{"id":154602,"date":"2022-06-28T12:13:50","date_gmt":"2022-06-28T12:13:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=154602"},"modified":"2022-06-28T12:13:50","modified_gmt":"2022-06-28T12:13:50","slug":"insultos-en-una-relacion","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/insultos-en-una-relacion\/","title":{"rendered":"Los insultos en una relaci\u00f3n son t\u00f3xicos: as\u00ed se acaba"},"content":{"rendered":"

Your partner is someone who’s supposed to make you feel safe and protected. When they turn into someone who hurts you, your relationship becomes a burden instead of a comfort. Los insultos y otras formas de abuso verbal provocan un estado permanente de temor y hacen que quieras evitar a tu pareja.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Los insultos en una relaci\u00f3n pueden ocurrir durante una discusi\u00f3n cuando las emociones son turbulentas.<\/strong> In those moments, it’s easy for one or both partners to lose their temper and lash out by yelling, calling each other degrading names, and exchanging insults.<\/p>\n

Los insultos tambi\u00e9n pueden adoptar la forma de insidious snide remarks, which inevitably result in the deterioration of the victim’s self-esteem over time.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Una relaci\u00f3n sentimental en la que las peleas acaban en insultos y gritos o en la que uno de los miembros de la pareja siente que tiene que andar con pies de plomo para no enfadar al otro. isn\u2019t a healthy relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s see what it does to a person, what\u2019s behind it, and how to make it stop.<\/p>\n

C\u00f3mo responder a los insultos en una relaci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

In a healthy relationship, arguments aren’t fights between partners but un m\u00e9todo para resolver problemas<\/strong>. En un relaci\u00f3n verbalmente abusiva <\/a> where one or both people don’t know how to handle their feelings or talk through their issues, la comunicaci\u00f3n se rompe.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Los insultos en una relaci\u00f3n hacen que la v\u00edctima se cierre y deje de responder. En lugar de buscar soluciones, la discusi\u00f3n se pasa con la pareja maltratadora gritando a la otra persona hasta conseguir lo que quiere.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo manejas una situaci\u00f3n en la que alguien te grita y te insulta?<\/p>\n

1. Recognize what’s going on<\/h3>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

El primer paso es tomar conciencia de la situaci\u00f3n. If your significant other habitually calls you names, you might be used to it and start thinking that it\u2019s fine. It\u2019s not okay, and it\u2019s not acceptable.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It\u2019s a form of bullying and can open the door to other harmful behaviors in your relationship. Because it\u2018s destructive and leads to constant fights, name calling often eventually leads to the end of a relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Name-calling is abusive behavior, and it\u2018s rarely the only thing an abusive partner resorts to. It often overlaps with other forms of verbal abuse, such as:<\/p>\n

\u2022 Criticizing.<\/strong> \u201cAre you sure you want that piece of cake? Didn\u2019t you already eat?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

\u2022 Manipulation.<\/strong> \u201cYou’re overreacting!\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

- Luz de gas<\/b><\/a>.<\/strong> \u201cWhat are you talking about? I never said that.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

\u2022 Accusations.<\/strong> \u201cYou did it on purpose.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

\u2022 Blame.<\/strong> \u201cYou made me spill my drink.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

\u2022 Silent treatment.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Puede resultar sorprendente encontrar algunos de ellos en la lista de comportamientos abusivos.<\/strong> There\u2019s a chance that you\u2019re guilty of a few of these yourself and that you\u2018ve done them without any intention of hurting the other person.<\/p>\n

En una relaci\u00f3n t\u00f3xica, los insultos y otros comportamientos abusivos suelen provenir de ambas partes. Most people don\u2019t set out to emotionally and verbally abuse a loved one,<\/strong> but the truth is that it can happen to anyone who doesn\u2019t know how to deal with their emotions.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t look for excuses<\/b><\/a> for the person who\u2019s calling you names, but if you\u2019re interested in saving your relationship, approach them with compassion.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Emotional abuse is often overlooked and not considered serious. Once it\u2019s clear to you that name-calling and yelling aren\u2019t normal and shouldn\u2019t be part of your relationship,<\/strong> you\u2019ll be able to see why it has to stop.<\/p>\n

