{"id":159300,"date":"2022-11-01T08:20:02","date_gmt":"2022-11-01T08:20:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=159300"},"modified":"2023-02-22T06:12:50","modified_gmt":"2023-02-22T06:12:50","slug":"por-que-ignorar-a-tu-ex-es-poderoso","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/por-que-ignorar-a-tu-ex-es-poderoso\/","title":{"rendered":"Por qu\u00e9 ignorar a tu ex es poderoso y c\u00f3mo hacerlo bien"},"content":{"rendered":"

You must have heard that if you ignore your ex, they\u2019ll miss you and come back to you, but is it true? If the only thing on your mind is getting back together with your ex, I understand the need to know <\/span>ahora mismo<\/span><\/i> si funciona.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So I\u2019ll cut to the chase and ease your mind: it\u2019s possible, even if it\u2019s not guaranteed. This might not be <\/span>exactamente<\/span><\/i> lo que quer\u00edas o\u00edr, pero <\/span>don\u2019t underestimate silence.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u00e9 que debajo de tu deseo de conseguir tu <\/span>ex vuelta<\/span>, <\/span>lo que quieres<\/span> es que se acabe el desamor y que te quieran. Y cortar el contacto con tu ex te ayudar\u00e1.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

La verdadera raz\u00f3n por la que ignorar <\/span>tu ex es poderoso<\/span> no tiene nada que ver con recuperarlos y todo que ver con <\/span>tomar el control<\/b>. Y cuando tienes el control, te conviertes en el centro de tu mundo en lugar de alguien que te hizo da\u00f1o.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

La verdadera raz\u00f3n por la que ignorar a tu ex es poderoso<\/b><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"novio<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

There\u2019s a lot of relationship advice available about la regla de no contacto.<\/a> Te ayuda a recuperarte de la ruptura. En algunos casos <\/span>hace<\/span><\/i> hacer que tu ex quiera volver contigo. Tambi\u00e9n puede ayudarte a seguir adelante, seg\u00fan los expertos en relaciones.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

La raz\u00f3n por la que ignorar <\/span>tu ex es poderoso<\/span> es porque <\/span>te da el control<\/strong> y hace que la ausencia de tu ex de tu vida <\/span>tu elecci\u00f3n<\/i><\/strong>.<\/strong> Permite recuperarte, reflexionar sobre la ruptura y decidir qu\u00e9 es lo que realmente quieres. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cuando ignoras a tu ex, pierde su poder sobre ti<\/b><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

At first, it might not seem that way. Breakups hurt. The pain you\u2019re feeling is a constant reminder of what you\u2019ve been through and what your ex has done to you. It seems like everything you\u2019re experiencing, feeling and going through has something to do with them.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tal vez quiera que su <\/span>ex vuelta<\/span>, so you think about them, obsess over them and crave them. Or you just want to be done and move on, but it\u2019s not working.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

When things seem too hard or too much to handle, that\u2019s when you need to stay <\/span>comprometido con tu objetivo de superar la ruptura.<\/strong> Be kind to yourself \u2013 you can sobrevivir al periodo de no contacto<\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Encuentra la fuerza en decidir que <\/span>tu autoestima y tu salud mental son m\u00e1s importantes que la satisfacci\u00f3n temporal<\/strong> que obtendr\u00eda al saber que su <\/span>ex quiere<\/span> para ponerse en contacto.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you persevere in ignoring your ex and keep pushing forward, I promise you things will look up. In time, you\u2019ll stop feeling like your ex and your breakup is all you can think about.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo te ayuda ignorar a tu ex?<\/b><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"mujer<\/figure>\n\n\n\n\n\n

Keeping your ex out of your life after you break up \u2013 even though it can be painful \u2013 gives you clarity if you stay strong and ignore them. It\u2019s difficult at times, but the<\/span> ventajas de la norma de no contacto<\/a> hacen que todo valga la pena.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

