{"id":165982,"date":"2024-06-25T10:05:32","date_gmt":"2024-06-25T10:05:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=165982"},"modified":"2024-06-25T10:06:58","modified_gmt":"2024-06-25T10:06:58","slug":"intentos-fallidos-de-reavivar-las-relaciones","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/intentos-fallidos-de-reavivar-las-relaciones\/","title":{"rendered":"Estas personas intentaron reavivar la llama en sus relaciones pero fracasaron estrepitosamente"},"content":{"rendered":"

A veces peleamos durante d\u00edas. I get clueless and think there\u2019s no way to <\/strong>\u201cfix us\u201d<\/em><\/strong>. Al menos no una en la que yo pudiera pensar. Entonces me doy cuenta de que s\u00f3lo puedes reavivar una relaci\u00f3n si tiene una base sana. De lo contrario, todos tus intentos est\u00e1n condenados al fracaso.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Por mucho que os quer\u00e1is, a veces... vuestra relaci\u00f3n llegar\u00e1 a un punto en el que os distanciar\u00e9is un poco.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Puede que est\u00e9s ocupada persiguiendo un ascenso en el trabajo o descuid\u00e1ndole por un mont\u00f3n de razones diferentes, y entonces un d\u00eda te das cuenta de que la chispa entre t\u00fa y tu SO est\u00e1 un poco apagada.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Entonces te esfuerzas por revivir la vieja llama y volver a ser como antes. <\/strong>Sometimes you\u2019ll succeed and other times you\u2019ll crash and burn. Horribly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Si acabas de suspender y te sientes mal contigo mismo, tengo algo para animarte. He preparado una colecci\u00f3n de historias compartidas por gente que conozco. Sus desastrosos fracasos te har\u00e1n sentir bien con los tuyos, \u00a1cr\u00e9eme!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. \u201cI moved to her city only to discover she\u2019s been cheating on me\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Estaba cansada de nuestra relaci\u00f3n a distancia y se traslad\u00f3 a su ciudad.<\/strong> I gave up a well-paid job and a life I have built there. Then after a couple of weeks, I realized she\u2019d been cheating on me for the whole time with her high school crush.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. \u201cOne date a month would bring our relationship back to life but she said no\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Cuando intent\u00e1bamos resolver nuestros problemas, le ped\u00ed que tuvi\u00e9ramos una cita, una cita de verdad, al menos una vez al mes. Yo pensaba nos ayudar\u00eda a reavivar la llama, pero nunca tuvo tiempo para m\u00ed.<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

She found this suggestion awkward. Soon after, we broke up. I didn\u2019t regret it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. \u201cI had a vasectomy and then she left me to have a baby with someone else\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n
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\"experiencia<\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

4. \u201cHe took pictures of me without my consent\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

No respetaba los l\u00edmites. Odiaba hacerme fotos y odiaba que me hicieran fotos. \u00c9l lo sab\u00eda y le dije innumerables veces que no apuntara la c\u00e1mara en mi direcci\u00f3n. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

De todos modos, me hizo fotos mientras dorm\u00eda, com\u00eda e incluso cuando me duchaba, explicando he\u2019s so in love with me that he can\u2019t stop documenting my everyday life.<\/strong> \u00bfTe lo imaginas?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Luego se las ense\u00f1\u00f3 a sus amigos. <\/strong>\u00a1Sin mi consentimiento! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The saddest thing is I was not aware that this is not normal. Therapy helped me realize I was in an abusive relationship. Luckily we\u2019re divorced now!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. \u201cHe scheduled \u2018intimacy sessions\u2019\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Ten\u00edamos problemas serios y yo no estaba de humor para intimar. Estuvimos viviendo como compa\u00f1eros de piso durante seis meses. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Entonces un d\u00eda me mostr\u00f3 \u201cthe calendar<\/em>\u201d. He required me to agree to a <\/strong>\u201cnight in the bedroom\u201d<\/em><\/strong> una vez a la semana y programamos algunas citas.<\/strong> Incluso me lo pens\u00e9, pero entonces me present\u00f3 las normas. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Al parecer, s\u00f3lo se me permit\u00eda rechazarlo una vez a la semana. Tambi\u00e9n, requer\u00eda <\/strong>\u201cour nights\u201d<\/em><\/strong> dos veces por semana.<\/strong> Entonces, si a \u201csession\u201d<\/em> didn\u2019t happen for some reason, it needed to be rescheduled in the same week.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lo dej\u00e9 el mismo d\u00eda.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. \u201cShe dumped me after I went on a solo trip\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n
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\"descripci\u00f3n<\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

