De lo que realmente trata la privacidad es de proteger tus l\u00edmites y valores.<\/strong> It\u2019s about keeping the things that are nobody\u2019s business but yours to yourself. Keeping your private life private is how you avoid falling into the trap of having to explain and justify things that matter to you to other people.<\/p>\n Aside from personal things to keep private, there\u2019s another topic that you shouldn\u2019t discuss with other people, and that\u2019s cosas que no tienen nada que ver contigo.<\/strong> It\u2019s the other side of being private \u2013 showing others the same courtesy.<\/p>\n Let\u2019s see what you should view as classified information, what it is that leads to oversharing and how to stop yourself when the temptation strikes.<\/p>\n Keeping your personal life private isn\u2019t the same as keeping it a secret. If something comes up in a meaningful context, compartirla con tus amigos m\u00e1s \u00edntimos o con alguien a quien conf\u00edes este tipo de informaci\u00f3n est\u00e1 perfectamente bien.<\/strong><\/p>\n Pero cuando sientes que algunas cosas de tu vida necesitan una explicaci\u00f3n para que los dem\u00e1s te entiendan, puedes sentir la tentaci\u00f3n de justificarte.<\/strong> If you regret it after telling someone a detail that you added without being asked about, you\u2019re oversharing.<\/p>\n You\u2019re aware that some fact or simply the amount you shared was excessive, even though at the moment it seemed like it was a way to connect to the other person.<\/p>\n If you share too much online, using social media as your personal diary, it\u2019s even worse. Too many people have access to what you post and not all of them have good intentions. The small amount of pleasure you gain from likes, comments and engagement with your post isn\u2019t worth the consequences you might face.<\/strong><\/p>\n Estas son las 3 cosas que hay que mantener en privado: the things you don’t have to justify to anyone<\/a> and that aren\u2019t anyone\u2019s business but yours.<\/p>\n Ser aut\u00e9ntico y abierto es el camino para conectar con los dem\u00e1s. Esto es bien sabido, pero algunas personas confunden ser aut\u00e9ntico con divulgar todos los detalles personales a cualquiera que quiera escuchar. To be authentic, your beliefs and actions should match \u2013 you should live in line with your values instead of trying to please anyone.<\/strong><\/p>\n This is why oversharing about all aspects of life is the opposite from being authentic. Using vulnerability to gain acceptance, sympathy, connection or anything else isn\u2019t the same as actually being vulnerable.<\/p>\n Before you share with others, you must consider why you\u2019re doing it.<\/strong> If you\u2019re trying to gain something, you\u2019re not being authentic. If you\u2019re trying to build intimacy without laying a foundation first, you\u2019re oversharing.<\/p>\n Religion is considered a private topic by most people. Respect for other people\u2019s views, their faith or lack thereof is the only thing that should concern you when it comes to religious beliefs that aren\u2019t your own, and you should expect the same.<\/p>\n Your life choices might be objectively awful and still no one is entitled to criticize you about them. As an adult, your choices are your prerogative and your responsibility and you don\u2019t need to discuss them with anyone.<\/p>\n Some people enjoy debating politics, but no discussion will change anyone\u2019s mind. People have intense feelings about politics, so in certain situations your political views can cost you. It doesn\u2019t mean that your political beliefs must be a secret, but make sure you choose who you share them with.<\/p>\n Be kind to make other people\u2019s lives easier<\/a> instead of using it as a tool to get ahead or get brownie points. Good deeds enrich the person who does them as much as they help the person who\u2019s on the receiving end. No one needs to know about your charitable and noble actions, and bragging about them will make people dislike you.<\/p>\n Your personal life is nobody\u2019s business, no matter how convincing those who want to know it might be. If you feel the need to defend your choices, it\u2019s either because you\u2019re unsure of them yourself or someone else is judging you.