A medida que tus pensamientos se vuelven menos y menos ocupados por tu ex,<\/span> adquieres cada vez m\u00e1s control<\/strong> \u2013 over your life, your reactions and your feelings. And as each day passes, you\u2019re closer to being free.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ignorar a tu ex es una <\/b>movimiento de poder<\/b><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

It gives you the freedom to decide what to do without having to consider what anyone else wants or feels. Whatever you eventually choose \u2013 moving on or getting back together \u2013<\/span> ignorar a tu ex te da tiempo y espacio para tomar esa decisi\u00f3n por ti misma.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But it\u2019s possible only if you do it right. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ignoring your ex in the hope that they\u2019ll miss you and come back asking you to take them back won\u2019t work. Spending all that time without reflecting on what went wrong won\u2019t help you have a healthy relationship in the future, with your ex or anyone else. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It doesn’t matter if you were the <\/span>volquete<\/span> o el <\/span>dumpee<\/span> \u2013 <\/span>if the breakup has happened, it didn’t happen for no reason<\/b>. Please don\u2019t forget this.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Unless that reason is gone, going back to your ex won’t end well. I guarantee you that if you do, you’ll break up again and again, and each time you go through this cycle, you keep getting hurt.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Creo que deber\u00edas<\/span> nunca aceptes a un ex que te ha dejado<\/a>pero tambi\u00e9n que nunca debes volver a una relaci\u00f3n a menos que t\u00fa y tu ex <\/span>resolver completamente los problemas que causaron la ruptura<\/b> en primer lugar.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: \u00bfC\u00f3mo actuar con tu ex cuando te ha dejado? 20 maneras de sanar<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1l es la mejor forma de ignorar a tu ex?<\/b><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"mujer<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

You’ve heard the saying, “Living well is the <\/span>la mejor venganza<\/span>,” but have you thought about what it really means? If you have, you know that<\/span> it isn’t about showing your ex that you’ve “won the breakup”<\/strong> ni nada por el estilo. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s really about living your life fully until you realize that <\/span>your ex doesn’t matter at all<\/strong>.<\/strong> It’s about learning that you don’t need <\/span>validaci\u00f3n<\/span> in the form of revenge because you’re <\/span>feliz<\/span><\/i>.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ignorar a tu ex es el primer paso hacia<\/span> dejar ir y vivir tu vida<\/strong> without being concerned about what someone who doesn\u2019t matter has to say.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here\u2019s your <\/span>gu\u00eda definitiva<\/span> sobre c\u00f3mo hacerlo.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Haz tu duelo<\/b><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Allow yourself to grieve your loss. Even if your relationship was making you unhappy and you’re relieved that it’s finally over, you’ve still gone through a breakup.<\/span> Perm\u00edtete experimentar tus sentimientos.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Deja que tu coraz\u00f3n roto se rompa. Siente todos tus sentimientos de dolor, rabia, soledad o decepci\u00f3n. Afrontar las emociones negativas y permitirse sentirlas hace posible dejarlas atr\u00e1s y seguir adelante.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Usted debe ir a trav\u00e9s de todos los etapas de una ruptura<\/a> para sanar.<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Be careful not to engage in self-destructive behaviors to cope. Don’t try to convince yourself that you’re over your ex if you’re not. Don\u2019t give up and, eventually, you’ll realize that things have changed. <\/span>You’ll see a way ahead<\/strong> a trav\u00e9s de la bruma de la tristeza. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Don’t wallow<\/b><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
\"hombre<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Give yourself time to be sad, but don\u2019t feel sorry for yourself. If you need to stare at your phone and mindlessly scroll through <\/span>redes sociales<\/span> for a little while, that\u2019s okay, but at a certain point, it hurts more than it helps.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

El periodo posterior a la ruptura debe centrarse en mejorar tu bienestar<\/strong>. <\/b>And you know that what’s easy isn’t always what’s best for you. Instead of running away from your feelings and trying not to think about your ex,<\/span> Enfrentarse a ellos es la forma m\u00e1s r\u00e1pida de superarlos.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You don’t have to deal with your breakup alone.<\/strong> Your loved ones can help you when you’re at your worst and keep you accountable \u2013 stop you from indulging in self-pity instead of trying to get better.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Ac\u00e9ptate a ti mismo<\/b><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Ignorar a tu ex tras la ruptura es<\/span> por tu propio bien<\/a>. If your ex is the type of person who only wants you because they don’t have you, if you cut them off, you won\u2019t go back to them only to get hurt all over again.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

