{"id":164910,"date":"2024-05-28T10:02:00","date_gmt":"2024-05-28T10:02:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=164910"},"modified":"2024-07-08T09:11:28","modified_gmt":"2024-07-08T09:11:28","slug":"liberarse-de-una-relacion-toxica","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/liberarse-de-una-relacion-toxica\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00bfAndas con pies de plomo con \u00e9l? Aprende a detectar la toxicidad y lib\u00e9rate de inmediato"},"content":{"rendered":"

Probablemente todos lo hemos experimentado. Est\u00e1 encima de ti, te dice que te quiere, quiere que est\u00e9is juntos todo el tiempo y te llama con frecuencia. De repente, todo se vuelve demasiado y empiezas a notar que hay algo muy poco saludable sucediendo bajo la superficie<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hace unos a\u00f1os, tom\u00e9 una copa con mi amiga Tara y compart\u00ed algunas dudas sobre mi novio. She was nodding at first and then asked me if it felt as\u2026<\/strong> (God, you\u2019ll love how she described the feeling) tent\u00e1culos viscosos alrededor de tu cuello<\/em><\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Such a vivid comparison helped me notice other red flags in my relationship at the time. It wasn\u2019t long before I dumped his toxic self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Presta atenci\u00f3n a las se\u00f1ales de tu cuerpo. <\/strong>Besides the dreadful sensation this kind of bond may impose, there is an overall feeling something isn\u2019t quite right. Also, there is an impulso interior de huir de \u00e9l.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes your mind can’t decide if something is deeply wrong with your relationship, but tu cuerpo percibir\u00e1 el peligro y encender\u00e1 las alarmas.<\/strong> You\u2019ll be uncomfortable or feel something is off when he\u2019s around, your hands will sweat, your heartbeat rate will increase, your stomach will get upset, etc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mi psic\u00f3logo comparti\u00f3 10 \u201cscreaming\u201d signals of a toxic relationship and you\u2019ll want to hear them!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. \u201cHow do you mean you can\u2019t see me now?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"hombre<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

He\u2019ll show no respect for your boundaries. You may express a clear discomfort, say no<\/em> varias veces, o Explica por qu\u00e9 necesitas tu propio tiempo o espacio para otras actividades,<\/strong> pero ser\u00e1 ignorada.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cr\u00e9eme, trat\u00e9 de establecer l\u00edmites con mi ex t\u00f3xico, pero estaba m\u00e1s all\u00e1 de su comprensi\u00f3n, \u00e9l s\u00f3lo quer\u00eda control total sobre mi ser, mi tiempo y mi mundo<\/strong>. He\u2019d even dare to emotionally manipulate me and crush any of the limits I imposed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. \u201cShe has a bad influence on you!\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Mi mejor amigo se convirti\u00f3 en <\/strong>\u201cour” enemy<\/strong>...la acusaba de confundirme y de meterme malas ideas en la cabeza. Dec\u00eda que tend\u00eda a portarme mal despu\u00e9s de pasar tiempo con ella. Empec\u00e9 a verla cada vez menos, y despu\u00e9s de alg\u00fan tiempo, perdimos completamente el contacto.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

La tendencia al aislamiento es un signo importante<\/strong> you\u2019re actually dating a toxic person. He\u2019ll want all of your time and work hard to push you away from friends and family.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. \u201cWhy have you been lying to me?\u201d <\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"hombre<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

He has serious trust issues and you\u2019ll be obligado a explicarse y justificarse constantemente.<\/strong> Cualquier informaci\u00f3n que compartas no ser\u00e1 aceptada como verdadera.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mi ex mantendr\u00eda interrog\u00e1ndome una y otra vez, tratando desesperadamente de detectar un agujero en <\/strong>mi historia<\/em><\/strong>. Gurl,<\/em> he\u2019d put me under serious torture!! Feels so unreal now, but I remember he had full power over me. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. \u201cAre you insane? I didn\u2019t say that ever!\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Gaslighting is one of the main signs of a toxic relationship. It\u2019s a means of manipulation and psychological control. You\u2019ll be fed with false information and will come to the point where you’re questioning if everything you know is true.<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

My ex would deny his actions, shout he\u2019d never said that, and Me acusar\u00edan de enga\u00f1arle, cuando en realidad era yo la enga\u00f1ada.<\/strong> He\u2019d project all his misbehaviors on me, and I\u2019d notice my head felt so blurry.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Toda mi realidad parec\u00eda vaga.<\/strong> Perd\u00ed la confianza en mi propia cordura. Ni siquiera estaba segura de que mis recuerdos fueran reales. Finalmente, en alg\u00fan momento, perd\u00ed el sentido de m\u00ed misma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. \u201cWho\u2019s that man you\u2019ve been talking to?!\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"hombre<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Sus celos, posesividad y tendencias controladoras te har\u00e1n sentir como un reh\u00e9n. If I don\u2019t answer a call or text him right back, he flips out.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Siempre estaba pendiente de m\u00ed y TEN\u00cdA QUE SABER ad\u00f3nde iba y con qui\u00e9n me iba a encontrar. Una peque\u00f1a charla inocente con mi amigo del instituto abri\u00f3 la puerta del infierno.<\/strong> Estuvo insoportable durante toda la semana. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Antes de hacer nada despu\u00e9s de ese incidente, primero pensaba en cu\u00e1l ser\u00eda su reacci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. \u201cYou just need to ask and I will give you the money!\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Atender\u00e1 a controlar su acceso a las finanzas, a los miembros de su familia o a otros recursos<\/strong> and you\u2019ll become dependent in different ways. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Eso har\u00e1 que room for abuse, as you\u2019re not free to leave<\/strong> \u2013 that\u2019s exactly what toxic men need. You become helpless and passive and he starts making the decisions for you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

