressure on them to respond like a phone call would, and it gives the both of you the chance to organize your thoughts.<\/strong> Despu\u00e9s, cuando te respondan, puedes concertar una reuni\u00f3n o cualquier otra forma que os permita mantener una conversaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

C\u00f3mo actuar con tu pareja despu\u00e9s de una pelea<\/h2>\n

Communicate with your partner sincerely and respect both of your feelings. There\u2019s no need to be meek and walk on eggshells to avoid spooking your partner. Instead, encourage them to speak up and let you know when they can\u2018t talk about something.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Your and your partner’s mental health are important factors in the health of your relationship. Los problemas personales pueden dificultar la resoluci\u00f3n de conflictos.<\/strong> It’s important to be understanding and give each other the benefit of the doubt.<\/p>\n

1. Piensa en la pelea antes de hablar con tu pareja.<\/h3>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

Una discusi\u00f3n puede empezar cuando le pides a tu pareja que haga una tarea y acabar en l\u00e1grimas, portazos y silencio de radio. Antes de intentar hablar con ellos, piensa seriamente en tu reciente pelea<\/strong> y otras peleas para averiguar por qu\u00e9 algo insignificante se intensific\u00f3 y c\u00f3mo evitar que vuelva a ocurrir.<\/p>\n

Algunas preguntas que hacerse:<\/p>\n

\u2022 Was the reason for the fight something that’s been bothering you for a while?<\/h4>\n

Sometimes couples fight about the same thing over and over again or bottle something up until it explodes. It might be a conflict in their values or a behavior they\u2019re unwilling to change, but it has to be dealt with.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Did you say something they can’t get over?<\/h4>\n

Sometimes in the heat of the moment, things are said that don\u2019t seem like a big deal to one person but cut deep and feel overwhelming to the other.<\/p>\n

\u2022 How did you act in the fight?<\/h4>\n

Cuando te comunicas, todo, desde el tono de voz hasta el lenguaje corporal y las palabras que utilizas, le dice a tu pareja c\u00f3mo te sientes y viceversa. Si estabas muy enfadado durante la pelea y te sent\u00edas vengativo, tu pareja puede pensar que tus sentimientos hacia ella han cambiado.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Were you fighting to win the fight or to solve the problem?<\/h4>\n

Constructivo los argumentos pueden ser \u00fatiles en las relaciones<\/a>. They help you see the other person\u2019s point of view and can even bring you closer together. When all you focus on is proving your point, conflicts end in resentment instead of solutions.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Do you fight often?<\/h4>\n

If you often fight about insignificant things, it usually means that there is an underlying issue you\u2019re not dealing with. Before you can move forward, you have to figure out what it is and how to address it.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Are there other signs that there are issues in your relationship?<\/h4>\n

Just because you and your partner aren\u2019t best friends (yet) isn\u2019t in itself a problem. On the other hand, if you don\u2019t like spending time together, don\u2019t listen to each other, if you complain and criticize each other, you might be in trouble.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Did you hurt your partner on purpose?<\/h4>\n

Sometimes when you\u2018re hurt and angry, all you want to do is make the other person hurt too, even though you later regret it. Sometimes anger lingers, and people take it further when they should let it go.<\/p>\n

For example, posting pics of you partying with friends on social media the next day when you know your partner will see them while they\u2019re hurting.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Are you willing to work on your problems?<\/h4>\n

Esto es clave. A menos que ambos dispuestos a trabajar<\/a>Las discusiones se repetir\u00e1n y tu novio o novia podr\u00eda convertirse en tu ex novio o ex novia.<\/p>\n

Answers to these questions might give you the answers to \u201dWhy won\u2019t my partner talk to me in a week after a fight?\u201d and \u201cHow can I get them to come back?\u201c You\u2018ll get a picture of how to apologize and how to approach your partner. Really giving it some thought might even give you an idea if it\u2019s space they need.<\/p>\n

2. Don\u2019t view arguments as zero-sum games.<\/h3>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

La situaci\u00f3n menos beneficiosa despu\u00e9s de una discusi\u00f3n en una relaci\u00f3n es si ambos miembros de la pareja se culpan mutuamente e intentan tener la sart\u00e9n por el mango haciendo que la otra persona tienda la mano primero. If at least one person demonstrates the willingness to communicate and reconcile, it can get easier \u2013 just don\u2019t be the one to wait for your partner to do so.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Be honest: it\u2019s very possible that you are also experiencing toxic thoughts and negative feelings regarding who\u2019s to blame<\/a> y lo que significa ser el que da el primer paso.<\/strong> Cuanto antes abandones la idea de que la persona que te tiende la mano es la perdedora, antes podr\u00e1s emprender el camino para mejorar las cosas.<\/p>\n

