{"id":164703,"date":"2024-05-23T12:35:35","date_gmt":"2024-05-23T12:35:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=164703"},"modified":"2024-07-08T09:10:16","modified_gmt":"2024-07-08T09:10:16","slug":"como-utilizar-la-filosofia-antigua-en-el-amor","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/como-utilizar-la-filosofia-antigua-en-el-amor\/","title":{"rendered":"Esta antigua filosof\u00eda japonesa me ayud\u00f3 a mejorar mi relaci\u00f3n de pareja"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Everybody wants that perfect fairytale love but when things don\u2019t go exactly as we imagined them, that can break us. After all, our lives are not produced by the Walt Disney Studios (such a shame, I know).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Cada vez que me encontraba con problemas con mi pareja intentaba buscar consuelo y ayuda en mis amistades (los helados tambi\u00e9n ayudan) o navegando sin cesar por Internet para encontrar a alguien que hubiera afrontado una situaci\u00f3n similar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You\u2019ve probably been there too. Actually, who are we kidding? You are reading this, so I\u2019m guessing you\u2019re already there. Anyway, after going down the rabbit hole once, I read something about this <strong>Arte japon\u00e9s <\/strong>que realmente se qued\u00f3 conmigo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00bfHa pensado alguna vez que todas las soluciones pueden estar en las tradiciones y el arte antiguos? S\u00ed, yo tampoco. <strong>Resulta que podemos aprender mucho de \u00e9l y aplicar su filosof\u00eda a nuestros problemas. <\/strong>\u00a1\u00bfQui\u00e9n nos iba a decir que un antiguo arte japon\u00e9s podr\u00eda ayudarnos en nuestra vida amorosa?!&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">El secreto se esconde en abrazar nuestros defectos<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1060\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Couple-on-a-beach.jpg\" alt=\"Pareja en una playa\" class=\"wp-image-164704\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Couple-on-a-beach.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Couple-on-a-beach-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Couple-on-a-beach-1024x678.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Couple-on-a-beach-768x509.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Couple-on-a-beach-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Couple-on-a-beach-960x636.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Couple-on-a-beach-1080x716.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Couple-on-a-beach-1200x795.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Kintsugi<\/em> es un m\u00e9todo utilizado en Jap\u00f3n para reparar objetos rotos, normalmente de cer\u00e1mica, \u00a1pero nada menos que con laca dorada! Si alguien me hiciera esto, \u00a1me temo que me convertir\u00eda en una estatua de oro!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You probably wonder what\u2019s the point of this. Well, they want to <strong>aceptar los defectos y la belleza de reparar<\/strong> algo que una vez estuvo roto. Ahora ves a d\u00f3nde quiero llegar, \u00bfverdad? Bien, qu\u00e9date conmigo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Toda la filosof\u00eda Kintsugi se basa en un simple t\u00e9rmino, <em>wabi-sabi<\/em>. Here\u2019s the catch, wabi-sabi is almost like a way of living that focuses on <strong>celebrar las imperfecciones <\/strong>que nos rodean y aceptar la belleza de la ruptura y la reparaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Imag\u00ednese el mundo si todos vivi\u00e9ramos as\u00ed. Claro, podemos intentar alcanzar la perfecci\u00f3n (que tiene el mismo porcentaje de \u00e9xito que encontrar una aguja en un pajar) y exigir lo mismo a nuestra pareja.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Pero \u00bfy si intentamos encontrar la paz en el hecho de que <strong>can\u2019t avoid imperfections and prevent changes<\/strong>? Wouldn\u2019t life just be easier for everyone?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">El perfeccionismo conduce al estr\u00e9s y al mal romance<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>No one is created to be perfect and that\u2019s actually where all the beauty lies. Sorry to disappoint you but your love life isn\u2019t exactly a perfect romantic movie. I know mine isn\u2019t, that\u2019s for sure! My love life is more like a tragic comedy.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Si est\u00e1s constantemente tratando de cambiar a tu pareja y adaptarla a esta forma perfecta, tambi\u00e9n puedes comprarte a ti mismo <strong>un billete de ida a la frustraci\u00f3n y la insatisfacci\u00f3n<\/strong>. Trust me, I\u2019ve been there, and it\u2019s not fun!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>P.D. \u00a1Este tipo de billete de ida y vuelta es muy dif\u00edcil de conseguir y bastante caro!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You don\u2019t trust me? Well, this is actually proven by a lot of <a href=\"https:\/\/pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/22353007\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">estudios<\/a>\u00a1! Resulta que <strong>las parejas que buscan el perfeccionismo en su relaci\u00f3n suelen sufrir depresi\u00f3n<\/strong>. Tampoco es divertido.