{"id":165675,"date":"2025-03-17T23:26:00","date_gmt":"2025-03-17T22:26:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=165675"},"modified":"2025-03-17T22:18:31","modified_gmt":"2025-03-17T21:18:31","slug":"como-hacer-que-te-ayude-con-las-tareas-domesticas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/como-hacer-que-te-ayude-con-las-tareas-domesticas\/","title":{"rendered":"Si no te ayuda con las tareas dom\u00e9sticas, prueba esto"},"content":{"rendered":"

No soy para nada una persona gru\u00f1ona. En mi vida pasada (la que tuve antes de casarme) era conocida por mi car\u00e1cter alegre y por estar siempre de buen humor. Mis amigos dec\u00edan mis superpoderes eran un optimismo contagioso y un mont\u00f3n de energ\u00eda positiva. <\/strong>Mi vaso siempre estaba medio lleno.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then I got married to James. Don\u2019t get me wrong he\u2019s a great dude and Lo amo m\u00e1s all\u00e1 de las palabras, pero \u00e9l sabe c\u00f3mo hacerme enojar. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00a1Pele\u00e1bamos casi todos los d\u00edas!<\/h2>\n\n\n
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\"pareja<\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n

La principal causa de nuestras discusiones fue que I always felt he doesn’t help enough around the house.<\/strong> Segu\u00edamos peleando por el mismo asunto pero nunca consegu\u00edamos resolverlo y era muy frustrante.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despu\u00e9s de diez a\u00f1os de estar juntos, mis niveles de irritaci\u00f3n se disparaban y me pon\u00eda furiosa cada vez que ten\u00eda que recoger sus calcetines sucios.<\/strong> o tirar un tubo de dent\u00edfrico vac\u00edo que hab\u00eda dejado en el fregadero.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Quiz\u00e1s a veces exageraba, pero \u00bfte imaginas limpiando despu\u00e9s de alguien durante DIEZ A\u00d1OS ENTEROS? <\/strong>Lo juro, <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Unas cuantas veces quise asfixiarle.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Yo sol\u00eda hacer comentarios sarc\u00e1sticos mientras limpiaba el desastre que hab\u00eda dejado, \u00e9l fing\u00eda que lo hab\u00eda o\u00eddo y la vida segu\u00eda. Un d\u00eda llegu\u00e9 a casa despu\u00e9s de un largo d\u00eda de trabajo y... Vi el fregadero atestado de platos sucios <\/strong>y un cubo de basura tan lleno que la basura se ca\u00eda \u00a1y entonces HICE UN SNAPP!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2013 \u201cI\u2019m so sick of this!\u201d<\/em> Rug\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2013 \u201cAll you need is ask, and I would help you.\u201d<\/em> dijo y me mir\u00f3 sin comprender.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Me puse a\u00fan m\u00e1s gru\u00f1\u00f3n y le inund\u00e9 con un torrente de palabras de mi resentimiento. Me contest\u00f3 en un tono muy airado, sirvi\u00e9ndome un mont\u00f3n de tonter\u00edas para su defensa. Seguimos discutiendo y la cosa fue a m\u00e1s.<\/strong> In the end, it didn\u2019t get resolved and we repeated the same pattern the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Entonces aprend\u00ed a romper el patr\u00f3n<\/h2>\n\n\n
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\"pareja<\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n

Pas\u00f3 mucho tiempo antes de que me diera cuenta de que est\u00e1bamos cometiendo un gran error cuando debatir temas candentes en caliente.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I needed to reach the breaking point to be able to see it’s necessary to tener una charla seria s\u00f3lo cuando ambos se calmen <\/strong>y entonces podemos hablar sin necesidad de alzar la voz. Los fines de semana son el momento perfecto para esto, entonces la vida es m\u00e1s tranquila.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you remain calm and respectful you can get him to hear what you\u2019re saying, MAYBE UNDERSTAND how you feel and get the picture.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo hice para que me escuchara?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Empezar\u00eda a sacar los temas s\u00f3lo cuando ambos estuvi\u00e9ramos tranquilos, alegres y contentos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I told him we\u2019re a team and we need to play to win. Then I explained in detail what exactly he needed to do regarding the house chores and how he could help me out with the kids.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Le dije que le agradecer\u00eda que limpiara la cocina despu\u00e9s de preparar la cena.<\/p>\n\n\n

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\"hombre<\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n

\u201cDishes in the sink won\u2019t bite you, it\u2019s all safe, just put them in the dishwasher. Also, you can unload the dishwasher from time to time, please don\u2019t wait for me to tell you.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Luego segu\u00ed compartiendo im\u00e1genes v\u00edvidas de todos los desencadenantes con los que me topaba al entrar en nuestra casa:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cWhen you see a trash bin overflowing, it\u2019s time to take the trash out!\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

\u201cFeel free to buy new clothes or toys for kids, you don\u2019t need to wait for a special occasion.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhen you notice the laundry box is full, move the dirty laundry into the washing machine and turn it on.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhen I hand you the groceries list, please try to search through the supermarket on your own, don\u2019t call me in two-minute intervals to ask for help.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cYou can iron your shirts yourself, I have a pile of kids\u2019 clothes to defeat.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIt won\u2019t kill you if you pick up the toys and put them in a box occasionally!\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cSometimes YOU can attend the school event instead of me.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHelp the kids brush their teeth and read them a goodnight story.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I can\u2019t say it\u2019s all perfect now, but I see improvements every day. So try to talk to your hubby when you\u2019re not mad. You\u2019ll be amazed at how effective it can be. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, dear husbands, we often feel as if YOU DON\u2019T NOTICE or appreciate any of our efforts. We need more acknowledgment, help, and more gracias<\/em>!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I\u2019m not a grumpy person at all. In my past life (the one I had before marriage) I was known for a cheerful nature and always being in a good mood. My friends would say my superpowers were contagious optimism and loads of positive energy. My glass was always half full. Then I got married…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":165679,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29623],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-165675","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-marriage"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29623,"label":"marriage"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/If-He-Doesnt-Help-You-With-The-Housework-You-May-Wanna-Try-This_-1024x678.jpg",1024,678,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29623,"name":"marriage","slug":"marriage","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29623,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Establishing a happy marriage is not an easy task. Learning how to recognize red flags and deal with issues will help you make your marriage successful.","parent":29620,"count":474,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29623,"category_count":474,"category_description":"Establishing a happy marriage is not an easy task. Learning how to recognize red flags and deal with issues will help you make your marriage successful.","cat_name":"marriage","category_nicename":"marriage","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/165675","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=165675"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/165675\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":212017,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/165675\/revisions\/212017"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/165679"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=165675"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=165675"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=165675"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}