{"id":164800,"date":"2024-05-27T14:15:07","date_gmt":"2024-05-27T14:15:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=164800"},"modified":"2024-05-27T14:15:07","modified_gmt":"2024-05-27T14:15:07","slug":"viaje-al-amor-propio","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/viaje-al-amor-propio\/","title":{"rendered":"Despu\u00e9s de a\u00f1os de avergonzarme de mi cuerpo, \u00a1por fin vuelvo a quererme!"},"content":{"rendered":"

I haven\u2019t felt like I was attractive enough for the last, I don\u2019t even know how many years. De alguna manera nunca fui capaz de encajar en el est\u00e1ndar de belleza<\/strong> que todos nos hacen tragar. Hiciera lo que hiciera o cambiara lo que cambiara, nunca era suficiente.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Although at first, I didn\u2019t seem to notice something was so awfully wrong (it wasn\u2019t) with my body, others often made sure to let me know that loud and clear. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

This caused me to question my sanity. I wasn\u2019t even sure if I loved myself anymore?! My mental health took a toll on me and years of struggling were in front of me. However, this also marked the beginning of my long journey to self-love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No era m\u00e1s que piel y huesos para otras personas<\/h2>\n\n\n
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Ever since elementary school kids would pick on me because of my weight. It didn\u2019t help that I was the tallest girl in my class, even taller than all the boys.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Teasing from my peers didn\u2019t really surprise me, unlike grown-up people who would <\/strong>comment on my body all the time! And yeah, they didn\u2019t have many positive things to say.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

He o\u00eddo muchos comentarios diferentes a lo largo de los a\u00f1os, la mayor\u00eda de las veces los que intentaban ser disfrazado de divertido y da\u00f1ino<\/strong>. \u201cDo you have anything to eat?\u201d<\/em> S\u00ed, Karen, como mucha comida. Diablos, a veces incluso com\u00eda m\u00e1s que mi padre. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Todo esto me hizo sentir muy cohibida e insegura...<\/strong>. I always wondered how the world praises models like Bella Hadid and does everything to look like her, while they treat me like I\u2019m some kind of a skeleton. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

One day I checked her height and weight, and all her proportions, only to find out that the only difference between us is that I have wider hips. (Sure, I\u2019m also not a billionaire, but you know what I think.) <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lo que tambi\u00e9n me molest\u00f3 mucho fue que nadie entend\u00eda mi dolor en serio<\/strong>. A algunos les parecer\u00e1 gracioso que est\u00e9 acomplejada porque soy delgada. \u201cI wish that was my problem!\u201d, <\/em>sol\u00edan decir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People can\u2019t understand that someone decir que est\u00e1s demasiado delgada es igual de insultante e hiriente<\/strong> como que alguien te llame con sobrepeso.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The worst thing wasn\u2019t even the fact that random people would give themselves permission to speak about mi<\/em> cuerpo. La verdadera ca\u00edda de mi confianza empez\u00f3 cuando empec\u00e9 a salir con chicas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Worst of all, my partner\u2019s hate exceeded everyone else\u2019s<\/h2>\n\n\n
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Siempre que est\u00e1bamos juntos, su intensa mirada me dejaba casi desnuda. Mientras sus ojos se paseaban por mi cuerpo, las puntas de sus dedos pintaban mi cuerpo como si fuera un lienzo. Esperaba con el deseo de ver ad\u00f3nde nos llevar\u00eda su siguiente caricia.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mientras sus ojos segu\u00edan recorriendo cada cent\u00edmetro de m\u00ed, casi parec\u00eda que buscaba algo. Estaba en lo cierto. Buscaba la manera de demoler mi ya rota confianza<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lo que pens\u00e9 que era un momento de pura satisfacci\u00f3n para ambos, result\u00f3 ser nada m\u00e1s que \u00e9l tratando de encontrar mis defectos<\/strong>. I didn\u2019t realize how much words can hurt until I heard them from someone I deeply loved.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cReal women have curves. You would look better with more meat on your bones. It\u2019s like you\u2019re almost invisible,\u201d<\/em> dec\u00eda. Cada palabra se adentraba m\u00e1s en mi mente<\/strong>...doliendo como nada que haya experimentado. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019ve gone through this hell for a couple of months thinking that he\u2019ll change and fall in love with my body. When I realized that wouldn\u2019t happen, it was like something just switched in my head and I started thinking differently. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mi amor propio lo super\u00f3 todo<\/h2>\n\n\n
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Despu\u00e9s de mucho tiempo dudando de m\u00ed misma y tratando de averiguar cu\u00e1l es mi problema, me di cuenta de que el problema nunca estuvo en mi<\/strong>. Todo el tiempo estaba en otras personas, sus inseguridades ocultas y el reflejo de su vacilante confianza en m\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I realized that a person who is primarily fulfilled with themselves and happy in their skin would never act purposely in a way that would hurt someone. They are busy with their life and don\u2019t want to waste their energy on such negative things.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Those people are also aware they won\u2019t gain anything from hurting someone\u2019s feelings (besides good old karma), while las personas infelices obtienen una r\u00e1pida dosis de satisfacci\u00f3n menospreciando a los dem\u00e1s <\/strong>hasta que vuelvan a sus tristes y miserables vidas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Eleg\u00ed mi felicidad por encima de las inseguridades<\/h2>\n\n\n
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Una vez me distanci\u00e9 de la gente negativa y me rode\u00e9 de gente amable, Encontr\u00e9 la confianza y el amor por m\u00ed misma que hab\u00eda perdido hac\u00eda tiempo<\/strong>. Ahora pienso que mi cuerpo es perfecto tal y como es. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Everyone\u2019s body is beyond perfect even though we don\u2019t realize it. Your body keeps you alive, your legs take you wherever you want, your brain helps you create amazing things and every cell in your body has some function which it tirelessly performs every second. Our bodies truly are a miracle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You should never lose hope because what isn\u2019t attractive to one man, another one will happily praise! At the end of the day, the most important thing is up to us. How can we expect others to love us if we don\u2019t love ourselves? <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I haven\u2019t felt like I was attractive enough for the last, I don\u2019t even know how many years. I was somehow never able to fit into the beauty standard everyone is shoving down our throats. No matter what I did or how much I changed, it was never good enough. Although at first, I didn\u2019t…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":22,"featured_media":164803,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29644],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-164800","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-self-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29644,"label":"self-love"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/After-Years-Of-Body-Shaming-I-Finally-Love-Myself-Again-1024x678.jpg",1024,678,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tina Navarro","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/tatiana\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29644,"name":"self-love","slug":"self-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29644,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Self-love is not an option but a necessity. Boost your self-confidence, learn to love yourself and ditch toxicity because you deserve to be happy.","parent":29643,"count":290,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29644,"category_count":290,"category_description":"Self-love is not an option but a necessity. Boost your self-confidence, learn to love yourself and ditch toxicity because you deserve to be happy.","cat_name":"self-love","category_nicename":"self-love","category_parent":29643}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/164800","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/22"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=164800"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/164800\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":164808,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/164800\/revisions\/164808"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/164803"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=164800"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=164800"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=164800"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}