2. Establecer la comunicaci\u00f3n<\/h3>\n

Aunque tu pareja te quiera, puede tener un comportamiento abusivo. Para afrontarlo, deber\u00edas empezar por abrir un canal de comunicaci\u00f3n entre los dos que realmente funcione.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Name calling starts when your partner feels negative emotions, such as anger, disappointment, or hurt, and instead of telling you how they\u2019re feeling, they call you names. Una reacci\u00f3n com\u00fan a esto es cerrarse en banda e ignorar cualquier cosa despu\u00e9s de que se haya dicho el insulto.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Su objetivo es restablecer la comunicaci\u00f3n y, a trav\u00e9s de ella, recuperar el respeto y la confianza mutuos. El primer paso para conseguirlo es mantener la cabeza fr\u00eda y evitar tomar represalias cuando te insulten.<\/strong>. Stay calm and focus on your goal \u2013 don\u2019t react to their abusive behavior, and don\u2019t check out.<\/p>\n

\u2022 First, calmly tell your partner how you\u2019re feeling and how their behavior is affecting you<\/strong>. This template is the most efficient: \u201cCuando<\/em> ~, Me siento<\/em> ~ because ~.\u201d For example, \u201cWhen you call me names, I feel unloved because I love you.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u2022 Ask your partner to rephrase their insult into something constructive using the same template<\/strong>. Es una forma de llegar a la ra\u00edz del problema y de ayudarles a ser capaces de expresar sus sentimientos sin herirte.<\/p>\n

For example, if they called you stupid because you couldn\u2019t remember something they told you yesterday, they might rephrase it as \u201cWhen you couldn\u2019t remember what I told you yesterday, I felt neglected because I believed that you didn\u2018t listen to me when I told you about it.\u201c<\/p>\n

\u2022 Don\u2019t get stuck on the actual topic of your argument<\/strong> \u2013 it was just a trigger and not the real cause anyway. Instead of debating whether or not you really did whatever your partner accused you of, focus on how their name-calling affects you and makes you feel and ask them to stop.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Set boundaries<\/strong>. Having clearly defined and established boundaries is necessary for a healthy relationship. Figure out what\u2019s unacceptable, and let your partner be aware of it. Enforce those boundaries si se olvidan o si ocurre por accidente, sino si ignoran tus l\u00edmites o los rompen a prop\u00f3sito, it\u2019s a red flag<\/b><\/a>.<\/strong> It means that your partner doesn\u2019t regret their emotionally abusive behavior.<\/p>\n

Dealing with name-calling and other forms of verbal abuse isn\u2019t easy to handle on your own, so you might benefit from seeing a relationship expert.<\/strong> Un consejero deber\u00eda poder guiarte hacia una soluci\u00f3n que funcione para ambos.<\/p>\n

3. Obtener asesoramiento sobre relaciones<\/h3>\n

\"<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re determined to stay together but can\u2019t seem to get a grasp on how to do it, getting professional help can help you save your relationship.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re struggling to establish the best way to communicate, or if your partner resists change, a therapist can help you figure out where it\u2019s coming from and how to deal with it. Using methods and tools that aren\u2019t available to you, they might be able to guide you towards a solution.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Here\u2019s todo lo que necesita saber sobre la terapia de pareja <\/a>.<\/p>\n

\u00bfPoner fin a la relaci\u00f3n?<\/h3>\n

El abuso verbal, y los insultos en particular, suelen conducir a la ruptura si no se tratan. Si tu pareja no est\u00e1 dispuesta a admitir su abuso verbal y a trabajar para cambiar, es posible que tampoco est\u00e9 dispuesta a recibir asesoramiento.<\/p>\n

A relationship goes two ways, and one person can’t fix it on their own<\/strong>. If the abuse is more than you’re prepared to deal with, and if the thought of being with someone who makes you feel bad about yourself is horrible, leaving the relationship might be the only solution.<\/p>\n

