{"id":164763,"date":"2025-01-27T15:30:00","date_gmt":"2025-01-27T14:30:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=164763"},"modified":"2025-01-24T20:22:33","modified_gmt":"2025-01-24T19:22:33","slug":"hazlo-con-tu-pareja-antes-de-casarte","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/hazlo-con-tu-pareja-antes-de-casarte\/","title":{"rendered":"10 cosas que deber\u00edan hacer juntos antes de darse el \"s\u00ed, quiero"},"content":{"rendered":"

I never thought I would get married before I met John. It\u2019s like none of the guys were good enough or ticked all my boxes. The same questions would always repeat in my head like a broken record that never stops playing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfEs realmente con quien quiero criar hijos? \u00bfTener arrugas y canas? \u00bfHacer todas esas cosas cursis que s\u00f3lo haces cuando est\u00e1s locamente enamorada?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow did you know he was the one?\u201d<\/em> \u2013 I asked all of my friends when they got married in the hope I would get some pautas para tomar una decisi\u00f3n correcta<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They all had different answers but it all came down to one thing \u2013 aseg\u00farense de repasar juntos estas cosas antes de casarse<\/strong>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Le di a mi relaci\u00f3n el tiempo suficiente para que pasara por todas las etapas importantes y, poco despu\u00e9s, \u00a1pas\u00e9 por el altar! Sigo felizmente casada y ahora por fin s\u00e9 lo que hace falta para estar segura de si quieres casarte con esa persona o no.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Sobrevivir a los tiempos oscuros<\/h2>\n\n\n
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It\u2019s all fun and games when things are perfect and go smoothly. What happens when a sudden thunderstorm appears and everything falls apart? Esta es una verdadera prueba de su relaci\u00f3n<\/strong>no s\u00f3lo con tu pareja, sino tambi\u00e9n con tus amigos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tu pareja debe ser como una luz al final del t\u00fanel<\/strong>...ayud\u00e1ndote a encontrar la salida. Recuerdo los momentos dif\u00edciles que pas\u00e9, las malas noticias que recib\u00ed y los sofocos por todo el cuerpo como si fuera ayer. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, with John, everything was easier, even the worst problems didn\u2019t seem so scary. I always wish to have him by my side when things go south.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Don\u2019t run away from conflicts<\/h2>\n\n\n
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Todo el mundo muestra su verdadera cara durante una discusi\u00f3n. Esta es una momento perfecto para darte cuenta de lo que siente alguien por ti<\/strong>. Preste atenci\u00f3n a <\/strong>c\u00f3mo act\u00faan, las palabras que dicen y c\u00f3mo te hacen sentir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfSon evitar la discusi\u00f3n<\/strong> o te ignoran? \u00bfLe hacer que se sienta escuchado <\/strong>y realmente quieren comprender su punto de vista<\/strong>? \u00bfSon defensivo y manipulador<\/strong>, making you think it\u2019s all your fault?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Puedes averiguar mucho sobre una persona con s\u00f3lo ver c\u00f3mo act\u00faa durante una discusi\u00f3n. M\u00e1s vale que sepas resolver tus conflictos, de lo contrario, una peque\u00f1a pelea en tu matrimonio puede llevarte directamente a un abogado de divorcios.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Compartir el mismo techo<\/h2>\n\n\n
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Even if you can\u2019t live together for some reason, you should at least spend a longer period together under the same roof. It\u2019s like un c\u00f3digo de trucos para echar un vistazo a lo que probablemente le espera<\/strong> para el resto de tu vida. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

This will help you figure out their habits and discuss them on time. It\u2019s also a great opportunity to dejar las cosas claras en lo que respecta a las responsabilidades dom\u00e9sticas<\/strong>. If you don\u2019t want to do everything by yourself, be like Cardi B and tell them straight: \u201cI don\u2019t cook, I don\u2019t clean!\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