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The thing is, this doesn\u2019t only go for criticizing your partner too much, but yourself too. Well, guess what? If you go down this route, prepare yourself for a lot of conflicts due to being disappointed.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I\u2019ve been through the same and wanted my relationship to be the best one to ever exist. I used to criticize my partner for everything, from the way he dressed to the way he breathed air! I just wanted everything to be flawless but that\u2019s not really possible, and quite frankly irrational!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>D\u00e9jame preguntarte algo. \u00bfHas pensado alguna vez que necesitas darle un toque picante a las cosas en el dormitorio? \u00bfCrees que s\u00f3lo necesitas probar otras posturas? Te equivocas. <strong>Perfectionism doesn\u2019t only affect your mental state but bedroom activities as well!<\/strong>&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>La ciencia tambi\u00e9n me apoya en esto. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC10163913\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Investigaci\u00f3n<\/a> ha demostrado que puede disminuir la cantidad de relaciones sexuales, pero tambi\u00e9n la calidad de las mismas. Apuesto a que la pr\u00f3xima vez te lo pensar\u00e1s dos veces antes de presionar a tu pareja y a ti mismo para que sea impecable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Broken doesn\u2019t mean destined to be ugly<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1060\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/woman-holding-sharp-piece-of-glass.jpg\" alt=\"mujer sujetando un trozo de cristal afilado\" class=\"wp-image-164705\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/woman-holding-sharp-piece-of-glass.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/woman-holding-sharp-piece-of-glass-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/woman-holding-sharp-piece-of-glass-1024x678.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/woman-holding-sharp-piece-of-glass-768x509.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/woman-holding-sharp-piece-of-glass-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/woman-holding-sharp-piece-of-glass-960x636.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/woman-holding-sharp-piece-of-glass-1080x716.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/woman-holding-sharp-piece-of-glass-1200x795.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Imag\u00ednate esto: tienes un precioso jarr\u00f3n para las flores, ha pertenecido a tu familia durante d\u00e9cadas y ocupa un lugar especial en tu coraz\u00f3n. Un d\u00eda tu perro entra corriendo, juega alrededor de la mesa y lo siguiente que sabes es que tu jarr\u00f3n (y tu coraz\u00f3n) se ha roto en pedazos. \u00bfQu\u00e9 har\u00eda usted?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00bfVas a coger una escoba y un recogedor, recogerlo todo y tirarlo a la basura? Creo que nadie est\u00e1 tan loco. Al menos, eso espero. Si todav\u00eda lo est\u00e1s pensando, la respuesta es un gran no.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Usted cuidadosamente <strong>recoger todas las piezas e intentar pegarlas de nuevo<\/strong> or use those pieces to create something else, maybe even more beautiful. The point is you would still cherish it, now maybe even more than before. That\u2019s the whole logic behind the \u201c<em>reparaci\u00f3n de oro<\/em>\u201d principle!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Incluso con una forma y un aspecto diferentes, seguir\u00eda siendo valioso y contar\u00eda un hermoso <strong>historia sobre su evoluci\u00f3n, cambios y reparaci\u00f3n<\/strong>. It\u2019s the same when it comes to humans.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Entonces, \u00bfa qu\u00e9 esperas? \u00bfVas a tirar todo el esfuerzo que pones en tu relaci\u00f3n o vas a intentar <strong>repararlo y crear algo a\u00fan mejor<\/strong>? Yeah, that\u2019s what I thought!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Imagine your relationship as one of those craft projects you did for school as a kid. You wouldn\u2019t give up easily even if something didn\u2019t go well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That\u2019s because you wanted your project to be the best it can be and you wanted everyone to be amazed. So take some colors and glitter and sprinkle them on your relationship!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Puede parecer gracioso comparar la cer\u00e1mica con nosotros mismos, pero <strong>no somos tan complicados como creemos <\/strong>we are. If we approached other life problems like this, they wouldn\u2019t seem so bad, would they?&nbsp;<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Everybody wants that perfect fairytale love but when things don\u2019t go exactly as we imagined them, that can break us. After all, our lives are not produced by the Walt Disney Studios (such a shame, I know). 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