{"id":156953,"date":"2022-08-13T16:21:23","date_gmt":"2022-08-13T16:21:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=156953"},"modified":"2022-08-21T10:16:45","modified_gmt":"2022-08-21T10:16:45","slug":"desencadenantes-del-apego-evitativo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/desencadenantes-del-apego-evitativo\/","title":{"rendered":"Factores desencadenantes del apego evitativo y c\u00f3mo tratarlos"},"content":{"rendered":"

Among insecure attachment styles, dismissive-avoidant attachment can be especially hard to spot. At first sight, you appear to have high self-esteem and you\u2019re surrounded by people.<\/p>\n

You appear independent and as someone who doesn\u2019t rely on others for emotional support.<\/b> In reality, all of your relationships are superficial and you don\u2019t form deep bonds with others.<\/p>\n

Se alaba la autosuficiencia y la falta de arrebatos emocionales se considera un punto fuerte, por lo que puede ser dif\u00edcil darse cuenta de que hay un problema. Usted y otros creen que esto es s\u00f3lo su personalidad y no algo que deba tratarse.<\/b><\/p>\n

This kind of attachment pattern has low self-esteem at its core. If, for example, your partner does something that places demands on you and you don\u2019t know how to respond, tus pensamientos y sentimientos pueden entrar en espiral y llevarte a comportamientos poco saludables.<\/b><\/p>\n

Sin embargo, it\u2019s possible to develop a more <\/b>estilo de sujeci\u00f3n seguro<\/b>. <\/b>Ser capaz de reconocer, comprender y manejar los desencadenantes del apego evitativo puede ayudarte a conseguir una relaci\u00f3n sana contigo mismo y con tu pareja sentimental.<\/p>\n

C\u00f3mo le afectan los desencadenantes del apego evitativo<\/h2>\n

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Avoidant attachment style develops when a parent or a caregiver doesn\u2019t meet a child\u2019s needs, but instead leaves them to care for themselves and be independent. Se disuade al ni\u00f1o de buscar apoyo emocional. <\/b>y aprende a alejar a su cuidador incluso cuando quiere estar cerca.<\/p>\n

De adulto, <\/b>el evasivo desde\u00f1oso<\/b> es emocionalmente inaccesible, demasiado autosuficiente, tiene un <\/b>miedo a la intimidad<\/b><\/a> y necesita tener el control. <\/b>They don\u2019t understand their needs and feelings, so they suppress them.<\/p>\n

If this is your attachment style, when you\u2019re triggered, your beliefs about yourself and your relationship come to the surface, leading to avoidant thoughts and behaviours.<\/p>\n

En <\/b>herida en el n\u00facleo<\/b> de <\/b>el evasivo desde\u00f1oso<\/b> es la sensaci\u00f3n de no ser <\/b>suficientemente bueno<\/b>.<\/b> Temes que, si tu pareja ve tu verdadero yo, te encuentre deficiente y te abandone, as\u00ed que nunca aprendiste a abrirte y expresar vulnerabilidad. La intimidad emocional parece imposible y construir relaciones significativas es dif\u00edcil.<\/b><\/p>\n

Comprender cu\u00e1les son los factores desencadenantes y c\u00f3mo se responde a ellos es fundamental para aprender a gestionar los sentimientos y las emociones. llegar a ser capaz de tener una <\/b>relaci\u00f3n sana<\/b>. <\/b>Ejemplos de reacciones de evitaci\u00f3n al ser provocado son:<\/p>\n

\u2022 Becoming distant.<\/b> Actuar con frialdad y desinter\u00e9s por su pareja y cerrarse en banda.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Unhealthy coping strategies<\/b>como entregarse a distracciones, pasar horas en las redes sociales o jugando, beber en exceso, etc.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Avoiding your <\/b>seres queridos<\/b>.<\/b> Prefieres mantenerte alejado antes que enfrentarte a ellos, esperando que las cosas desaparezcan por s\u00ed solas.<\/p>\n

