{"id":160028,"date":"2022-11-14T11:57:20","date_gmt":"2022-11-14T11:57:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=160028"},"modified":"2022-11-14T11:58:39","modified_gmt":"2022-11-14T11:58:39","slug":"duracion-media-de-la-relacion-con-bpd","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/duracion-media-de-la-relacion-con-bpd\/","title":{"rendered":"Duraci\u00f3n media de una relaci\u00f3n con TLP: La ruptura inevitable"},"content":{"rendered":"

Estar en una relaci\u00f3n con alguien con problemas de salud mental nunca es f\u00e1cil.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter how much you love each other and how compatible you are, some moments trigger certain behaviors you can\u2019t handle. An example would be trastorno l\u00edmite de la personalidad<\/strong>.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The average length of a BPD relationship varies from person to person. If you\u2019re in a relationship with someone with this disorder, you\u2019ll inevitably think about how long your relationship will last.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1nto dura una relaci\u00f3n con un TLP? \u00bfPuede realmente hacer que funcione con una pareja TLP? Este art\u00edculo lo aclarar\u00e1 todo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What\u2019s The Average Length Of A BPD Relationship?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Las estad\u00edsticas dicen que la duraci\u00f3n media de una relaci\u00f3n BPD es de aproximadamente dos a\u00f1os y medio.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Las personas con TLP suelen don\u2019t have <\/strong>relaciones duraderas<\/strong> por sus constantes cambios de humor y su comportamiento impulsivo, que es el problema fundamental que subyace a todos los dem\u00e1s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At first, it might seem as if you\u2019ll develop a relaci\u00f3n sana,<\/a> but most often, that isn\u2019t the case.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mucho drama, emociones intensas y miedo al abandono contribuyen a que las relaciones con TLP no duren mucho.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7 Etapas del ciclo de la relaci\u00f3n TLP<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Aunque hay 4 tipos diferentes de TLP, y cada uno es espec\u00edfico a su manera, existe un patr\u00f3n universal de una relaci\u00f3n rom\u00e1ntica con una pareja TLP.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At first, you\u2019ll spot that they\u2019re madly in love with you, and they\u2019ll do anything to satisfy your needs. You\u2019ll start to think you have a stable relationship, but that won\u2019t last long.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 ocurre exactamente?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Atracci\u00f3n<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
\"hermosa<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

El comienzo de toda nueva relaci\u00f3n es emocionante, y una relaci\u00f3n con un trastorno l\u00edmite de la personalidad no es una excepci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

En esta etapa, su pareja con TLP reflejar su comportamiento<\/strong>: tus intereses, experiencias y objetivos vitales. Esta fase es muy similar a la fase de luna de miel<\/a>y la idealizaci\u00f3n es su caracter\u00edstica m\u00e1s destacada.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As they mirror your behavior, you\u2019ll start to think that you have finally found the right person. You\u2019ll have fun together and never fight, but that won\u2019t last long…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Necesidad<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

In this phase, you\u2019ll slowly realize that the honeymoon phase was just a mask. The BPD sufferer will start to think you don\u2019t love them.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

They\u2019ll start to fight over stupid things and become clingy and possessive. This is when you\u2019ll realize su <\/strong>impulsividad<\/strong> no es ninguna broma.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even though you\u2019ve never given them any reason to think that you don\u2019t love them or that you\u2019ve been unfaithful, they still won\u2019t believe you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Retirar<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

En la tercera etapa de la relaci\u00f3n del trastorno l\u00edmite de la personalidad, ellos ocultan todas sus emociones<\/strong> e intentan ocultar sus intensos cambios de humor. Esto es una forma de ponerte a prueba.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

They don\u2019t want the relationship to end; they want you to fight for them. By withholding their emotions and giving you the silent treatment, they want to see to what extent you will fight for them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You will focus more on their emotional needs, and that\u2019s exactly what a BPD partner wants.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Devaluaci\u00f3n<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
\"una<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

