{"id":162524,"date":"2023-03-06T08:11:47","date_gmt":"2023-03-06T08:11:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=162524"},"modified":"2023-03-06T08:11:54","modified_gmt":"2023-03-06T08:11:54","slug":"por-que-debe-evitar-la-fase-de-conversacion","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/por-que-debe-evitar-la-fase-de-conversacion\/","title":{"rendered":"Por qu\u00e9 decir no a la etapa de hablar es, en realidad, un acto b\u00e1sico de amor propio"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>We\u2019ve all been there: you meet someone, you hit it off, and you fall into the same old pattern of endless conversations that never seem to lead to anything.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>En<strong> HABLAR<\/strong> escenario.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you want another failed talking stage, another round of questioning what\u2019s wrong with you and rebuilding your self-confidence, go for it. But if you want to know why talking for months makes you feel miserable and without self-respect, keep scrolling down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>La emoci\u00f3n inicial y la decepci\u00f3n resultante, la espera constante de su atenci\u00f3n, pensar demasiado y sentirse est\u00fapido por abrirse a alguien nuevo son s\u00f3lo algunas de las consecuencias.<strong> reasons why I\u2019m done with the talking stage.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Some of you might say that the talking stage is necessary if you want to find true love, and you\u2019re right &#8211; but not if it lasts for half a year.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-1-i-want-this-vs-i-m-not-sure-i-want-this\">1. \u201cI want this.\u201d vs. \u201cI\u2019m not sure I want this.\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/mindful-woman-sitting-on-sofa-with-mobile-phone-in-hand.jpg\" alt=\"mujer atenta sentada en un sof\u00e1 con el m\u00f3vil en la mano\" class=\"wp-image-162528\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/mindful-woman-sitting-on-sofa-with-mobile-phone-in-hand.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/mindful-woman-sitting-on-sofa-with-mobile-phone-in-hand-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/mindful-woman-sitting-on-sofa-with-mobile-phone-in-hand-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/mindful-woman-sitting-on-sofa-with-mobile-phone-in-hand-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/mindful-woman-sitting-on-sofa-with-mobile-phone-in-hand-960x641.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/mindful-woman-sitting-on-sofa-with-mobile-phone-in-hand-1080x721.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/mindful-woman-sitting-on-sofa-with-mobile-phone-in-hand-1200x801.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/mindful-woman-sitting-on-sofa-with-mobile-phone-in-hand-150x100.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s natural to want to keep the conversation going while you try to figure out if you\u2019re compatible or not. <strong>But if you\u2019re talking more than actually doing anything, it\u2019s time to take a step back and rethink your decisions.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They can go hours or even days without texting you and you can\u2019t say<em> \u201cWhere are you?\u201d <\/em>because you need to be polite and not stick your nose where it doesn\u2019t belong. So you go with the well-behaved <em>\u201cOh, how was your day?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>\u00bfDe verdad quieres eso de una relaci\u00f3n?<\/strong> Spending endless hours thinking if you said something wrong, acted too clingy or if they just aren\u2019t interested in you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That\u2019s why saying NO to the talking stage will let you clearly define what you WANT and DON\u2019T WANT from your partner. And you won\u2019t go against your principles. You owe yourself at least that much self-respect!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-2-you-won-t-manipulate-me-anymore\">2. \u201cYou won\u2019t manipulate me anymore.\u2019\u2019<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Usa tu cerebro. \u00bfRealmente est\u00e1s dispuesto a pasar por otra fase de conversaci\u00f3n que durar\u00e1 varios meses? \u00bfContarle a alguien la historia de tu vida, tus traumas, tus cosas favoritas, lo que te hace re\u00edr? <strong>\u00bfS\u00f3lo para que te toquen al final?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00bfTe enamorar\u00e1s de otro <strong><em>\u201cI really love spending time with you but I\u2019m just not ready yet. Just give us some time and we will make it work. I promise?\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tener amor propio significa valorarte lo suficiente como para huir de la persona que dice esto. Nunca podr\u00e1s ser f\u00e1cilmente manipulado y herido si trabajas por TUS mejores intereses, no por los suyos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Unless you\u2019re a hunter looking for self-sabotage and destruction, you better stop the chase.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-rich is-provider-twitter wp-block-embed-twitter\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-width=\"550\" data-dnt=\"true\"><p lang=\"en\" dir=\"ltr\">La etapa de conversaci\u00f3n es una forma de que la otra persona te exija que seas su novio\/novia sin convertirte realmente en su novia\/novio. Me suena a manipulaci\u00f3n. <a href=\"https:\/\/t.co\/yFP3KFIPHL\">https:\/\/t.co\/yFP3KFIPHL<\/a><\/p>&mdash; CAPA\ud83e\udd84 (@yungcapa) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/yungcapa\/status\/1154208258984435712?