{"id":160641,"date":"2022-11-28T09:39:32","date_gmt":"2022-11-28T09:39:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=160641"},"modified":"2023-02-03T09:31:42","modified_gmt":"2023-02-03T09:31:42","slug":"envio-un-mensaje-de-texto-despues-de-la-primera-cita-pero-no-desde-entonces","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/envio-un-mensaje-de-texto-despues-de-la-primera-cita-pero-no-desde-entonces\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00bfTe mand\u00f3 un mensaje despu\u00e9s de la primera cita pero no desde entonces? Esto es lo que pasa"},"content":{"rendered":"

You both swiped right, talked for a while, then finally went out. The date was fun, there was a mention of the second date, he texted after dropping you off, then \u2013 nothing. Not a peep from this dude.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But tell me something: have you texted him? If you haven\u2019t and you like the guy, what are you waiting for? If you have and he hasn\u2019t replied, well, then keep reading.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why would a guy give you the impression that he\u2019s interested and then ghost you?<\/strong> The reasons might be more unremarkable than you\u2019re hoping for. Here are all the possibilities why he texted after first date but not since.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

13 razones por las que envi\u00f3 mensajes de texto despu\u00e9s de la primera cita, pero no desde entonces<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

You had a great date with a guy, and now he\u2019s nowhere to be found \u2013 a tale as old as time; or Tinder, if you met online, which you probably did.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

