{"id":155866,"date":"2022-07-14T12:21:03","date_gmt":"2022-07-14T12:21:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=155866"},"modified":"2023-04-07T08:18:07","modified_gmt":"2023-04-07T08:18:07","slug":"no-negociables-en-una-relacion","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/no-negociables-en-una-relacion\/","title":{"rendered":"22 cosas no negociables en una relaci\u00f3n para todas las parejas"},"content":{"rendered":"

Let\u2019s be honest: sometimes, there is a thin line between los rompedores de acuerdos<\/a> y siendo demasiado exigente<\/a>. Quiero decir, hay una gran diferencia entre tener normas<\/a> y yendo en una b\u00fasqueda in\u00fatil.<\/p>\n

However, there are some non-negotiables you shouldn\u2019t even think about compromising on if you want a good relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1les son esas cosas no negociables? \u00bfC\u00f3mo se establecen? S\u00f3lo hay una forma de averiguarlo: \u00a1seguir leyendo!<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 es lo que no es negociable en una relaci\u00f3n?<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

La palabra lo dice todo: los aspectos no negociables de una relaci\u00f3n son aquellos sobre los que nunca se debe negociar. Por mucho que el compromiso sea importante para el \u00e9xito de una relaci\u00f3n, cuando se trata de estas cosas, hay no existe el t\u00e9rmino medio<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Usted y su pareja deben tener el mismo (o al menos similar) punto de vista cuando se cuestionen estos valores fundamentales.<\/p>\n

What is even more important is to talk about these non-negotiables before things get too serious \u2013 to save both of you the trouble and pain.<\/p>\n

22 puntos no negociables en una relaci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

\u00bfDeber\u00edan usted y su pareja tener puntos de vista compatibles respecto a cada una de estas cosas? Por supuesto que s\u00ed. S\u00e9 que parece mucho, pero cr\u00e9eme, \u00a1cada uno de los puntos mencionados a continuaci\u00f3n es una condici\u00f3n para una relaci\u00f3n amorosa!<\/strong><\/p>\n

1. Fidelidad<\/h3>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 significa para usted la fidelidad? Y lo que es m\u00e1s importante, \u00bfsignifica lo mismo para tu pareja?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tienes que ser consciente de una cosa: no a todo el mundo le gusta la monogamia. Algunos prefieren relaciones abiertas<\/a> o relaciones poliamorosas<\/a>. And there is nothing wrong about that \u2013 as long as everyone involved knows exactly what they\u2019re getting themselves into.<\/p>\n

Si eliges la monogamia, debes establecer qu\u00e9 es el enga\u00f1o. Es coqueteo infidelidad<\/a>? \u00bfD\u00f3nde se cruza la l\u00ednea y qu\u00e9 comportamiento se considera inaceptable?<\/p>\n

2. Lealtad<\/h3>\n

Otra cosa en la que debes estar de acuerdo al iniciar una nueva relaci\u00f3n es la fidelidad. Ten en cuenta que hay una diferencia entre ser fiel y ser leal<\/a>.<\/p>\n

La lealtad consiste en permanecer unidos en las buenas y en las malas.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Of course, you can\u2019t expect unconditional loyalty from someone you\u2019ve just met. However, if you want a serious relationship, it is definitely a deal-breaker.<\/p>\n

3. Respetar<\/h3>\n

Uno de los principales aspectos no negociables en una relaci\u00f3n es el respeto. Cr\u00e9eme, no puede haber amor cuando hay ning\u00fan respeto<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sin embargo, antes de nada, hay que definir qu\u00e9 significa el respeto para ambos. \u00bfSe trata s\u00f3lo de no insultarse delante de los dem\u00e1s? \u00bfEs no insultarse y no cruzar nunca la l\u00ednea incluso cuando os pele\u00e1is?<\/p>\n

\u00bfO tambi\u00e9n incluye aceptar a tu pareja por lo que es sin intentar cambiar la esencia de su ser?<\/p>\n

Keep one thing in mind: you can\u2019t demand respect if you don\u2019t respect yourself first!<\/p>\n

4. Independencia<\/h3>\n

Just because you promised to be faithful to this one person doesn\u2019t mean that they\u2019ve automatically got the right to control your entire life. It doesn\u2019t mean that they can rip you of your individuality and take away your independence.<\/p>\n

Si quieres que tu relaci\u00f3n rom\u00e1ntica funcione, tienes que determinar qu\u00e9 niveles de libertad son aceptables.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfTe parece bien que tu pareja tenga amigos \u00edntimos del sexo opuesto? \u00bfTe molesta que a menudo salga con sus amigos sin incluirte?<\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1les son las decisiones que deb\u00e9is tomar en equipo y cu\u00e1les pod\u00e9is tomar solos?<\/p>\n

