{"id":156811,"date":"2022-08-09T14:58:05","date_gmt":"2022-08-09T14:58:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=156811"},"modified":"2022-12-05T16:45:31","modified_gmt":"2022-12-05T16:45:31","slug":"ella-dice-que-necesita-tiempo-cuanto-tiempo-debo-esperar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/ella-dice-que-necesita-tiempo-cuanto-tiempo-debo-esperar\/","title":{"rendered":"Dice que necesita tiempo, \u00bfcu\u00e1nto tiempo debo esperar?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Lo primero es lo primero: no hay por qu\u00e9 preocuparse ni angustiarse si actualmente est\u00e1s en una situaci\u00f3n de \"necesito algo de espacio\" con tu novia.<\/p>\n

The probability that it means the end of the relationship is low \u2013 it\u2019s more likely that she\u2019s actually trying to make your relationship work<\/b> by giving the both of you a chance to think about it. That, or she\u2019s going through some personal stuff.<\/p>\n

The chances of a breakup are low, but not zero, so if you had done something that could cause her to consider a breakup, you\u2019d probably already have a pretty good idea of what’s going on. In that case, empieza a trabajar en tus disculpas si quieres salvar tu relaci\u00f3n, y hazlo en serio.<\/b><\/p>\n

So, if you hadn\u2019t messed up in some way, you\u2019re thinking, \u201cIf she says she needs time, how long should I wait before contacting my girlfriend?\u201d Truthfully, you should wait as long as you\u2019re willing to wait for her.<\/b><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s see what that means, how to know what\u2019s on her mind and what you should do.<\/p>\n

Dice que necesita tiempo, \u00bfcu\u00e1nto tiempo debo esperar?<\/h2>\n

\"un<\/p>\n

Cuando tu novia te dice que necesita algo de espacio, inevitablemente te enfrentas a un dilema: \u00bfhaces lo que te dice y respetas sus deseos de mantenerse alejada o le demuestras que te importa poni\u00e9ndote en contacto con ella?<\/p>\n

Siempre debe elegir la primera opci\u00f3n.<\/b><\/p>\n

If she\u2019s honest about needing space, she\u2019ll appreciate that you\u2019re taking her wishes seriously instead of disrespecting her boundaries. If she\u2019s testing you to see if you\u2019ll fight for her in some imaginary struggle, you\u2019re refusing to play her games and base your relationship on deception.<\/p>\n

When you decide to give her the space she needs, you\u2019re now in another predicament. \u201cShe says she needs time. How long should I wait?\u201d you\u2019re probably thinking. Este <\/b>tipo de<\/i><\/b> tiene una respuesta clara: de una semana a un mes.<\/b><\/p>\n

She might contact you sooner, and it\u2019s possible that she might need longer than a month, but the longer it takes, the more likely it is that she doesn\u2019t want to stay in the relationship. But it\u2019s \u2018kind of\u2019 because the answer to this question still depends on a number of factors which only you know.<\/b><\/p>\n

\u2022 How new is the relationship? If you\u2019ve been together for a while, you might be able to figure out what she wants.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Have you been having relationship problems? What happened before she asked for time?<\/p>\n

\u2022 How strong is your conexi\u00f3n emocional<\/a>? \u00bfSon honestos y sinceros el uno con el otro?<\/p>\n

\u2022 How do you feel about her and do you know how she feels about you? Don\u2019t look for a solution by thinking in terms of what women want, but consider what ella<\/i> quiere.<\/p>\n

\u2022 How much do you trust her? Do you believe that she’ll come back?<\/p>\n

\u2022 Did you do anything to hurt her?<\/p>\n

Piensa detenidamente en estas preguntas y luego espera el tiempo que creas que ella necesita.<\/b><\/p>\n

Taking some time for yourself isn\u2019t a bad thing. Un poco de espacio es saludable en una relaci\u00f3n<\/b>pero cuando te pide distancia, te da miedo porque te preocupa que quiera romper.<\/p>\n

When she talks to you about needing time, it\u2019s a good idea to ask her how much time she needs and what does <\/b>media espacial<\/b> a ella.<\/b> Puede que ella y t\u00fa teng\u00e1is ideas diferentes sobre lo que significa: puede que ella quiera decir que os ve\u00e1is menos o que no os ve\u00e1is en absoluto.<\/p>\n