<\/strong><\/p>\n People who disapprove of everything that\u2019s different from the way they live usually do it out of envy and unhappiness. Requests to share are usually invitations to explain and justify because they\u2019re different.<\/p>\n Compartir datos personales debe considerarse un privilegio<\/strong> \u2013 you don\u2019t owe it to anyone to know anything about you, let alone to try to make them understand why.<\/p>\n You might be broke or loaded, it doesn\u2019t matter. Volunteering your financial status, especially to your extended family, will get you unwanted attention. If you have a lot in the bank, you might be expected to step up whenever someone needs it, and if you don\u2019t, people you thought cared for you might magically disappear.<\/p>\n Your mistakes, resentments, conflicts, annoyances, everyday issues and long-term problems \u2013 unless you know for certain that the other person has your best interest in mind and is eager to help you, keep your worries to yourself.<\/p>\n Las excepciones son tu pareja, tus padres u otros familiares o amigos cercanos que te quieren y desean verte feliz.<\/p>\n Some people believe that they\u2019re entitled to comment on someone’s appearance, but the way you look outside is as private as what\u2019s on the inside. No one has the right to an opinion on how you choose to present yourself or to decide what your appearance implies.<\/p>\n La gente suele pensar que su opini\u00f3n sobre cualquier rasgo inusual, cosas que consideran poco atractivas, tatuajes o su peso es bienvenida, as\u00ed que aseg\u00farate de hacer valer tus l\u00edmites cuando te molesten.<\/strong><\/p>\n How you spend your day or your future plans doesn\u2019t matter \u2013 you don\u2019t need to explain how you use your time to other people. This doesn\u2019t mean refusing to answer when someone asks you what you did over the weekend, it means not having to justify it.<\/p>\n RELACIONADO: Vivir al d\u00eda: el valor del hoy<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n Los detalles de tus relaciones son s\u00f3lo entre t\u00fa y la otra persona implicada. Contar detalles a la gente s\u00f3lo eleva el nivel de dramatismo e invita a la gente a entrometerse.<\/strong>. Por ejemplo, puede que su familia y sus seres queridos tengan en cuenta sus intereses, pero su implicaci\u00f3n s\u00f3lo puede causarle problemas con su pareja.<\/p>\n Las relaciones tambi\u00e9n son material privilegiado para los cotilleos, as\u00ed que dar a otros acceso a las tuyas es darles algo que difundir a\u00fan m\u00e1s.<\/strong> Even if you\u2019re sharing to get help solving problems, no one who isn’t part of the relationship can ever have the full picture.<\/p>\n Your sexual orientation, practices, choice of partner and your sex life in general is something you should always keep private. When you talk about it to people who aren\u2019t involved in it, you\u2019re either opening yourself to gossip or making the conversation awkward because it\u2019s too much information.<\/p>\n Mant\u00e9n alejados a los amigos y familiares entrometidos y trabaja en tu relaci\u00f3n s\u00f3lo con tu pareja, porque nadie m\u00e1s puede entenderlo. Mant\u00e9n tu relaci\u00f3n en privado.<\/a><\/p>\n La \u00fanica excepci\u00f3n es si tienes problemas de pareja que deban tratarse en terapia. Entonces, por supuesto, debe intervenir tu consejero de pareja.<\/p>\n How you raise your children is nobody\u2019s business but yours and your children\u2019s other parent\u2019s. If you two agree, no one else\u2019s opinions matter. Extended families protesting because of your kids\u2019 bedtime or nutrition and telling you it\u2019s okay if they watch another cartoon this once is meddling you should stop before it escalates.<\/p>\n Families argue, families love each other, sometimes families aren\u2019t real families, and sometimes families break apart. The details of how you and family members function are known only to you, and people who aren\u2019t a part of it shouldn\u2019t get involved.<\/p>\n RELACIONADO: \u00bfQu\u00e9 son las relaciones discretas? 11 razones para tener una<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n In addition to personal matters to keep private, there\u2019s another category of topics you shouldn\u2019t discuss with anyone: cosas que conciernen a otras personas.<\/strong> It includes both gossip about someone not involved in the conversation and comments about your conversation partner they didn\u2019t ask for.