En aquel momento I wasn\u2019t earning enough to afford to leave and rent my own place<\/strong>. He knew it and would use every opportunity to remind me I should be thankful to have someone who\u2019s taking care of me and actually \u201cis my home\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. \u201cYou look awful in that dress!\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"pareja<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Mientras sal\u00eda con \u00e9l, no dejaba de sentirme menospreciada y avergonzada. Era muy cr\u00edtico con mi aspecto. Si me pon\u00eda un vestido <\/strong>he wouldn\u2019t like \u00e9l dir\u00eda que parezco taca\u00f1o. Mis elecciones eran siempre irracionales. <\/strong>\u00bfOpiniones? No se me permit\u00eda opinar porque \u00e9l dec\u00eda que era una estupidez. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Este comportamiento tambi\u00e9n puede incluir insultos, comentarios groseros sobre personas cercanas o montar una escena delante de ellas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Los hombres emocionalmente inmaduros tienden a levantarse sobre la colina de SUS fracasos, defectos y errores.<\/strong> Even if there\u2019s nothing left to mock you about, he will invent it. Over time, your self-esteem will be destroyed and you\u2019ll become unable to make a good self-judgment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. \u201cYou hurt me so hard yesterday, I can\u2019t touch you!\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

He\u2019ll punish you by drawing back his affection when you \u201cmisbehave\u201d and reward you when you do something \u201cright\u201d<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I\u2019d do something he perceived as \u201cwrong\u201d, he\u2019d ask me to sleep on the couch. He\u2019d say he was very upset by what I did, and couldn\u2019t stand me sleeping next to him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I felt like a child or dog that\u2019s been trained <\/strong>to behave according to parent’s or pet owner’s expectations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. \u201cI always think I\u2019m not good enough for you.\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"mujer<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Todo empieza por la inseguridad y necesidad de tranquilidad<\/strong>. Esta es la ra\u00edz de su toxicidad. No importa cu\u00e1ntas veces les repitas que les quieres o les demuestres tu afecto, tSiempre necesitar\u00e1n una confirmaci\u00f3n constante.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

He\u2019d keep telling me I appeared so cold after we fought and made myself distant. Also, often he\u2019d admit he wasn’t sure if have any feelings for him. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

10. \u201cWhy are you noisy when you cook?! Let me watch the game!!!\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Dios, me congelo cuando recuerdo su rabia. Incluso la cosa m\u00e1s peque\u00f1a le har\u00eda estallar en m\u00ed<\/strong>. Si, por ejemplo, romp\u00eda el cristal, se pon\u00eda como loco y empezaba a gritar, llam\u00e1ndome incapaz hasta de ocuparme de los platos. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Los hombres t\u00f3xicos suelen tener graves problemas de control de la ira. Hay una rabia constante flotando en el aire y la amenaza de que explote sobre ti.<\/strong> Sigues caminando sobre c\u00e1scaras de huevo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Con el tiempo, you\u2019ll become used to being very careful<\/strong> y evita provocar un conflicto con tus palabras o tu comportamiento.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo liberarse?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

You think you’re shackled in a toxic relationship but have no idea how to get out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mi psic\u00f3logo me aconsej\u00f3 que empezara por dar prioridad al autocuidado<\/strong>Ejercicio, dormir lo suficiente, comida sana, atenci\u00f3n plena<\/em>, yoga, etc. Esto le ayudar\u00e1 a juzgar mejor y luego reflexionar sobre su relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Aseg\u00farese de Participar en actividades que provoquen alegr\u00eda:<\/strong> nadar dos veces por semana, participar en talleres de manualidades, viajar, etc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Abraza tus emociones, perdona y, finalmente, d\u00e9jalo ir.<\/strong> Acelerar\u00e1 el proceso de curaci\u00f3n y le permitir\u00e1 alcanzar el crecimiento personal. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Por \u00faltimo, si lo consideras necesario, busca ayuda profesional. Estar demasiado tiempo en una relaci\u00f3n t\u00f3xica puede provocarte ansiedad, depresi\u00f3n, TEPT y paranoia. As\u00ed que, querida, don\u2019t waste your time. Save yourself!<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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