- Reprimir sus sentimientos<\/b><\/a> y fingiendo ser fuerte.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Focusing on something you can control<\/b>como el trabajo.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Sulking.<\/b> Retirarte y negarte a comunicarte dejando claro que te han hecho da\u00f1o.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Trying to provoke your partner<\/b> en demostrar sus creencias err\u00f3neas mediante comportamientos como ser pasivo-agresivo.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Lashing out.<\/b> La incapacidad para manejar tus sentimientos puede enfadarte y confundirte, as\u00ed que intentas devolverles el da\u00f1o.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Ending the relationship.<\/b> Esta respuesta excesiva puede producirse cuando sientes la necesidad de abandonar a tu pareja antes de que te abandone a ti.<\/p>\n

Puede resultar dif\u00edcil comprender sus reacciones emocionales ante los desencadenantes, por lo que aprender a darse cuenta de sus comportamientos puede ser \u00fatil. The path to understanding your triggers is identifying what you\u2019re like when you\u2019re triggered.<\/b><\/p>\n

You might recognize yourself in some of the above behaviors or you already know how you act when you don\u2019t like a certain situation. Once you\u2019re able to recognize how you behave, you can start paying attention to how you feel during and after being triggered and examining your feelings.<\/p>\n

8 patrones desencadenantes del apego evitativo<\/h2>\n

Even though insecure attachment styles in adults start during childhood, it\u2019s still possible to change how you feel and act in a relationship.<\/p>\n

Aprender a reconocer, comprender y gestionar <\/b>desencadenantes del apego evitativo<\/b> le ayuda a sustituir un conjunto perjudicial de pensamientos, sentimientos y comportamientos por otro saludable.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s important to understand that cada individuo tiene sus propios desencadenantes<\/b>, even though they may be reactions to the same feelings. For instance, your partner asking you to do an activity with them that you don\u2019t want to do might be okay, while for another persona con apego evitativo<\/a> podr\u00eda provocar una reacci\u00f3n negativa.<\/p>\n

The following list will give you a general idea of what to look out for, but it\u2019s important to identify how all of these triggers look in your particular situation.<\/p>\n

1. Cr\u00edtica<\/h3>\n

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A nadie le gusta que le critiquen, salvo a los evasivos, la cr\u00edtica personal es la prueba de sus mayores temores<\/b>. Being criticized by anyone, but especially by your partner, feels like proof that you\u2019re defective and no es suficiente<\/a>. Esto te afecta profundamente y te hace sentir verg\u00fcenza, as\u00ed que te cierras en banda.<\/p>\n

2. Imprevisibilidad<\/h3>\n

You couldn\u2019t rely on your caregivers as a child, so you have a deep need to rely on your partner. Necesitas sentirte seguro y saber qu\u00e9 esperar.<\/b> When you feel insecure in your relationship, it\u2019s not uncommon that you want to or even try to end it, believing that if you leave them first, they can\u2019t leave you<\/b>.<\/p>\n

3. Tener que depender de alguien<\/h3>\n

Because your caregivers didn\u2019t give you emotional support when you needed it, you feel like your needs don\u2019t matter. This is the reason why yiensa que debe hacerlo todo usted solo y que la fuente de su autosuficiencia<\/b>. If you don\u2019t need anything from anyone, you feel like it\u2019s okay when you don\u2019t get it.<\/p>\n

4. Presi\u00f3n para abrirse<\/h3>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

Como temes el rechazo, construyes muros para mantener a todo el mundo fuera. La distancia emocional es una forma de protegerte de exponer tu yo m\u00e1s \u00edntimo, del que te sientes profundamente avergonzado. Tu herida m\u00e1s profunda es tu sensaci\u00f3n de no ser <\/b>suficientemente bueno<\/b>, and you\u2019re terrified of your partner seeing it <\/b>si te abres a ellos<\/b><\/a>.<\/b><\/p>\n

5. Exigencias<\/h3>\n

You\u2019re used to being independent, so when your partner demands that you do something, it can make you feel controlled. This often leads to lashing out because you\u2019re used to doing things your way and you\u2019ll insist on your independence.<\/p>\n