Si desea un relaci\u00f3n sana<\/a>, you\u2019ll take her wishes into account. Don’t make her explain why, but ask her how she wants you to deal with it. Maybe your girlfriend wants occasional contact, maybe she wants none.<\/p>\n

Dale tiempo para que se ocupe de lo que necesita y, despu\u00e9s del tiempo que dijo que quer\u00eda, ponte en contacto con ella. If she still needs time, don\u2019t try to pressure her, but give her the additional time she needs.<\/b><\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 quiere decir cuando dice que necesita tiempo?<\/h2>\n

Tratar de entender lo que no se dijo puede complicarte mucho la vida sentimental. Cuando tu novia dice que necesita tiempo, \u00bfa qu\u00e9 se refiere?<\/b> Of course, the best way to find out is through honest communication, but if she\u2019s not ready to talk about it, you\u2019re left with worry.<\/p>\n

Repasa esta lista de posibles razones por las que podr\u00eda <\/b>necesito tiempo<\/b> pensando en c\u00f3mo es vuestra relaci\u00f3n. <\/b>You\u2019ll be able to find a lot of clues for what the real answer is if you closely think about your particular circumstances.<\/p>\n

1. Necesita tiempo para s\u00ed misma<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Sometimes when she says she needs alone time, she just needs some alone time and it has nothing to do with you or anyone else. When she needs space because she\u2019s busy, has a lot on her plate or she\u2019s simply tired, sometimes that’s all there is to it. There\u2019s no need to complicate the situation.<\/b><\/p>\n

2. Tiene problemas personales no relacionados contigo<\/h3>\n

Puede que tenga problemas con su familia, que le ocurra algo en el trabajo o que tenga problemas de salud mental, por lo que necesita tiempo para afrontarlos. There\u2019s no need to be hurt that she isn\u2019t discussing these things with you<\/b> \u2013 maybe her way of working through her problems is that she needs to completely focus on them, so anyone\u2019s help might be unwelcome.<\/p>\n

3. Necesita tiempo lejos de ti<\/h3>\n

If you\u2019ve been coming on too strong, she might be overwhelmed by you. If you spend too much time together, she might need time to feel like an individual instead of always being a part of a couple. Necesita recuperar parte de su independencia.<\/b><\/p>\n

It might be tempting to take this to heart and get angry or offended, but accepting each other\u2019s boundaries is part of a healthy relationship. Right now she\u2019s setting hers, so by respecting them, you\u2019re creating a basis of a successful relationship.<\/p>\n

4. She thinks you’re moving too fast<\/h3>\n

Examine your behavior. Have you placed responsibility for your feelings on her? Did you say \u2018I love you\u2019 after you\u2019ve been dating for a month? Are you looking at her for validation instead of having confidence in your self-worth?<\/p>\n

Cuando alguien est\u00e1 necesitado e inseguro<\/b><\/a>tienden a encari\u00f1arse demasiado r\u00e1pido con sus parejas rom\u00e1nticas.<\/b> You need to think hard about your behavior to figure out if you\u2019ve been acting that way. If you have, use the time apart to start working on your self-esteem.<\/p>\n

5. She’s angry with you<\/h3>\n

Have you done something and when you tried to ask her to forgive you, all she said was \u201cI need space?\u201d If she\u2019s angry with you, don\u2019t just wait for her to forgive you and come back. Debes reflexionar sobre tus actos, pensar en c\u00f3mo la heriste, decidir <\/b>c\u00f3mo compensarla<\/b><\/a> y prepara tu disculpa.<\/b><\/p>\n

When you apologize, you must mean it and accept responsibility for what you\u2019ve done. You must be prepared to make changes.<\/p>\n

6. She thinks it’s you who needs time<\/h3>\n

Al decirle que necesita tiempo, puede que en realidad te est\u00e9 dando tiempo porque piensa que necesitas trabajar en algunas cosas. Puede que est\u00e9s atascado con un ex, que tengas problemas para comprometerte, que hagas repetidamente cosas que ella te pide que no hagas.<\/p>\n

Think about what led to her asking for space \u2013 probablemente ya te dijo cu\u00e1l era el problema.<\/b><\/p>\n

