{"id":158648,"date":"2022-10-23T14:28:14","date_gmt":"2022-10-23T14:28:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=158648"},"modified":"2022-11-29T13:49:22","modified_gmt":"2022-11-29T13:49:22","slug":"no-tengo-deseo-sexual-y-mi-marido-esta-enfadado","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/no-tengo-deseo-sexual-y-mi-marido-esta-enfadado\/","title":{"rendered":"No tengo deseo sexual y mi marido est\u00e1 enfadado: 11 soluciones"},"content":{"rendered":"

No hace mucho, I told my therapist: \u201cI have no sex drive and my husband is mad.\u201d<\/strong> Just like that, I spoke the sentence that\u2019s been bugging me for some time. And I felt relieved because I spilled it out.<\/p>\n

En ese momento, mi marido y yo llev\u00e1bamos juntos un par de a\u00f1os. Estaba segura de que todo era perfecto en nuestra relaci\u00f3n, todo menos el hecho de que est\u00e1bamos atrapados en un matrimonio sin sexo.<\/p>\n

Por suerte, my therapist told me that there was a way out of this situation. A way that didn\u2019t include adultery or divorce.<\/strong><\/p>\n

As\u00ed que aqu\u00ed estoy: compartir esta sabidur\u00eda y mostrarte c\u00f3mo salv\u00e9 mi libido y mi matrimonio.<\/strong><\/p>\n

No tengo deseo sexual y mi marido est\u00e1 enfadado: 11 cosas que hacer<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Siga este programa de 11 pasos y reviva su libido en un abrir y cerrar de ojos.<\/p>\n

1. Encuentra la causa de tu bajo deseo sexual<\/h3>\n

Lo primero que debe hacer es encontrar la causa subyacente de este problema.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re only human, and it\u2019s natural to have sexual desire, especially when you\u2019re married. After all, you\u2019re constantly with the man you love and who attracts you physically. If this is not the case and if your sex life is suffering, there must be a reason for it.<\/p>\n

Entonces, \u00bfqu\u00e9 es? Dig deep inside of yourself and be completely honest. Don\u2019t worry \u2013 you can do it on your own, without your husband, at least in the beginning.<\/strong><\/p>\n

The worst possible scenario is for you to ignore the fact that you have a low libido. There is an issue here that should be worked on. And the first step is to dissect your feelings to try and find out what\u2019s wrong.<\/p>\n

\u00bfTe sientes atra\u00edda por otros hombres pero no por tu marido? \u00bfTiene usted un matrimonio sin sexo<\/a> \u00bfpero te excitan otros hombres? \u00bfY la masturbaci\u00f3n?<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfSigue teniendo sentimientos rom\u00e1nticos hacia su marido? \u00bfLo ves como tu pareja o como un simple compa\u00f1ero de piso?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Por \u00faltimo, \u00bfte gustar\u00eda tener un mayor deseo sexual o est\u00e1s perfectamente bien con tu bajo deseo sexual?<\/p>\n

Once you answer these questions, you\u2019re good to go!<\/p>\n

2. Trabaja en tu relaci\u00f3n<\/h3>\n

When you tell someone: \u201cI have no sex drive and my husband is mad,\u201d the first piece of advice you\u2019ll get is to spice things up in the bedroom. Don\u2019t get me wrong \u2013 there is nothing wrong with that.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, hay que entender que a lack of sex in your marriage is a sign of something else. Therefore, if you put your bedroom activities in first place, you\u2019ll only deal with the surface problem, which is wrong.<\/strong><\/p>\n

That is why you have to work on your relationship before anything else. It\u2019s time to reconstruya su matrimonio<\/a> because it\u2019s obviously broken.
\nDon\u2019t obsess over sexual satisfaction. Instead, just introduce some romance into our marriage.<\/p>\n