Si todav\u00eda quieres intentar salvar tu relaci\u00f3n, tu mejor opci\u00f3n es intentar llegar a tu pareja a trav\u00e9s de asesoramiento psicol\u00f3gico, as\u00ed que insiste en ello.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Abusadores verbales<\/a> whose aim is to damage and hurt their victims can turn to physical abuse when they’re faced with resistance and their partner doesn\u2019t react in the way they imagined. If you feel unsafe or if your partner has shown signs that their behavior might escalate, don\u2019t hesitate to contact the L\u00ednea directa nacional contra la violencia dom\u00e9stica<\/b><\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

C\u00f3mo dejar de insultar en una relaci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

Calling your partner bad names and belittling them won\u2019t resolve your problems. It\u2019ll only damage their psychological and emotional wellness. If you\u2019re the abusive partner<\/a>Pero hay medidas que puedes tomar para dejar de hacerlo.<\/p>\n

Most people don\u2019t actively want to hurt their partners.<\/strong> Name-calling can start as something that at first seems harmless \u2013 a silly nickname that pokes fun at a small flaw and escalates into problematic behavior once name-calling becomes a habit.<\/p>\n

1. Reconozca su comportamiento<\/h3>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Accept that what you\u2019ve been doing is hurtful and damaging to your partner. Comprende tu comportamiento: qu\u00e9 lo causa y c\u00f3mo afecta a tu pareja y acepta tu responsabilidad.<\/strong><\/p>\n

People often don’t realize that what they\u2019re doing is abusive, and once they do, they feel guilty and regret it. Calling someone names doesn’t seem so bad in the heat of the moment during a fight, but afterward, you might be ashamed of your behavior.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you\u2019re in the middle of an argument and can tell that you\u2019re about to start saying mean things to your partner, take a moment to calm down. Impida conscientemente insultar a su pareja.<\/strong><\/p>\n

2. Pedir disculpas<\/h3>\n

Disc\u00falpate inmediatamente cuando insultes a tu pareja. You can\u2019t take back what you said, but you can show your partner that you regret it<\/strong>. Be sincere and remorseful in your apology. Explain to your partner that you\u2019re working on stopping your behavior once and for all.<\/p>\n

An effective apology is one where you accept blame, express genuine regret, and make a firm promise that you\u2019ll try to change.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t skimp on the apology by making it just a formality. La incapacidad de aceptar que tu comportamiento es el problema es no vale la pena perder un <\/b>relaci\u00f3n duradera<\/b> en<\/b><\/a>.<\/strong> Perdona a tu pareja y comprende si tiene cierto recelo hacia ti.<\/p>\n

3. Dejar de echar la culpa a otros<\/h3>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

El comportamiento verbalmente abusivo suele estar causado por trasladar la culpa<\/a>. Culpar a la v\u00edctima de tu comportamiento parece justificar tus actos y te exime de la culpa.<\/strong> Para dejar de hacerlo, asume la responsabilidad de tus actos.<\/p>\n

Once you’re able to accept that it’s only you and not your partner who’s responsible for your behavior, you won’t place expectations on them that are impossible to meet.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Try to see things from your partner\u2019s perspective and understand how much your words hurt them. Debes dejar de esperar que tu pareja act\u00fae de una determinada manera y aceptarla tal como es.<\/strong> Evitar insultarles ser\u00e1 m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil.<\/p>\n

4. Afronta tus sentimientos<\/h3>\n

Hablar con tu pareja de c\u00f3mo te sientes te resultar\u00e1 m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil con la pr\u00e1ctica. Al principio, puede que tengas que forzarte a abrirte, y a medida que lo practiques, you\u2019ll be both more capable of recognizing your emotions, contextualizing them, and talking about them.<\/strong><\/p>\n

S\u00e9 consciente de tus propios pensamientos. Averig\u00fce de d\u00f3nde procede su comportamiento<\/strong>. \u00bfEst\u00e1s reprimiendo algunas emociones negativas hacia tu pareja o tu vida? \u00bfSientes resentimiento, ira, celos, decepci\u00f3n, etc.?<\/p>\n

Understand why you\u2019re attacking your partner and how much it hurts them.<\/strong> People who are emotionally abusive may not be fully aware that this is what they’re doing, or they might be used to doing it without being aware of how damaging it is to their partner.<\/p>\n

