{"id":165000,"date":"2024-05-31T11:22:47","date_gmt":"2024-05-31T11:22:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=165000"},"modified":"2024-07-08T09:13:15","modified_gmt":"2024-07-08T09:13:15","slug":"lo-dejo-por-verguenza-a-la-gordura-y-encontro-la-felicidad","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/lo-dejo-por-verguenza-a-la-gordura-y-encontro-la-felicidad\/","title":{"rendered":"Dej\u00e9 a mi novio que me avergonzaba por gorda y abrac\u00e9 el amor propio"},"content":{"rendered":"

Alex me estaba ayudando a limpiar la mesa despu\u00e9s de cenar y de repente sent\u00ed su mano en mi cintura. Me pellizc\u00f3 la parte superior de la magdalena y dijo que me ver\u00eda mucho m\u00e1s sexy con un vientre plano.<\/strong> I couldn\u2019t say a word, we had been together for 5 years and I never thought he didn\u2019t like my body.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

 Se dio cuenta de que algo iba mal, pero entonces lo hizo a\u00fan peor<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2013 “Tight clothes won’t do you any good.<\/em>” and burst into laughter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00a1Qu\u00e9 imb\u00e9cil! Me enfad\u00e9, \u00e9l intent\u00f3 disculparse pero yo segu\u00eda sinti\u00e9ndome fatal. Despu\u00e9s de un rato, hizo otro comentario sobre mi peso <\/strong>(\u00a1delante de nuestros amigos!):<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2013 “Look at my girl, she’s fat and she proudly wears it.”<\/em> Se ri\u00f3 mientras todos miraban mi cara sonrojada.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I didn’t consider myself fat, I mean I’m not a model or anything but I always thought I was a bit chubby that’s all. <\/strong>I\u2019ve been like that ever since I was a child. My parents thought my healthy appetite and food enthusiasm were adorable, and let me eat as much as I wanted.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despu\u00e9s de eso, empec\u00e9 a analizar mi figura frente al espejo but all I could see was his words all over my body “fat, fat, fat”.<\/strong> Entonces record\u00e9 c\u00f3mo mis amigos del colegio se burlaban de mi peso.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"mujer<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Tambi\u00e9n me acord\u00e9 de mi ex novio, Brian, que tras siete meses de relaci\u00f3n me dijo de repente:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYou\u2019re too big<\/em>\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

\u2013 \u201cHow do you mean \u201ctoo big\u201d?! I\u2019m just plump!\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2013 \u201cNo babe, I bet you would feel happier if you\u2019d skip that burger.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was upset and shocked. I couldn\u2019t believe he thought I needed to lose weight. And \u00a1me avergonz\u00f3 por mi apetito!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Al principio, estaba deprimida y alimentaba mi tristeza con m\u00e1s comida. Pasaba las tardes sola en mi piso, viendo la tele con un cubo de nuggets de pollo y patatas fritas, y neg\u00e1ndose a devolverle las llamadas.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then one night I answered the phone, even though I was still so hurt and furious, and\u2026 <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Le devolv\u00ed la verg\u00fcenza<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

\u2013 \u201cHi Brian. I\u2019ve been thinking about what you said about my size and eating habits. Maybe I\u2019m not that thin, but <\/em>hay muchos hombres que encontrar\u00e1n mi forma curvil\u00ednea muy atractiva.<\/em><\/strong> I don\u2019t know if you noticed, but your beer belly is not that cute either. You should really start going to the gym.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

He hung up on me, but I didn\u2019t care. De todos modos, se hab\u00eda acabado.<\/strong> Cog\u00ed una bolsa de patatas fritas y segu\u00ed viendo el \u00faltimo episodio de mi serie de televisi\u00f3n favorita.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After rewinding the past fat-shaming experiences, I\u2019ve made a decision \u2013 I\u2019m gonna leave Alex.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00f3mo llegu\u00e9 a amar mi parte superior del mollete<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"mujer<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Lo que pasa con el \"fat shaming\" es que hace que la gente se sienta tan mal que puede causar problemas de salud mental muy graves. <\/strong>It can provoke eating disorders, depression, reduced self-esteem, increased cortisol levels, etc. Criticizing someone’s weight is really a bad approach.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019ve been fat-shamed, you must first find support within yourself. The first step is to start valuing the primary functions of your body (and aesthetics according to societal norms is not one of them) and agradece lo que puede hacer por ti.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tras la ruptura, empec\u00e9 a ver a una terapeuta que me ayud\u00f3 a abrazar el amor propio. Aprend\u00ed a amar mi cuerpo tal y como era y empec\u00e9 a sentirme c\u00f3moda con todas mis curvas y mis michelines. I <\/strong>disfrutaba de mis pantalones ajustados y wouldn\u2019t let anyone make me feel ashamed of my body.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Poco despu\u00e9s, conoc\u00ed a Jason y \u00e9l disfrut\u00f3 mucho deslizando sus dedos por mis suaves y redondeados bordes, \u00a1y todav\u00eda lo hace!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re feeling down as someone has fat-shamed you, always remember the quote from Come, reza, ama<\/em>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201c..so this is what I\u2019m gonna do, I\u2019m gonna finish this pizza and then we\u2019re gonna go watch the soccer game and tomorrow we\u2019re gonna go on a little date and buy ourselves some bigger jeans.\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Vea la escena completa: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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