Una de las mayores ideas falsas en lo que respecta a las personas con discapacidad es que no tenemos sentimientos o emociones, o que no entendemos el verdadero significado del amor o no queremos una pareja, cuando en realidad todos tenemos los mismos deseos que los dem\u00e1s.<\/p>\n
Desde que tengo memoria, siempre hab\u00eda sido el rom\u00e1ntico empedernido<\/a> desde muy joven. Desde los 14 a\u00f1os, siempre me imagin\u00e9 cas\u00e1ndome en las Smoky Mountains de Tennessee, en una peque\u00f1a caba\u00f1a con todos mis amigos y familiares, mientras caminaba hacia mi marido en mi andador LiteGait morado.<\/p>\n When it comes to being single with a disability, it could be challenging because you have all these wants and desires when it comes to finding a partner. Some people in society see a disability such as Cerebral Palsy as a negative thing and not something unique. When I was single four years ago, I was talking to a young man who had an issue with me having Cerebral Palsy. He said, \u201cTylia, you are a beautiful girl, but you are in a wheelchair. It would be different if you were not in a wheelchair, but since you are, I would much rather be friends than anything else.\u201d<\/p>\n Durante un tiempo, eso me molest\u00f3 porque era todo lo que hab\u00eda estado buscando y ten\u00edamos los mismos intereses, pero mi discapacidad era un obst\u00e1culo para \u00e9l, as\u00ed que no iba a perder el tiempo con \u00e9l.<\/p>\n En lo que respecta a mi solter\u00eda, tienes que aceptar mi par\u00e1lisis cerebral. Si estamos hablando y potencialmente vamos a tener una relaci\u00f3n, tienes que aceptarme por lo que soy y quererme por mi interior y no por mi exterior. La par\u00e1lisis cerebral es lo que me hace bella y nunca va a desaparecer, as\u00ed que m\u00e1s vale que lo aceptes, y si no, ha sido un placer conocerte y te agradezco la experiencia. Siendo soltera con una discapacidad, creo que antes de plantearte ir en busca del amor, ya deber\u00edas estar enamorada de ti misma. Abraza tu cuerpo<\/a> for the beautiful person that you are as a woman and say, \u2018I am me and I love myself\u2019.<\/p>\n The most important thing when it comes to finding love with a disability is to be open and honest about it\u2014 do not hide it. For example, four years ago, before meeting my current boyfriend, I created dating profiles on OkCupid and MeetMe.<\/p>\n Pondr\u00eda una foto m\u00eda de perfil sentada en una silla de ruedas donde se notara porque estoy orgullosa de mi condici\u00f3n y de la vida que he tenido gracias a mi situaci\u00f3n. Las experiencias vitales que puedo compartir con la gente son incre\u00edbles.<\/p>\n La raz\u00f3n por la que digo que seas sincero sobre tu discapacidad cuando entres en sitios de citas es que quieres demostrar a tu posible pareja que est\u00e1s orgulloso de qui\u00e9n eres y de la persona en la que te has convertido gracias a tu enfermedad.<\/p>\n The next thing I want to say about being a single woman with a condition such as Cerebral Palsy is that you should not just settle for anything that comes your way; take your time to enjoy single life as a woman with a disability and don’t rush into a relationship right away.<\/p>\n Take your time to explore the world for what it is. As a woman with a disability, I know it can be challenging to be single, especially when you see your friends in relationships and happy with their partners but you have to remember to be patient and to not settle for any man or woman who comes into your life because they may not be the right one or the one you are looking for after all. I have been in several situations where I started talking to a young man just because I hated the fact I was single, when I should not have\u2014I should have let time and destiny take their course. When it comes to finding your perfect match, time is key to everything that happens in life.<\/p>\n Also, when you are single, you should take the time to discover who you are as a person and what you need in a partner versus what you want\u2014for example, I am the type of girl who needs a partner who is ambitious, compassionate, and understanding, a world traveler who brings me inspiration and motivation and who has a great family support system.<\/p>\n What attracted me the most to my boyfriend, when we first started talking online four years ago, was the fact that he was full of motivation and he was ambitious. Despite our similar struggles, he was such a bright person, inside and out, and he was such a positive person, which is something that is very important when it comes to talking to a potential partner with a disability. If that person is not confident and doesn’t have the same views as you do then maybe it is best that you stop talking to them or stop pursuing a relationship with them because eventually they will drag you down with them. You may start to have the same mindset as them and you will never grow together. The way I look at it is if you are talking to somebody and you are single, and you are getting to know them, if you do not see them as being a potential partner who can help you grow in life then you should put them in the friendzone. When it comes to being single with a disability and looking for a partner, you have to set boundaries on what you want, and you have to make it clear to your potential partner that you will not accept certain behaviors and habits and you need to have boundaries. I feel like when it comes to being single and you begin to put yourself out there, it is essential that you set limits for yourself because then that gives you an idea of what you are looking for as the strong independent woman that you are. Even with a disability, whether it be Cerebral Palsy, autism spina bifida, or muscular dystrophy, you have to set boundaries and you have to be clear on what you want, or else you will be confused in the long run.<\/p>\n Ponerte l\u00edmites a ti mismo puede permitirte ver lo que quieres en un compa\u00f1ero frente a lo que no deseas ver en una pareja. Lo primero que suelo hacer cuando empiezo a hablar con un joven es hacer una lista de pros y contras. Puedes ordenar las buenas cualidades de la persona<\/a> que potencialmente va a estar en una relaci\u00f3n con al lado de la mala y si hay demasiadas cosas malas, entonces usted puede ponerlos en el friend.zone.<\/p>\n