En lugar de sucumbir a la tentaci\u00f3n, <\/span>el\u00edgete a ti mismo antes que a tu ex.<\/strong> \u00bfQu\u00e9 es m\u00e1s importante, tu felicidad o su capricho?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you’re hesitating to make yourself a priority, that means that your self-love could use some work. <\/span>Quererse es aceptarse<\/strong>todos tus lados buenos y tus defectos. Aprovecha esta oportunidad para aprender c\u00f3mo.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Un m\u00e9todo que puede ayudar es <\/span>decide que t\u00fa eres tu propio amigo.<\/strong> Tr\u00e1tate como tratar\u00edas a alguien a quien quieres. Poco a poco, aprende a aceptarte como ser humano, igual que lo har\u00edas con otra persona. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mereces amor y felicidad, incondicionalmente.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Next, forgive yourself. Blaming yourself for your breakup isn’t helpful; punishing yourself even less so. Instead, learn from your experience without judgment. You’ll never be able to move on until you realize that you’ve done the best you could.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Mejorar<\/b><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
\"mujer<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

What to do after a breakup but before you\u2019ve healed? When you\u2019re not feeling as heartbroken as you were at the beginning, but you\u2019re still dealing with your feelings? Being free from your ex and the breakup is still ahead, so what to do in the <\/span>mientras tanto<\/span>?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

- Empieza por perdonar a tu ex.<\/strong> Why? Because that’s another step in getting rid of them. Letting go of resentment is a move forward. Their behavior has nothing to do with you.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pi\u00e9nsalo detenidamente e intenta ser lo m\u00e1s imparcial posible. Tus sentimientos intentar\u00e1n convencerte de que o bien quieres tu <\/span>ex vuelta<\/span> u odiarlos.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you’ve gone through the previous step and decided to put yourself first, you can fight this and choose to let go for your own sake: <\/span>lib\u00e9rate.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

- Conc\u00e9ntrese en su salud mental.<\/strong> Try to identify what\u2019s holding you back.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Esto es mucho, <\/span>mucho<\/span><\/i> easier said than done, but now is the perfect time to start working on yourself. Focusing on self-growth can be immensely helpful in getting over a relationship that didn’t work because <\/span>te permite centrarte en ti mismo como individuo<\/i>.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you don’t know where to begin, journaling is a method that always helps me with insight and self-awareness. There aren’t any special rules for journaling \u2013 <\/span>escriba lo que se le ocurra y vea ad\u00f3nde le lleva.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t try to make sense or think about who might read it because it’s just for you. <\/span>Sea lo m\u00e1s sincero y abierto posible.<\/strong> The little lies you might be telling yourself will vanish as you write. The deep secrets you can’t quite reach will rise to the surface.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tus verdaderos sentimientos y tu verdadero yo har\u00e1n su aparici\u00f3n antes de que te des cuenta.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. 5. T\u00f3mate tu tiempo<\/b><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

There’s no time limit to how long you should ignore your ex. <\/span>Ignore them forever if that\u2019s what it takes.<\/strong> T\u00f3mate todo el tiempo que necesites hasta que te des cuenta de que<\/span> la regla de no contacto funciona<\/a> and that you\u2019re getting over your ex.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Puede que no tardes mucho en notar los efectos o puede que tardes m\u00e1s de lo que esperabas. Cualquiera de las dos cosas est\u00e1 bien. <\/span>Vaya a su ritmo<\/strong> and make sure you don\u2019t let a moment of weakness ruin your hard work.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t try to convince yourself that you\u2019re feeling better than you actually are. There\u2019s no need to appear strong or resilient in front of anyone.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t rush your recovery by trying to prove to your ex that you\u2019re ahead of them.<\/strong> Ign\u00f3ralos <\/span>de todas las formas posibles<\/span><\/i>, including worrying about what they\u2019ll think if they hear how you\u2019ve been.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. Crear l\u00edmites<\/b><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
\"un<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

