{"id":161487,"date":"2022-12-09T10:12:44","date_gmt":"2022-12-09T10:12:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=161487"},"modified":"2022-12-14T07:16:41","modified_gmt":"2022-12-14T07:16:41","slug":"como-controlar-sus-emociones-en-una-relacion","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/como-controlar-sus-emociones-en-una-relacion\/","title":{"rendered":"C\u00f3mo controlar tus emociones en una relaci\u00f3n: 20 t\u00e1cticas probadas<\/strong>"},"content":{"rendered":"

Cuando te conviertes en adulto, todo el mundo espera que aprendas por arte de magia a controlar tus emociones en una relaci\u00f3n. Well, isn\u2019t it time we all admit we have no clue how it\u2019s done?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u00e9 que ve\u00eda hacerme cargo de mis sentimientos como una misi\u00f3n imposible.<\/strong> Me llev\u00f3 un tiempo dominarlo, y ahora, aqu\u00ed estoy, compartiendo mi sabidur\u00eda contigo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00f3mo controlar las emociones en una relaci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Sigue esta gu\u00eda paso a paso para recuperar el control de tus emociones:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Identifica tus emociones<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
\"hermosa<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

You can\u2019t expect to learn how to control your emotions if you haven\u2019t reached a stage where you can identify them in the first place. Reprimir las emociones<\/a> might seem like the easier way to go, but trust me \u2013 in the long run, it will only cause you trouble.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is why the first step of this process requires you to be honest with yourself. A lot of people have a habit of, for example, claiming to be angry when they\u2019re actually sad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Esta pr\u00e1ctica no es beneficiosa para tu salud mental. En lugar de eso, s\u00e9 lo bastante valiente para mirar a los ojos a todas tus emociones negativas y enfr\u00e9ntate a ellas como un adulto.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Encuentra tus desencadenantes<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Todos tenemos pensamientos y emociones negativos. Pero la clave de la inteligencia emocional es conocerse a uno mismo lo suficiente como para llegar al fondo de sus desencadenantes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1l es el patr\u00f3n de comportamiento en tu relaci\u00f3n que te hace sentir mal? \u00bfCu\u00e1les son las cosas que m\u00e1s te provocan? Y lo m\u00e1s importante, \u00bfpor qu\u00e9?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s say that your significant other doesn\u2019t reply to your text. That is your trigger, and it makes you feel bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pero, \u00bfpor qu\u00e9 te sientes as\u00ed? \u00bfTe hiere el ego? \u00bfTe sientes desatendida emocionalmente<\/a>?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfEste comportamiento desencadena su problemas de abandono<\/a>? \u00bfTiene usted problemas de confianza<\/a> that make you believe they\u2019re texting someone else?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Don\u2019t judge yourself<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
\"mujer<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

When you\u2019re trying to figure out how to control your emotions in a relationship in a healthy way, you must forget about self-judgment. You shouldn\u2019t feel ashamed for feeling a certain emotion.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Who says that a certain feeling isn\u2019t appropriate? Who says that you\u2019re not allowed to feel that way? Your emotional state is your business alone, and you should accept and embrace all of your emotions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Intenta ser lo m\u00e1s realista posible<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

One of the hardest things is to observe your love life from a realistic point of view. After all, you\u2019re involved with it, and sometimes it\u2019s impossible to be objective.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, for the sake of your mental well-being, you have to try and take a step back. Forget about the infatuation, the anger, true love, resentment, grudges… Actually, try forgetting about all of your emotions completely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

En su lugar, Observa tu relaci\u00f3n como un extra\u00f1o. Imagina que un amigo \u00edntimo acude a ti con este mismo problema.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 les dir\u00edas? Pues apl\u00edcate ese mismo consejo a ti mismo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Observe your partner\u2019s emotions<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

De la misma manera que te centras en tus sentimientos, si quieres un relaci\u00f3n sana<\/a>, you should also observe your partner\u2019s emotions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sois un equipo y vuestras reacciones suelen estar conectadas. \u00bfSu pareja tambi\u00e9n tiene problemas para controlar sus emociones?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Is it possible that you trigger each other\u2019s negative thoughts and emotions? In that case, you don\u2019t have a healthy relationship, and that\u2019s something you should work on before anything else.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. Remember that you\u2019re in charge<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
\"mujer<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Whatever happens, you must keep one thing in mind: you\u2019re in control here! Even when it appears like things are falling apart, you\u2019re the one holding the steering wheel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your emotions don\u2019t control you \u2013 you\u2019re in charge of them. You\u2019re the combination of your heart and mind, and it\u2019s your job to find balance between the two.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

