{"id":155518,"date":"2022-07-07T10:14:28","date_gmt":"2022-07-07T10:14:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=155518"},"modified":"2022-07-15T05:42:27","modified_gmt":"2022-07-15T05:42:27","slug":"revolcandose-en-la-autocompasion","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/revolcandose-en-la-autocompasion\/","title":{"rendered":"20 consejos para dejar de autocompadecerse"},"content":{"rendered":"

Society tends to look down on people who seem weak in the face of their misfortunes. When someone who\u2019s been through a hard time shows that they’re persevering against all odds, they’re praised for being brave.<\/p>\n

Por otro lado, se desprecia a las personas que se autocompadecen<\/strong>. \u2018Stop indulging in a pity party\u2019 is a synonym for telling someone, \u2018Stop being weak and do something about it.\u2019<\/p>\n

Some people aren’t as strong as others, but they still deserve understanding and kindness. Las personas que acaban revolc\u00e1ndose en la autocompasi\u00f3n se hacen da\u00f1o a s\u00ed mismas<\/strong> because they don’t know how to move on or because they get something out of it they can’t get elsewhere.<\/p>\n

If you feel like you’ve been stuck in a rut of self-loathing and wondering why it’s all happening to you, there’s a way to move on, and it all starts with a little self-compassion.<\/p>\n

Deja de compadecerte de ti mismo mediante la autocompasi\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Es dif\u00edcil salir del interminable ciclo de revolcarse en la autocompasi\u00f3n y caer m\u00e1s profundamente en la verg\u00fcenza. The longer you’re stuck in it, the more you get used to feeling sorry for yourself, and moving on seems impossible.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sometimes you just need to catch a break \u2013 all it takes is for one good thing to happen to you and shake things up. But when you feel like the world is against you, a chance to stop feeling broken rarely comes along, so there\u2019s only one thing you can do: crea tus propias oportunidades.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Pretending your feelings don’t exist isn’t a sign of strength. To move on, you need to deal with them. It’s the hardest job you’ll ever have, but doing it will start your transformation.<\/p>\n

1. Empieza con compasi\u00f3n hacia ti mismo<\/h3>\n

Sentir l\u00e1stima por uno mismo es una forma de autodesprecio. You think that whatever you do, you can’t get what you want and only bad things happen to you.<\/strong> Esto te hace envidiar a los que parecen tener la vida resuelta y avergonzarte porque sientes you’re not good enough<\/a>.<\/p>\n

You hate yourself because you have no self-compassion and can’t accept these feelings. Once you choose to tell yourself, ‘It’s okay,’ things will start to get better.<\/strong><\/p>\n

2. Tr\u00e1tate como tratar\u00edas a un amigo<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

How to develop compassion for yourself when you think you’re the worst, so the world is the worst to you? Debe decidir cambiar el odio a uno mismo por el amor propio<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

This love must be unconditional \u2013 debes amarte a ti mismo pase lo que pase<\/strong>. You need to love yourself despite your flaws and things you don’t like about yourself. Only when you get there can you start treating yourself like a loved one.<\/p>\n

Treat yourself how you\u2019d treat a beloved friend if they were in the same situation as you are now.<\/strong><\/p>\n

3. Hablar con un terapeuta<\/h3>\n

Lo que parece autocompasi\u00f3n a veces puede ser depresi\u00f3n cl\u00ednica.<\/p>\n

Visitar a un psicoterapeuta puede ser justo el descanso que necesita,<\/strong> si este es el caso o no. Si est\u00e1 deprimido, le dar\u00e1n medicaci\u00f3n que puede ser profundamente \u00fatil en poco tiempo y le remitir\u00e1n a counseling, which is absolutely necessary when you’re depressed.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you aren’t, talking to a professional is still incredibly helpful for your mental health and will jump-start your journey of moving away from self-pity,<\/p>\n

4. Afronta tus sentimientos<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Bad things happen to everyone, but when you feel like there’s no end to them, falling into a pit of despair is easy. You ask yourself, “Why me? Why is it all happening to you? Why can’t you be happier, healthier, taller, smarter, different?”<\/p>\n

Estos feelings that you don\u2019t deserve to be happy<\/a> \u2013 self-doubt, envy, feeling sorry for yourself, shame \u2013 are still your feelings, and you can’t ignore them.<\/strong> Feel them fully and understand them, and then you’ll be able to deal with them.<\/p>\n