Acude a citas nocturnas, start saying \u201cI love you\u201d<\/a> m\u00e1s y sorprenderse mutuamente. Todas estas cosas reforzar\u00e1n vuestro v\u00ednculo y har\u00e1n que t\u00fa y tu marido os volv\u00e1is a enamorar el uno del otro.<\/p>\n

Cuando esto ocurra, aumentar\u00e1 la libido.<\/p>\n

3. Trabaja tu libido por ti mismo<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

\u00bfSab\u00edas que puedes trabajar tu libido por ti mismo? Start with masturbating and see if you\u2019re capable of reaching climax by yourself.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If that\u2019s the case, there is nothing physically wrong with you. This is not about sexual dysfunction \u2013 your marriage needs to be worked on.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Explora diferentes temas sexuales. \u00bfQu\u00e9 es lo que m\u00e1s te excita? \u00bfD\u00f3nde y c\u00f3mo te gusta que te toquen?<\/p>\n

Olv\u00eddate de las normas sociales y profundiza en ti mismo. Discover your deepest sexual desires and wildest sexual fantasies. Don\u2019t be ashamed \u2013 there is no one listening; you can be honest with yourself.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfHay algo que su marido haga que le baje la libido? \u00bfQu\u00e9 es lo que no te gusta y lo que te excita en la cama?<\/p>\n

Just be careful: if you decide to watch porn or read erotic stories, don\u2019t exaggerate. It\u2019s okay to dive into this world to help yourself out, but don\u2019t lose touch with reality.<\/p>\n

4. Don\u2019t look for a cure outside of your marriage<\/h3>\n

When a woman says: \u201cI have no sex drive and my husband is mad,\u201d in most cases, her first impulse is to go to social media or someplace else and look for another man to skyrocket her libido.<\/p>\n

De hecho, tanto los hombres como las mujeres act\u00faan as\u00ed cuando su relaci\u00f3n a largo plazo se queda sin sexo.<\/p>\n

Well, I\u2019m advising you not to. As long as you\u2019re here, it means that you think your marriage is worth saving. Infidelity will only make things worse.<\/p>\n

First of all, it would be unfair to your husband to cheat on him. Besides, the first time you do, you\u2019ll realize that it\u2019s not the solution to your problems. No, you won\u2019t get a high libido like that.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You should try and fix this issue inside of your marriage instead of looking for a cure outside of it. If you don\u2019t listen to this advice, your relationship will be broken beyond repair. Just like that, you\u2019ll have another problem you have to deal with.<\/p>\n

5. 5. Comunicaci\u00f3n abierta<\/h3>\n

Look, your husband knows very well what\u2019s going on. Trust me, he doesn\u2019t believe that you have a headache all the time. And nobody is that tired.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I mean, he married a high-libido woman, and now all of a sudden, he\u2019s got one with zero sexual needs.<\/p>\n

So, don\u2019t try ignoring the problem because it won\u2019t magically go away. Instead, remember the importance of comunicaci\u00f3n abierta<\/a> en cada relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Say it out loud: \u201cI have no sex drive and my husband is mad.\u201d There is nothing shameful here.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Habla con tu marido y dile exactamente c\u00f3mo te sientes. Dale todas las respuestas que t\u00fa misma tienes al principio.<\/p>\n

Intenta analizar tu relaci\u00f3n para averiguar d\u00f3nde y cu\u00e1ndo las cosas empezaron a ir cuesta abajo. \u00bfSucedi\u00f3 algo fuera de lo normal? \u00bfC\u00f3mo era su vida sexual antes de enfrentarse al bajo deseo sexual?<\/p>\n

6. Intente comprender a su marido<\/h3>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Most importantly, ask your husband how he feels about this situation. Ask him to be honest because that\u2019s the whole point of healthy communication.<\/p>\n

Yes, you know he\u2019s mad. But I mean, let\u2019s be real: who wouldn\u2019t be? Instead of fighting with him, do your best to understand his position.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I mean, this man has sexual needs. He is attracted to you, and he wants you two to be intimate as much as possible. But it\u2019s more than obvious that you don\u2019t share the same desires.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Todo eso le hace sentirse frustrado.<\/strong> The worst part is that he has no idea what\u2019s going on. What\u2019s the cause of your low libido?<\/p>\n