What\u2019s even worse than allowing your emotions to take control over you is allowing someone else to be in charge of your feelings and entire well-being. You should never get yourself into a situation where your entire mood depends on another person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I don\u2019t care if we\u2019re talking about true love here \u2013 your partner shouldn\u2019t have that kind of power over you. You\u2019re not their puppet, and they shouldn’t be pulling the strings!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. Rod\u00e9ate de positividad<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Al\u00e9jese de las personas negativas<\/a>, and you\u2019ll stay away from negative emotions as well. I don\u2019t care if these toxic people are your closest friends or family members \u2013 if they\u2019re bringing negativity into your life, ditch them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What if you\u2019re surrounded by negativity in a place you can\u2019t escape from, for example, at work? Well, if you can\u2019t find another job, at least compensate for that negativity with as much positivity as you can. In the meantime, please try looking for a new job because your mental health should come first!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why not try taking a break from social media? You spend all of your days scrolling through other people\u2019s fake posts and fake love lives.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So naturally, you assume that you have it worse. Everyone\u2019s partner treats them better \u2013 they get more expensive gifts, and they are intimate all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, your relationship looks like a wreck compared to theirs. Consequently, you become overwhelmed with negative emotions you can\u2019t control.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. Deja de pensar y preocuparte demasiado<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

C\u00f3mo controlar tus emociones en una relaci\u00f3n: Empieza por tus pensamientos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As long as you dissect everything your partner says or does, you\u2019ll be overwhelmed with negativity. Trust me, overthinking and worrying too much are your biggest enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong \u2013 this doesn\u2019t mean that you should just go with the flow. You\u2019re still in charge of your life, and thinking your decisions through is the mature thing to do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, you don\u2019t have to analyze every little thing that happens in your relationship. Most importantly, you don\u2019t need to assume that there will always be the worst possible outcome.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes, you should take control of your emotions. However, you should be aware that you can\u2019t have full control over everything that happens to you. That\u2019s why you have to deje de pensar demasiado en su relaci\u00f3n<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Some things are meant to be, and you thinking about them and worrying yourself sick won\u2019t prevent them from happening. So, why not sit back and enjoy your life instead of ruining it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. Comunicaci\u00f3n saludable<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
\"Pareja<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

You can\u2019t have a healthy relationship without comunicaci\u00f3n saludable<\/a>. And you can\u2019t hope to figure out how to control your emotions in a relationship if it isn\u2019t healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I mean, it\u2019s completely natural that you\u2019ll be angry, frustrated, and unhappy all the time if you and your partner fight every day. Don\u2019t get me wrong \u2013 I\u2019m not saying that there won\u2019t be any arguments in your relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sin embargo, el respeto mutuo debe existir incluso cuando los dos os pele\u00e1is. Practica hablar despacio y con calma, sin levantar la voz. Si es necesario, cuenta hasta diez antes de decir algo en medio de una discusi\u00f3n.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But that\u2019s not the entire point of healthy communication. You both have to learn how to verbalize your feelings correctly, without the fear of judgment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Comunicaci\u00f3n a trav\u00e9s del lenguaje corporal<\/h4>\n\n\n\n

Another important aspect of healthy communication is body language communication. If you and your partner display aggressive or avoidant body language, you\u2019ll have a hard time controlling your negative emotions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

10. Encuentra el origen de tus emociones negativas<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

We\u2019ve already discussed the fact that you should stay away from whatever triggers your negativity. But it\u2019s time to look at something else, as well: the source of your negative thoughts and emotions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

La forma de practicar inteligencia emocional<\/a> is to understand why you feel the way you do. Dwell deep inside yourself and try figuring out where these negative feelings are coming from. I bet they\u2019ve piled up for a reason.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo le trataron en la infancia? \u00bfCu\u00e1l es su estilo de fijaci\u00f3n<\/a>? \u00bfLlevas alguna carga emocional de una relaci\u00f3n anterior?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Puede que estas preguntas no parezcan relacionadas con tu romance actual, pero cr\u00e9eme, sus respuestas son cruciales.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