If you don\u2019t provide them with the necessary attention and if the level of your \u2018\u2018\u2018fight\u2019\u2019 for them doesn\u2019t meet their expectations, you\u2019ll develop an unstable relationship. Why?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Porque they didn\u2019t get the <\/strong>validaci\u00f3n<\/strong> <\/strong>they wanted, they\u2019ll start to devaluarte<\/strong>. Sus problemas de abandono entrar\u00e1n en acci\u00f3n y su comportamiento oscilar\u00e1. Tambi\u00e9n pueden tener comportamientos sexuales de riesgo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They are sure that you\u2019ll break up with them, so they\u2019ll start gaslighting usted<\/a> into thinking it\u2019s your fault, and you\u2019ll have a hard time maintaining a stable relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. La ruptura<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Now when they can\u2019t mask the borderline personality disorder with attraction, you\u2019ll see their true face. They will leave you with or without notice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

La mayor\u00eda de las veces, esto sucede de la nada<\/strong>. If they find someone else who satisfies their emotional needs, they simply won\u2019t need you anymore.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You have served your purpose, and it\u2019s time for someone new to do the same.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. Vuelven a ti<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Ahora, est\u00e1n desesperados sin ti y <\/strong>lamentar la ruptura<\/strong>y asumir\u00e1n la culpa de todo lo que llev\u00f3 al fin de la relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pueden empezar a amenazarte con autolesionarte o suicidarte si les rechazas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Por el contrario, si vuelves a salir con ellos, podr\u00edas experimentar el <\/strong>fase de luna de miel<\/strong> de nuevo<\/strong>, but that won\u2019t last.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. Todo de nuevo<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

If you play their game, you\u2019ll be trapped in un sin fin <\/strong>Ciclo de relaciones TLP<\/strong>. Cuando vuelven a ti, el ciclo se repite.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

En cada nuevo ciclo, puede experimentar un comportamiento m\u00e1s agresivo, arrebatos emocionales, luz de gas e intentos de manipulaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, it\u2019s possible to have un \u00e9xito <\/strong>Relaci\u00f3n BPD<\/strong> when your partner knows how to control their impulsive behavior. These cases are rare, but they can happen \u2013 if your BPD partner really loves you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

10 maneras de mantener una relaci\u00f3n con un TLP<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

La duraci\u00f3n media de las relaciones con TLP puede ser prolongada. Tenga en cuenta que el TLP es una enfermedad mental caracterizada por cambios de humor, arrebatos de ira, miedo al abandono y comportamiento impulsivo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You can tell from the symptoms that it might be pretty challenging being in a relationship with a BPD partner. So let\u2019s see how you can maintain as stable a BPD relationship as possible.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Saber cu\u00e1l es el momento adecuado para hablar de los problemas<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
\"un<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

As people with BPD have very impulsive reactions, the last thing you want to do is upset them even more. That\u2019s why it\u2019s important to know cu\u00e1ndo discutir los problemas y cu\u00e1ndo retirarse.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Their actions and words may seem manipulative and destructive to both of you, but they don\u2019t have those intentions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A veces, les cuesta controlar sus emociones y reacciones. As\u00ed que, si les pillas en estas situaciones, intente ser paciente<\/strong> and wait until they\u2019ve calmed down to have a normal conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Don\u2019t interrupt them when they talk<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Even when they have calmed down, you shouldn\u2019t do things that might trigger their impulsive behavior. One such thing is interrupting them while they\u2019re talking.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They struggle to maintain concentration, and if you interrupt them, they\u2019ll think you\u2019re going against them.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

This might cause an angry outburst, and you won\u2019t solve the problem but only make a bigger one. So, don\u2019t interrupt them; wait until they\u2019re done talking and then say what\u2019s on your mind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Las emociones antes que las palabras<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Recuerde que su pareja BPD habla con emociones, no con palabras<\/strong>. Their disorder doesn\u2019t allow them to communicate rationally.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019ve been in a relationship for a long time, you probably know your BPD partner says much more with emotions than words. They necesita <\/strong>validaci\u00f3n<\/strong> y reconocimiento<\/strong> del sufrimiento que padecen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Presta atenci\u00f3n a la emoci\u00f3n que tu ser querido intenta expresar sin atascarte tratando de dar sentido a las palabras utilizadas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Mantener la calma durante la conversaci\u00f3n<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
\"una<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