He sent a text after you parted ways and you thought it was a good sign that your next date was around the corner, but now you\u2019re wondering why this guy is ghosting you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If he texted after first date but not since, here\u2019s what\u2019s going on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Ten\u00eda expectativas diferentes<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
\"un<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Losing interest after a date is more common than you\u2019d think. Before the date, we build a picture of the other person in our minds. Then we face the real deal, realizing reality doesn\u2019t match our expectations \u2013 and we\u2019re done.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Probablemente hablaste con este tipo unas cuantas veces antes de salir, y ambos se crearon una imagen de c\u00f3mo ser\u00eda la otra persona bas\u00e1ndose en esas pocas interacciones<\/strong>. Thinking about this imaginary person \u2013 who fit your desires and was just your type \u2013 got you excited about the date.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Luego os conoc\u00e9is en persona, pero el ser humano real nunca puede ser tan bueno como la fantas\u00eda. Al d\u00eda siguiente, la realidad se impone y te das cuenta de que la persona con la que saliste <\/strong>anoche<\/strong> no se parece en nada a la figura idealizada que esperabas<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So here you have the most likely answer to your dilemma. He gave up because he realized after your date that you\u2019re nothing like he imagined, especially if he\u2019s talking to other girls, all of whom he\u2019s building up in his head.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfY t\u00fa? \u00bfTe gusta o la idea<\/em> de \u00e9l<\/a>? Do you really like this guy you\u2019ve met once so much that you\u2019re letting his silence eat you up inside?<\/strong> You might only be wondering why he hasn\u2019t texted again because of your bruised ego.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Decidi\u00f3 no salir contigo por otra raz\u00f3n<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Once he\u2019s had time to sleep on it and think about your date, he might have realized that you said or did something that he considers a red flag or you mentioned something that, to him, is a deal breaker in relationships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t take this personally. Everyone has their preferences and you can\u2019t influence what someone considers important when it comes to dating. He might have just realized that you\u2019re too incompatible to pursue a relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Por otro lado, \u00e9sta podr\u00eda ser una buena oportunidad para pensar si realmente hiciste algo que \u00e9l podr\u00eda haber interpretado razonablemente como una se\u00f1al de alarma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Of course, it\u2019s as likely that it has nothing at all to do with you, but it doesn\u2019t hurt to reflexiona sobre tus palabras y acciones<\/strong> from the date. Don\u2019t overanalyze and obsess, but take a moment to think it through.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u00e9 honesta contigo misma porque si hay algo, puede que tambi\u00e9n lo est\u00e9s haciendo con otros chicos, y podr\u00eda impedirte pasar de la primera cita con otros chicos en el futuro. Si puedes identificar lo que podr\u00eda haber sido, puedes trabajar en ello y hacer que tu vida amorosa sea m\u00e1s exitosa.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. He realized he’s not as attracted as he thought<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
\"hombre<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Su comportamiento, su lenguaje corporal y las cosas que dec\u00eda te dieron la impresi\u00f3n de que las cosas pod\u00edan ir m\u00e1s all\u00e1 de una cita, pero luego nada...<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes it takes a while to realize you\u2019re not attracted enough to someone to make an effort.<\/strong> Si se qued\u00f3 indeciso durante la cita y poco despu\u00e9s, le bast\u00f3 consultarlo con la almohada para tomar una decisi\u00f3n definitiva sobre si le gustas lo suficiente como para seguir adelante.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone you\u2019re interested in doesn\u2019t like you back, it can feel like a blow to the pride, but when you accept that it\u2019s perfectly fine if not everyone likes you, it\u2019s easy to get over it. Dating is all about discovering the people you\u2019re most compatible with.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So don\u2019t beat yourself up if the reason why he didn\u2019t follow up is that he realized he was less attracted to you than he thought. Another person\u2019s opinion has nothing to do with you. You don\u2019t depend on anyone else to assure you of your worth because you know how valuable you are. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Besides, isn\u2019t it better to know before you\u2019ve developed serious feelings?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. He’s dating someone else or he met someone new<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re both just dating and meeting new people, it\u2019s safe to assume that you\u2019re not the only girl he\u2019s dating<\/strong>. (He\u2019s probably not the only guy in your recents, either.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u00f3lo tomasteis un par de copas juntos, pero puede que sus otros intereses rom\u00e1nticos sean m\u00e1s serios. O disfrut\u00f3 de vuestra cita, pero luego encontr\u00f3 a otra persona que le interesaba m\u00e1s y se centr\u00f3 en ella.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Este ha sido vuestro primer encuentro, pero quiz\u00e1s \u00e9l ya ha tenido una tercera cita con otra chica que le gustaba y ella le ha hecho saber que tambi\u00e9n le gusta. Tal vez le gustas pero ha empezado a salir con otra persona<\/a> because they\u2019re more compatible.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Si hab\u00eda un cambio que \u00e9l esperaba en su relaci\u00f3n con otra persona, puede que haya decidido no salir contigo por razones que no tienen nada que ver contigo. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your best choice in most of these situations is to forget about him and get in touch with another guy you\u2019ve been texting<\/strong>. Qui\u00e9n sabe, quiz\u00e1 tu pr\u00f3xima cita sea con alguien que te guste mucho m\u00e1s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. S\u00f3lo estaba siendo educado cuando te envi\u00f3 el mensaje.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Si no pensaba volver a invitarte a salir, \u00bfpor qu\u00e9 te mand\u00f3 un mensaje despu\u00e9s de la cita? Puede que s\u00f3lo fuera educado.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Te envi\u00f3 un mensaje para ver si hab\u00edas llegado bien a casa o porque cre\u00eda que era lo m\u00e1s cort\u00e9s.<\/strong> It might have been a wrong move that got your hopes up for no reason, but maybe he didn\u2019t look at it that way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ideally, we\u2019d all always say what we mean and how we feel but of course, life doesn\u2019t work that way. If he had been upfront with you and immediately told you that he wasn\u2019t interested in anything, that would have hurt too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lo \u00fanico que se puede hacer en esta situaci\u00f3n es dejarlo pasar y seguir adelante.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. Su vida est\u00e1 demasiado ocupada<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
\"un<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Muchas veces, cuando un tipo te ignora pero le gustas<\/a>, it\u2019s because he\u2019s too busy<\/strong>. Look at your life and all the things you have going on \u2013 work, family, close friends, hobbies, obligations, stress, emergencies. No doubt it\u2019s the same for him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You might have placed more value on your date than he has or you\u2019re dwelling on it because he didn\u2019t follow up, but either way, look at your date in a larger context. An evening out with someone you’ve only met once can hardly become a priority if your life is hectic and there\u2019s always something going on.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s annoying, I know, but instead of racking your brain about why he doesn\u2019t text, focus on the more important things in your own life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. Tiene problemas personales<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

A ton of personal issues affect romantic relationships and the decisions we make about the people we date. For example, maybe he just got out of a relationship and realized he\u2019s not ready to date yet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