6. Expectativas<\/h3>\n

When your partner places expectations on you, it makes you feel trapped because you don\u2019t know how to respond. Has aprendido que cada uno es responsable de satisfacer sus propias necesidades<\/b>, so when you\u2019re expected to provide something you don\u2019t know how to give, you feel confused and withdraw.<\/p>\n

7. Feeling like your efforts don’t matter<\/h3>\n

When you go out of your way to be closer to your partner and they don\u2019t acknowledge it in the way you need them to, you might shut down and give up entirely. Esto se debe a <\/b>su necesidad de <\/b>validaci\u00f3n<\/b><\/a> para refutar tus sentimientos de inadecuaci\u00f3n.<\/b> If what you have to offer isn\u2019t enough, it confirms that you\u2019re<\/i> not enough, so what\u2019s the point in trying?<\/p>\n

8. Emociones intensas<\/h3>\n

Being faced with intense emotions makes you panic because you were taught that they\u2019re unwanted. Regardless whether these feelings are yours or someone else\u2019s, you don\u2019t know how to handle them. <\/b>You don\u2019t feel equipped to respond to your partner\u2019s feelings, and if you\u2019re the one who is intensely emotional, you\u2019re afraid of being judged for it.<\/p>\n

5 formas de afrontar los desencadenantes del apego evitativo<\/h2>\n

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Intenta recordar situaciones en las que hayas sentido que quer\u00edas alejarte de tu pareja o arremeter contra ella por no ser capaz de entenderte. Trabajando hacia atr\u00e1s a partir de su comportamiento, intente identificar qu\u00e9 lo caus\u00f3.<\/b><\/p>\n

This way, you can try to react in a more constructive way the next time you\u2019re faced with a similar situation. The process of dealing with your attachment issues can take a long period of time, but el primer paso es siempre la voluntad de cambiar<\/b>.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s how to start managing your emotions.<\/p>\n

1. Escribe tus sentimientos<\/h3>\n

When you\u2019re feeling like you want to disconnect, writing down how you feel can be immensely helpful. Use this method to clarify what you\u2019re feeling.<\/b><\/p>\n

Puede que te cueste encontrar las palabras adecuadas para describir tus sentimientos, as\u00ed que, en lugar de intentar ser espec\u00edfico, coge el bol\u00edgrafo y escribe lo que te venga a la mente. A medida que sigas escribiendo, aflorar\u00e1n tus verdaderos sentimientos.<\/p>\n

This method is useful, but it\u2019s difficult to see through. <\/b>Puede que sientas la necesidad de rendirte en cuanto afloren tus verdaderos miedos, pero si persistes y te enfrentas a ellos, te resultar\u00e1 m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil hasta que puedas aceptarlos y afrontarlos. Una vez que seas capaz de ser abierto contigo mismo, puedes intentar serlo con los dem\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

2. Conecta con tus emociones<\/h3>\n

As a child, when you needed emotional support from your caregivers, it wasn\u2019t available and you had to learn to somehow deal with your feelings on your own. Uno de tus mecanismos de supervivencia es ignorar tus sentimientos.<\/b><\/p>\n

You\u2019ve tried to learn not to feel, but this is impossible. So, instead of getting rid of your emotions, you became disconnected from them. In a way, you feel more deeply than someone who\u2019s in touch with their emotions<\/b> \u2013 you don\u2019t know how to manage your feelings, so they control your thoughts and actions.<\/p>\n

Por eso debes aprender a explorar tus sentimientos, conectar con ellos y aceptarlos.<\/p>\n

3. Reconocer el pensamiento negativo<\/h3>\n

When your partner asks something of you that you don\u2019t know how to give them, your inner voice might tell you that, because you can\u2019t do it, you\u2019re worthless<\/a>tu relaci\u00f3n est\u00e1 condenada y te rechazar\u00e1n tarde o temprano. As\u00ed que en lugar de discutirlo con tu pareja, te cierras en banda.<\/b><\/p>\n

This is an example of automatic negative thoughts that might arise because you don\u2019t know how to respond to your feelings.<\/p>\n