7. \u201cHe liked to play a victim\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

I realized I couldn\u2019t change him so I tried to change myself. I believed we would find a common ground if I improved myself. I started reading self-help books, going to therapists, meditating, etc. Quer\u00eda ser la novia perfecta. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Para mi gran sorpresa, empeor\u00f3 a\u00fan m\u00e1s las cosas. <\/strong>Como si quisiera provocarme para que me enfadara con \u00e9l todo el tiempo y as\u00ed poder hacer su papel de v\u00edctima y yo ser maliciosa y excesivamente exigente.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00a1Nada pod\u00eda salvar nuestra relaci\u00f3n!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. \u201cA vacation could not help us\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Fuimos a las Bahamas de vacaciones con la esperanza de suavizar las cosas. Pens\u00e9 que un entorno diferente ayudar\u00eda <\/strong>y permitirnos redescubrir los fundamentos de nuestra relaci\u00f3n. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nosotros couldn\u2019t stop fighting for ten days<\/strong> we\u2019d spent there together. I moved out the same day we got back home.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. \u201cProposed me without the ring\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n
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\"problemas<\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

10. \u201cThe \u2018trilateral meet-up\u2019 was a very bad idea\u201c<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Me meti\u00f3 en un tr\u00edo no deseado con su compa\u00f1ero de trabajo. Desde el principio, le dije que no era una buena idea y me negu\u00e9 abiertamente, pero he wouldn\u2019t give up until I succumbed to pressure.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fue horrible como era evidente que sent\u00eda algo por ella, <\/strong>and after that, I couldn\u2019t see their faces ever again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

11. \u201cWe \u2018sow the wild oats\u2019\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Nos casamos cuando a\u00fan \u00e9ramos unos cr\u00edos, despu\u00e9s del instituto. Comprensiblemente, despu\u00e9s de quince a\u00f1os est\u00e1bamos aburridos y decidimos animar un poco las cosas.<\/strong> As\u00ed que abrimos nuestra relaci\u00f3n y vimos a otras personas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u00f3lo aumentaba el contraste entre lo viejo conocido y lo nuevo excitante. Nos divorciamos a los dos meses.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

12. \u201cWorking together ruined our relationship\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n
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\"hombre<\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

13. \u201cShe kept texting her work buddy\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

She seemed distant for some time and I noticed she\u2019s often texting her coworker. I tried to talk about her work and learn more about her work buddy. Also, Le ofrec\u00ed recogerla ma\u00f1ana del trabajo y quedar con \u00e9l, pero se enfad\u00f3 por ello.<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A los pocos d\u00edas, me dej\u00f3 y empez\u00f3 a salir con su compa\u00f1ero de trabajo. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

14. \u201cHe told me he was more into men\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Se incorpor\u00f3 a un programa de doctorado en Arizona y regres\u00f3 al cabo de un a\u00f1o. Al instante not\u00e9 que algo era diferente y me esforc\u00e9 por demostrarle lo mucho que le echaba de menos. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Era fr\u00edo como el hielo y me dijo que se enamor\u00f3 de su mentor<\/strong> y se dio cuenta de que le gustan m\u00e1s los hombres que las mujeres. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

15. \u201cWe watched \u2018The Affair\u2019 together\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n
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\"mujer<\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

So if you failed in your attempts to revive the old flame, don\u2019t be so hard on yourself!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u00f3lo funciona si la relaci\u00f3n es reparable. <\/strong>If it didn\u2019t work, it wasn\u2019t supposed to work.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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