<\/p>\n Talking about things that aren\u2019t related to you is another form of oversharing and done out of the same motives, usually trying to connect to the person you\u2019re talking to. The connection might happen \u2013 but it won\u2019t last a very long time.<\/p>\n En su lugar, you\u2019ll regret it<\/strong> because it will make your relationship with the person you gossip about unpleasant, even if they never find out. When it comes to the person you give an opinion they didn\u2019t ask for, they\u2019ll always view you as someone who looks down on them even if your opinion changes.<\/p>\n Your conversation partner isn\u2019t entitled to know any personal details about yourself and even less about other people. Cotillear y compartir cosas sobre los dem\u00e1s es un intento de establecer alg\u00fan tipo de conexi\u00f3n o sentirse superior al sujeto de tus cotilleos.<\/strong>pero nada bueno saldr\u00e1 de ello.<\/p>\n Sharing juicy details you know about others won\u2019t help you make friends. Mentioning something about another person because you don\u2019t know what to talk about doesn\u2019t lead to connection.<\/strong> You\u2019ll be known as a gossip and become a magnet for busybodies who don\u2019t really care about you and you\u2019ll hurt whoever you\u2019re talking about.<\/p>\n Sharing your judgment and opinions about other people will make others dislike you, unless they\u2019re judgmental themselves. Even then, esas personas s\u00f3lo estar\u00e1n cerca de ti por lo que obtienen de ti.<\/strong><\/p>\n Keep your opinions about the person across the room private. Don\u2019t talk about how wrong your friend is about their decision to another one of your friends. If you have negative personal feelings about someone, keep them to yourself.<\/p>\n Rude opinions and mean-spirited remarks about someone you don\u2019t like doesn\u2019t show them in a bad light, but you.<\/strong> Jokes at others\u2019 expense and mocking them will only attract people who enjoy such things and want to share their toxic habits with you.<\/p>\n Tus reflexiones privadas sobre c\u00f3mo debe actuar, parecer, vestirse, hablar, etc., deben quedarse en tu cabeza. Feeling entitled to tell people what to do if they haven\u2019t asked you for advice makes it seem like you believe that you\u2019re better than them:<\/strong> lo tienes todo resuelto y ahora puedes otorgarles tus conocimientos.<\/p>\n Ten cuidado incluso cuando la otra persona te pida tu opini\u00f3n. A veces la gente s\u00f3lo quiere que alguien le escuche porque ya sabe lo que tiene que hacer.<\/strong> If you\u2019re dispensing advice, look at the other person\u2019s body language to check if they\u2019re eagerly listening or if they\u2019re done after they told you about their problem.<\/p>\n Show respect to others you want to receive yourself and don\u2019t underestimate their judgment by implying you know what\u2019s good for them better than they do themselves.<\/p>\n Las razones por las que la gente comparte m\u00e1s de la cuenta suelen estar relacionadas con los l\u00edmites. The importance of healthy boundaries to living a happy life can\u2019t be overstated.<\/strong> Oversharing is also related to insecurity and competing with other people. This is futile and it will never give you the satisfaction you\u2019re aiming for.<\/p>\n Try to understand why you overshare because once you know what you\u2019re trying to achieve, it will be easier to stop.<\/strong><\/p>\n Conocer y hacer valer tus l\u00edmites personales te protege a ti y a los dem\u00e1s. Oversharing violates both your own and the other person\u2019s boundaries.<\/strong> The importance of having boundaries between you and other people is that they help you decide what you should or shouldn\u2019t say.<\/p>\n Compartir demasiado aleja a la gente. You\u2019ll be seen as a narcissist, inappropriate, awkward or fake instead of authentic and genuine.<\/strong> Trabajar en la comprensi\u00f3n de los l\u00edmites es una parte importante del autodesarrollo que puede cambiar por completo tus relaciones personales.<\/p>\n Establecer l\u00edmites<\/a> in communication will make you a better listener and more attentive. Your first instinct shouldn\u2019t be to respond to whatever other people say with details about yourself. Tener autocontrol, ser m\u00e1s reflexivo y dejar de responder inmediatamente<\/strong> mejorar\u00e1 tu comunicaci\u00f3n y tus conexiones con los dem\u00e1s.