5. Fomentar la autoestima<\/h3>\n

La baja autoestima puede ser tanto la causa como el efecto de la autocompasi\u00f3n, provocando un c\u00edrculo vicioso del que parece no haber escapatoria. Puedes romper el ciclo eligiendo dejar de centrarte en lo negativo:<\/strong> las cosas malas que te han pasado y las malas opiniones que tienes de ti mismo.<\/p>\n

Acept\u00e1ndote a ti mismo es como empiezas fomentar la confianza en uno mismo<\/a>.<\/strong> It’s a long process, taking a day at a time, but it will completely change your outlook and how you live your life.<\/p>\n

6. Toma las riendas de tu vida<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Feeling like bad luck follows you is what makes you believe that your life isn\u2019t under your control. Even so, you must decide that you still have choices. There\u2019s always a choice, no matter how bad things get.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Puedes elegir c\u00f3mo reaccionar: \u00bfte detienes o sigues adelante? En lugar de dejar que los sentimientos de autocompasi\u00f3n te detengan, trabaja para convertir tu l\u00e1stima en compasi\u00f3n y motivaci\u00f3n.<\/strong><\/p>\n

7. Deja de victimizarte<\/h3>\n

When something bad happens, do you just take it? It\u2019s okay not to have the strength to fight back the way you want to, but una cosa que nunca debes hacer es aceptar que las cosas te pasan porque s\u00ed.<\/strong> Esto es mentalidad de v\u00edctima y no hace m\u00e1s que hacerte sentir impotente y perdido.<\/p>\n

Your circumstances might be different than what you\u2019d like them to be, but your life is your own, and you do have control over it.<\/p>\n

8. Asumir la responsabilidad<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

When you decide that you\u2019re done having things happen to you, you assume responsabilidad personal<\/a> por tu vida. Things that happen don\u2019t determine who you are and how you should live \u2013 you\u2019re the only one who does.<\/strong><\/p>\n

To take responsibility means to stop blaming, expecting, and enduring. It means to begin doing, changing, and moving. It\u2019s liberating, and once you choose to make your own decisions and stand behind them, you won\u2019t go back to wallowing in self-pity.<\/strong><\/p>\n

9. Haz cosas que te den una sensaci\u00f3n de logro<\/h3>\n

To feel happy, people need a sense of joy and a sense of accomplishment in their lives. When you\u2019re not feeling okay, both of these might seem like a distant dream, but you can do it.<\/p>\n

Start small and do something good for yourself today that you didn\u2019t do yesterday.<\/strong> Finish any task, no matter how easy, and for now, that\u2019s enough. Do it every day until you feel like you can accomplish more, and soon, those good things will become a habit. Sigue adelante y avanza.<\/strong><\/p>\n

10. Haz cosas que te den alegr\u00eda<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

C\u00f3mo levantar el \u00e1nimo cuando nada te da alegr\u00eda<\/a>? Cuando parezca que nada puede hacerte feliz, busca la chispa m\u00e1s peque\u00f1a. Encuentra la forma de sentir alg\u00fan tipo de bienestar y hazlo con regularidad.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Maybe pampering yourself won\u2019t make you happy, but it feels good. Playing with a pet or a child can put a smile on your face. Talking to a loved one, listening to your favorite song, taking a walk, or anything that seems like it should make you happy might not do it right now, but keep doing them.<\/p>\n

Even if you believe that these little things aren\u2019t doing anything, they are \u2013 you just need to let yourself feel it.<\/strong><\/p>\n

11. Ayudar a otras personas<\/h3>\n

Calling someone less fortunate isn’t helpful because to everyone, their own struggle is the hardest. Still, Ayudar a otras personas con sus problemas desplaza tu perspectiva de tus propios problemas.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When you do things for others, you feel like you\u2019re part of something bigger than yourself. Making someone’s life a little easier is its own reward, but it also helps you feel connected to others and shifts the focus from yourself.<\/strong><\/p>\n

12. Afronta tus problemas de uno en uno<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t solve everything that\u2019s bothering you at once and magically become a new version of yourself. Things, unfortunately, don\u2019t work that way. You must, however, start somewhere.<\/p>\n

Un problema menos significa m\u00e1s de lo que crees.<\/strong> By dealing with what bothers you one at a time, the list gets shorter. Think about it this way: in a year\u2019s time, do you want things to be the same or better?<\/p>\n

13. Learn to accept what you can’t change<\/h3>\n

You already know that you should let go of things, but how can you do that when you\u2019re still feeling the effects? Te dejas llevar haciendo todo lo posible por mejorar las cosas, entonces accepting that there are some things you can\u2019t change<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