5. Dinero<\/h3>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s another non-negotiable thing you must talk to your romantic partner about before planning a future together: finances. S\u00e9 que \u00e9ste es uno de los temas que a todos nos gustar\u00eda evitar, pero, por desgracia, el dinero es una parte importante de tu vida.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You can\u2019t expect to have a successful relationship with someone who saves every extra buck they make if you live every day like it\u2019s your last and don\u2019t give a damn about financial stability. I\u2019m not saying either lifestyle is wrong \u2013 I\u2019m just pointing out that they\u2019re different and you\u2019ll have a big problem in the future.<\/p>\n

6. 6. Creencias religiosas<\/h3>\n

No, this doesn\u2019t mean that you and your partner must have the same religious beliefs or that you have to have any religious beliefs at all. However, si sus creencias religiosas afectar\u00e1n a su relaci\u00f3n en el futuro.<\/strong><\/p>\n

What if their family doesn\u2019t approve of them dating someone from another religion? What if you\u2019re strictly religious, but they think every faith is nonsense and think less of you because of your beliefs?<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 pasar\u00e1 si decides tener hijos? \u00bfOs pondr\u00e9is de acuerdo sobre su educaci\u00f3n? \u00bfY si quieres educarlos en tu religi\u00f3n mientras que tu pareja quiere ense\u00f1arles el ate\u00edsmo?<\/p>\n

7. Familia<\/h3>\n

Your family is a huge part of your life, and it\u2019s natural that you want to include them in your goals for the future. And your SO feels the same way. That is exactly why this is one of the important non-negotiables in a relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfCon qu\u00e9 frecuencia debe visitar su familia pol\u00edtica<\/a> si te casas? \u00bfHasta qu\u00e9 punto podr\u00e1n interferir en tu vida?<\/p>\n

What about your parents? What will happen when they grow old? Let\u2019s say that you plan on moving them somewhere near you, but your partner strongly opposes that idea?<\/p>\n

What about your siblings? Maybe you plan on having them over at your house all the time, while your SO doesn\u2019t see a reason to be so close with their brother and sister?<\/p>\n

8. Amigos<\/h3>\n

Lo mismo ocurre con los amigos. En primer lugar, hay un aspecto social en esta lista innegociable, y es exactamente por eso que las relaciones entre introvertidos y extrovertidos son tan dif\u00edciles.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Por un lado, tenemos a alguien que quiere pasar todo su tiempo libre con gente. Le gusta hacer fiestas, barbacoas los domingos y recibir invitados. Por otro lado, t\u00fa eres una persona introvertida que desprecia las reuniones sociales. \u00bfQu\u00e9 se puede hacer?<\/p>\n

And let\u2019s not forget about your best friends who are almost like family? Maybe your partner doesn\u2019t understand when you go running to your best friend\u2019s house in the middle of the night just because they need you.<\/p>\n

9. Ni\u00f1os<\/h3>\n

Este es probablemente uno de los puntos no negociables m\u00e1s importantes en una relaci\u00f3n: los hijos. En primer lugar, tienes que decidir si quieres tener hijos o no.<\/p>\n

Aqu\u00ed no hay nada que comprometer. It\u2019s not like you\u2019ll agree to have kids just because your partner is a persona orientada a la familia<\/a><\/strong>. You know that a child is not a toy, and you can\u2019t choose to have one just to please your loved one.<\/p>\n

Por supuesto, va en ambos sentidos. It\u2019s not fair to sentence someone to a childless life just because it\u2019s what you want.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Basically, there is no middle ground here. Trust me, if you aren\u2019t compatible in regards to this, neither of you will change your minds along the way.<\/p>\n

But your troubles won\u2019t end if you both agree to have children. What if one of you is happy with one child while the other dreams of having a huge family?<\/p>\n

\u00bfY si ten\u00e9is puntos de vista completamente opuestos sobre la paternidad y la crianza de vuestros hijos imaginarios? \u00a1Estas son todas las cosas que deb\u00e9is discutir a tiempo!<\/p>\n

10. Abuso<\/h3>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

This should go without saying, but I\u2019ll say it anyhow: there should be zero tolerance for abuse when starting a new relationship. And it\u2019s crucial for you to make this absolutely clear to your partner!<\/strong><\/p>\n

No, I\u2019m not only talking about physical abuse. I\u2019m talking about other formas de violencia<\/a>como el maltrato verbal y emocional.<\/p>\n