11. Pedir ayuda profesional<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

If you find it impossible to take control of your emotions, maybe it\u2019s time to ask for professional help. Don\u2019t get me wrong, I\u2019m not trying to diagnose you, but there are several personality disorders and mental health conditions that might prevent you from taking charge of your feelings.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Si te preocupa padecer alg\u00fan trastorno mental o simplemente sientes que tus emociones te superan, acude a un profesional de la salud mental. <\/strong>Un experto le diagnosticar\u00e1 y, lo que es m\u00e1s importante, le mostrar\u00e1 el camino a lo largo de este viaje.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if you have a personality disorder or suffer from something else, it\u2019s not the end of the world. It definitely doesn\u2019t make you crazy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Por el contrario, abordar tus problemas a tiempo y pedir ayuda profesional es algo maduro y valiente.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

12. Comprometerse con el autocuidado<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
\"joven<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

El amor propio, el respeto por uno mismo y el autocuidado son fundamentales para mantenerse cuerdo y mentalmente sano. Todas estas cosas combinadas aumentan tu autoestima y har\u00e1n que te sientas mucho mejor contigo mismo en una relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You have to be aware of one thing: the romance you\u2019re currently in is not the most important relationship in your life. In fact, the one you have with yourself is.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Si dominas el arte de amor propio<\/a>, your partner will have no choice but to follow your lead. You\u2019re showing them by example that there is a certain standard you\u2019re willing to settle for and that anything less is unacceptable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The same goes for self-respect. The more you respect yourself, the more respected you\u2019ll feel in your relationship. Consequently, there will be way fewer negative feelings to deal with.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

El autocuidado tambi\u00e9n es una parte importante de este viaje. Tienes que aprender a mimarte. Cuando aprendas a tr\u00e1tate como a alguien a quien quieres<\/strong>, your mood won\u2019t be affected by anyone\u2019s actions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

13. M\u00e9todos de autoayuda<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

When you\u2019re trying to figure out how to control your emotions, you have to learn how to deal with their consequences as well. What should you do when a negative feeling gets the best of you? How do you stop the process and help yourself?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You know exactly what I\u2019m talking about \u2013 you feel anger, hatred, or sadness taking over. You\u2019ve reached the level of emotional intelligence to recognize the signs that they\u2019re there, but now, you need the tools to overcome them and calm yourself down.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

El m\u00e9todo mejor y m\u00e1s sencillo es respirar profundamente. Esto ralentizar\u00e1 tu ritmo card\u00edaco y te ayudar\u00e1 a pensar con claridad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If possible, remove yourself from the situation. Tell your partner that you need some time off and that you\u2019ll finish your discussion after you calm down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Finally, if you\u2019re really not feeling well, try accessing a mental health resource, such as a hotline in your area, or even call your therapist.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

14. Permanecer en el presente<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Many people have a hard time remaining in the present moment, especially when it comes to romantic relationships. Even if everything is going great now, you can\u2019t stop thinking about that argument you and your significant other had a few weeks ago.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

O sigues preocup\u00e1ndote por el futuro. \u00bfHacia d\u00f3nde va esta relaci\u00f3n? \u00bfTen\u00e9is un futuro juntos? \u00bfAcabar\u00e1n pasando el resto de sus vidas juntos?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfY si tu pareja te deja? \u00bfY si se enamora de otra persona? \u00bfC\u00f3mo podr\u00edas vivir sin \u00e9l?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The list of these questions is endless, but I\u2019m sure you get the point. At the end of the day, you\u2019re consumed by negative feelings that have nothing to do with the present moment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

En lugar de disfrutar de lo que tienes ahora, pasas la mayor parte del tiempo estres\u00e1ndote por posibles escenarios o por ciertas cosas que deber\u00edan haber quedado en el pasado.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

15. Practicar la gratitud<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
\"mujer<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re wondering how to control your emotions in a relationship, the answer is to focus on positive emotions. Easier said than done, I know.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bueno, \u00bfpor qu\u00e9 no probar practicar la gratitud<\/a> para cambiar? En lugar de prestar toda tu atenci\u00f3n a las cosas que faltan en tu relaci\u00f3n, f\u00edjate en las que tienes.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Can\u2019t think of anything? Start writing a gratitude journal.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Every night before you go to bed, write down everything good that happened between you and your partner that day. But make sure you don\u2019t take anything for granted.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Write down things such as: \u201cWe shared a passionate kiss,\u201d \u201cThey sent me a good morning text.\u201d, \u201cThey hugged me.\u201d, \u201cThey made me laugh.\u201d, \u201cThey helped me bring in the groceries.\u201d and so on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This way, you\u2019ll go to sleep with a smile on your face, filled with positive emotions. Not only that: the next time you are overwhelmed with negative feelings, just open your gratitude journal and start reading. All of a sudden, you\u2019ll realize there is not so much to worry about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

