{"id":16202,"date":"2020-03-12T12:42:14","date_gmt":"2020-03-12T12:42:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=16202"},"modified":"2022-07-15T07:50:37","modified_gmt":"2022-07-15T07:50:37","slug":"pensar-demasiado-arruina-la-relacion","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/pensar-demasiado-arruina-la-relacion\/","title":{"rendered":"As\u00ed es como pensar demasiado arruina tu relaci\u00f3n"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Aunque pensar demasiado a veces puede ser beneficioso en algunos aspectos de tu vida, cuando se trata del amor, puede ser bastante perjudicial y puede arruinar tu relaci\u00f3n m\u00e1s de lo que imaginas.<\/p>\n<p>No digo que te sueltes y no pienses en nada, pero la preocupaci\u00f3n constante no te traer\u00e1 m\u00e1s que dolor de cabeza.<\/p>\n<p>I should know because I\u2019ve been there.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Puedo decir que soy una persona que piensa demasiado.<\/strong> Rara vez hago algo espont\u00e1neamente y siempre pienso las cosas antes de actuar.<\/p>\n<p>Soy as\u00ed con mis amigos, con mi trabajo y con mi familia, y soy as\u00ed en las relaciones rom\u00e1nticas.<\/p>\n<p>Aunque a veces es algo estupendo, porque significa que siempre tengo un plan de reserva, fue m\u00e1s que desastroso para mi relaci\u00f3n anterior.<\/p>\n<p>Ten\u00eda un chico cari\u00f1oso que me quer\u00eda mucho. Y <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/6-signs-really-love\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Realmente lo amaba<\/a>. But I simply couldn\u2019t get myself to relax.<\/p>\n<p>I couldn\u2019t get my brain to switch off even for a second. For me, worrying and overthinking has become a habit.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-88691\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Lonely-young-woman-depressed-and-stressed-sitting-head-in-hands-in-the-dark-bedroom.jpg\" alt=\"Mujer joven solitaria deprimida y estresada sentada con la cabeza entre las manos en el dormitorio oscuro\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Lonely-young-woman-depressed-and-stressed-sitting-head-in-hands-in-the-dark-bedroom.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Lonely-young-woman-depressed-and-stressed-sitting-head-in-hands-in-the-dark-bedroom-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Lonely-young-woman-depressed-and-stressed-sitting-head-in-hands-in-the-dark-bedroom-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Actually, it has become more of an obsession and it hasn\u2019t brought me anything good. Instead, it just brought me pain and an unimaginable amount of guilt.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/como-no-pensar-demasiado-en-una-relacion\/\">Pensar demasiado arruin\u00f3 mi relaci\u00f3n<\/a>porque <strong>Siempre dud\u00e9 del hombre con el que estaba.<\/strong> Dudaba de sus intenciones hacia m\u00ed y del amor que sent\u00eda.<\/p>\n<p>Supuse que hab\u00eda un significado oculto detr\u00e1s de todo lo que hac\u00eda. Analizaba cada palabra que dec\u00eda, intentando encontrar algo m\u00e1s en sus palabras. Analizaba en exceso cada una de sus palabras y movimientos y eso solo me llevaba a la confusi\u00f3n.<\/p>\n<p>Cuando fue demasiado amable conmigo, autom\u00e1ticamente asum\u00ed que <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thetalko.com\/19-ways-to-know-if-hes-hiding-something\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">ocultaba algo<\/a> o que se sent\u00eda demasiado culpable por algo que hab\u00eda hecho, as\u00ed que estaba siendo encantador para limpiar su conciencia.<\/p>\n<p>Por otro lado, si se sent\u00eda mal, supon\u00eda que ten\u00eda algo que ver conmigo.<\/p>\n<p>I couldn\u2019t accept that he might be going through some other issues that didn\u2019t have anything to do with me. If he looked at me strangely, I assumed that he was falling out of love with me and thought of it as the end of the world.<\/p>\n<p>Otra cosa que hac\u00eda constantemente era<strong> sacar conclusiones precipitadas.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Vi que empezaba a molestarle que le preguntara constantemente qu\u00e9 le pasaba, as\u00ed que dej\u00e9 de hacerlo. Pero en lugar de eso, sacaba conclusiones por mi cuenta.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-88692\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-having-serious-conversation-at-home.jpg\" alt=\"pareja conversando seriamente en casa\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-having-serious-conversation-at-home.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-having-serious-conversation-at-home-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-having-serious-conversation-at-home-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Simplemente emit\u00eda un juicio sobre algo sin ni siquiera hablarlo con \u00e9l. Eso me convert\u00eda en pasivo-agresivo.<\/p>\n<p>Segu\u00ed castig\u00e1ndole por las cosas que nunca estuve segura de que hiciera.