He might have mental health issues or poor self-esteem and became discouraged from dating because he\u2019s not feeling good about himself. It\u2019s also possible that he has medical problems that pushed dating into a low spot on his list of priorities.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If he has personal issues, it\u2019s really impossible to know unless he shares them with you. <\/strong>Trying to figure out what\u2019s happening won\u2019t bring you closure but only occupy your time and sap your energy, so it\u2019s best to just let it go.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. He thinks you’re not interested<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Maybe something about your date made him think that you\u2019re not interested and this discouraged him from pursuing anything. If he\u2019s assuming that you won\u2019t accept a <\/strong>segunda cita<\/strong>, he\u2019s not even going to ask you.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tu aparente falta de inter\u00e9s le est\u00e1 haciendo miedo al rechazo<\/a>, with good reason, so he\u2019s avoiding contact to spare his feelings.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If he got the wrong impression, you could easily solve this problem by contacting him and giving him a clear sign that you\u2019re interested. <\/strong>It depends on how much time has passed since you\u2019ve last heard from him, but if you don’t think it’s too late, shoot him a text and assess the situation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If he replies quickly and enthusiastically, then it\u2019s likely that he didn\u2019t text you because he believed you weren\u2019t interested, so now\u2019s your chance to prove him wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. Estaba esperando a que tomaras la iniciativa<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
\"una<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Una de las razones comunes por las que un chico se muestra interesado y luego retrocede<\/a> es porque espera que t\u00fa des el primer paso. Quiere que muestres un inter\u00e9s activo por \u00e9l en lugar de esperar a que \u00e9l lo haga todo.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re interested in this guy, then you won\u2019t make things worse if you contact him. Texting him can change things for the better or leave them as they are, so you really have nothing to lose.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It depends on how much time has passed since you\u2019ve last heard from him, but if you don’t think it’s too late, text him. If he replies, talk to him a bit and let him know that you want to spend time with him. Si parece receptivo, <\/strong>usted<\/em><\/strong> pregunte a <\/strong>le<\/em><\/strong> fuera.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

He might say no and you\u2019re right where you started, so no biggie. If he says yes, you have another chance to let him know that you\u2019re interested in him, this time with added eye contact.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

10. He doesn’t like talking to you<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

The dynamic of your text conversations with someone you\u2019re interested in matters more than you\u2019d think. Ask yourself, who initiated most of your conversations? Who was keeping the conversation going?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lots of girls expect guys to convince them to go out with them, so they don\u2019t even try.<\/strong> If you\u2019re the type who waits for the guy to do everything, then he might be tired of talking to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If he\u2019s initiating texting and you expect him to keep them alive, then you make him feel like it\u2019s all up to him. This makes your conversations difficult and exhausting for him, so he doesn\u2019t want to do it anymore.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo fue durante la cita? \u00bfSegu\u00eda \u00e9l llevando la conversaci\u00f3n? \u00bfHac\u00eda preguntas, mostraba inter\u00e9s, iniciaba los temas? Like everyone else, he wants someone who\u2019ll show him they like his company and want to get to know him.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

As\u00ed que si este es tu caso, aprende de ello para la pr\u00f3xima cita con el siguiente chico, y muestra m\u00e1s inter\u00e9s e iniciativa para hacer que un chico se sienta bien pasando tiempo contigo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

11. Nunca estuvo realmente interesado<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Puede que sea un trago dif\u00edcil de digerir, pero si lo piensas, sabes que estas cosas pasan. You\u2019re talking to someone, and you don\u2019t dislike them, but you also don\u2019t like them enough to date them.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Les mandas un mensaje porque s\u00ed y habl\u00e1is aunque no tengas intenci\u00f3n de perseguir nada. Puede que hablen de algo interesante o puede que te aburras, as\u00ed que sigues hablando con ellos<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Entonces acudes a una cita con la esperanza de que surja una chispa, o sin ninguna raz\u00f3n en particular, y, por supuesto, no pasa nada. The date goes okay, but there\u2019s no sudden magic or love at first sight.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You text again out of habit or because you\u2019re not thinking, then immediately regret it because you decide that you don\u2019t have any interest in this person at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This might seem cruel when it happens to you, but it\u2019s very common and rarely done with bad intentions.<\/strong> It\u2019s one of those things people do and can\u2019t explain why.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But I bet you didn\u2019t have any deep feelings for him, either.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

12. Buscaba validaci\u00f3n<\/h3>\n\n\n\n\n\n
\"un<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Algunos chicos necesitan atenci\u00f3n femenina constante<\/a> to feel good about themselves, so they surround themselves with women who\u2019ll give it to them. They\u2019re never serious about those women and they rarely go beyond dating or casual sex.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Guys like this don\u2019t feel good about themselves and are always looking for external validation<\/strong>, so the only thing he wanted from you was to show him that you\u2019re interested in him. You were just another one in the line of girls he needed to feed his fragile ego.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Si carece de confianza en s\u00ed mismo, la atenci\u00f3n constante es lo que le da seguridad de su valor. Su necesidad de validaci\u00f3n podr\u00eda ser <\/strong>bandera roja<\/strong> y podr\u00edas haber estado tratando con un <\/strong>narcisista<\/strong>, <\/strong>as\u00ed que si te dej\u00f3 ir antes de que te vieras arrastrada a sus planes, consid\u00e9rate afortunada.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