7. She doesn’t know how to talk to you<\/h3>\n

\"un<\/p>\n

She might have a problem she doesn\u2019t know how to talk about or she\u2019s afraid of how you might react. If you don\u2019t know c\u00f3mo comunicar eficazmente <\/a>entre vosotros, puede causar muchos problemas en vuestra relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Los dos ten\u00e9is que aprender a hablaros. <\/b>It starts by listening and looking to understand each other without judgment. Let her know that you\u2019re willing to listen.<\/p>\n

8. She doesn’t want a serious relationship<\/h3>\n

If you\u2019ve only been dating for a while and you made it clear you want something serious, she might need time to think about it. Commitment is a big step which shouldn\u2019t be taken lightly.<\/b><\/p>\n

It might be too soon or she\u2019s not looking for a serious relationship right now, so it\u2019s better to take a step back to make sure you\u2019re on the same page. If your values aren\u2019t the same, there\u2019s a chance that things won\u2019t work out, so don\u2019t uninstall your online dating apps just yet.<\/p>\n

9. She’s unsure of her feelings<\/h3>\n

It\u2019s perfectly normal to have doubts about your feelings. Realizing how you feel about someone is sometimes easier when you\u2019re apart. If she\u2019s not sure about how she feels about you and your relationship, she made the decision to take some time and think about it.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t push and make her decide right away.<\/b> Dale la oportunidad de dar sentido a sus sentimientos y averiguar lo que realmente quiere.<\/p>\n

10. She’s unhappy in your relationship<\/h3>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo tratas a tu novia? S\u00e9 sincero contigo mismo y piensa si le das cari\u00f1o con regularidad, le demuestras que la aprecias y te esfuerzas para que vuestra relaci\u00f3n funcione.<\/p>\n

If she thinks you’ve been taking her for granted or that you don\u2019t listen to her, she\u2019s <\/b>infeliz en su relaci\u00f3n<\/b><\/a> y necesita dar un paso atr\u00e1s. <\/b>Esta es tu oportunidad de comprometerte a hacer cambios si quieres conservarla.<\/p>\n

11. Quiere decidir si vuestra relaci\u00f3n merece la pena<\/h3>\n

Relationships have their ups and downs. At the end of the day, it\u2019s important that there are more good than bad things about it because otherwise, what\u2019s the point? Si tu relaci\u00f3n te hace desgraciada y no te hace feliz, \u00bfpor qu\u00e9 quedarte?<\/b><\/p>\n

Si tu novia est\u00e1 pasando por el proceso de averiguar c\u00f3mo se siente respecto a vuestra relaci\u00f3n, necesita tiempo para sopesar los pros y los contras y controlarse a s\u00ed misma.<\/p>\n

12. She’s interested in someone else<\/h3>\n

Your girlfriend might be interested in someone else, but if that option isn\u2019t secure, she\u2019s keeping you on the hook in case things don\u2019t work out with them.<\/p>\n

Have you ever noticed that she\u2019s showing interest in someone else, such as talking to them online a lot or talking about them like she can\u2019t help herself but bring them up? If you figure out for sure that you’re just a fallback for her, it\u2019s best to move on.<\/b><\/p>\n

13. She’s playing games<\/h3>\n

She might be testing you or trying to gain the upper hand in the relationship. If she\u2019s manipulative and does things to ensure that she has all the power, asking for space might be one of her tactics.<\/p>\n

Someone like this isn\u2019t really interested in you, only in what you can give them.<\/b> Si she\u2019s playing games<\/a> with you, she doesn\u2019t take you seriously, so think honestly about her behavior so far and you\u2019ll be able to tell if she has feelings for you or if she\u2019s just using you.<\/p>\n

14. She’s thinking of ending things<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Maybe she\u2019s not 100% sure that she wants to break up, but she\u2019s considering it, so she might be taking time to think about it and see what it\u2019s like to be on her own. Si piensa en su relaci\u00f3n, puede encontrar algunas pistas de que esto est\u00e1 ocurriendo.<\/b><\/p>\n

\u00bfLas cosas han ido mal? \u00bfEs claramente infeliz? \u00bfSe ha mostrado distante incluso antes de pedir tiempo? Pueden ser se\u00f1ales de que quiere dejar la relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