<\/p>\n<p>As\u00ed que, en lugar de decirle lo que me molestaba, me limitaba a darle la callada por respuesta. Me acostumbr\u00e9 a discutir conmigo misma, sin siquiera consultarle.<\/p>\n<p>No hab\u00eda nada que ni nadie que pudiera demostrarme que estaba equivocado.<\/p>\n<p>When I came to a conclusion and made a judgment, he could bring me proof that I wasn\u2019t right but I assumed that he was trying to <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/5-senales-de-advertencia-de-manipulacion-emocional\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">manipularme emocionalmente<\/a> a pensar que estaba equivocado, as\u00ed que me negu\u00e9 a creerle.<\/p>\n<p>Nunca cre\u00ed que este tipo me amara de verdad. Y viv\u00eda con el miedo constante de que me dejara.<\/p>\n<p>Al principio, intent\u00f3 tranquilizarme, intent\u00f3 ayudarme con mis dudas. Me demostraba constantemente su amor, pero para m\u00ed nada era suficiente.<\/p>\n<p>Y despu\u00e9s de un tiempo, se cans\u00f3. Dej\u00f3 de discutir conmigo y me dej\u00f3 en paz.<\/p>\n<p>He left me alone with my thoughts, worries and doubts. And after some time, he eventually gave up on me completely and he walked away from me. And I don\u2019t blame him. <strong>Yo era <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/estos-5-signos-del-zodiaco-son-imposibles-de-aguantar\/\">imposible de soportar.<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-88693\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-brunette-with-curly-hair-at-home-1.jpg\" alt=\"morena triste con el pelo rizado en casa\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-brunette-with-curly-hair-at-home-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-brunette-with-curly-hair-at-home-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-brunette-with-curly-hair-at-home-1-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Tard\u00e9 meses en darme cuenta de lo que hab\u00eda hecho. Me di cuenta de que ten\u00eda un hombre que me quer\u00eda por lo que era, un hombre que siempre me respet\u00f3 y un hombre que estaba dispuesto a ayudarme a luchar contra mis demonios interiores, si tan solo se lo hubiera permitido.<\/p>\n<p>Y permit\u00ed que se me escapara de las manos. Lo ahuyent\u00e9 y no tuve a nadie m\u00e1s a quien culpar que a m\u00ed misma.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Pensar demasiado me ha convertido en una persona diferente.<\/strong> Me obsesion\u00e9 con cualquier tonter\u00eda y eso nunca me permiti\u00f3 mostrar lo mejor de m\u00ed.<\/p>\n<p>Me di cuenta de que nunca me permit\u00ed ser completamente feliz. Y, en consecuencia, nunca permit\u00ed que mi ex novio fuera feliz.<\/p>\n<p>Tard\u00e9 a\u00fan m\u00e1s en comprender que mis pensamientos exagerados se deb\u00edan en realidad a mis inseguridades y a los traumas que arrastraba del pasado.<\/p>\n<p>Me doy cuenta de que tengo numerosos problemas que debo resolver por mi cuenta antes de iniciar una nueva relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n<p>Entiendo que yo era la \u00fanica que me imped\u00eda ser feliz y que no hay nadie que pueda ayudarme con eso, hasta que me ayude a m\u00ed misma.<!--\/codes_iframe--> <!--codes_iframe--> <!--\/codes_iframe--><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-88685\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/This-Is-How-Overthinking-Ruins-Your-Relationship-Pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"As\u00ed es como pensar demasiado arruina tu relaci\u00f3n\" width=\"735\" height=\"1102\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/This-Is-How-Overthinking-Ruins-Your-Relationship-Pinterest.jpg 735w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/This-Is-How-Overthinking-Ruins-Your-Relationship-Pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/This-Is-How-Overthinking-Ruins-Your-Relationship-Pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 735px) 100vw, 735px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>While overthinking can sometimes be beneficial in some aspects of your life, when it comes to love, it can be quite damaging and it can ruin your relationship more than you can imagine. I am not saying you should just let loose and not think about anything but constant worrying will bring you nothing but&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":88686,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29622],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-16202","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationship-advice"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29622,"label":"relationship advice"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/This-Is-How-Overthinking-Ruins-Your-Relationship.jpg",800,542,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29622,"name":"relationship advice","slug":"relationship-advice","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29622,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. 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