<\/p>\n If you don\u2019t have anyone to talk<\/a> a o personas que te entienden con las que puedes establecer un verdadero v\u00ednculo, intentar tomar un atajo y forzar una conexi\u00f3n puede ocurrir. Cada individuo necesita ser escuchado y visto.<\/strong> When you don\u2019t have anyone who can give you that, it\u2019s not unexpected to sometimes feel a little desperate.<\/p>\n Oversharing can come from the need to say \u201cThis is who I am and this is my story,\u201d but it\u2019s a misguided attempt to have anyone listen to you and give you attention.<\/strong> Doing it with the wrong people or at the wrong point in your relationship will make sure that you\u2019re not really heard. When you share too soon, people get the wrong picture of you.<\/p>\n Knowing your life details, hopes and fears without having context about what you\u2019re like as a person is more likely to lead to judgment than connection. You might feel connected for a moment, but it can\u2019t last. Construye relaciones poco a poco: s\u00e9 sincero y abierto sin mostrarte necesitado.<\/strong><\/p>\n La ansiedad y la baja autoestima son motivos comunes para compartir m\u00e1s de la cuenta. Todo el mundo quiere que su vida sea buena, as\u00ed que miramos a nuestro alrededor para ver c\u00f3mo son las vidas felices. If you\u2019re comparing yourself with others instead of thinking what it is that makes you personalmente<\/em> happy, you\u2019ll be tempted to try to be like them.<\/strong><\/p>\n Las cosas que haces revelan tus inseguridades.<\/a> They create a desire to make your own life seem full and exciting, so you share details that you believe will make you seem interesting. What you\u2019re forgetting is that a lot of people want to achieve the same thing, so they paint a picture by choosing what to share.<\/p>\n Esto es especialmente com\u00fan en Internet. Las personas que parecen compartir toda su vida en las redes sociales te est\u00e1n enga\u00f1ando. They\u2019re not sharing their personal details, they\u2019re manufacturing an illusion of a perfect life<\/strong>. Un bloguero que habla de sus experiencias puede estar haci\u00e9ndolo por las visitas y un influencer te est\u00e1 vendiendo una imagen.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t succumb to the need to prove yourself by sharing personal information, because other people are only making you think they\u2019re doing the same thing<\/strong>. En su lugar, busca cosas que te llenen de verdad y te hagan feliz.<\/p>\n Si tiendes a compartir m\u00e1s de la cuenta, puede que te resulte dif\u00edcil dejar de hacerlo porque suele ocurrir sobre la marcha.<\/p>\n You\u2019re talking to a co-worker about something work-related and it slips in that you\u2019re on a diet. It doesn\u2019t seem like it\u2019s a big deal, but it opens you up to follow-up questions, judgment and opinions from someone who has nothing to do with you.<\/p>\n Aprender a elegir qu\u00e9 decir a qui\u00e9n requiere cierta pr\u00e1ctica, pero resulta m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil a medida que se hace.<\/strong> Prueba estos consejos para dejar de compartir m\u00e1s de la cuenta:<\/p>\n3 cosas que hay que mantener en privado<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n1. Sus creencias<\/h3>\n
\u2022 Your religious views<\/h4>\n
\u2022 Your choices<\/h4>\n
\u2022 Your political views<\/h4>\n
\u2022 Your acts of kindness<\/h4>\n
2. Su estilo de vida<\/h3>\n
\u2022 Your finances<\/h4>\n
\u2022 Your problems<\/h4>\n
\u2022 Your appearance<\/h4>\n
\u2022 Your time<\/h4>\n
3. Sus relaciones<\/h3>\n
\u2022 Your sexual preferences<\/h4>\n
\u2022 Your romantic relationships<\/h4>\n
\u2022 Your parenting choices<\/h4>\n
\u2022 Your family relationships<\/h4>\n
3 cosas que hay que guardarse para uno mismo<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n1. Other people’s business<\/h3>\n
2. Su juicio<\/h3>\n
3. Consejos no solicitados<\/h3>\n
3 razones por las que compartimos demasiado<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n1. Falta de l\u00edmites<\/h3>\n
2. Soledad<\/h3>\n
3. Inseguridad<\/h3>\n
3 consejos para no compartir m\u00e1s de la cuenta<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n1. Practicar la atenci\u00f3n plena<\/h3>\n
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