{"id":165123,"date":"2024-06-04T12:38:57","date_gmt":"2024-06-04T12:38:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=165123"},"modified":"2024-06-04T12:38:58","modified_gmt":"2024-06-04T12:38:58","slug":"por-que-se-acaban-los-matrimonios","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/por-que-se-acaban-los-matrimonios\/","title":{"rendered":"Mujer Expone Condici\u00f3n Masculina Que Puede Sabotear Matrimonio Y Ning\u00fan Humor Puede Arreglarlo"},"content":{"rendered":"

That day I got furious because he had forgotten to stop by Target AGAIN, and get the ingredients for my cake. It was for our son\u2019s birthday and I planned to make a cake the day before. I le gritaron e insultaron, y notaron que su cara estaba toda arrugada<\/strong> but he didn\u2019t say anything.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After a few weeks, his colleague\u2019s wife told me they had a very upsetting situation at work. He was stressed out and disappointed but wouldn’t say a word about it<\/strong>. Si me hubiera contado lo que pas\u00f3. Lo entender\u00eda y le apoyar\u00eda.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s a well-known fact: men are incapable of speaking about their emotions. A male vocabulary doesn\u2019t contain words that describe their inner impressions<\/strong> y sentimientos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Gurl, pay attention \u2013 lack of verbal exchange creates a crack in your relationship!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Las relaciones son una perpetua danza f\u00edsica, verbal y emocional (se necesitan dos para el tango)<\/strong> Al menos, as\u00ed es como deber\u00eda ser. Cuando hay un desequilibrio en el intercambio puede hacer que la relaci\u00f3n se vuelva malsana, donde una parte sufre en silencio y la otra se hace la dura.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Una mujer, llamada Katie Hanlon, me abri\u00f3 los ojos. En un v\u00eddeo en TikTok, destaca algunos factores probablemente poco obvios que pueden causar trastornos en las relaciones. Se refiere a investigaci\u00f3n<\/a> acerca de “normative male alexithymia”<\/em>, and explains it\u2019s a t\u00e9rmino psicol\u00f3gico para <\/strong>“not being able to name or talk about your emotions.”<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

In short, men do have feelings but they’re unable to name them and verbally express them. As if they are emotionally illiterate, I would add. Katie is quite convinced that men\u2019s<\/strong> limitaciones para articular emociones <\/strong>son la raz\u00f3n por la que a veces las relaciones flotan en mares agitados.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cMen feel the emotion and they just don\u2019t know how to talk about it, or how to garner empathy from each other about said emotion.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Tambi\u00e9n subraya que el problema no desaparecer\u00e1 con el tiempo, y que las parejas no deben ignorar ni subestimar el peligro que entra\u00f1a. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, men who are prone to holding in emotions tend to pass on this habit to their spouses too. That\u2019s why algunas mujeres eligen soportar la tormenta <\/strong>and hide the emotional grief as they can\u2019t expect any understanding or dialogue with their partners.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cAll the couple\u2019s humor in the world does not take away from the fact that you’re just not interested in us.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

This sounds like she believes men are actually not really interested in women and that\u2019s the reason why they rather make jokes instead of having serious talk about what bothers them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfTe suena familiar? S\u00e9 que cuando intento hablar con mi marido sobre c\u00f3mo se siente, se pone a bromear o cambia de tema. No se sentir\u00e1 c\u00f3modo hablando de emociones<\/strong>ni decirme si le hago da\u00f1o (accidentalmente) con una mala elecci\u00f3n de palabras.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

He won\u2019t communicate the emotion and I\u2019m unfortunately not a mind reader. That creates a grieta que se hace m\u00e1s grande cada vez que se lo guarda todo para \u00e9l<\/strong>. Con el tiempo nos distanciamos y nuestra relaci\u00f3n se resiente.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What he won’t admit is this: destruye su autoestima masculina. <\/strong>We know well, that it\u2019s all rooted in the patriarchy and traditional masculinity. While at the same time:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cI know for a fact there are wives all over the world who regularly cry themselves to sleep over their marriages\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

My husband thinks he needs to withhold his feelings and be tough, and it\u2019s forbidden to show any \u201cfemale-like\u201d traits such as sensitivity or crying, etc. Autocensurarse u ocultar cualquier debilidad impide a los hombres entablar relaciones significativas<\/strong> y sofoca cualquier intercambio emocional en su interior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Katie cree que si los hombres no est\u00e1n dispuestos a hablar de sus necesidades emocionales, entonces couples can\u2019t start resolving some other common issues<\/strong> such as unequal involvement in child care or housework, and mental workload (project manager of all family activities!) that\u2019s usually more of a woman\u2019s burden in marriage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A public opinion on TikTok strongly agrees with Katie\u2019s assumptions, and one of the commenters, a woman, named Anu, shared her story: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cI left a 25 year marriage because of this. I cried on the regular and was always sick. It\u2019s been 6 years and I\u2019ve never been better.\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Un usuario whoisandrewblack<\/em> subray\u00f3 el problema de las normas sociales que hacen que los hombres se comporten como lo hacen:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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“Not only are these things not taught\/modeled to men, but they are also actively repressed by our society. Each man is completely on his own in this struggle.” <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Another person, jpickle3, made a comment about how men usually don\u2019t start talking about emotions first, but they do react to woman\u2019s emotions:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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“When they do talk about emotions it’s when you talk about yours first and they’re upset and express how bad that makes them feel about themselves.”<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

In the end, I will say that men really need to become friends with their emotions and understand their masculinity will not be compromised by showing vulnerability. You are humans, for God\u2019s sake!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

That day I got furious because he had forgotten to stop by Target AGAIN, and get the ingredients for my cake. It was for our son\u2019s birthday and I planned to make a cake the day before. I shouted and called him names, and noticed his face was all shriveled but he didn\u2019t say anything….<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":165124,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29814],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-165123","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29814,"label":"Stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/Woman-Exposes-Male-Condition-That-May-Sabotage-Marriage-And-No-Humor-Can-Fix-It-1024x576.jpg",1024,576,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29814,"name":"Stories","slug":"stories","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29814,"taxonomy":"category","description":"","parent":29651,"count":242,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29814,"category_count":242,"category_description":"","cat_name":"Stories","category_nicename":"stories","category_parent":29651}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/165123","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=165123"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/165123\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":165125,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/165123\/revisions\/165125"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/165124"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=165123"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=165123"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=165123"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}