{"id":15909,"date":"2018-03-07T10:56:47","date_gmt":"2018-03-07T10:56:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=15909"},"modified":"2021-08-12T11:13:49","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T11:13:49","slug":"5-senales-de-que-estas-saliendo-con-un-manipulador-obseso-del-control","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/5-senales-de-que-estas-saliendo-con-un-manipulador-obseso-del-control\/","title":{"rendered":"5 se\u00f1ales de que est\u00e1s saliendo con un manipulador obsesionado con el control y c\u00f3mo afrontarlo"},"content":{"rendered":"

1. Invade tu intimidad.<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

He always checks your phone or leans in to see who\u2019s calling you or who sent you that text. He always checks up on your online status and wants to know who you are communicating with besides him. He wants to know your every move and reason for doing anything in life. These are all red flags that your partner is controlling and manipulative.
\nCuando se encuentre en un relaci\u00f3n sana<\/a> built on mutual trust and respect, you have no necessity to check your partner\u2019s phone. You have no need to trace their every move or question their behavior.<\/p>\n

C\u00f3mo afrontarlo:<\/strong> Talk to your partner openly. Tell him he should trust you as much as you trust him and there is no need for checking anybody\u2019s phone or your whereabouts that day. Tell him how you feel when he constantly checks up on you. This behavior is usually accompanied by enormous jealousy and if that is the case, you won\u2019t find your happiness with him.<\/p>\n

2. Est\u00e1 ansioso por cambiarte.<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

Everything you are and everything you do is good but not good enough. He pushes you to do better, to be better and to change but he does not accept you for who you are. He wants you to become the picture he has of you in his head and that\u2019s not realistic or healthy. Nadie es perfecto<\/a>.<\/p>\n

C\u00f3mo afrontarlo:<\/strong> Tell him how his behavior is hurting you. You accepted him the way he is so he should be able to do the same. You are your own woman with an already established personality and you shouldn\u2019t even try to change to fit his ideals. Even if you reach those ideals, he will find something else that isn\u2019t good enough. If after talking to him he doesn\u2019t change, you should leave because the only one who isn\u2019t good enough in this story is him.<\/p>\n

3. \u00c9l decide por ti.<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

You hardly ever order for yourself as he knows what you should eat or drink. He has a say in everything actually. He imposes decisions on every aspect of your life as if it\u2019s his own. He tries to camouflage it by saying he knows you best and he only has your best interests at heart but you are his girlfriend and not his child\u2014there is no need for him to make any decision on your behalf. If you are still determined to work on your relationship and try to regain some balance, check\u00a0Aprende el secreto para lidiar con el mani\u00e1tico del control en las relaciones<\/a><\/p>\n

C\u00f3mo afrontarlo:<\/strong> Dile que su comportamiento te molesta y que, aunque sus intenciones sean buenas, lo est\u00e1 haciendo todo mal. Eres capaz de hablar por ti misma y de tomar tus propias decisiones sin ninguna interferencia por su parte. Por supuesto, puedes consultarle, sobre todo si una decisi\u00f3n os afecta a los dos, pero tienes que ser t\u00fa quien tome las decisiones, grandes o peque\u00f1as, que afectan a tu vida.<\/p>\n

4. Siempre te echa la culpa.<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

Somehow every time you fight you are the one apologizing and taking all the blame. He manipulates you in a way that makes you question your sanity. He twists your words and your thoughts. He is making you feel like a puppet on a string that\u2019s under his command.<\/p>\n

C\u00f3mo afrontarlo:<\/strong> Two people in a relationship should be equal. It\u2019s impossible that he never did anything wrong. Neither of you is perfect and you should be able to solve your differences and rise above them. But when you are dealing with a manipulative control freak, there is no equality and him blaming you for everything only evolves to deeper problems in the future. The best thing to do here is to leave before it\u2019s too late.<\/p>\n

5. He doesn\u2019t want to share you with other people.<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

Te est\u00e1 colmando de atenci\u00f3n<\/a>, you have so much TLC and passion with him that it\u2019s even too much. He wants all your time and attention but he is slowly alienating you from the other important people in your life. Your friends and family always complain how they are seeing less of you and that you have become distant. Also, you have put all your interests aside because he is taking up too much of your time.<\/p>\n

How to deal with it: Don\u2019t distance yourself from the people who mean the world to you\u2014you will end up regretting it. Understand that his behavior isn\u2019t normal. Try to explain that just because there are other people in your life that you care about that it doesn\u2019t make you care for him any less. If he is unwilling to work on his insecurities, the best thing you can do is leave him.<\/p>\n

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1. He invades your privacy. He always checks your phone or leans in to see who\u2019s calling you or who sent you that text. He always checks up on your online status and wants to know who you are communicating with besides him. He wants to know your every move and reason for doing anything…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":20,"featured_media":15913,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29625],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-15909","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-toxic-relationship"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29625,"label":"toxic relationship"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/allef-vinicius-187472-unsplash.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Christine Keller","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/christine\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29625,"name":"toxic relationship","slug":"toxic-relationship","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29625,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Are you in a toxic relationship without even knowing it? What should you do if you find yourself in one? Here's all you need to know!","parent":29620,"count":228,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29625,"category_count":228,"category_description":"Are you in a toxic relationship without even knowing it? What should you do if you find yourself in one? Here's all you need to know!","cat_name":"toxic relationship","category_nicename":"toxic-relationship","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15909","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/20"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=15909"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15909\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/15913"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=15909"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=15909"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=15909"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}