{"id":158685,"date":"2022-10-17T16:37:55","date_gmt":"2022-10-17T16:37:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=158685"},"modified":"2022-10-25T11:35:40","modified_gmt":"2022-10-25T11:35:40","slug":"cuando-un-chico-te-cuenta-cosas-personales-sobre-si-mismo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/cuando-un-chico-te-cuenta-cosas-personales-sobre-si-mismo\/","title":{"rendered":"Cuando un chico te cuenta cosas personales sobre s\u00ed mismo"},"content":{"rendered":"

Cuando un t\u00edo te cuenta cosas personales sobre s\u00ed mismo, quiere que le conozcas<\/strong> and form a deeper bond with you. It\u2019s because he either feels safe with you as a friend or he\u2019s interested in you romantically.<\/p>\n

But there\u2019s another possibility that shouldn\u2019t be ignored: he might not really be opening up to you, but making you think he is para manipularte.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll have to pay close attention to his behavior to work out what he\u2019s all about, but if you keep reading you\u2019ll get enough tips to figure out where you stand in no time.<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 significa que un chico te cuente cosas personales sobre s\u00ed mismo?<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Sharing your feelings, your history or your inner self isn\u2019t easy, but the desire for the other person to know you pushes you to do it anyway. When a guy tells you personal things about himself, you can be almost sure that compart\u00eds una conexi\u00f3n emocional.<\/a><\/p>\n

Whether he wants a romantic relationship or to deepen your friendship, there\u2019s a growing bond between you<\/p>\n

1. Conf\u00eda en ti<\/h3>\n

Abrirse a ti es una de las se\u00f1ales claras de que conf\u00eda en ti. Lleva tiempo generar confianza,<\/strong> so your relationship isn\u2019t entirely new. If it is and he\u2019s opening up, he might have a problem. More on that below.<\/p>\n

Contarte c\u00f3mo creci\u00f3 en su pueblo natal, su ruptura m\u00e1s dolorosa o abrirse sobre un problema actual demuestra que tiene un grado de familiaridad contigo que s\u00f3lo se consigue con una conexi\u00f3n y confianza.<\/strong><\/p>\n

2. Se siente seguro contigo<\/h3>\n

A medida que una relaci\u00f3n progresa, la gente pasa lentamente de las conversaciones superficiales y la informaci\u00f3n biogr\u00e1fica a algo m\u00e1s profundo.<\/p>\n

Seguro que sabes cu\u00e1ntos hermanos tiene, pero puede que no te cuente enseguida la historia de c\u00f3mo se hizo la peque\u00f1a cicatriz en la mejilla porque tiene un significado m\u00e1s profundo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When he decides to tell you the story about how he got it, you\u2019ll know that se siente seguro y c\u00f3modo contigo<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

3. Siente una conexi\u00f3n emocional<\/h3>\n

Si un tipo siente un conexi\u00f3n emocional<\/a> with you, you\u2019ll probably feel it too because it\u2019s something that grows instead of springs up fully formed. It takes effort to connect emotionally, and you\u2019ve both done your best.<\/p>\n

Abrirse puede ser una se\u00f1al de que siente un v\u00ednculo contigo<\/strong> and that you\u2019ve earned the right to know personal things about him.<\/p>\n

4. Quiere profundizar en vuestra relaci\u00f3n<\/h3>\n

Una forma de hacer avanzar una relaci\u00f3n es deja entrar a la otra persona.<\/strong> If he\u2019s interested in deepening your connection, he might start by sharing details about his own life, feelings and things that matter.<\/p>\n

Quiere acercarse a ti, as\u00ed que he\u2019s taking the first step.<\/strong> After you\u2019re sure that you want to, you can reciprocate.<\/p>\n

5. Valora tus pensamientos y opiniones<\/h3>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

A veces, cuando un chico comparte un problema contigo, quiere o\u00edr lo que piensas. Si te pide que comentes o le des una soluci\u00f3n, te demuestra que valora tu forma de pensar y tu criterio.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When you know that he wants you to give him advice, don\u2019t hesitate to be honest. If he appreciates your opinions, he won\u2019t mind it, but don\u2019t forget to still have compassion and act with kindness.<\/p>\n