\u00bfSe ha vuelto poco atractivo de la noche a la ma\u00f1ana? \u00bfNo est\u00e1s satisfecha con su rendimiento sexual? \u00bfHa dejado de quererle? \u00bfEst\u00e1 enamorada de otra persona? \u00bfLe enga\u00f1a?<\/p>\n

Cr\u00e9eme: no hay nada peor para el ego masculino que esta situaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

But even though he\u2019s allowed to be mad, this isn\u2019t an excuse to be abusive or unfaithful. Everything can be resolved, and if it can\u2019t, nobody can stop him from leaving you.<\/p>\n

7. Don\u2019t play the blame game<\/h3>\n

Here\u2019s another big fat no for all the women saying: \u201cI have no sex drive and my husband is mad\u201d: jugar al juego de la culpa<\/a>. I have to warn you: you\u2019ll both feel tempted to do this, but this practice can be fatal for your marriage.<\/p>\n

Your low sexual desire is nobody\u2019s fault.<\/strong> I\u2019m sure your husband is doing his best to turn you on. He is trying his hardest to improve your sex life. Besides, he\u2019s feeling bad already. His self-esteem is at its lowest, and you definitely shouldn\u2019t do anything to destroy it even more.<\/p>\n

At the same time, he must avoid accusing you. It\u2019s not like you enjoy your matrimonio sin sexo<\/a>. I mean, you\u2019d be much happier if you didn\u2019t have to struggle with your low libido.<\/p>\n

Acu\u00e9rdate: it\u2019s you two against the problem, not one against the other.<\/strong> If you start with the blame game, you\u2019ll just end up arguing pointlessly, and you\u2019ll never come to a solution. Instead, focus all this energy on resolving this issue in the healthiest way possible.<\/p>\n

8. Intimidad f\u00edsica distinta del sexo<\/h3>\n

Ver\u00e1s, hay toneladas de otros cosas \u00edntimas que podr\u00edas estar haciendo adem\u00e1s del sexo<\/a>. Don\u2019t get me wrong \u2013 I\u2019m not claiming that sex isn\u2019t a crucial part of every romantic relationship. However, it\u2019s not the only thing that can improve a couple\u2019s intimacy and strengthen their connection.<\/p>\n

You have a low sex drive \u2013 I get it. But that doesn\u2019t include kissing, hugging, holding hands, cuddling, and things like that, does it?<\/p>\n

Yes, all of this can lead to sex, but this time, sex is not first place. Don\u2019t see these things as foreplay \u2013 just dale a tu marido un beso apasionado<\/a> y ver\u00e1s c\u00f3mo te sientes despu\u00e9s.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Also, don\u2019t forget about muestras p\u00fablicas de afecto<\/a>. Don\u2019t jump all over each other in public, but don\u2019t forget to hold hands or walk around while hugging. Show the world that you\u2019re proud to have a husband like him!<\/p>\n

Since you\u2019re the one with low libido, it would also be fair for you to initiate these forms of intimacy. This will be more powerful than saying, \u201cI love you.\u201d<\/p>\n

9. Empezar a salir de nuevo con su marido<\/h3>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve already advised you to go on noches de cita<\/a> with your husband. But for some couples, going on a couple of dates doesn\u2019t help much. If that\u2019s the case with you, I suggest you start dating your husband again.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t worry, you can still live together. But why wouldn\u2019t you pretend like you\u2019ve just met and you\u2019re about to fall in love with each other for the first time again?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Flirt with this man and do your best to get to know him on another level. Ask him to court you, and you start doing the same. Text each other good morning and good night even though you\u2019re sleeping next to each other.<\/p>\n