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\" rel=\"noopener\">25 de julio de 2019<\/a><\/blockquote><script async src=\"https:\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-3-i-m-done-wasting-my-time-with-you\">3. \u201cI\u2019m done wasting my time with you.\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/young-woman-looking-away-in-horizont-on-the-beach.jpg\" alt=\"mujer joven que mira lejos en horizont en la playa\" class=\"wp-image-162529\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/young-woman-looking-away-in-horizont-on-the-beach.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/young-woman-looking-away-in-horizont-on-the-beach-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/young-woman-looking-away-in-horizont-on-the-beach-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/young-woman-looking-away-in-horizont-on-the-beach-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/young-woman-looking-away-in-horizont-on-the-beach-960x641.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/young-woman-looking-away-in-horizont-on-the-beach-1080x721.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/young-woman-looking-away-in-horizont-on-the-beach-1200x801.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/young-woman-looking-away-in-horizont-on-the-beach-150x100.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Madurar es darse cuenta de que la etapa de hablar es una p\u00e9rdida de tiempo. He dicho lo que he dicho. Piensa en ello.&nbsp; <strong>\u00bfDe verdad vas a salir con la pareja de tus sue\u00f1os o acabas de desperdiciar tres meses de tu vida?&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Todos sabemos que la segunda opci\u00f3n es la m\u00e1s probable, por desgracia.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>La mayor\u00eda de nosotros nunca pasamos de la fase de conversaci\u00f3n porque despu\u00e9s de la fase de luna de miel tradicionalmente te golpean con la <em>\u201cI think I\u2019m not ready for a relationship now.\u2019\u2019&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Acabas perdiendo el tiempo, las emociones y las ganas de encontrar a alguien nuevo. <strong>Con cada nueva etapa de conversaci\u00f3n fallida tus ganas de entrar en otra s\u00f3lo disminuyen.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You\u2019re left alone with your 2 AM thoughts thinking about never talking to anyone new again. Your time is you &#8211; so have some self-respect and don\u2019t spend yourself on someone who doesn\u2019t deserve you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-rich is-provider-twitter wp-block-embed-twitter\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-width=\"550\" data-dnt=\"true\"><p lang=\"en\" dir=\"ltr\">I totally understand. As an adult, &quot;talking stage&quot; is a waste of time. You either want to sleep with me, do business with me, hang with me for browny points, or have ONE meaningful conversation you think is important to you.But we are not going to be in a &quot;stage&quot; of just talking<\/p>- Nafimane Halweendo (@Naffy101) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/Naffy101\/status\/1375489455163867143?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\" rel=\"noopener\">26 de marzo de 2021<\/a><\/blockquote><script async src=\"https:\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-4-i-m-finally-able-to-maintain-my-self-esteem\">4. \u201cI\u2019m finally able to maintain my self-esteem.\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>La etapa de hablar es como el sin\u00f3nimo de confusi\u00f3n. Durante esta horrible \u00e9poca te lo cuestionas todo: <strong>su valor, personalidad e intereses.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The sad reality is that this talking stage is a one-way street in which most of the time, you\u2019re the one making effort. Every time you\u2019re the first to respond, you become more and more insecure about yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>As\u00ed que cr\u00e9eme cuando te digo que decir no a la etapa de hablar no s\u00f3lo te ayudar\u00e1 a mantener tu autoestima, sino que tambi\u00e9n te har\u00e1 sentir empoderada.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You\u2019ll finally stop worrying about where you stand, whether you\u2019re good enough, and what all those mixed signals mean.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h1 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-always-remember\">Recuerda siempre<\/h1>\n\n\n\n<p>Bye, bye, talking stage! It&#8217;s time to show off your maturity and strength by recognizing when something isn&#8217;t the right fit for you and standing up for yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Don&#8217;t be afraid to put your foot down, it will do wonders for your peace of mind.&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So, be brave and don&#8217;t let anyone talk you into something you don&#8217;t want &#8211; it&#8217;s the best way to take your self-respect to the highest level.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>We\u2019ve all been there: you meet someone, you hit it off, and you fall into the same old pattern of endless conversations that never seem to lead to anything.&nbsp; The TALKING stage.&nbsp; If you want another failed talking stage, another round of questioning what\u2019s wrong with you and rebuilding your self-confidence, go for it. 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