Being the one to forgive doesn\u2019t imply that from now on, the other person can do whatever they want or that they\u2019re somehow the winner of the fight. Aun as\u00ed, debes poner l\u00edmites a tu pareja y esperar que los respete.<\/strong> En una asociaci\u00f3n no hay ganadores ni perdedores.<\/p>\n

Dedica tu energ\u00eda a buscar una soluci\u00f3n en lugar de intentar ganar la discusi\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

3. S\u00e9 compasivo.<\/h3>\n

If your partner is reluctant to communicate after the fight, don’t try to force them to open up; instead, give them the option and let them know you’re willing to listen.<\/strong> Emotional distance following an argument isn’t necessarily a sign of a dysfunctional relationship, but it can mean that the person who’s withdrawing isn’t equipped to deal with the situation.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Si su pareja le tratamiento silencioso<\/a> or stonewalling you, it doesn\u2019t have to be seen as an immediate sign that they’re trying to manipulate you, although it can be. Whether it\u2019s a coping mechanism when they’re feeling overwhelmed, they\u2019re too upset to continue, or a manipulation technique can be determined from other aspects of your relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Trying to reach someone who doesn\u2019t want to talk can be frustrating, but trying to force it won\u2019t have any effect aside from making you argue again.<\/p>\n

4. Piensa en lo que debes decir.<\/h3>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

When you approach your partner, do so with the best intentions and with an idea of what you want to say. Here are some things you might want to include to let your partner know you\u2019re ready to communicate.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Offer an explanation, but don\u2019t look for excuses.<\/strong> It doesn\u2019t matter if you didn\u2019t mean it if it has hurt your partner.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Let them know you feel bad about the fight.<\/strong> Be specific if you especially regret saying or doing something. Apologize if you think that\u2019s what you need to do, but make sure your apology is genuine.<\/p>\n

- Asumir la responsabilidad<\/a> por tu comportamiento durante la pelea<\/strong> y lo que le llev\u00f3 a ello.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Express regret about the fight<\/strong> y reconocer su comportamiento.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Ask your partner how you can make things better.<\/strong> Hazles saber lo que necesitas de ellos.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Show how much your partner means to you<\/strong> and that you want to deal with your problems. Promise \u2013 and mean it \u2013 that you\u2019ll do better.<\/p>\n

- Dile a tu pareja que vuestra relaci\u00f3n es m\u00e1s importante que la pelea<\/strong> and that you don\u2019t want to fight anymore.<\/p>\n

5. Saber cu\u00e1ndo pedir ayuda.<\/h3>\n

Si resulta imposible resolver las cosas por tu cuenta, considera la posibilidad de acudir juntos a un profesional. Siempre que ambos quer\u00e1is seguir juntos, ten\u00e9is que aprender a afrontar los conflictos y a tratar los problemas subyacentes en vuestra relaci\u00f3n.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00c9stas son algunas se\u00f1ales de que los problemas de tu relaci\u00f3n pueden ser demasiado graves para que los resuelvas t\u00fa solo y de que deber\u00edas pedir ayuda:<\/p>\n

- Amenazas.<\/strong> If you\u2019re constantly threatening to break up while you fight, one of these days it\u2019s going to happen. You need to examine why this happens.<\/p>\n

- Ultim\u00e1tums.<\/strong> Esto es lo contrario del compromiso, que es uno de los pilares de una asociaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

- Burla.<\/strong> Insultarse mutuamente<\/a>hacer cosas s\u00f3lo para fastidiar a la otra persona, y otros signos de querer perjudicarse mutuamente.<\/p>\n

- Infidelidad.<\/strong> Rebuilding trust after infidelity is a long and difficult process that can be too much to handle. If you\u2019ve decided to continue your relationship after infidelity, terapia de pareja<\/a> podr\u00eda facilitar las cosas.<\/p>\n

- Resentimiento.<\/strong> Si durante las discusiones sacas a relucir cosas no s\u00f3lo de la noche anterior, sino del a\u00f1o pasado, es posible que haya asuntos sin resolver.<\/p>\n

\u00bfAc\u00e9rcate o dales espacio?<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Despu\u00e9s de una gran pelea en una relaci\u00f3n que acaba con voces levantadas, l\u00e1grimas y una reticencia a tratar los problemas reales, ambos miembros de la pareja se sentir\u00e1n heridos y enfadados.<\/strong> The first time you fight with your significant other in that way will be the last time you fight at all unless one of you reaches out because there won\u2019t be a relationship to fight about.<\/p>\n

\u201cWe had a fight\u201d can easily turn into \u201dWe haven’t talked in a week after fight,\u201d which puede convertirse en una ruptura a menos que alguien se atreva a hacer las cosas bien.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You don\u2019t have to be the one to do so, but if you see that your partner hasn\u2019t contacted you in a couple of days<\/a> and hasn\u2019t given you an indication that they need space, rather than waiting for them to come around, sea quien establezca el contacto.<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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