La forma de detener el pensamiento negativo es elegir desafiarlo. <\/b>Whenever you notice that you\u2019re interpreting a situation beyond what\u2019s happening on the surface, try to think of how you can prove these thoughts wrong.<\/p>\n

4. Comun\u00edquese con sus seres queridos<\/h3>\n

This seems difficult because you\u2019re afraid of being rejected if you show your feelings to your partner, but it can be made easier if you take it one step at a time. You don\u2019t need to bare your soul when communicating, only be honest about how you\u2019re feeling at the moment.<\/b><\/p>\n

There\u2019s no need to approach communication as some big gesture of revealing your deepest soul, only deja de reprimir tus sentimientos<\/b>. Esto significa hacer saber a tu pareja cuando te provocan de alguna manera, haci\u00e9ndoles consciente de sus l\u00edmites<\/a> y elegir no ocultar c\u00f3mo te sientes.<\/p>\n

5. Buscar terapia<\/h3>\n

Alguien con un estilo de apego evitativo puede obtener beneficios significativos de la comprensi\u00f3n que puede proporcionar la terapia. La terapia puede mejorar su <\/b>bienestar<\/b>siempre que lo afrontes con determinaci\u00f3n.<\/b><\/p>\n

Opening up is what you\u2019re most afraid of, so it will take an enormous amount of willingness to change. It\u2019s hard work, but the assistance you get from your therapist can ayudarle a aprender a gestionar sus sentimientos, aceptarse a s\u00ed mismo y dejar de huir de las conexiones emocionales.<\/b><\/p>\n

C\u00f3mo tratar el apego evitativo en la pareja<\/h2>\n

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A relationship with an avoidant partner might be challenging because of their difficulty to be emotionally intimate. Their reluctance to open up doesn\u2019t mean that they don\u2019t want to do it or that they don\u2019t love you, but it\u2019s related to their fear that they\u2019re not good enough.<\/p>\n

He aqu\u00ed algunas estrategias para conectar con una pareja evitativa.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Make them feel safe.<\/b> If they\u2019re feeling accepted and understood, they won\u2019t feel the need to hide and withdraw.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Be patient. <\/b>Intenta comprender su punto de vista y dale espacio para que se exprese.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Validate their feelings. <\/b>A los evitadores les cuesta expresar sus sentimientos y sus necesidades, as\u00ed que cuando lo hagan, aseg\u00farate de escucharles y aceptar c\u00f3mo se sienten.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Avoid criticism. <\/b>When enforcing boundaries, instead of making statements that feel like you\u2019re criticizing them, try to point out a specific behavior that you don\u2019t like.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Communicate clearly.<\/b> Don\u2019t give them ultimatums, because they will immediately withdraw. Don\u2019t expect them to understand anything that\u2019s implied, but instead, spell out exactly what you want to say.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Don’t make demands. <\/b>An avoidant’s knee-jerk reaction will be to shut you out if they don’t know how to fulfill what you asked for.<\/p>\n

- S\u00e9 comprensivo<\/b><\/a> if they don’t know how to meet your needs. They learned that everyone is responsible for their own needs, so they have trouble asking to have their own met by another person and responding to someone else’s needs.<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 es la teor\u00eda del apego?<\/h2>\n

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Teor\u00eda del apego<\/b> es una teor\u00eda psicol\u00f3gica que trata de las relaciones humanas.<\/b><\/p>\n

Fue desarrollado originalmente por el psiquiatra John Bowlby para examinar el apego de los beb\u00e9s a sus cuidadores.<\/p>\n

La psic\u00f3loga del desarrollo Mary Ainsworth clasific\u00f3 los patrones de apego de los ni\u00f1os peque\u00f1os como seguros o inseguros, dependiendo de si el beb\u00e9 cre\u00eda que pod\u00eda confiar en su <\/b>cuidadores<\/b> para darles cari\u00f1o y apoyo.<\/b><\/p>\n