15. She’s thinks she’s letting you down gently<\/h3>\n

Por desgracia, a veces necesitar tiempo es un c\u00f3digo para romper contigo sin decirlo. En lugar de decirte que quiere <\/b>romper<\/b>, she\u2019s letting things fade away. <\/b>The reason she\u2019s doing it might be because she doesn\u2019t want to hurt your feelings, or she\u2019s being cowardly and letting time do what she should do herself.<\/p>\n

RELACIONADO: <\/b>8 maneras de dar espacio a alguien y mantenerlo a tu lado<\/b><\/a><\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 hacer cuando una chica dice que necesita tiempo para pensar?<\/h2>\n

Los siguientes consejos sobre relaciones se aplican a cualquier situaci\u00f3n: una relaci\u00f3n duradera, una relaci\u00f3n a distancia o una nueva relaci\u00f3n. Your best bet for a positive outcome is if you show her care, honesty and respect, and don\u2019t try to force anything.<\/b><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll achieve that by following these tips.<\/p>\n

1. Dale tiempo y espacio<\/h3>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

If your girlfriend asks you to give her space, then you should give her space. If you refuse, thinking that you must keep her close, you\u2019ll make her uncomfortable and push her away for sure. By respecting her wishes, you\u2019re showing that you respect <\/b>su<\/i><\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

P\u00eddele que te diga cu\u00e1nto tiempo cree que necesita y cu\u00e1nto espacio necesita, pero don\u2019t interrogate her<\/b>, make her explain why and give you any definite answers because she doesn\u2019t have them either.<\/p>\n

2. Don’t pressure her<\/h3>\n

As\u00ed que dijiste que s\u00ed y aceptaste dejarla sola durante un tiempo. Even though you want to make things better and get her to spend time with you again, don\u2019t try to force it. <\/b>If she told you that it\u2019s okay to contact her, you don\u2019t have to follow the \u2018no contact rule\u2019.<\/p>\n

You can keep in touch, but don\u2019t call and text her all the time. Don\u2019t be desperate<\/b><\/a> y rogarle que termine con esto.<\/b> Don’t try to impress her so that she\u2019ll want to come back. If she’s not ready for a relationship<\/a>, trying to make her change her mind, guilt-trip her or tell you when she\u2019ll be done taking her time, you\u2019re only prolonging it<\/p>\n

3. Don’t think of it as a breakup<\/h3>\n

If this is the first time you\u2019ve been in this situation, you might be worried that this is really a breakup or that it\u2019s inevitable. Don\u2019t get angry and make any rash decisions. <\/b>Hay alguna posibilidad de que lo sea, pero antes de que decidas pensar en ella como tu ex, piensa si tienes motivos para creerlo.<\/p>\n

\u00bfHa pasado algo o has hecho algo para que ella quiera romper contigo? If you can\u2019t think of anything, then give her the benefit of the doubt. <\/b>If you trust her, trust what she\u2019s saying. If you don\u2019t trust her, think about why that is and what you can do to change it. Use this time wisely.<\/p>\n

4. Reflexione sobre su relaci\u00f3n<\/h3>\n

A menos que necesite tiempo para trabajar en asuntos personales, esta situaci\u00f3n tiene algo que ver con vuestra relaci\u00f3n. Tiempo y espacio<\/b> no har\u00e1 que tus problemas desaparezcan por arte de magia,<\/b> pero puede daros a ambos la oportunidad de reflexionar sobre vosotros mismos, vuestros problemas y c\u00f3mo hab\u00e9is contribuido a ellos.<\/p>\n

Debes participar en la b\u00fasqueda de soluciones a tus problemas examinando honestamente c\u00f3mo es tu relaci\u00f3n y c\u00f3mo puedes mejorarla<\/b>. Unless you openly admit to yourself what your role in your relationship problems is in the first place, you can\u2019t figure out what doesn\u2019t work and how to fix it.<\/p>\n

5. Trabaja en ti mismo<\/h3>\n

\"un<\/p>\n

While she\u2019s taking her time, you shouldn\u2019t sit around waiting. Instead, make an effort to convi\u00e9rtete en una mejor versi\u00f3n de ti mismo<\/a>. Aunque sea imposible cambiar de vida en tan poco tiempo, se puede conseguir mucho.<\/p>\n

