{"id":15840,"date":"2020-12-06T12:13:16","date_gmt":"2020-12-06T12:13:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=15840"},"modified":"2021-08-12T11:49:28","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T11:49:28","slug":"5-maneras-de-superar-el-miedo-a-enamorarse-roto","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/5-maneras-de-superar-el-miedo-a-enamorarse-roto\/","title":{"rendered":"5 maneras de superar el miedo a enamorarse (despu\u00e9s de haber sufrido una ruptura)"},"content":{"rendered":"

One thing you don\u2019t want to risk after being broken is being broken again. So most of us end up building walls so high that no one can reach us. We crave love so much and at the same time, it\u2019s the thing that scares us the most.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s no wonder that we are so afraid. Maybe we experienced difficult things in life, maybe we have been through a lot, yet nothing hurts in the way that love can hurt.<\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s, si la raz\u00f3n de nuestro coraz\u00f3n roto es alguien altamente t\u00f3xico, narcisista<\/a>Cuando una persona es manipuladora o incluso abusiva, abrirse a la idea del amor se hace a\u00fan m\u00e1s dif\u00edcil.<\/p>\n

Tiene que ser m\u00e1s dif\u00edcil, pero desde luego no es imposible. Aunque el amor puede rompernos, tambi\u00e9n puede curarnos las heridas, derribar nuestros muros y recordarnos por qu\u00e9 estar enamorado de la persona adecuada es una bendici\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Yo estaba en la misma situaci\u00f3n despu\u00e9s de salir de mi relaci\u00f3n narcisista. Ten\u00eda tanto miedo de ser vulnerable que me cerr\u00e9 por completo.<\/p>\n

Pero mi deseo de amar y ser amada super\u00f3 mis miedos, as\u00ed que encontr\u00e9 formas de superar el miedo a enamorarme, y quiero compartirlas contigo:<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t generalize, not all men are the same<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Even though we have all used the phrase \u2018All men are the same\u2019 at some point in our life, that phrase doesn\u2019t apply to real life. There are men out there who get overlooked so easily because all the toxic ones are blocking our view.<\/p>\n

Nos convencemos a nosotras mismas de que una mala relaci\u00f3n o una racha de malas relaciones es todo lo que hay, cuando en realidad los hombres buenos son m\u00e1s dif\u00edciles de encontrar.<\/p>\n

So, the next time you go out on a date, give that potential boyfriend the benefit of the doubt and don\u2019t look at him as a threat. He is not your ex. Don\u2019t rush into things either, believing naively that he is a good guy because he made your heart skip a beat. <\/em><\/p>\n

T<\/em>Haz las cosas despacio. Si es alguien digno de ti, respetar\u00e1 tu ritmo y esperar\u00e1 a que sientas que es alguien en quien puedes confiar y con quien puedes sentirte segura. Y cr\u00e9eme, necesitar\u00e1s m\u00e1s de unas cuantas citas para conseguirlo.<\/em><\/p>\n

Silencie sus inseguridades<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Yes, that is as difficult as it sounds. Having that inner critic telling you to be careful, that you will end up being hurt again if you open up again, that he is using you, he is manipulating you, he doesn\u2019t really love you, etc. doesn\u2019t make it any easier.<\/p>\n

Si has tratado con un narcisista como yo, ese miedo a no ser suficiente te perseguir\u00e1 y har\u00e1 que tus inseguridades sean mayores.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not going to be easy but you have to regain your confidence to silence that awful inner critic. You have to remind yourself of who you were before that devastating relationship. <\/em><\/p>\n

Tienes que darte cuenta de que la voz de tu ex dici\u00e9ndote que no eres suficiente tiene que ver con sus problemas y asuntos y no tiene nada que ver contigo. Descubre tu amor propio y cuando lo encuentres, las cosas caer\u00e1n naturalmente en su lugar.<\/em><\/p>\n

Ataca tus muros<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Living inside those emotional walls is a place you feel most comfortable. You feel guarded and safe, so hurt and pain can\u2019t reach you. On the other hand, love and happiness can\u2019t reach you either.<\/p>\n

Y aunque ahora te sientas seguro, llegar\u00e1 un d\u00eda en que te sentir\u00e1s vac\u00edo y como si te estuvieras perdiendo la vida, aunque tambi\u00e9n te est\u00e9s perdiendo el dolor.<\/p>\n

Ataca y desaf\u00eda esos muros. Demu\u00e9strales que tu mala experiencia te hizo m\u00e1s fuerte<\/a>. That your bad experience doesn\u2019t define you and that it can\u2019t stop you from experiencing a healthy kind of love. <\/em><\/p>\n

Falling in love again after being broken is scary, it\u2019s risky but love is also worth the risk. Don\u2019t miss out on your chance of true love because you feel too comfortable inside those emotional walls you have built.<\/em><\/p>\n

Acepta tus sentimientos tal y como vienen<\/h2>\n

\"hermosa<\/p>\n

Happiness and sadness, joy and pain will inevitably take turns in being a part of your life. You can\u2019t shelter yourself from pain without the risk of missing out on happiness. You can\u2019t experience true joy without the risk of experiencing pain.<\/p>\n

Of course, nobody wants to get hurt, nobody wants to cry or experience any hardship in life but the pain is something that we can\u2019t just skip. If you accept that sadness and pain are as inevitable as happiness and joy, you will become more open to the idea of letting love into your life again, no matter the risk.<\/em><\/p>\n

Cambia tus patrones<\/h2>\n

Si sientes que todas las relaciones en las que has estado se parecen a las anteriores, quiz\u00e1 deber\u00edas replantearte la forma en que eliges a tu pareja. Prueba a salir con alguien que sea todo lo contrario a tu ex.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t rush into things. Get to know the person you are dating before entering into a relationship. Chemistry is more than welcome but friendship should be first. <\/em><\/p>\n

Haz que tu futuro novio sea tambi\u00e9n tu mejor amigo, alguien en quien puedas confiar por encima de todas las cosas porque eso te proporcionar\u00e1 la seguridad que necesitas para volver a amar.<\/em><\/p>\n

Lo que me inspir\u00f3 a encontrar estas formas de superar mi miedo a enamorarme es esta magn\u00edfica obra que trata sobre esto y que puedes descargar t\u00fa mismo en el siguiente enlace:<\/p>\n

Superar el miedo a enamorarse y disfrutar de una vida m\u00e1s plena<\/a><\/p>\n

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