Los ni\u00f1os desarrollan un apego seguro si mantienen una relaci\u00f3n estrecha con un cuidador y conf\u00edan en que \u00e9ste estar\u00e1 disponible cuando el beb\u00e9 lo necesite. Estilos de apego inseguro<\/b> \u2013<\/b> ansioso-ambivalente<\/b><\/a>,<\/b> ansioso-evitativo<\/b><\/a> o<\/b> desorganizado<\/b><\/a> \u2013 develop if the child is uncertain, faced rejection or their <\/b>cuidadores<\/b> eran impredecibles, respectivamente.<\/b><\/p>\n

Children\u2019s attachment styles extend into adult relationships as they grow up. El apego a sus <\/b>cuidadores<\/b> se refleja en el apego a sus parejas en <\/b>relaciones rom\u00e1nticas<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

De la misma manera que con los ni\u00f1os, estilos de apego adulto<\/a> develop as secure or insecure attachment types, even though childhood experience isn\u2019t the only factor in their development.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Secure attachment style<\/b>:<\/b> Securely attached adults understand their own and their partner\u2019s feelings and needs and know how to communicate with their partners. They\u2019re capable of forming meaningful connections.<\/b><\/p>\n

- Ansioso-preocupado<\/b> estilo de fijaci\u00f3n<\/b><\/a>: <\/b>People with an anxious attachment style have a fear of abandonment and low self-esteem, so they seek validation in the relationship. They believe they\u2019re not good enough for their partners, so they act clingy .<\/p>\n

\u2022 Dismissive-avoidant attachment style<\/b>:<\/b> Avoidant people can\u2019t rely on anyone, so the image they present is one of self-sufficiency. Emotional intimacy and depending on other people terrify them.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Fearful-avoidant attachment style<\/b>: <\/b>El evitador temeroso quiere relaciones \u00edntimas, pero se retrae cuando se ponen serias por miedo. Sus relaciones son inestables.<\/p>\n

Your attachment style reflects your beliefs about relationships \u2013 it influences how you pick a partner and your behavioral patterns in a relationship. People who are securely attached develop healthy relationships more easily than someone with an estilo de apego inseguro<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Romper el ciclo<\/h2>\n

Once you\u2019re aware of avoidant attachment triggers, you can begin noticing them and working on dealing with your feelings in a healthier way. Comprender qu\u00e9 te hace comportarte de forma evasiva y c\u00f3mo afrontarlo es el primer paso para dejar de ser evasivo. <\/b>relaciones t\u00f3xicas<\/b> a los sanos.<\/b><\/p>\n

Si quieres cambiar tu estilo de apego, debes darte cuenta de que la intimidad emocional es necesaria. Para construir relaciones profundas con los dem\u00e1s, primero debes enfrentarte t\u00fa mismo a tus sentimientos y dejar de huir de mostrar vulnerabilidad.<\/b><\/p>\n

Los principales retos son tus sentimientos de no ser querido y de ser inadecuado, as\u00ed que trabajar tu autoestima y tu amor propio influir\u00e1 mucho en tu capacidad de abrirte. La terapia individual y de pareja puede hacer mucho por el \u00e9xito de tus relaciones y tu salud mental personal.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Among insecure attachment styles, dismissive-avoidant attachment can be especially hard to spot. At first sight, you appear to have high self-esteem and you\u2019re surrounded by people. You appear independent and as someone who doesn\u2019t rely on others for emotional support. In reality, all of your relationships are superficial and you don\u2019t form deep bonds with…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":20,"featured_media":156954,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29677],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-156953","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-personality-types"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29677,"label":"personality types"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Avoidant-Attachment-Triggers-And-How-To-Deal-With-Them-1024x684.png",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Christine Keller","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/christine\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29677,"name":"personality types","slug":"personality-types","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29677,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Hippies, alphas, betas, sapiophiles...Every personality type is unique and contains a particular set of skills. Find out which one describes you best.","parent":22911,"count":338,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29677,"category_count":338,"category_description":"Hippies, alphas, betas, sapiophiles...Every personality type is unique and contains a particular set of skills. Find out which one describes you best.","cat_name":"personality types","category_nicename":"personality-types","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/156953","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/20"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=156953"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/156953\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/156954"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=156953"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=156953"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=156953"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}