This doesn\u2019t mean that you should be complacent and accept everything but that you should do the best you can with what you have and work on the things that can be different.<\/p>\n

14. Practicar la fortaleza<\/h3>\n

\"chica<\/p>\n

Bottling up your feelings isn\u2019t what being strong is about. Feel your pain, disappointment, sense of inadequacy, but then choose to be positive \u2013 this is qu\u00e9 significa ser fuerte<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Estar en contacto con tu mente y tus sentimientos, y luego hacer todo lo posible con lo que tienes es duro. Rendirse y sucumbir a la autocompasi\u00f3n es m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil, pero duele m\u00e1s. Choose today to do something good with your life, and tomorrow, you\u2019ll be better.<\/strong> Cuanto m\u00e1s practiques, m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil te resultar\u00e1.<\/p>\n

15. Entender qu\u00e9 es realmente la fuerza de voluntad<\/h3>\n

People who accomplish something that seems unreachable are praised for their willpower, but do you really know what that means? Willpower isn\u2019t going against what you want \u2013 it\u2019s the opposite: it\u2019s finding the strength to do something difficult because you want it so much.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Once you decide that you want to stop wallowing in self-pity and change your life, you\u2019ll be able to do it. Cuando realmente quieres algo, hacer lo que sea para conseguirlo es f\u00e1cil.<\/strong><\/p>\n

16. Reconocer el pensamiento negativo<\/h3>\n

\"chica<\/p>\n

When you think negative thoughts regularly, they become part of you, and you don\u2019t realize that this is what they are. Aprende a identificar los pensamientos negativos para poder frenarlos en seco.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Los pensamientos negativos aparecen en tu mente por s\u00ed solos e influyen en tu comportamiento. They\u2019re not helpful and hold you back.<\/strong> Aprende a reconocerlos y a desafiarlos.<\/p>\n

17. Encontrar un sentido de gratitud<\/h3>\n

La autocompasi\u00f3n puede ser autoindulgente. There\u2019s a comfort in helplessness and blaming the world that can give you a sense of validation, but it only hurts you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Instead of focusing on everything that\u2019s gone wrong, choose to feel grateful for the good things. There\u2019s always something that you have that you\u2019re taking for granted<\/strong>. Cuenta tus bendiciones y s\u00e9 agradecido<\/a>. Esta perspectiva positiva puede cambiar tu vida a mejor.<\/p>\n

18. Aprender a adaptarse<\/h3>\n

\"chica<\/p>\n

What about the things you don\u2019t like and can\u2019t change? Once you accept them, you must learn to work with what you have. Adaptarse a las circunstancias es la \u00fanica forma de crecer.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Clinging to the things you\u2019re unhappy about only brings more unhappiness. Cuando eliges c\u00f3mo reaccionar ante las cosas que te ocurren, las decepciones pueden convertirse en oportunidades.<\/strong><\/p>\n

19. Vivir el presente<\/h3>\n

Quedarse atascado en el pasado y darle vueltas a las cosas que pasaron s\u00f3lo te frena. Elegir vivir el aqu\u00ed y el ahora es lo que necesitas para seguir adelante.<\/strong> Don\u2019t let the past rob you of your present and future.<\/p>\n

Practicar la atenci\u00f3n plena<\/a> para centrarse en el momento presente.<\/strong> C\u00e9ntrate en las cosas que son, no en las que sol\u00edan ser y en las que podr\u00edan ser.<\/p>\n

20. Elegir avanzar<\/h3>\n

If you\u2018ve gone through all the tips, you\u2019ve learned one thing: t\u00fa haces tu propio camino<\/strong>. Life doesn\u2019t happen to you \u2013 you\u2019re the one who makes your own choices. So choose to move forward.<\/p>\n

Embrace change and realize that you\u2019re in control<\/strong>. Be kind and patient with yourself, but show yourself love by doing what\u2019s best for you, and that\u2019s deciding to stop wallowing in self-pity.<\/p>\n

En resumen<\/h2>\n

\"chica<\/p>\n

Para dejar de revolcarte en la autocompasi\u00f3n y encontrar la validaci\u00f3n que necesitas en otra parte, tienes que aprender a quererte a ti mismo y demostrar ese amor de todas las formas necesarias. When you love someone, you\u2019ll do things that are good for them, no matter how difficult and unpleasant they might be.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When you feel love and compassion for yourself, you\u2019ll understand why self-pity only hurts you and do your best to move on.<\/p>\n

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