El poder del silencio es que te ayuda a comprender y afrontar tus sentimientos. <\/span>Permite usted<\/i> ser quien decida<\/strong> si y cuando quieras tener algo que ver con tu ex.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

After you feel like you\u2019ve<\/span> recuperado de una ruptura<\/a>, you\u2019ll know if you\u2019re ready to get in touch with your ex or if you\u2019ll ignore them indefinitely. After you reach this stage, the right thing to do is to prepare for any future relationship by <\/span>definir tus l\u00edmites.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Using what you\u2019ve learned from your previous relationship and its aftermath, start by defining your limits: <\/span>emocional, mental, f\u00edsica, sexual, etc.<\/strong>. Pay special attention to those things that really bothered you in your ex\u2019s behavior and reflect on whether it had anything to do with your boundaries.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Esto tambi\u00e9n es importante si pretende <\/span>ser amigo de tu ex<\/strong> en alg\u00fan momento en el futuro. Los l\u00edmites te ayudar\u00e1n a actuar como amigos en lugar de como amantes o ex, porque eso puede ser confuso y perjudicial.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. Resolver futuros problemas de relaci\u00f3n<\/b><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Si decides volver con tu ex, la <\/span>lo \u00faltimo<\/span> lo que quieres es volver a romper dentro de unos meses por la misma raz\u00f3n que ocurri\u00f3 la primera vez.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Toma la decisi\u00f3n de volver con cuidado<\/strong> and with a lot of confidence that it\u2019s the right one. Don\u2019t forget how painful it was to break up the first time around and make sure you spare yourself the heartache of going through it again.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Breakups happen because of issues that can be solved or those that can\u2019t.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Problems that can\u2019t be overcome include different values, one of the partners doing something unforgivable, a relationship that became a habit or a toxic relationship. However you approach these problems, they can\u2019t be solved. <\/span>It\u2019s best to give up on this kind of relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, if you didn’t want to break up but had to because of circumstances or the reason for your breakup no longer exists, <\/span>a\u00fan puedes tener una relaci\u00f3n sana con tu ex.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you broke up because of something that you can solve, make sure you\u2019re both working on dealing with it before you start the relationship again.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. Avanzar<\/b><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
\"hombre<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

So you decided that you don\u2019t want to get back together. Where does that leave your ex?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

A menos que vuestra ruptura haya sido mutua y no queden rencores ni sentimientos rom\u00e1nticos, debes shouldn’t stay friends with your ex<\/a>. Si quieres mantenerlos en tu vida, s\u00e9 educado pero distante.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tal vez en el futuro, si usted y su <\/span>ex traslado<\/span> on, things might change, but it\u2019s more likely that it won\u2019t matter at that point. It might seem impossible right now, but soon enough you\u2019ll forget about your ex.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If your relationship ended because you realized that you\u2019re better off as friends, you might be able to handle it<\/strong>.<\/strong> Pero si alguno de los dos tiene esperanzas de reconciliaci\u00f3n o a\u00fan se siente herido, la amistad es imposible.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

All the effort you\u2019ve made so far will help you move on.<\/strong> You\u2019ve worked hard: you improved yourself, learned about your needs and boundaries, gave thought to your relationship patterns. Your next relationship will be much healthier and happier because of that.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Si se adelanta inmediatamente o concede su <\/span>Seguir leyendo<\/span> access than necessary, you\u2019ll make the same mistakes and face the same challenges in the future. This is why ignoring <\/span>tu ex es poderoso<\/span>:<\/span> te da tiempo y te permite controlar tu narrativa.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfIgnorar a tu ex es la mejor forma de superarlo?<\/b><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"una<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Algunas rupturas son m\u00e1s complicadas que otras. Ignorar a tu ex es la mejor forma de superarlo, pero tienes que adaptar este principio a tu propia situaci\u00f3n.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n