Matthew says that we all have certain expectations and it\u2019s not hard to maintain them around people we don\u2019t like. However, everything changes in another scenario:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\u201cWhen it comes to someone we really want, that is usually the moment that we drop our standards and lose sight of any boundaries we once had.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
Just think about it. If a guy you were meeting up with already got a minus because he\u2019s a bad texter and then he shows up late, looking all crusty and musty, you wouldn\u2019t think twice about it. It would be una ruptura inmediata del acuerdo<\/strong> y nunca volver\u00eda a saber de ti (con suerte). <\/p>\n\n\n\nPero, cuando se trata de un chico guapo que te gusta y sus banderas rojas, suddenly you\u2019re color blind! <\/strong>It\u2019s like magic, I know!<\/p>\n\n\n\nSeg\u00fan Mateo, actuando as\u00ed s\u00f3lo acabamos haci\u00e9ndonos da\u00f1o a nosotros mismos. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 es peligroso perder nuestros l\u00edmites?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n El entrenador de citas escribi\u00f3 en el pie de foto:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\u201cThis situation is especially dangerous for people who have a more anxious attachment style and tend to respond to relationship uncertainty by bending over backward to keep someone happy.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
\u00c9l llama a esto \u201cfawning\u201d<\/em>un momento en el que hacemos todo lo posible por evitar la posibilidad de perder a alguien o en el que queremos impresionarle. We basically become a doormat just so we don\u2019t end up alone.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nMateo lo explica diciendo:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\u201cNow, when we have the fawn response, we typically give too much. Certainly, we give more than is earned and is not reciprocal, i.e. we\u2019re giving more than they are. But we also fail to advocate for our needs, to truly speak our mind.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
Dice adem\u00e1s que Dar sin descanso sin recibir nada a cambio es realmente perjudicial para nosotros. <\/strong>Adem\u00e1s, no pedir lo que necesitamos ni decir lo que sentimos no es mucho mejor.<\/p>\n\n\n\nOh chico, esto me suena familiar. Hubo una vez un chico que me hac\u00eda perder la cabeza y sentir mariposas en el est\u00f3mago cada vez que pensaba en \u00e9l. Me esforzaba tanto por tenerlo cerca y hacerlo feliz. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Le escrib\u00ed cartas de amor, le sorprend\u00ed a medianoche por su cumplea\u00f1os y, b\u00e1sicamente, siempre estuve a su lado para ayudarle en lo que hiciera falta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
He didn\u2019t do even 1% of the things I did for him<\/strong> pero <\/strong>Nunca dije nada porque quer\u00eda que nuestra relaci\u00f3n durara y cre\u00eda sinceramente que algo cambiar\u00eda.<\/p>\n\n\n\nNeedless to say, things didn\u2019t really work out and S\u00f3lo sent\u00ed que perd\u00ed mi tiempo y energ\u00eda<\/strong> on someone who didn\u2019t even care. <\/p>\n\n\n\nBut yeah, Matthew said what we all kind of knew at the back of our minds but didn\u2019t want to admit. He is really great at putting it all together in a simple way. Someone wrote:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\u201cIt\u2019s true. The moment I felt myself getting attached, it\u2019s like nothing else mattered anymore.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
Otro fan coment\u00f3:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\u201cOoofff so true. Gives new meaning to the saying, \u2018the thought of him\/her makes me weak\u2019.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
So what have we learned? Love is a beautiful thing when it doesn\u2019t cost you your well-being. We all want that perfect love story but as Matthew Hussey says, hacer todo lo posible por complacer a alguien s\u00f3lo puede conducir al resentimiento y la decepci\u00f3n.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nBut no worries! It doesn\u2019t have to be this way. Just stay aware of your boundaries even when falling for someone and don\u2019t forget your standards!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Echa un vistazo a su v\u00eddeo completo en YouTube para ver m\u00e1s consejos \u00fatiles.<\/p>\n\n\n\n