{"id":165274,"date":"2024-06-05T09:08:48","date_gmt":"2024-06-05T09:08:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=165274"},"modified":"2024-07-08T09:14:25","modified_gmt":"2024-07-08T09:14:25","slug":"las-expectativas-poco-realistas-arruinan-las-relaciones","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/las-expectativas-poco-realistas-arruinan-las-relaciones\/","title":{"rendered":"Estos mitos sobre las relaciones son la raz\u00f3n por la que esperas lo imposible"},"content":{"rendered":"

Si has visto demasiadas comedias rom\u00e1nticas, es posible que tus expectativas de relaci\u00f3n sean surrealista<\/em>. But I\u2019m just a romantic person<\/em> \u2013 you\u2019ll say in your defense. I\u2019m not saying you should stop enjoying your favorite movie genre, but be aware \u2013 la vida no son bombones y flores.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Un par de veces estaba tan desesperado porque my boyfriend\u2019s personality or looks didn\u2019t match my desired qualities checklist.<\/strong> Some of them were too short, some were not interested in my tirades about astrology, others were not holding my hands the way I liked\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A decir verdad mi lista era larga, nadie era tan perfecto.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cr\u00e9eme, el Unas expectativas elevadas le har\u00e1n sentirse tan frustrado que puede volverse t\u00f3xico.<\/strong> Not that you\u2019ll want to, of course, it\u2019s just the way it goes. So make sure you don\u2019t forget you\u2019re dating a human, not a movie character. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. \u201cHe\u2019s a man so HE must make a first move\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"hombre<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

We\u2019re not living in the Middle Ages gurl! It doesn\u2019t matter who makes the first move as long you find things in common<\/strong> y seguir chateando o enviando mensajes. Igualdad de derechos, \u00bfrecuerdas? Como mujer moderna y feroz, tienes derecho a dar el primer paso.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A couple of times I made the first move and I\u2019m glad I did, otherwise I would miss out on some great guys.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. \u201cThat could never happen to me\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Nunca digas nunca, la vida est\u00e1 llena de sorpresas, y prep\u00e1rate para enfrentarte a distintos obst\u00e1culos en tu camino. Si crees que you\u2019d never let him see you crying even when you feel so broken inside, it can happen.<\/strong> That\u2019s normal, that\u2019s life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I said I could never be with someone who doesn\u2019t like dogs and guess what happened?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. \u201cI will make him jealous so he\u2019ll crave for me\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Oh, don\u2019t play the nasty games!<\/strong> He might be traumatized by pathological jealousy in the previous relationship so much that he\u2019ll avoid showing even the slightest clue of the jealousy. Besides, he might see through your intentions and that\u2019ll just push him away.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cr\u00e9eme, lo aprend\u00ed por las malas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. \u201cChemistry must be very strong otherwise it\u2019s not a real thing\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"Hombre<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s just a good starting point, but your relationship can\u2019t be based simply on chemistry. If you don\u2019t share the same views and can\u2019t openly talk to each other<\/strong>, girl, you\u2019re not in a proper relationship. It might be just a hook-up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I mistook chemistry for love several times and it didn\u2019t work out well. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. \u201cHe must take care of me\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfCuidar de ti? You\u2019re not a pet, woman! <\/strong>You can take care and provide for yourself, this is the 21st century. You need a partner, someone to share your life with. Don\u2019t rely on his income!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I prefer to be independent and self-sufficient. That way, if we ever break up, at least I\u2019m safe from being financially broken.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. \u201cHe must be tall, handsome, and successful\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfAs\u00ed que buscas al Sr. Perfecto? \u00bfEst\u00e1s seguro de que su altura, su aspecto y su \u00e9xito pueden hacerte feliz?<\/strong> Puede tener un aspecto despampanante y una carrera impresionante, pero al mismo tiempo ser un completo imb\u00e9cil por dentro.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019ve dated Mr. Perfect and believe me, under the surface he wasn\u2019t that perfect at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. \u201cIt\u2019s just one of his flaws, no one is perfect\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"hombre<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Presta atenci\u00f3n si notas signos de patolog\u00eda en su comportamiento. Esto tambi\u00e9n se aplica a las adicciones. Una cosa son los defectos y otra los problemas graves. <\/strong>So try not to be too \u201copen-minded\u201d and tolerant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Una vez intent\u00e9 justificar que hab\u00eda bebido demasiado esa noche, suponiendo que hab\u00eda tenido un mal d\u00eda en el trabajo. Tard\u00e9 en darme cuenta de que ten\u00eda un problema con la bebida.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. \u201cI will change him\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

He\u2019s a grown man and no, you can\u2019t change him. You can talk about some of his actions and make him realize how they affect you, so he will or won\u2019t adjust them. If you can\u2019t live with his habits or awkward traits, move on<\/strong>, he\u2019s not for you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Recuerdo cuando cre\u00eda que pod\u00eda hacer que mi novio dejara de comer comida basura, vaya si era ingenua. Esperaba a que me durmiera y se preparaba un jugoso s\u00e1ndwich.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t waste your time. You\u2019ll thank me later.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. \u201cI will not let him change me\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Of course not, and you shouldn\u2019t. Mantente fiel a quien eras antes de conocerle. <\/strong>However, small adjustments are necessary, you\u2019ll expect the same from him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I stopped partying every weekend because I wanted to spend time with my man. Surely, I didn\u2019t give up on time with my besties, it was just not as often as before. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

10. \u201cHalf a loaf is better than none\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"mujer<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t settle for mediocre options just to avoid being single. Estar con alguien hasta la pr\u00f3xima oportunidad mejor no es agradable<\/strong> (or mature). You can hurt someone who might be genuinely interested in you, and you won\u2019t feel good either.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Every time I tried to go on a date with someone I didn\u2019t really like, I would end up in anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