6. Quiere que le entiendas<\/h3>\n

If he\u2019s sharing personal details that he might be sensitive about, such as mental health issues, insecurities or family problems, he\u2019s showing a great deal of vulnerability and trust because he wants you to understand him.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Honra su valent\u00eda y fortaleza apoy\u00e1ndole y tranquiliz\u00e1ndole, sobre todo si quieres que siga compartiendo contigo sus asuntos privados.<\/p>\n

7. Quiere que conozcas a su verdadero yo<\/h3>\n

For most people, the innermost self is the most private thing of all. We display different personas in different contexts in our lives, and the smallest, most true part of what makes someone who they are only comes out once they\u2019re on their own.<\/p>\n

Si un chico se abre a ti y shows you what he\u2019s like when he\u2019s on his own<\/strong>quiere que le conozcas. Mostr\u00e1ndote sus miedos m\u00e1s profundos<\/a> and brightest dreams, he\u2019s showing you that he\u2019s eager for you to know him.<\/p>\n

8. Quiere que le aceptes<\/h3>\n

Everyone is flawed, but we all want to have someone who accepts those flaws. If he\u2019s going deep and sharing things he\u2019s ashamed or proud of, if he\u2019s sharing his past relationships, childhood traumas or brightest hopes, he\u2019s laying himself bare for you to accept him.<\/strong><\/p>\n

However big or small whatever he shares is, if you take it in with an open mind, you\u2019ll understand him better. And it\u2019s up to you to accept it or not.<\/p>\n

9. Quiere conocerte mejor<\/h3>\n

Sharing his personal life is an invitation for you to share yours too. Don\u2019t jump in and make the moment about you, but keep in mind that you have someone who\u2019ll listen <\/strong>tambi\u00e9n cuando lo necesites.<\/p>\n

Tu respuesta a su apertura tambi\u00e9n le dir\u00e1 cosas sobre ti y le animar\u00e1 a compartir de nuevo o le disuadir\u00e1 de contarte cosas personales.<\/p>\n

10. You’re special to him<\/h3>\n

Being able to tell you personal things is a clear sign that you matter to him, as a friend or as a potential partner. Either way, by opening up to you he\u2019s showing you that you\u2019re one of the rare people who has access to his private matters.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It\u2019s a sign that te aprecia<\/a> and values you, that you\u2019re special to him and he wants you to know it.<\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo responder cuando un chico habla de su vida privada?<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 hace falta para abrirse a alguien? El valor de ser emocionalmente vulnerable<\/a>, first and foremost, but also the trust that the other person won\u2019t let you down. More than anything else, however, it\u2019s the deseo de estar cerca de otra persona.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 hacer cuando un chico se abre a ti?<\/p>\n

1. Saber escuchar<\/h3>\n

Esc\u00fachalo con la intenci\u00f3n de comprender. Don’t interrupt, assume or judge.<\/strong> En lugar de esperar tu turno para hablar, c\u00e9ntrate en \u00e9l.<\/p>\n

He might or might not want a reply, so while he’s speaking, it’s best to only try to escucharle y empatizar con \u00e9l.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Give an indication that you\u2019re listening by nodding, through body language or by repeating what he said to make sure you understood.<\/p>\n

2. Aseg\u00farele que sus sentimientos son v\u00e1lidos<\/h3>\n

After someone has opened up about something important to them, they might regret it and worry whether they’ve done the right thing. Tranquil\u00edcelo haci\u00e9ndole saber que aprecia<\/strong> que compartiera asuntos personales contigo.<\/p>\n

If he\u2019s struggling with what he told you, recu\u00e9rdale que sus sentimientos son v\u00e1lidos.<\/strong> Let him know that it’s okay to feel the way he feels and that he made the right choice to share it.<\/p>\n