5. Aprender a comunicar<\/h3>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Learn to actually own and express your emotions so you can let your partner know how you\u2019re feeling instead of taking the negativity out on them. During an argument when you’re emotional and not thinking straight, name-calling may feel deserved and rational, but you might regret it the moment it comes out of your mouth.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Comportamiento emocionalmente abusivo<\/a> es t\u00f3xico para ambas personas. Los insultos alimentan la ira y la discusi\u00f3n se intensifica, dej\u00e1ndote exhausto y culpable.<\/strong> Pride and anger often won’t let you immediately go back on what you said and apologize, and it causes damage to both you and your partner and your relationship.<\/p>\n

Aprende a escuchar de verdad a tu pareja.<\/strong> Don\u2019t just wait for them to finish so you can talk and prove your point. Practice talking to your partner openly. Let them know how you feel instead of allowing your feelings to cloud your judgment.<\/p>\n

Considera las consecuencias de tus actos y elige hablar s\u00f3lo con amabilidad.<\/strong> Comun\u00edquese con su pareja del modo en que usted desea que se comuniquen con usted: con respeto y comprensi\u00f3n. Si te esfuerzas por ser abierto y amable, puedes aprender a hablar con tu pareja de un modo que te llevar\u00e1 a una mayor intimidad y cercan\u00eda.<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 le hacen a una persona los insultos?<\/h2>\n

Hearing anyone say hurtful words is damaging, but it\u2019s especially cruel from a loved one. El da\u00f1o emocional que causa va m\u00e1s all\u00e1 de los sentimientos heridos.<\/strong> When an emotional abuser repeatedly throws insults, criticism, and put downs on their victim, those words don\u2019t just disappear.<\/p>\n

Con el tiempo, echan ra\u00edces y ambos empiezan a creer en esas ideas.<\/strong> El maltrato emocional cambia a la v\u00edctima<\/a> and causes them to question themselves and their own worth. This can permanently hurt the victim\u2019s self-esteem and ruin their self-confidence, causando depresi\u00f3n y ansiedad.<\/strong><\/p>\n

El maltrato verbal continuado se convierte en una forma habitual de comunicaci\u00f3n en una relaci\u00f3n. Using hurtful words tells the victim that they don’t matter and that their feelings don’t count.<\/strong> Crea una relaci\u00f3n t\u00f3xica en la que los socios se convierten en enemigos en guerra.<\/p>\n

\u2022 It feeds the victim\u2019s insecurities<\/strong>. Verbal abuse reinforces the victim’s insecurities and attacks them where they already feel vulnerable, causing them to feel even more insecure. Also, it\u2019s isolating and makes it difficult for the victim to reach out for help, leaving them feeling unloved and hopeless.<\/p>\n

\u2022 It destroys the victim\u2019s self-worth.<\/strong> When your partner calls you degrading names, it doesn’t only make you feel horrible, it makes you lose self-confidence and manipulates how you feel and what you think about yourself.<\/p>\n

\u2022 It makes the victim feel degraded and inferior.<\/strong> Name-calling makes the victim feel like their potential and abilities are insignificant. They start to perceive themselves through the lens of the insult, making them feel like they’re less than the person they are.<\/p>\n

\u2022 It makes the victim withdraw and shut down.<\/strong> Los ataques constantes hacen que la v\u00edctima quiera abandonar la discusi\u00f3n. En lugar de defenderse, se sienten resignados y dejan de preocuparse por el resultado y por llegar a una soluci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

\u2022 It creates self-doubt.<\/strong> The victim begins to wonder if they’re overreacting and if the abuse isn’t as bad as it seems. They might also begin to blame themselves and start to believe that they deserve it.<\/p>\n

- Destruye la confianza<\/b><\/a>.<\/strong> La falta de respeto y cuidado que se manifiesta en el comportamiento abusivo lleva a la v\u00edctima a perder la fe no s\u00f3lo en s\u00ed misma, sino tambi\u00e9n en su pareja. La persona en la que deber\u00eda poder confiar le est\u00e1 causando dolor, por lo que se hace imposible confiar en ella, causando da\u00f1os en la relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