No hay ning\u00fan compromiso al respecto, y deber\u00eda ser uno de los aspectos m\u00e1s importantes a tener en cuenta.<\/p>\n

11. Creencias pol\u00edticas<\/h3>\n

\u00bfRecuerdas que hablamos de la religi\u00f3n como uno de los aspectos no negociables en una relaci\u00f3n? Pues bien, las creencias pol\u00edticas suelen ir de la mano de las religiosas.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re both political, this non-negotiable shouldn\u2019t concern you much.<\/p>\n

Pero vamos, let\u2019s say that you\u2019re a socially-progressive liberal. Can you really picture yourself spending the rest of your life with someone who doesn\u2019t support civil rights and individual freedoms?<\/strong><\/p>\n

S\u00ed, podr\u00edais acordar no estar de acuerdo en este asunto, pero tarde o temprano, tu diferencias pol\u00edticas<\/a> probablemente saldr\u00e1 a la superficie.<\/p>\n

12. Valores morales<\/h3>\n

Lo mismo ocurre con la moral valores fundamentales<\/a>. Basically, you and your partner must have the same or similar definition of what\u2019s right and what\u2019s wrong.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s what moral values are all about \u2013 a certain set of rules and guidelines you live your life by. They\u2019re the compass that you follow every day.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfY si te encuentras en una relaci\u00f3n con alguien que tiene unos valores fundamentales completamente distintos? En el fondo, la consideras una mala persona y juzgas sus decisiones vitales.<\/p>\n

13. 13. Objetivos para el futuro<\/h3>\n

There is no doubt about one thing: you and your partner should have compatible goals for the future. Yes, it\u2019s true that nobody can predict what will happen with complete certainty. You most certainly can\u2019t know for sure whether something will get in the way of these plans.<\/p>\n

However, you can at least have similar five or ten-year plans \u2013 if you want to make your relationship work.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Esto deber\u00eda incluir el lugar donde quiere vivir, el tipo de familia que desea tener, sus planes matrimoniales y, en general, el tipo de vida que aspira a construir.<\/p>\n

14. Honestidad<\/h3>\n

I\u2019m warning you: don\u2019t compromise with honesty unless you want to jeopardize your happiness, peace, and mental health. You have to be on the same page about this with your partner; otherwise, you\u2019ll find yourself facing a big problem.<\/p>\n

Make sure you both know that harsh truth is always better than a comforting lie \u2013 if you want to avoid some serious trust issues in the future.<\/strong><\/p>\n

15. Crecimiento personal<\/h3>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t be happy in a relationship, as much as you love your partner, if you\u2019re not happy with your own life. That\u2019s why you must be with someone who encourages your crecimiento personal<\/a> y el bienestar.<\/p>\n

Esta es la persona que inspirar\u00e1 su amor propio<\/a> y ayudar a su autoestima<\/a> crecer.<\/strong> Alguien que te empuje hacia adelante cuando m\u00e1s lo necesites y que crea en ti, incluso cuando pierdas la fe en ti mismo.<\/p>\n

Ni que decir tiene que esto va en ambos sentidos.<\/p>\n

16. Celos<\/h3>\n

Some people are allergic to the smallest signs of jealousy. On the other hand, some see it as a sign of love \u2013 as long as it\u2019s not unhealthy.<\/p>\n

Where do you and your partner stand on this one? Sometimes, it\u2019s about small things, such as following your exes on social media or having a best friend of the opposite sex.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Even though these things might not seem like a big deal in the beginning, they can eventually cause a big fuss in your romantic relationship if you don\u2019t resolve them right away.<\/p>\n

17. Compromiso<\/h3>\n

A pesar de que el compromiso es probablemente una de las palabras m\u00e1s aterradoras en el idioma ingl\u00e9s cuando se trata de citas modernas, sigue siendo uno de los no negociables m\u00e1s importantes en una relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Actually, wait \u2013 firstly, you have to establish whether you\u2019ll call your situationship a relationship. \u00bfLo etiquetar\u00e1s?<\/a> \u00bfy cu\u00e1ndo ocurrir\u00e1?<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfEst\u00e1n los dos plenamente comprometidos con su romance? \u00bfQu\u00e9 significa esto para su pareja? \u00bfVen un futuro juntos?<\/p>\n

Quiero decir, lo \u00faltimo que quieres es so\u00f1ar con tu felices para siempre<\/a>, just to find out that you\u2019ve been salir con una persona con fobia al compromiso<\/a> todo el tiempo.<\/p>\n