3. Preg\u00fantele qu\u00e9 necesita<\/h3>\n

Cuando alguien conf\u00eda en ti, puede que necesiten consejo o simplemente una oreja amiga<\/strong>. Tal vez s\u00f3lo quer\u00eda sentirse comprendido y ahora se siente mejor despu\u00e9s de compartirlo contigo.<\/p>\n

Unless you know for sure that he\u2019s looking for a solution, don\u2019t offer one. It\u2019s best to ask him if he wants advice or if he only needs to talk.<\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo saber si un chico quiere ser algo m\u00e1s que un amigo?<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

So when a guy tells you personal things about himself, you know that you\u2019re definitely special to him, but how can you tell if he sees you as his best friend or if he\u2019s in love with you?<\/p>\n

\u00c9stas son todas las se\u00f1ales de que quiere que seamos algo m\u00e1s que amigos.<\/p>\n

1. Coquetea contigo<\/h3>\n

Friends sometimes flirt with each other, but if he wants to be more than friends, his flirting won\u2019t be friendly. Instead, he\u2019ll flirt with a passion that betrays how he feels.<\/p>\n

2. Te felicita<\/h3>\n

If he never fails to find something about you to compliment, that\u2019s because he likes so many things about you that he never runs out of something to talk about.<\/p>\n

3. Sus ojos siempre est\u00e1n puestos en ti<\/h3>\n

If he\u2019s always looking at you, he likes what he sees. There\u2019s nothing friendly about his pointed stare or his lidded gaze always directed at you, always following you.<\/p>\n

4. Te toca casualmente<\/h3>\n

Romantic interest is most obvious in body language and behavior. He\u2019ll always find a way to touch you in a casual way, such as holding a handshake too long, placing his fingers on the small of your back as you\u2019re walking and any other way.<\/p>\n

5. Le hace preguntas personales<\/h3>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

He tells you personal things about himself, but he\u2019s also endlessly curious about you. He\u2019s opening up and wants you to open up too.<\/p>\n

6. Se da cuenta de cosas sobre ti<\/h3>\n

He notices everything, and everything matters. Because you\u2019re the most interesting person to him, he\u2019s paying attention and noticing things about you \u2013 from your gestures and way of talking to small changes.<\/p>\n

7. Recuerda peque\u00f1os detalles sobre ti<\/h3>\n

If he surprises you by knowing something small that you\u2019d never think someone would remember about you, it\u2019s because nothing about you is irrelevant to him. The little things about you are more interesting and memorable than anything else.<\/p>\n

8. He’s interested in things you’re interested in<\/h3>\n

It\u2019s not that your likes and dislikes become his too, but that he gives things a chance because he trusts your judgment. If you like something, it must be amazing, right?<\/p>\n

9. Habla de ti con otras personas<\/h3>\n

He can\u2019t shut up about you, so he doesn\u2019t. If you\u2019re his favorite topic, it\u2019s a good sign that you\u2019re always on his mind and nothing holds the same interest as you do.<\/p>\n

10. Intenta hacerte re\u00edr<\/h3>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

It\u2019s well known that laughing together increases attraction. When he\u2019s being silly trying to get you to laugh, he isn\u2019t only doing it for you, but also for himself \u2013 seeing you laugh makes him happy too.<\/p>\n

11. He doesn’t like it when you talk to other guys<\/h3>\n

Whenever your male friends or random guys talk to you, he sulks. If he\u2019s showing a small degree of jealousy, it\u2019s because he\u2019s interested in you and he\u2019s hoping you won\u2019t get together with anyone else.<\/p>\n

12. He doesn’t show interest in others<\/h3>\n

If he gives you his full attention when you\u2019re together even if there are lots of other people around, it\u2019s a sure sign that he likes you. Others just aren\u2019t as cute and cool and sexy as you. In fact, no one can compare.<\/p>\n

13. He’s different with you than with anyone else<\/h3>\n

You\u2019re special, so you get special treatment. If he\u2019s more gentle and caring with you than his other friends, he\u2019s atra\u00eddo emocionalmente<\/a> a ti.<\/p>\n