Intenta identificar las cosas de ti mismo que quieres mejorar y aprende a acercarte a ser como quieres ser. <\/b>This doesn\u2019t have to be related to your relationship.<\/p>\n

For example, if you want to be more confident, learn how you can do it by watching videos on a YouTube channel or reading articles and books. Doing this won\u2019t turn you into someone perfectly confident overnight, but te dar\u00e1 inspiraci\u00f3n y las herramientas que necesitas<\/b>. Ahora s\u00f3lo tienes que esforzarte y seguir adelante.<\/p>\n

6. Pasar tiempo con otras personas<\/h3>\n

If you\u2019re used to spending time with your girlfriend, you could get lonely if you suddenly have a lot of time for yourself. Aprovecha el tiempo que t\u00fa y tu novia est\u00e9is separados para reconectar con personas de tu vida.<\/b><\/p>\n

En lugar de regodearte en la autocompasi\u00f3n, llama a tu mejor amigo y pensad en algo divertido que hacer. Visitar a familiares y salir con amigos will help you get out of your head and stop worrying about what\u2019s going on.<\/b><\/p>\n

7. Don’t stalk her<\/h3>\n

It\u2019s normal that you follow your girlfriend on social media and there\u2019s no need for this to change, but don\u2019t check up on her. There\u2019s no need to ignore it when she updates, but don\u2019t comment and like her posts. Don\u2019t follow her around <\/b>redes sociales<\/b>...comprobando su actividad y controlando con qui\u00e9n interact\u00faa.<\/b><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t show up in places you know she\u2019s going to be and try to make it seem like you ran into her by chance. The more you try to push her, the more she\u2019ll withdraw. <\/b>By keeping a close eye on her, you\u2019re only giving yourself anxiety without achieving anything with her.<\/p>\n

8. Permanecer fiel<\/h3>\n

Si abres tinder buscando ligar en el momento en que tu novia te pide espacio, deber\u00edas replantearte tu relaci\u00f3n con ella. Maybe this is an opportunity to change your habits and get out of the relationship if you\u2019re not happy.<\/b><\/p>\n

On the other hand, if you know you want to be with her, then make sure that your actions are in line with your wishes. It\u2019s normal to be upset and miss her, but you must not let your feelings do something you might regret. Stay loyal to her in every way so that when you\u2019re reunited, you don\u2019t have anything to hide.<\/b><\/p>\n

9. Ser mejor compa\u00f1ero cuando vuelva<\/h3>\n

First of all, you should be prepared to have an open conversation with her. Talk about the reasons she needed space if they\u2019re related to you or your relationship, share what you\u2019ve figured out and how you both plan to go on.<\/b><\/p>\n

If her reason for taking time was personal, offer to listen if she wants to talk about it. Listen to her concerns and commit to improving your relationship. If she was feeling bad because of your actions, make sure you\u2019re serious about not doing it again.<\/p>\n

Tell her of any issues you might have, but don\u2019t accuse her or get angry.<\/b> If something in your relationship wasn\u2019t working, you both have to decide to work on it.<\/p>\n

RELACIONADO: <\/b>10 se\u00f1ales de que necesitas espacio en tu relaci\u00f3n y por qu\u00e9 es algo bueno<\/b><\/a><\/p>\n

En resumen<\/h2>\n

Relationships are complicated, but never more than when you\u2019re unsure of where you stand and what you should do. As long as you have good intentions and want to do what’s best for your relationship, you can feel real struggle thinking, \u201cShe says she needs time, how long should I wait?\u201d<\/p>\n

It\u2019s understandable: you want to respect your girlfriend\u2019s wishes, but you don\u2019t want your relationship to fade away if you wait too long<\/b>. Generally, having to wait for over a month isn\u2019t a good sign, but even three months of space have been known to save marriages.<\/p>\n

She might need time and space for a number of reasons, but you\u2019re the one who can best figure out which one applies to your situation based on how your relationship so far looks like, her behavior and your own actions.<\/p>\n

Hagas lo que hagas, don\u2019t try to force it <\/b>\u2013 this will only drive her away. Instead, work on yourself so that when she comes back, you have a chance to contribute more to your relationship. Good luck!<\/p>\n

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