S\u00e9 que la atenci\u00f3n se centra siempre en tu pareja BPD pero nunca en ti. Esto puede ser frustrante a veces.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pero recuerda que you\u2019re the healthy one,<\/strong> and they\u2019re struggling with a mental illness. Count to ten or take a break before responding to a heated discussion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Si empiezas a enfadarte y a ser impulsivo, esto s\u00f3lo tendr\u00e1 un contraefecto<\/strong> y empeorar la situaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Hablar de otras cosas<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Aunque el TLP influye enormemente en su relaci\u00f3n, es doesn\u2019t define it.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Si quieres estabilizar tu relaci\u00f3n, intenta distraeros a ambos de su trastorno l\u00edmite de la personalidad. Hablen de otras cosas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Una buena distracci\u00f3n ser\u00edan los temas sobre tus intereses, aficiones y preguntas para conocerte. Intente hacer un fuerte v\u00ednculo<\/strong> de otras cosas que no sean BPD. Adem\u00e1s de hablar, siempre se puede participar en diferentes actividades tambi\u00e9n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Asista a clases de cocina, viaje a alg\u00fan lugar nuevo o vayan juntos al gimnasio. Esto no s\u00f3lo te distraer\u00e1 de la DBP, sino que tambi\u00e9n har\u00e1 que vuestra relaci\u00f3n sea m\u00e1s fuerte.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. Establecer l\u00edmites<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

La mayor\u00eda de nosotros asumimos que las personas con trastorno l\u00edmite de la personalidad son criaturas fr\u00e1giles y necesitan que alguien se ocupe de ellas constantemente.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Estas personas son capaces de funcionar por s\u00ed solos <\/strong>y en realidad son muy inteligentes e intelectuales. As\u00ed que, si crees que establecimiento de l\u00edmites<\/a> can\u2019t help you because they won\u2019t realize their importance, you\u2019re wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sea honesto sobre lo que puedes tolerar y lo que necesitas de ellos.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Intenta invertir m\u00e1s en expresar tus emociones que en tener argumentos racionales porque esto es su comunicaci\u00f3n.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. Prueba la psicoterapia<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

La psicoterapia es una gran opci\u00f3n para mantener su relaci\u00f3n lo m\u00e1s sana posible. La terapia conversacional, conocida como terapia dial\u00e9ctica conductual<\/strong><\/a> <\/strong>(DBT), es una buena forma de empezar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Se basa en la terapia cognitivo-conductual (TCC), pero se ha modificado espec\u00edficamente para quienes experimentan emociones intensas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Esta terapia les ayudar\u00e1 a crear eficiente <\/strong>estrategias de afrontamiento<\/strong> <\/strong>para reducir la frecuencia y gravedad de su comportamiento impulsivo y sus arrebatos de ira.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. Conozca la DBP<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
\"un<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

You can\u2019t fully understand your BPD partner if you don\u2019t know what BPD is.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

BPD es una parte integral de su pareja, y aprendiendo m\u00e1s sobre BPD, tambi\u00e9n se aprende m\u00e1s sobre ellos.<\/strong> You don\u2019t know about BPD if you can only recognize the symptoms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

BPD is more than that. BPD sufferers are not just being difficult, and they aren’t intentionally trying to hurt you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Los s\u00edntomas del trastorno l\u00edmite de la personalidad se producen por un estr\u00e9s psicol\u00f3gico grave y una falta de capacidad emocional para afrontar emociones intensas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. Aprender a afrontar el estr\u00e9s<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