14. Inicia mucho el contacto<\/h3>\n

Por tel\u00e9fono, mensaje de texto, redes sociales o en persona, no tiene ning\u00fan problema en ponerse en contacto contigo primero. En lugar de mantener la calma y jugar, te dice cuando te echa de menos.<\/p>\n

15. Quiere pasar tiempo contigo<\/h3>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Spending time together is what dating is all about. If you\u2019re already friends even though you technically never even had a first date. Maybe you can even skip casual dating and go straight to a serious relationship?<\/p>\n

16. Se burla juguetonamente de ti<\/h3>\n

Playful teasing and having fun together is a sign of a healthy relationship. If you\u2019re not in a romantic relationship yet, make sure to keep enjoying each other\u2019s company the same way once you do.<\/p>\n

17. Se asegura de que sepas que puedes confiar en \u00e9l<\/h3>\n

A sure sign that he wants to take things to the next level is if he constantly shows concern for your well-being and makes sure you know that you can count on him if you need something. He\u2019s vulnerable contigo<\/a> y no teme exponerse.<\/p>\n

18. Se desvive por ti<\/h3>\n

One of the most obvious signs of interest is if, for him, nothing is too difficult when it comes to you. If he\u2019s willing to go to the opposite end of the city just to pick up your favorite food, he probably wants to be more than friends with you.<\/p>\n

19. Le habla de sus planes de futuro<\/h3>\n

When he talks to you about his future and includes you in them, is not only a sign that he wants something more, but that he wants a serious relationship. He\u2019s including you in his life now and wants to include you going forward.<\/p>\n

20. Intenta que le veas de esa manera<\/h3>\n

Cuando conoces a un chico en busca de romance y desde el principio lo consideras una pareja potencial, las cosas son diferentes que si primero surge una amistad entre vosotros.<\/p>\n

In that case, it might take some work to transition from friends to romantic interests, so if he\u2019s trying hard to change your impression of him from friend to potential boyfriend, it\u2019s a sign that he likes you.<\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo saber si un chico es sincero?<\/h2>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

La sinceridad y la vulnerabilidad son claves para establecer v\u00ednculos afectivos, pero algunas personas utilizan la franqueza o la apariencia de franqueza para ganar algo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

This isn\u2019t always malicious \u2013 some people simply carecen de inteligencia emocional<\/strong> para formar v\u00ednculos con los dem\u00e1s e intentar hacerlo de la manera equivocada. Otros, sin embargo, intentan manipularte.<\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo saber si las cosas personales que te cuenta son ciertas? Aqu\u00ed tienes algunas se\u00f1ales.<\/p>\n

1. Sus historias son coherentes<\/h3>\n

If he were manipulating you, all of his stories would serve a certain purpose, so he\u2019d have to change things up to make them fit. If it seems that the las cosas que te dice se contradicen,<\/strong> puede que no te est\u00e9 diciendo la verdad.<\/p>\n

2. The things he tells you don’t always need an emotional reaction<\/h3>\n

Sometimes people share just to share, but when someone is trying to gain something from a personal story, they\u2019ll always do it a trav\u00e9s de las emociones.<\/strong><\/p>\n

En lugar de contarte algo personal porque quiere que lo sepas, te cuenta una historia para ganar l\u00e1stima, admiraci\u00f3n u otra reacci\u00f3n emocional.<\/p>\n

3. He’s not suspicious when you ask him follow-up questions<\/h3>\n

A person who\u2019s telling the truth has enough information about the topic to be able to answer any follow-up questions without panicking.<\/p>\n

Someone who\u2019s lying or making things up will necesito tiempo para pensarlo,<\/strong> so you\u2019ll often hear typical liar techniques for delaying answers to invent them.<\/p>\n

4. He’s not manipulating eye contact<\/h3>\n

Cuando alguien miente, mantiene contacto visual<\/a> a prop\u00f3sito para hacerte creer que no tienen nada que ocultar, as\u00ed que te miran demasiado a los ojos.<\/strong> Conversely, if they don\u2019t know that they\u2019re supposed to look you in the eyes, they\u2019ll evitar su mirada.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If he\u2019s honest, eye contact will be natural and not premeditated.<\/p>\n

