{"id":16451,"date":"2020-05-15T11:00:18","date_gmt":"2020-05-15T11:00:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=16451"},"modified":"2021-12-20T16:21:22","modified_gmt":"2021-12-20T16:21:22","slug":"por-que-de-repente-ignora-mis-mensajes-averigua-por-que","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/por-que-de-repente-ignora-mis-mensajes-averigua-por-que\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00bfPor Qu\u00e9 Ignora Mis Mensajes De S\u00fabito? (Averigua por qu\u00e9)"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u2018\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 de repente ignora mis mensajes?<\/a>?\u2019 is a question that unfortunately a lot of us had to ask ourself at one point in our love life, and it\u2019s one of the hardest questions to answer.<\/p>\n

Hiere tanto tus sentimientos como tu orgullo que un hombre con el que estableciste una conexi\u00f3n se olvide de repente de que existes.<\/p>\n

Cuando me encontraba en una situaci\u00f3n as\u00ed, mi mente intentaba darle sentido a todo. Lo primero que pens\u00e9 fue que deb\u00eda de haber sufrido alg\u00fan tipo de accidente horrible y no hab\u00eda podido ponerse en contacto.<\/p>\n

Supongo que cuando intentas consolarte o enga\u00f1arte a ti mismo con todos los escenarios posibles, tu cerebro se decanta por el que tiene menos probabilidades de suceder.<\/p>\n

It didn\u2019t matter to me that we had just started dating. It lasted about a month, which is not a very long time when you think about it. <\/strong><\/p>\n

But when you keep texting with somebody every day as much as you can, you can\u2019t help but miss those texts when they stop all of a sudden.<\/strong><\/p>\n

We went out on a few dates that went really well\u2014at least they did as far as I was concerned.<\/p>\n

Ten\u00edamos muchas cosas en com\u00fan, as\u00ed que siempre ten\u00edamos algo interesante sobre lo que escribir o hablar.<\/p>\n

Entre otras cosas, compart\u00edamos el mismo gusto musical, lo cual era extra\u00f1o, ya que a nadie le suele gustar la misma m\u00fasica que a m\u00ed.<\/p>\n

Al menos no ninguno de los hombres que conozco. Esa deber\u00eda haber sido la primera se\u00f1al de que algo andaba mal.<\/p>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Durante un tiempo, fue alguien que me importaba, alguien por quien empec\u00e9 a desarrollar sentimientos, alguien con quien pod\u00eda verme en una relaci\u00f3n y de repente, simplemente ignorando mis mensajes, me quit\u00f3 todo eso.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Desapareci\u00f3 de mi vida, sin darme ninguna explicaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

And after a month of constant communication, I think I deserved at least that\u2014a reason why he no longer wished to be in my life, or for him to know a sense of the pain I was feeling.<\/p>\n

I can\u2019t really say I was heartbroken. I didn\u2019t even get the chance to let him in my heart; we needed more time for that.<\/strong><\/p>\n

But he sure created what could have been feelings in me and I couldn\u2019t stop my brain from working overtime.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I kept asking myself, \u201cWhy is he ignoring my texts all of a sudden?\u201d, \u201cHow could he leave without saying anything?\u201d, \u201cDoesn\u2019t he know he is disrespecting me and causing me pain?\u201d, \u201cWhy do I miss him this much?\u201d and getting no answer.<\/em><\/p>\n

Al hablar con mis amigos, vi que muchos de ellos hab\u00edan pasado por lo mismo. Tampoco ten\u00edan respuestas.<\/p>\n

Hab\u00edan hecho las paces en que no todo necesita una respuesta. Y aunque estoy de acuerdo con ellos hasta cierto punto, ten\u00eda que averiguar todas las posibles razones por las que alguien ignorar\u00eda mis mensajes de repente, por qu\u00e9 alguien me ignorar\u00eda a m\u00ed.<\/p>\n

I conducted some research. Since I obviously couldn\u2019t get the answers I needed from the person who was ignoring me, I talked to 30 men and asked them the same questions that were echoing in my head.<\/p>\n

Ten\u00eda que saber qu\u00e9 los hace desaparecer. Y esto es lo que he descubierto:<\/p>\n

