{"id":165908,"date":"2024-06-21T07:45:44","date_gmt":"2024-06-21T07:45:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=165908"},"modified":"2024-06-21T07:45:44","modified_gmt":"2024-06-21T07:45:44","slug":"banderas-rojas-en-la-primera-cita","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/banderas-rojas-en-la-primera-cita\/","title":{"rendered":"Cuidado con estas se\u00f1ales de alarma en la primera cita\u00a0"},"content":{"rendered":"

Okay, let\u2019s talk about first dates. They can be nerve-wracking for sure! You spend hours choosing your outfit hoping this would be just the beginning of your numerous dates together and nunca se sabe qu\u00e9 esperar.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

That\u2019s kind of the fun of it. The less fun experience is texting a friend \u201cGet me out of here!\u201d<\/em> in the middle of the date. Oh, I\u2019ve done that for sure. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Conoc\u00ed a un tipo en las redes sociales hace unos a\u00f1os. Parec\u00eda guay, as\u00ed que salimos a tomar algo. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trabajaba para el gobierno y un par de minutos despu\u00e9s de nuestra cita me dijo ...me hab\u00eda investigado a fondo.<\/strong> He basically knew my address and all my private information. But that wasn\u2019t even the worst part.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Desesperadamente wanted to hold my hand even when I wasn\u2019t comfortable with it<\/strong> and if that wasn\u2019t awkward enough he decided it was a good time to make a video call with his family! He wanted me to talk to them when I barely even knew him. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

By that point, I knew I needed to run away so I said I wanted to go home. But my disastrous date didn\u2019t end there. Intent\u00f3 besarme varias veces<\/strong> even though I explicitly said no! Safe to say I\u2019ve never been on a worse date! I never texted him back after this.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As\u00ed que s\u00ed, tengo mucha experiencia con las banderas rojas de la primera cita. Perm\u00edteme darte algunas se\u00f1ales que deber\u00edan hacerte buscar la salida m\u00e1s cercana cuando las cosas se tuercen en una cita.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Nunca ha o\u00eddo hablar de los l\u00edmites<\/h2>\n\n\n
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\"hombre<\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n

As I said, this was a major turn-off for me. If they\u2019re too touchy when you\u2019re not comfortable with it, just imagine what could happen after the first date! Oh no, no, definitely cut all ties with them!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Esto es m\u00e1s que irrespetuoso en muchos sentidos. <\/strong>By not respecting your boundaries they are basically telling you they don\u2019t care about you, so why would anyone want a second date with them? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not only about physical boundaries, but emotional ones too!<\/strong> Maybe they are asking inappropriate questions, want to find out something you\u2019re not comfortable with sharing or are being pushy in any way. No matter the context, it\u2019s always rude and disrespectful!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Everything\u2019s about them<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

I love talkative people, but there\u2019s always a limit. A date shouldn\u2019t be like an interview where they\u2019re listing all their achievements and qualities hoping you would hire them as your partner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

La conversaci\u00f3n debe ser siempre una calle de doble sentido. Si nunca tienes la oportunidad de compartir algo sobre ti, \u00a1encuentra a alguien que quiera escucharte y no s\u00f3lo a s\u00ed mismo! <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once on a date and halfway through it, I thought I somehow mistakenly got to a TedTalk! He just couldn\u2019t stop yapping about every detail of his life! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Desde traumas infantiles y experiencias en el instituto hasta sus ex amantes, \u00a1habl\u00f3 de todo! Este hombre utiliz\u00f3 nuestra cita como una sesi\u00f3n de terapia.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Obsesionado con su ex<\/h2>\n\n\n
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\"mujer<\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n

I don\u2019t know what\u2019s worse: when they\u2019re obsessed with their ex or can\u2019t stop bashing them. This might be at the same level of red flags! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

De cualquier manera, it\u2019s always a good sign they\u2019re not over them and definitely not ready to move on. <\/strong>And you don\u2019t need someone who\u2019ll waste your time while still thinking about their ex. Even if they trash talk about them, I wouldn\u2019t trust it too much. No breakup is completely the fault of one person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The man I went on a date with talked about his ex for a good portion of the time! And no, he didn\u2019t say one bad thing about her. Instead, he talked about how they\u2019re good friends, still see each other, and even showed me pictures of her! So yeah, complete failure of a date.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. No presente y aburrido<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not good when they only talk about themselves or their ex but not engaging in the conversation at all also isn\u2019t ideal!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You need someone who\u2019s interested to get to know you better. If he seems bored or distracted with anything, he\u2019s not invested or serious about you.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Imagine someone can\u2019t be present and engaged on a first date where everyone wants to leave a good impression! Honey, don\u2019t expect him to change and do better in the future.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I remember when my friend talked about her date and said he was more interested in his phone than her! Apparently, there was a big basketball match and he kept checking the score and didn\u2019t even listen to her. Trust me, you don\u2019t need someone like this!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Grosero con el camarero<\/h2>\n\n\n
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\"camarero<\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n

Siempre he pensado que la forma en que alguien trata a los dem\u00e1s, especialmente al personal de servicio, te da todo lo que necesitas saber sobre esa persona.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sepa siempre que ser grosero e irrespetuoso con las personas que le prestan cualquier servicio es una gran sign they have an inflated ego and think they\u2019re superior.<\/strong> I don\u2019t know about you, but this is such a turn-off for me!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Try paying attention to these small details because they can show you how he\u2019ll treat you and others later on. If he\u2019s kind and genuine he\u2019ll also treat others with respect, so don\u2019t fall for what he says if his actions don\u2019t support his words!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. Love-bombing you<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Be careful with this one because it might trick you into thinking they\u2019re really into you. Sometimes it\u2019s easy to fall for sweet words and compliments but nice gestures aren\u2019t always honest. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If they shower you with attention and it feels overwhelming and fake, it probably is! It takes time to develop a real deep connection and it can\u2019t happen quickly over the first date.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I know it feels nice when someone tells you everything you want to hear but love-bombing is always flattering at the beginning. Later on, when you realize this was only a tactic to control and manipulate you, you\u2019ll regret trusting them so much.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. Avanzar demasiado r\u00e1pido<\/h2>\n\n\n
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\"mujer<\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n

Pushing for commitment almost always goes hand in hand with love-bombing. First, they convince you they already love you and then tell you you\u2019re special and how you\u2019re destined to be together.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Las primeras citas deben servir para conocerse y no para planear el futuro. <\/strong>No one is rushing with commitment for no reason. They shouldn\u2019t talk about moving in together or meeting family the first time they meet you!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not always because they want to trap you in a relationship and control you, sometimes it\u2019s just a lazy attempt to hop into bed with you! So stay aware of these manipulators!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Always watch out for these signs because one date might not be enough to make important decisions about your future together but it\u2019s definitely all you need to see if they\u2019re good or not. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you don\u2019t feel comfortable at any moment or your gut tells you something ain\u2019t right, don\u2019t try to rationalize it \u2013 just run!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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