A menudo, la v\u00edctima quiere tomar represalias o se vuelve t\u00edmida y retra\u00edda.<\/strong> La pareja maltratadora se siente culpable de sus actos, pero aunque deje de hacerlo durante un tiempo A menos que aprendan a lidiar con sus sentimientos, al final vuelven a hacerlo.<\/strong> The victim’s hurt feelings matter for a moment, then they forget about it.<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 psicolog\u00eda hay detr\u00e1s de los insultos?<\/h2>\n

\"Pareja<\/p>\n

Los insultos en una relaci\u00f3n se deben a la frustraci\u00f3n, la inseguridad o la necesidad de controlar a la pareja. Sentirse molesto con una situaci\u00f3n o una persona es normal, pero la forma de reaccionar ante esos sentimientos es lo que marca la diferencia.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Cuando expresas tus sentimientos de forma que queden claros para tu pareja, el efecto en la relaci\u00f3n es positivo. Cuando tu reacci\u00f3n es atacar a tu pareja y hacer que tambi\u00e9n se sienta mal, perjudicas la relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Frustration.<\/strong> This is often caused when one partner feels like the other person is ignoring their feelings. Frustrated with their inability to communicate with their partner, they believe they don’t listen to them and don’t care.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Insecurity.<\/strong> Someone who name-calls is plagued by insecurities. Something in their life isn’t working, and they’re afraid of their feelings. They use the other person as a scapegoat and take it out on them. To get past this, they must get to the root of their insecurities and learn how to cope with their feelings in a productive way.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Control.<\/strong> Verbal abuse is a power play. It’s a medios para controlar a su pareja<\/a>. Hace que la v\u00edctima se sienta mal consigo misma, inferior, avergonzada y abochornada. Les hace dudar de s\u00ed mismos y acent\u00faa sus inseguridades.<\/p>\n

This, in turn, makes them even more dependent on the person who’s telling them those things. Because they feel so bad about themselves, they begin to rely on those moments when their partner acts kindly and makes them feel good. They start to feel worthless and believe that their partner is the only person willing to accept them.<\/p>\n

Insultar en una relaci\u00f3n suele ser un comportamiento aprendido<\/strong> y la \u00fanica forma en que alguien sabe c\u00f3mo reaccionar ante sus sentimientos. Quiz\u00e1 sus padres se comunicaban de la misma manera entre ellos o con ellos, o lo aprendieron a lo largo de la vida. Su incapacidad para expresar y afrontar sus sentimientos negativos les hace arremeter contra otra persona.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Cuando aprenden a expresar estas emociones de forma productiva, la relaci\u00f3n es m\u00e1s sana. Poder compartir lo que sientes con tu pareja aumenta la intimidad y la confianza y os acerca m\u00e1s.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 hacer a partir de ahora?<\/h2>\n

Name calling in a relationship can have a devastating effect on the victim\u2019s emotional and mental health and self-esteem. It\u2019s more often caused by the inability of the abusive partner to deal with their emotions than any intention to truly hurt their significant other.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Para restablecer el respeto, la confianza y la comunicaci\u00f3n, son necesarias la compasi\u00f3n y la comprensi\u00f3n por ambas partes, as\u00ed como el deseo mutuo de trabajar en la relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll become able to stop calling your partner names once you stop shifting blame to your significant other and rationalizing your behavior.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Aprender a expresar los sentimientos con calma y eficacia, y convertirlo en un h\u00e1bito, redundar\u00e1 en una relaci\u00f3n m\u00e1s sana en general.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Your partner is someone who’s supposed to make you feel safe and protected. When they turn into someone who hurts you, your relationship becomes a burden instead of a comfort. Name-calling and other forms of verbal abuse cause a permanent state of dread and make you want to avoid your partner. Name calling in a…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":154609,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29632],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-154602","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-abuse-and-trauma"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29632,"label":"abuse & trauma"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/Name-Calling-In-A-Relationship-Is-Toxic-Heres-How-To-Stop-1024x678.jpg",1024,678,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29632,"name":"abuse & trauma","slug":"abuse-and-trauma","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29632,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","parent":22911,"count":138,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29632,"category_count":138,"category_description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","cat_name":"abuse & trauma","category_nicename":"abuse-and-trauma","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/154602","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=154602"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/154602\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/154609"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=154602"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=154602"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=154602"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}