1. Prefieren desaparecer a decir que no les gustas<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not manly and they know it\u2019s not OK but it\u2019s easier than facing a girl you have been dating for some time and admit that you are not into her that much.<\/p>\n

Unlike women, men prefer to avoid any conversation that involves emotions. They don\u2019t want to explain at length why something is not working for them.<\/p>\n

They don\u2019t want to make a woman sad. They actually believe that it\u2019s easier for a woman if they just ghost her.<\/p>\n

2. They weren\u2019t dating or texting with just you exclusively<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

If you came across a player, they have their phone full of other women\u2019s texts and odds are they probably weren\u2019t going out on dates with just you either.<\/p>\n

Dejaron sus opciones abiertas. Mientras t\u00fa te hac\u00edas ilusiones, ellos estaban tanteando el terreno.<\/p>\n

He might have fallen for another girl or he might have just broadened his horizons by including more women in his texting game. Either way, you are lucky he stopped texting you\u2014you dodged a bullet.<\/p>\n

3. Decidieron renunciar porque usted estaba demasiado disponible<\/h2>\n

\"Hombre<\/p>\n

Incluso en las primeras etapas de las citas, un hombre puede detectar si dejar\u00edas todo para pasar tiempo con \u00e9l. Le respondes inmediatamente.<\/p>\n

Puedes salir con \u00e9l en cualquier momento, de noche o de d\u00eda. Y eso env\u00eda el mensaje de que est\u00e1s un poco desesperada, lo que, naturalmente, desanima mucho.<\/p>\n

Think about it\u2014if you had a man in your life who was bending over backward to accommodate you, you would probably ignore him too.<\/p>\n

Being too available doesn\u2019t leave any sense of mystery or excitement in a relationship and it gets boring way too fast.<\/p>\n

4. Se rindi\u00f3 porque te estabas haciendo el duro<\/h2>\n

\"enfoque<\/p>\n

Es lo contrario de estar demasiado disponible. A las mujeres se les repite que haci\u00e9ndose las dif\u00edciles conseguir\u00e1n que un hombre las persiga.<\/p>\n

And while that\u2019s true to some degree, ignor\u00e1ndole para llamar su atenci\u00f3n<\/a> can be very effective if it\u2019s done right, though some women tend to go overboard. They exaggerate so they come off as cold and uninterested.<\/p>\n

They never text first and they don\u2019t match the man\u2019s efforts so he doesn\u2019t see any other option than to quit.<\/p>\n

Olvidan que deben encontrar el equilibrio entre ignorar a un hombre y estar demasiado disponibles.<\/p>\n

5. Ca\u00edste en la trampa de idealizar al hombre con el que acabas de empezar a salir<\/h2>\n

\"hermosa<\/p>\n

Cuando empiezan a salir con alguien, la mayor\u00eda de las mujeres sienten una qu\u00edmica instant\u00e1nea con \u00e9l o sienten una conexi\u00f3n incre\u00edble a un nivel m\u00e1s profundo, por lo que ponen a ese hombre en un pedestal.<\/p>\n

They don\u2019t see the real him, they see a picture-perfect version of him they have created in their mind.<\/p>\n

Maybe he was perfect on paper but that doesn\u2019t mean he would be perfect for you. All in all, if he was so perfect, he would have chosen you.<\/p>\n

6. Has puesto el list\u00f3n demasiado bajo<\/h2>\n

\"pelo<\/p>\n

Si un hombre (especialmente un jugador o alg\u00fan otro tipo de personalidad t\u00f3xica) ve que puede tratarte como quiera y que siempre estar\u00e1s ah\u00ed, har\u00e1 exactamente eso.<\/p>\n

He won\u2019t text you back right now but odds are he will after some time because he thinks you will stay put and wait for his text.<\/p>\n

If you haven\u2019t made your standards clear, he will assume you have none and that he can come and go from your life as he pleases.<\/p>\n

If you let him in again he will simply repeat this scenario as many times as you allow him and you will be left wondering, \u201cWhy is he ignoring my texts all of a sudden?\u201d<\/p>\n