When someone with BPD loves you, you\u2019ll probably be exposed to a lot of stress, so you should find the right way to cope with that amount of stress.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Intenta cuidarte, leer un libro y cenar con tu familia o amigos. Cuida tu cuerpo: duerme lo suficiente, haz ejercicio a diario y evita el alcohol y el consumo de sustancias.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Intenta encontrar cu\u00e1l de estas cosas funciona mejor para ti y tu bienestar, y aprov\u00e9chala siempre que te sientas estresado por tu relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

10. Recuerda las 3 C<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Many friends or family members regularly face guilt and self-blame for the borderline person’s damaging behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Es posible que te preguntes qu\u00e9 hiciste para provocar su ira, que creas que de alguna manera merec\u00edas el maltrato o que te sientas culpable por los fracasos del tratamiento o las reca\u00eddas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, it’s crucial to keep in mind that you are not responsible for their reactions and behavior. The BPD sufferer is in charge of their own decisions and actions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Las 3 C son:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. I didn’t causa<\/strong> eso.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. I can’t cura<\/strong> eso.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. I can’t control<\/strong> eso.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 fracasan las relaciones con TLP?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"la<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

There are several reasons why BPD relationships don\u2019t work. The first one is if the BPD disorder isn\u2019t diagnosed. As in everyday life, we cannot fix a problem if we don\u2019t know what it is.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

That\u2019s why you won\u2019t be able to find an excuse for such behavior. Dealing with a BPD partner, even one who has been diagnosed, is challenging.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hay no <\/strong>punto medio<\/strong>: they either love you unconditionally, and it seems like they\u2019re your true soulmate, or they do terrible things to you, like manipulation, gaslighting, or insulting you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During your relationship, you constantly feel like you\u2019re walking on eggshells.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Como un narcisista, una persona con TLP crea hechos a partir de sentimientos<\/strong> y vive en realidades alternativas, algo que nadie puede soportar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfPueden las personas con TLP tener relaciones duraderas?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

S\u00ed, una persona con TLP puede tener una relaci\u00f3n a largo plazo, aunque normalmente tenga relaciones a corto plazo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, as people diagnosed with BPD have a different mindset than regular people, it\u2019s obvious that you\u2019ll come across several difficulties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Be prepared that you won\u2019t have a constantly stable relationship. Instead, there will be a lot of mood swings.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lo m\u00e1s importante en estas relaciones es comprensi\u00f3n mutua y paciencia<\/strong>. Always remember that your BPD partner is capable of love; you don\u2019t know how to express it correctly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Adem\u00e1s, los profesionales de la salud mental desempe\u00f1an un papel importante en la calidad de su relaci\u00f3n con el TLP.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1ndo debe dejar una relaci\u00f3n con TLP?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes you can\u2019t be with someone no matter how much you love them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you realize there is no respect for your boundaries, that you feel unsafe around them, and that even psychotherapy hasn\u2019t helped to maintain a stable relationship \u2013 it\u2019s time to leave.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Al fin y al cabo, tu salud mental y f\u00edsica es lo m\u00e1s importante. Si su <\/strong>salud mental<\/strong> isn\u2019t good, you aren\u2019t able to help someone with su <\/strong>salud mental<\/strong>.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes, you are their partner and should help them control their behavior, but you aren\u2019t their therapist. How you feel about the role of a therapist is up to you, and if you think this role isn\u2019t for you, it probably isn\u2019t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s Recap<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Las estad\u00edsticas dicen que la duraci\u00f3n media de las relaciones con TLP es de unos dos a\u00f1os y medio.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But don\u2019t trust the statistics \u2013 you should only trust sus emociones y su deseo de permanecer juntos.<\/strong> If you understand each other, you\u2019ll always make things work.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

La clave para tener \u00e9xito en una relaci\u00f3n con TLP es ser paciente con su pareja, comprender su comportamiento y encontrar tiempo para cuidar de s\u00ed mismo.Todo el mundo necesita una recarga, especialmente alguien que cuida de una pareja con TLP.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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