16. Sin supuestos<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

A wise man once said that assumptions are the termites of relationships. Don\u2019t overestimate yourself by thinking of yourself as a mind reader.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trust me, you have no clue what is going on in your partner\u2019s head. No tienes por qu\u00e9 preocuparte de que te dejen s\u00f3lo porque supongas que eso va a ocurrir.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t stress yourself out about your partner allegedly being angry if they hadn\u2019t specifically told you that was how they felt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And it works the other way around as well. Never think that they can assume how you feel \u2013 you must verbalize your emotions and be direct. It\u2019s the only way to protect them!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

17. Encontrar un sistema de apoyo<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Si sigues teniendo problemas para controlar tus emociones en una relaci\u00f3n, habla con alguien en quien conf\u00edes adem\u00e1s de tu pareja. Acude a un amigo \u00edntimo o a un familiar y h\u00e1blale de tus emociones.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even though your loved ones are not mental health experts, they know you to the bottom of your heart. They might help you process or understand your emotions. Maybe they\u2019ve been through a similar situation or dealt with some mental health issues that made them feel like they\u2019re losing control.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If nothing else, they\u2019ll hear you out and give you a shoulder to cry on \u2013 which is sometimes more than enough.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

18. Ser abierto al respecto<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
\"mujer<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Sin embargo, la persona m\u00e1s importante con la que debe hablar de este problema es su pareja. Even if you\u2019re dealing with a certain mental health condition or a personality disorder that causes your cambios de humor<\/a>es algo con lo que su pareja deber\u00eda estar familiarizada.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

H\u00e1blales de tus desencadenantes para que puedan ayudarte a evitar los que m\u00e1s te afectan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No, this doesn\u2019t mean that you\u2019re asking them to treat you like a porcelain doll. But they should know what you\u2019re struggling against.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And if they love you enough, they won\u2019t let you go through this alone. They\u2019ll hold your hand and help you learn how to control your emotions in a relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

19. El arte de perdonar<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfRecuerdas que hablamos de que no tiene sentido mirar al pasado? Pues bien, para que eso sea posible, tienes que aprender c\u00f3mo perdonar<\/a> tu pareja.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Si los dos hab\u00e9is superado algunas cosas y si vuestra relaci\u00f3n ha sobrevivido a algunos obst\u00e1culos, \u00bfpor qu\u00e9 segu\u00eds guardando rencor? El resentimiento es una de las emociones negativas m\u00e1s poderosas, y tienes que deshacerte de \u00e9l antes de que te coma vivo.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I won\u2019t lie to you: forgiving isn\u2019t always easy. In fact, sometimes it\u2019s the hardest thing you have to do. However, you\u2019ll feel liberated once you achieve it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

20. B\u00fascate la vida<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Okay, this might sound harsh, but you\u2019ll never learn how to control your emotions in a relationship until you dejar de ser emocionalmente dependiente<\/a> a tu compa\u00f1ero. As long as they\u2019re the only person who can control your mood swings, I\u2019m sorry to say, but you\u2019re doomed.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s great that you\u2019re so invested in your relationship. However, it doesn\u2019t mean your entire world should revolve around it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

En pocas palabras, consigue una vida fuera de tu romance. Sal con tus amigos, busca alg\u00fan hobby y, lo m\u00e1s importante, ded\u00edcate a ti mismo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Para terminar:<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Once you learn how to control your emotions in a relationship, you\u2019ll reach a level of emotional intelligence you didn\u2019t even know existed. These skills will help in all other fields of your life and in all the other relationships you have.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Y lo que es m\u00e1s importante, le ayudar\u00e1 a mejorar su salud mental, \u00a1y no hay nada m\u00e1s importante que eso!<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n

\"C\u00f3mo<\/figure>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

When you become an adult, everyone expects you to magically learn how to control your emotions in a relationship. Well, isn\u2019t it time we all admit we have no clue how it\u2019s done? I know I saw taking charge of my feelings like mission impossible. It took me a while before I mastered it, and…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":161500,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29622],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-161487","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationship-advice"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29622,"label":"relationship advice"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/12\/How-To-Control-Your-Emotions-In-A-Relationship-20-Proven-Tactics-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29622,"name":"relationship advice","slug":"relationship-advice","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29622,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","parent":29620,"count":544,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29622,"category_count":544,"category_description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","cat_name":"relationship advice","category_nicename":"relationship-advice","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/161487","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=161487"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/161487\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/161500"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=161487"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=161487"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=161487"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}