7. Te mov\u00edas demasiado r\u00e1pido para \u00e9l<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Acabas de empezar a salir y ya has empezado a imaginarte todo tu futuro con \u00e9l.<\/p>\n

If you mentioned marriage, commitment or children way too soon, that\u2019s one of the reasons why he is not texting back and is running as far away as he can from you.<\/p>\n

Si eres de las que se mueven demasiado r\u00e1pido, deber\u00edas replantearte bajar el ritmo.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s no wonder that he got spooked. Things need time to evolve. Take it one step at a time next time around.<\/p>\n

8. To him, something just didn\u2019t add up<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

He likes you but he doesn\u2019t like you enough to date you. He probably chose to ignore your texts so as not to hurt you additionally by saying the wrong thing.<\/p>\n

We can all agree that\u2019s not the best way to end things but he chose it nevertheless.<\/p>\n

No tiene nada que ver contigo. No hay nada que pudieras haber hecho de otra manera.<\/p>\n

Para \u00e9l, hab\u00eda algo que no encajaba y se desanim\u00f3, sin tener siquiera el valor de enviar un simple mensaje de texto.<\/p>\n

9. Sigues eligiendo el mismo tipo de hombre una y otra vez<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Creo que aqu\u00ed es donde me equivoqu\u00e9. El chico que desapareci\u00f3 era muy parecido a todos los dem\u00e1s chicos con los que sal\u00ed. Supongo que al final tengo un tipo y ese tipo es hombres emocionalmente inaccesibles<\/a>.<\/p>\n

If you are in the same or a similar situation as I was in, it\u2019s high time to change your dating pattern.<\/p>\n

Choose differently next time. Don\u2019t go on a date with someone who matches the exact description of your ex or someone who is clearly not ready to date casually, let alone enter into a relationship.<\/p>\n

In the end, the important thing here is not to overanalyze. Believe me, I\u2019ve been there and it led me nowhere.<\/p>\n

Diseccion\u00e9 toda la situaci\u00f3n. Tortur\u00e9 a mis amigos para que me ayudaran con mi an\u00e1lisis y calmaran este cerebro m\u00edo que pensaba demasiado.<\/p>\n

Cuando lo pienso ahora, creo que les aburr\u00ed mucho con un chico con el que sal\u00ed s\u00f3lo un mes o as\u00ed.<\/p>\n

I was so obsessed with getting to the bottom of things that I couldn\u2019t see things clearly. I conducted this research so I could help women who are in similar situation to me.<\/p>\n

Al menos, estas razones pueden abrirle los ojos y hacerle elegir con m\u00e1s prudencia la pr\u00f3xima vez.<\/p>\n

A m\u00ed tambi\u00e9n me ayud\u00f3 en cierto modo. Creo que la raz\u00f3n n\u00famero nueve es la verdadera raz\u00f3n por la que ignoraba mis mensajes de repente y por la que desapareci\u00f3 de mi vida.<\/p>\n

Tal vez alguien encuentre tambi\u00e9n la raz\u00f3n por la que su casi novio la abandon\u00f3. Tal vez haya alguien que, como yo, tenga la mala suerte de enamorarse de hombres emocionalmente inaccesibles.<\/p>\n

A fin de cuentas, no hay nada que pueda decirme con certeza qu\u00e9 pasaba por su cabeza cuando decidi\u00f3 que hab\u00eda llegado el momento de ignorar nuestra existencia.<\/p>\n

And you know what? Maybe it isn\u2019t important. People do things that make no sense all the time and that\u2019s something that is their problem, not ours.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t think I lost much when he decided to abandon my life and my inbox. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Pero supongo que ese modo investigador se dispar\u00f3 dentro de m\u00ed y quise darme alg\u00fan tipo de cierre<\/a> desde que me privaron de ella.<\/strong><\/p>\n

All in all, I learned a valuable lesson from all of this. It doesn\u2019t matter why he behaved the way he did. What matters is that he chose not to be in my life.<\/p>\n

Que su comportamiento no es el comportamiento de un hombre que quiero en mi vida de todos modos. Que no hay respuesta lo suficientemente buena para el mal comportamiento.<\/p>\n

That some things were never meant to be and that there is only one thing to do\u2014let it go and move on with your life.<\/p>\n

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