5. He’s not vague or overly detailed<\/h3>\n

Construir mentiras es complejo, as\u00ed que los mentirosos either invent too many details and get lost in them, or they don\u2019t say anything<\/strong> excepto el marco b\u00e1sico de la mentira.<\/p>\n

An honest person might forget things, but even if they don\u2019t recall all the information, they remember the feelings they were experiencing at the time they\u2019re telling you about.<\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo saber si un chico te est\u00e1 manipulando al abrirse?<\/h3>\n

He’s manipulating you<\/a> abriendo si:<\/p>\n

\u2022 He wants a specific emotional reaction from you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2022 He’s telling you exactly what you want to hear.<\/p>\n

\u2022 He evades your questions.<\/p>\n

\u2022 He ignores your responses.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2022 He insists you listen even if you’re not interested.<\/p>\n

\u2022 He’s using vulnerability instead of being vulnerable.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2022 It feels like he’s trying to force intimacy.<\/p>\n

\u2022 He’s telling you things that are too private for the level of closeness you share.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2022 He expects something in return.<\/p>\n

\u2022 His stories seem tailored to show him in a good light.<\/strong><\/p>\n

M\u00e1s razones por las que un chico podr\u00eda contarte cosas personales<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Sometimes guys have an agenda behind opening up even though they don\u2019t mean to manipulate you. Here are some reasons.<\/p>\n

1. Comparte en exceso<\/h3>\n

If he\u2019s opening up to you because he feels like the relationship you\u2019ve created together is at the level where you have se gan\u00f3 el derecho a escuchar lo que tiene que decir<\/strong> and he does it because he wants to, it tells you that he feels that you\u2019re the right person to tell things.<\/p>\n

When you don\u2019t know each other well or your relationship isn\u2019t the kind where you\u2019d share personal things and he still does, it\u2019s because he\u2019s trying to manufacture a connection<\/strong> demasiado pronto. Compartir demasiado suele ser un signo de estar necesitado<\/a> y depender de otras personas para ser feliz.<\/p>\n

2. He’s going through something<\/h3>\n

If he has something stressful going on and he\u2019s feeling emotionally fragile, venting helps distraerle de sus problemas.<\/strong> If you care about wellness, give him a listening ear and think about what\u2019s going on between the two of you after he\u2019s back to normal.<\/p>\n

3. Quiere consejo<\/h3>\n

Sometimes he shares because he needs advice and you\u2019re the best candidate to get it from. When it\u2019s just about solving his problem, it\u2019s usually just about that and doesn\u2019t really impact your relationship. Still, it points out that he values your advice.<\/p>\n

4. He wants attention and knows you’ll listen<\/h3>\n

When he\u2019s in need of attention and knows that you\u2019ll give it to him, it\u2019s to be expected that he\u2019ll run to you when he wants some and he\u2019ll tell you something that will turn the spotlight on him.<\/p>\n

Esto es probablemente inofensivo si su relaci\u00f3n es de otra manera rec\u00edproco y feliz.<\/strong><\/p>\n

5. He’s testing you<\/h3>\n

If he wants to see whether he can trust you with something or behaves in a way that specifically triggers an emotional response, he might be playing mind games and testing you to see how you\u2019ll react. He might or might not realize it, but this is manipulative and underhanded.<\/p>\n

En resumen<\/h2>\n

When a guy tells you personal things about himself, you\u2019ll know why it\u2019s happening if you think about everything else going on in your relationship.<\/p>\n

You first need to consider if he\u2019s being honesto y sincero<\/strong> or if he\u2019s tratando de ganar algo<\/strong> de ti cont\u00e1ndote una historia.<\/p>\n

If you decide that you trust him and if you like that he\u2019s opening up to you, you\u2019re lucky. You either have un amigo \u00edntimo<\/strong> que comparte cosas personales contigo o alguien a quien le gustes.<\/strong> By paying attention to his other behaviors you\u2019ll be able to tell which.<\/p>\n

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