My friend made a \u201cthree-month trial\u201d deal with her fianc\u00e9 to see how things would go once they were living together. After three months, they realized they were indeed a perfect match and got married! To be honest, I think she was onto something with this trick\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Explorar nuevos lugares juntos<\/h2>\n\n\n
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Un verano hice un gran viaje a Asia con mi pareja. Fue un aut\u00e9ntico suplicio planificar un viaje bastante largo al otro lado del mundo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I am very organized but also start to panic when things don\u2019t go as planned. John on the other hand is laid back and pretty spontaneous. We missed our flight on the way back and while I was anxiously trying to stay calm, he already handled everything and made sure I didn\u2019t stress. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Viajar antes de casarse puede ayudarle a averiguar c\u00f3mo manejan el estr\u00e9s y afrontan las situaciones dif\u00edciles<\/strong>. Si todo va bien, enhorabuena, \u00a1te ha tocado la loter\u00eda!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Aseg\u00farate de que est\u00e1s en la misma p\u00e1gina<\/h2>\n\n\n
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A lot of marriages fail because people forget they need to do the most basic thing \u2013 talk. Apresurarse a casarse sin hablar de temas importantes nunca acaba bien.<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Imag\u00ednatelo. T\u00fa siempre has so\u00f1ado con ser ama de casa con 5 hijos y mudarte al campo en Europa. \u00c9l, en cambio, quiere quedarse en Estados Unidos, en su gran ciudad natal, y montar un negocio contigo sin ni\u00f1os a la vista. \u00bfDe verdad crees que funcionar\u00eda?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t even bother thinking you can change his mind and have it your way. Would you give up on your dreams to make his dreams come true? Yeah, that\u2019s what I thought.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. Habla de dinero.<\/h2>\n\n\n
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Mi amiga y su marido crecieron en ambientes totalmente distintos. Nunca hablaron de finanzas antes de casarse. \u00bfAdivina por qu\u00e9 fue su primera gran pelea?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Soon after being at the altar, she was surprised by his crazy spending habits and he realized he couldn\u2019t be with someone who looked where every penny goes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all make mistakes but in this case, you don\u2019t have to, so discutir c\u00f3mo piensa gestionar sus finanzas y cuentas bancarias<\/strong>. Aseg\u00farate de hablar tambi\u00e9n de tus expectativas en cuanto a estilo de vida y planes de futuro.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. Mantener conversaciones inc\u00f3modas<\/h2>\n\n\n
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El consejo que siempre doy a todo el mundo es conoce a la persona con la que te casas por dentro y por fuera<\/strong>lo bueno y lo malo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dedica un tiempo a hablar sinceramente de tu pasado, tu infancia, tus problemas familiares o cualquier trauma que puedas tener. Son temas delicados, pero despu\u00e9s de estas conversaciones, podr\u00e1 entender mucho mejor a su pareja<\/strong>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Talk about your boundaries and triggers, your values and dreams. Don\u2019t limit yourself, the topics are countless and will help you immensely in crear un v\u00ednculo fuerte<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Saying \u2018yes\u2019 to your forever partner can sound intimidating especially when you\u2019re not sure if you are making the right decision. However, going through these life experiences together will help you know if they are the one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As long as you hide in your comfort zone and aren\u2019t open about everything, you probably aren\u2019t ready for the next big step. As\u00ed que<\/strong> t\u00f3mese su tiempo, abr\u00f3chese el cintur\u00f3n y disfrute del viaje<\/strong>!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. Tantear el terreno durante una crisis<\/h2>\n\n\n
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They say true character is revealed in difficult situations. Before getting married, it\u2019s essential to see how your partner handles a crisis.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

La vida es impredecible, y you need to know if they\u2019ll be your rock when the ground beneath you shakes.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I remember when John lost his job unexpectedly. It was a tough time, and we didn\u2019t know what was coming next. Instead of spiraling, he stayed calm and focused, making a plan and reassuring me that we\u2019d get through it together. Ese momento me mostr\u00f3 su fuerza y su resistencia.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If your partner can\u2019t handle tough times or falls apart when things get messy, it\u2019s something to seriously think about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You\u2019ll want someone who can face the storms of life with you, not leave you standing in the rain alone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. Meet each other\u2019s people<\/h2>\n\n\n
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You\u2019re not just marrying your partner \u2013 you\u2019re marrying into their world. Meeting their family and friends is a non-negotiable step before walking down the aisle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Esto le dar\u00e1 informaci\u00f3n valiosa sobre qui\u00e9nes son y el tipo de entorno del que proceden.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I met my husband’s family, I instantly understood where his kindness and patience came from. Spending time with his friends showed me how he treats others and what kind of relationships he values. On the flip side, introducing him to my people gave him a deeper understanding of me and my world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Si hay algo que no le gusta de las personas m\u00e1s cercanas, tome nota.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You don\u2019t have to love everyone in their circle, but you should feel comfortable and accepted in it. El matrimonio es m\u00e1s que dos personas<\/strong> \u2013 it\u2019s the merging of lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

10. Laugh together\u2026 a lot<\/h2>\n\n\n
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Puede parecer sencillo, pero el humor es una de las bases m\u00e1s s\u00f3lidas de un matrimonio feliz. Life will throw you curveballs, and if you can still find reasons to laugh together, you\u2019re on the right path.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

John y yo tenemos nuestras propias tradiciones tontas y bromas internas que nos mantienen conectados incluso cuando las cosas se ponen dif\u00edciles.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A\u00fan recuerdo v\u00edvidamente una vez que nos pill\u00f3 la lluvia durante un viaje, empapados y frustrados, y \u00e9l convirti\u00f3 el momento en un espect\u00e1culo c\u00f3mico. En lugar de centrarnos en el inconveniente, acabamos ri\u00e9ndonos tanto que me dol\u00eda el est\u00f3mago.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you can\u2019t laugh together, even in the mundane or difficult moments, life will feel heavier than it needs to. Find someone who keeps you smiling, and you\u2019ll never run out of reasons to stay in love.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I never thought I would get married before I met John. It\u2019s like none of the guys were good enough or ticked all my boxes. The same questions would always repeat in my head like a broken record that never stops playing. Is he really the one I want to raise kids with? Get wrinkles…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":164771,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29623],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-164763","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-marriage"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29623,"label":"marriage"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Dont-say-\u2018I-DO-Before-Youve-Done-These-Things-Together-1024x678.jpg",1024,678,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29623,"name":"marriage","slug":"marriage","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29623,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Establishing a happy marriage is not an easy task. Learning how to recognize red flags and deal with issues will help you make your marriage successful.","parent":29620,"count":474,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29623,"category_count":474,"category_description":"Establishing a happy marriage is not an easy task. Learning how to recognize red flags and deal with issues will help you make your marriage successful.","cat_name":"marriage","category_nicename":"marriage","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/164763","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=164763"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/164763\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":192657,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/164763\/revisions\/192657"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/164771"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=164763"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=164763"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=164763"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}