Haz todo lo que har\u00eda una nueva pareja. Esto incluye aplazar las relaciones sexuales<\/a> as well. After all, if you\u2019ve just met this man, you\u2019ll need some time to relax before sleeping with him, am I right?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Take things slowly. Remember: baby steps are key. When you feel the need to take this \u201crelationship\u201d to the next level, do so.<\/p>\n

Your husband might even propose to you all over again! This way, you can wait for your \u201cwedding night\u201d to sleep with him. How romantic is that?<\/p>\n

10. Prueba cosas nuevas en el dormitorio<\/h3>\n

Now that you\u2019ve worked on all the layers of your partnership, it\u2019s time to focus on the real deal. That\u2019s right, you\u2019ve reached the stage where you can hit the bedroom.<\/p>\n

But please, don\u2019t do whatever you were doing before. It\u2019s clear that you\u2019ve gotten tired of the same old routine. Or maybe deep down, it never pleased you.<\/p>\n

En cualquier caso, ahora es el momento de condimenta tu vida sexual<\/a>. Usted y su marido dominan el arte de la comunicaci\u00f3n sana, y ya nada puede detenerles.<\/p>\n

Remember when you worked on your libido by yourself? Well, what\u2019s stopping you from implementing all those things in real intercourse now?<\/p>\n

Tell your husband what you\u2019re into. Tell him that you\u2019ve been exploring your body, and talk to him about everything you\u2019ve discovered.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Y lo que es m\u00e1s importante, exploraos mutuamente. Descubran juntos sus preferencias.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Pruebe sexting<\/a>juegos de rol, palabrotas<\/a>, BSDM… whatever comes to mind. Look, I\u2019m not saying that you\u2019ll enjoy all of these things.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s always important to only do things you\u2019re comfortable with. However, make sure to push your limits and try something new.<\/p>\n

11. Visita a un terapeuta sexual<\/h3>\n

Finally, I suggest going to a sex therapist. Don\u2019t worry, this is perfectly normal, and it only means that you\u2019re mature enough to recognize the problem.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll be able to talk to a mental health expert who will help you get to the bottom of your problem and help you resolve it in the healthiest way possible.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Por supuesto, lo mejor ser\u00eda visitar a un terapeuta sexual con su marido. Pod\u00e9is probar distintos tipos de terapia sexual y recuperar vuestra vida sexual.<\/p>\n

However, you can also go on your own, even before discussing it with him, or even if he\u2019s not interested.<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 causa el bajo deseo sexual en una esposa?<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

We\u2019ve already talked about how important it is to find the cause of your problem. I mean, you didn\u2019t just wake up one morning and say, \u201cI have no sex drive and my husband is mad,\u201d did you? This has been going on for a while now, and it\u2019s about time you see what\u2019s hidden behind this sentence.<\/p>\n

1. Problemas de relaci\u00f3n<\/h3>\n

The most common cause of low sex drive in women is different relationship problems. As hard as you try, you can\u2019t separate your body, mind, and heart.<\/p>\n

What does this mean? Well, if your heart is broken, it\u2019s impossible for the person who hurt you to turn you on.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t feel any physical attraction or sexual desire towards the man who caused you emotional pain \u2013 it\u2019s simply how women work.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Usted tiene un matrimonio infeliz<\/a>, and you\u2019re perfectly aware that jumping into bed with your husband won\u2019t magically make things okay.<\/p>\n

Tal vez tengas problemas de confianza<\/a> en tu matrimonio. \u00bfO te sientes traicionada por algo que \u00e9l hizo?<\/p>\n

Tal vez sientas que tienes una marido irrespetuoso<\/a>, or you two are arguing so much that you can\u2019t get yourself to even kiss him, let alone something else. The list could be endless, but you get the picture.<\/p>\n

En ese caso, ya sabes lo que hay que hacer en primer lugar. En el momento en que resuelvas tus problemas de pareja, tu libido alta volver\u00e1.<\/p>\n