18. Intimidad<\/h3>\n

Yes, I\u2019m talking about intimidad f\u00edsica<\/a>. Let\u2019s be honest \u2013 you can\u2019t have a good relationship if things aren\u2019t working out between the sheets.<\/p>\n

S\u00ed, esto es algo que se puede trabaj\u00f3 en<\/a>. Sin embargo, es fundamental que usted y su pareja est\u00e9n de acuerdo en lo que respecta a la intimidad.<\/strong><\/p>\n

That is, unless you want to end up spending the rest of your life with someone who has a completely different level of libido than yours. Or with someone who doesn\u2019t enjoy the same things you do.<\/p>\n

19. Abuso de sustancias<\/h3>\n

How do you feel about heavy drinking every once and a while? Don\u2019t get me started on anything more serious.<\/p>\n

Quiero decir, incluso los cigarrillos pueden ser un gran problema cuando compartes la vida con alguien, por no hablar del abuso de sustancias.<\/strong><\/p>\n

20. Fiabilidad<\/h3>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Dependability is basically the ability to trust someone. But I\u2019m not talking about the fact that you trust your partner not to lie to you.<\/p>\n

Dependability is about being able to rely on your person, no matter the circumstances. It\u2019s about knowing they won\u2019t leave your side, whatever happens.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It\u2019s knowing that you can count on them to take care of your well-being and trust them to always put you first.<\/p>\n

Among other things, it\u2019s about believing in their promises and knowing that their words will always match their actions.<\/p>\n

21. Carrera<\/h3>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 importancia tiene la carrera profesional para ambos? \u00bfSacrificar\u00edas tu vida amorosa por ello?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s say that you have to move across state for a better job. Would you leave everything behind and do it? What if you\u2019re dating someone who sees their job as a way to make ends meet and nothing else?<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 te parece tener hijos y formar una familia? \u00bfAlguno de vosotros aceptar\u00eda quedarse en casa? \u00bfElegir\u00edais vuestra carrera antes que tener hijos?<\/p>\n

Hay algunos de los preguntas profundas<\/a> \u00a1tienes que preguntar a tu pareja rom\u00e1ntica antes de empezar una relaci\u00f3n seria!<\/p>\n

22. Energ\u00eda<\/h3>\n

I\u2019ll be honest with you: this one is the hardest to explain. But simply put, it\u2019s your intuici\u00f3n<\/a> dici\u00e9ndote que la persona sentada a tu lado es la adecuada para ti.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sometimes, everything seems great from the outside, but they don\u2019t match your vibe. They don\u2019t bring positivity into your life, or you don\u2019t appreciate their sense of humor.<\/p>\n

Despite everything, you don\u2019t see yourself with this person. And that is not something you should compromise on!<\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo se fijan los aspectos no negociables en una relaci\u00f3n?<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

It\u2019s actually pretty simple to set non-negotiables in a relationship: ...comunicas desde el principio todos tus puntos d\u00e9biles.<\/strong> Don\u2019t get me wrong \u2013 I\u2019m not saying that you should ask your potential partner about their religious beliefs on the first date.<\/p>\n

However, the moment you see that you\u2019re no longer dating and that it\u2019s becoming a long-term relationship, you have to open Pandora\u2019s box.<\/p>\n

El mayor problema de la mayor\u00eda de las parejas es que se niegan a abordar estas cuestiones a tiempo y no son sinceros al respecto.<\/p>\n

I get it, you\u2019re madly in love with your boyfriend or girlfriend, and the last thing you want is to reveal that your core values are opposed to theirs. So you pretend to be someone you\u2019re not.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Or even worse, you expect that they\u2019ll change along the way.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You know that you\u2019re dating a heavy smoker. At the same time, you know you can\u2019t stand being in a room where someone smokes.<\/p>\n

But instead of talking to your significant other about this, you hope that, miraculously, they\u2019ll stop smoking one day.<\/p>\n

Of course, this is just an example of what can happen \u2013 you\u2019ve got yourself an even bigger problem when there are more important things in question, like children and finances.<\/p>\n

En resumen, la clave para resolver estas cosas no negociables est\u00e1 en la comunicaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Para terminar:<\/h2>\n

The main question is: Can a couple make things work if they don\u2019t agree on non-negotiables in a relationship? I\u2019ll be honest with you and tell you that it\u2019s not likely to happen.<\/p>\n

Esta es una de esas horribles situaciones en las que el amor no es suficiente<\/a>, as much as you want it to be. When there is no compatibility between two people (and that\u2019s exactly what these non-negotiable things are all about), in most cases, everything else is in vain.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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