11. \u201cIf this doesn\u2019t work, I\u2019ll find a new boyfriend\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

People are not shoes. So it\u2019s not like \u201cThese won\u2019t fit so I\u2019ll get myself a new ones.\u201d<\/em> Hay una raz\u00f3n por la que elegiste salir con \u00e9l. He might have a unique personality or a very good sense of humor, he\u2019s nice to your friends<\/strong>etc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was delusional when I thought I\u2019d easily replace him with the next man behind the corner. Another man was just\u2026 very different.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

12. \u201cHe treats me badly but helps me with the money\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Esto significa que te has hecho dependiente de \u00e9l y que har\u00e1s la vista gorda. En primer lugar, trata de ver el panorama general, Despr\u00e9ndete de todos sus favores y comprueba si se comporta de forma poco saludable.<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Is he prone to abusive behavior? If your answer is yes, I have only one piece of advice: run girl, and don\u2019t look back.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

13. \u201cI hate rugby\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"hombre<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Tienes derecho a odiar el rugby, pero tambi\u00e9n intenta imaginar c\u00f3mo te sentir\u00edas si te escupiera: \u201cNatal chart is just a bunch of nonsense\u201d<\/em>. You would feel insulted, wouldn\u2019t you? So my dear, aseg\u00farate de mostrar comprensi\u00f3n por su gran afici\u00f3n al rugby. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I watched the game with my SO a few times, and I kind of liked it. Try it, maybe you’ll change your mind too. At least, be supportive of his interests. You expect the same from him, right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

14. \u201cThe past stays in the past\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Not necessarily. If you have some unresolved issues with your ex-boyfriend or still have feelings for him, that will influence your present relationship. You may look for substitution and it usually doesn’t work well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Intenta dejar atr\u00e1s el pasado y c\u00e9ntrate en el presente con \u00e9l<\/strong>. The man I\u2019m currently seeing is different from anyone I\u2019ve dated before, and I really enjoy getting to know him. I don\u2019t compare him to my exes. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t allow shadows of the past to blur your view, use your \u201cpresent eyes\u201d to look at him.<\/strong> Trust me it\u2019s the best thing to do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

15. \u201cI\u2019ll be a spoiled princess and he will do what I want\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Algunos hombres lo har\u00e1n, tal vez. Otros simplemente huir\u00e1n de ti. \u00bfQui\u00e9n quiere salir con una mocosa malcriada? <\/strong>\u00bfLo har\u00edas?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So be an adult and don\u2019t play childish games. Learn to communicate your needs and try to explain your views well. It always surprises me how a simple open talk can be so effective.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

16. \u201cThings will get better if we have a baby\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"hombre<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

\u00a1No, no, no! Intentar arreglar vuestra relaci\u00f3n qued\u00e1ndote embarazada de \u00e9l es una muy mala IDEA. <\/strong>Not to say it’s a bit selfish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ese peque\u00f1o beb\u00e9 merece nacer en una familia sana y no ser una herramienta que te ayude a reparar los defectos de tu relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yo mismo me cri\u00e9 en un entorno c\u00e1lido y solidario, Siempre aconsejo a mis amigos que tengan mucho cuidado con qui\u00e9n eligen para formar una familia.<\/strong> Don\u2019t rush, wait for the right person!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

17. \u201cWe never argue, our relationship is perfect\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

La falta de acuerdo no es normal y suele esconder problemas m\u00e1s profundos que podr\u00edan no ser obvios. Tal vez uno de los dos tiene miedo de los conflictos y tiende a evitarlos<\/strong>. It doesn\u2019t mean you two are the perfect match, you\u2019re maybe just acting like everything is fine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My sister got married way too fast, after dating John for only two months. They were that kind of \u201cwe don\u2019t argue\u201d couple and it ended up with a very ugly divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I can’t imagine myself in a relationship without the occasional fights. I looove that makeup allure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

18. \u201cMen and women can\u2019t be friends! There\u2019s always a hidden agenda\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Again I\u2019ll remind you we live in the 21st century and esa creencia es sencillamente anticuada, por no decir otra cosa.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had male friends in school and college, and I have work buddies. If he thinks they secretly desire me, he just might be a toxic person. That\u2019s what Mark, my ex, used to think. See why he\u2019s my ex?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

19. \u201cHe needs to devote all his time to me\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"pareja<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Get real, you\u2019re not the Siamese twins. His zone of interest goes way beyond you. He has friends, hobbies, and a family. Si mi novio prefiere pasar todo su tiempo libre conmigo, me preocupar\u00eda.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Las personas que no tienen amigos o que mantienen una mala relaci\u00f3n con la familia no son un buen material para una cita.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

20. \u201cHe has to be there for me every time I need him\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Supongo que te lo imaginas como si silbaras y \u00e9l viniera corriendo. \u00bfQuieres un hombre o un perro?<\/strong> Este tipo de expectativa es un gran repelente de hombres.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfPodr\u00edas amar de verdad a alguien que no tiene dignidad ni respeto por s\u00ed mismo?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019ll appreciate it if he’s there to wipe away my tears when my dog dies, but if he\u2019s busy, it\u2019s fine. I have friends too. It\u2019s the same the other way around \u2013 we can\u2019t be there for each other 24\/7, and that\u2019s fine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Did you recognize yourself in any of these relationship myths? If you did, it\u2019s time to reconsider your views and ground yourself. Healthy relationships are based on respect, support, and open talk. If you want your relationship to succeed, no manipulative games, pretty please!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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