13. Estaba jugando contigo<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

You can\u2019t rule out the possibility that he was jugando contigo<\/a>. Maybe he was hoping for something physical after your date, and when it didn\u2019t come, he lost interest. If you did have sex with him, then he got what he wanted, said goodbye and that\u2019s it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Los jugadores lo son todo <\/strong>de fiesta<\/strong> con tantas mujeres como sea posible y tener un suministro constante de nuevas chicas para entretenerlos. <\/strong>They move on quickly, no matter what you\u2019re like and how you act. A player will drop you as soon as he realizes that you\u2019re not on the same page or that you are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Guys like this are best avoided. But even if you don\u2019t spot what he\u2019s like in time, you can still get out of it fairly unscathed if you let it go and don\u2019t dwell. Don\u2019t chase him or try to change him because it has no chance of working.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 hacer si te mand\u00f3 un mensaje despu\u00e9s de la primera cita pero no desde entonces?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Sigue adelante. Al\u00e9grate de que esto ocurriera antes de que invirtieras y de que el da\u00f1o sea m\u00ednimo. You didn\u2019t miss out on your <\/strong>amor verdadero<\/strong>Conf\u00eda en m\u00ed. <\/strong>De hecho, lo \u00fanico que result\u00f3 herido fue tu ego.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you still need some comfort, think back to a time when you didn\u2019t even notice that you ghosted a guy because he was just so meh, and meanwhile, he was probably waiting for you to contact him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019m not saying that this is what happened here, only that it\u2019s possible to look at things from more than one point of view. Just accept that he wasn\u2019t interested enough and <\/strong>seguir adelante<\/strong> sin remordimientos.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

En lugar de eso, piensa en tu cita con \u00e9l como una velada divertida que no tiene ning\u00fan significado en particular, pero que fue una forma agradable de pasar el tiempo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Chicas y guys flirt when they\u2019re not interested<\/a>prometen citas y nunca las cumplen. Sucede en el mundo de las citas modernas. No tiene nada que ver contigo, as\u00ed que deja de preocuparte.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It doesn\u2019t matter why he isn\u2019t texting. Take care of yourself and live your own life. D\u00e9jalo estar y deja de malgastar tu energ\u00eda pregunt\u00e1ndote por qu\u00e9. <\/strong>Worrying about it is a burden you don\u2019t need because it\u2019s so insignificant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Para terminar<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI had a great time last night,\u201d he said, and you believed him. You went out, he texted after first date but not since, so what gives? There are several possible reasons why he\u2019s ghosting you, but three are the most likely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

En primer lugar, podr\u00eda haberse dado cuenta despu\u00e9s de la fecha que he wasn\u2019t as interested as he thought<\/strong> because you didn\u2019t click. Next, he decided against dating you because he realized that you\u2019re incompatible<\/strong>. Finalmente, podr\u00eda ser demasiado ocupado<\/strong> pensar en alguien que conoci\u00f3 una vez. Sea cual sea su raz\u00f3n, tienes que dejarlo pasar. Don\u2019t torture yourself over a guy you went on one date with. <\/strong>Go live your life instead of wondering why some guy\u2019s text is nowhere to be found.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\u00bfTe<\/figure>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

You both swiped right, talked for a while, then finally went out. The date was fun, there was a mention of the second date, he texted after dropping you off, then \u2013 nothing. Not a peep from this dude. But tell me something: have you texted him? If you haven\u2019t and you like the guy,…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":42,"featured_media":160642,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29646],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-160641","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-understanding-men"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29646,"label":"understanding men"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/He-Texted-After-First-Date-But-Not-Since-Heres-Whats-Up-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Selma June","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/selmajune\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29646,"name":"understanding men","slug":"understanding-men","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29646,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Wondering about what's going on inside his head? Or do you need explanations for his actions? Learn to understand men, and your life will become easier.","parent":29643,"count":570,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29646,"category_count":570,"category_description":"Wondering about what's going on inside his head? Or do you need explanations for his actions? Learn to understand men, and your life will become easier.","cat_name":"understanding men","category_nicename":"understanding-men","category_parent":29643}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/160641","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/42"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=160641"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/160641\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/160642"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=160641"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=160641"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=160641"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}