2. Desequilibrio hormonal<\/h3>\n

El desequilibrio hormonal es una causa frecuente del bajo deseo sexual en las mujeres. Esto es especialmente frecuente en las mujeres que atraviesan la menopausia.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Another diagnosis is hypogonadism. To put things simply, having this condition means that your body is unable to produce enough sex hormones. If you\u2019re a woman, we\u2019re talking about estrogen.<\/p>\n

Esto es exactamente lo que ocurre durante la menopausia: Los niveles de estr\u00f3geno empiezan a disminuir. Esto suele ir seguido de sequedad vaginal.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Either way, the biggest problem is that you\u2019re probably not even aware that you have a hormone imbalance. That\u2019s why I suggest you pay your MD a visit and do a check-up before anything else.<\/p>\n

3. 3. Baja autoestima<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Have you involuntarily gained or lost a lot of weight lately? Or maybe you\u2019re just not feeling like your best self? In this case, your low self-esteem might be what\u2019s causing your low sexual desire.<\/p>\n

Esto es a\u00fan m\u00e1s posible si su el marido es malo<\/a> y ha estado haciendo comentarios desagradables sobre tu apariencia. He\u2019s killed your confidence, and now you\u2019d rather die than allow him to see you naked. You no longer feel loved and wanted, and consequently, nothing can turn you on.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Una vez m\u00e1s, hay que trabajar sobre la causa, lo que significa aumentar tu autoestima.<\/a><\/p>\n

4. Mala comunicaci\u00f3n en el dormitorio<\/h3>\n

La comunicaci\u00f3n abierta es la clave relaci\u00f3n sana<\/a>y eso incluye tambi\u00e9n el dormitorio. Por lo tanto, if you can\u2019t tell your husband what your likes and dislikes are, and if he\u2019s not putting any effort into pleasing you, it\u2019s natural that your libido is at its lowest.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You wouldn\u2019t admit this to him, but you\u2019d rather spend time masturbating than sleeping with him. At least, like this, you climax.<\/p>\n

Si esto es algo con lo que se siente identificado, por favor habla con tu hombre sobre sexo.<\/a> Ens\u00e9\u00f1ale a complacerte.<\/p>\n

5. 5. Problemas de salud mental<\/h3>\n

If you\u2019ve been struggling with mental health problems, como la depresi\u00f3n,<\/a> it\u2019s perfectly natural that your libido has almost disappeared. Tenga en cuenta que el bajo deseo sexual es un efecto secundario de ciertos antidepresivos.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I suggest talking to your mental health expert and telling them about the issues you\u2019re facing<\/strong>. Maybe they\u2019ll prescribe you a different type of antidepressant. But please, don\u2019t do anything on your own without consulting a professional!<\/p>\n

\u00bfEs normal no tener deseo sexual en una relaci\u00f3n?<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Having no sex drive in a long-term relationship or marriage is actually more common than you might think. In fact, both men and women face this problem, so nobody can tell you it\u2019s not normal.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sin embargo, es sin duda una se\u00f1al de problemas. Lo peor que puedes hacer es aceptar las cosas como son y seguir la corriente. Recuerda: se trata de una relaci\u00f3n rom\u00e1ntica, no de una amistad, y tu pareja no es tu compa\u00f1ero de piso.<\/p>\n

Luckily, there are numerous ways to help you build a higher libido. No, sexual desire is not a death sentence for your relationship, and it most definitely doesn\u2019t have to be permanent.<\/p>\n

Para terminar:<\/h2>\n

If you\u2019re a woman who says, \u201cI have no sex drive and my husband is mad,\u201d it means only one thing: you\u2019ve taken the first step \u2013 you\u2019ve admitted that you have a problem. You\u2019ve reached the point of self-awareness where you see what this is doing to your marriage, and you\u2019re mature enough to recognize how this entire situation makes your husband feel.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Esto significa que tiene muchas posibilidades de mejorar las cosas. Si su marido tambi\u00e9n est\u00e1 dispuesto a trabajar en su libido baja, no hay nada que les impida a ambos tener \u00e9xito.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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