{"id":16599,"date":"2019-03-19T11:50:09","date_gmt":"2019-03-19T11:50:09","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=16599"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:29:46","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:29:46","slug":"por-favor-no-me-odies-por-seguir-adelante","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/por-favor-no-me-odies-por-seguir-adelante\/","title":{"rendered":"Por favor, no me odies por seguir adelante"},"content":{"rendered":"

Me cost\u00f3 mucho <\/span>renunciar a ti<\/span><\/a>. Me llev\u00f3 mucho tiempo y a\u00fan m\u00e1s energ\u00eda y paciencia. Al principio, pens\u00e9 que nunca lo lograr\u00eda. Estaba segura de que me quedar\u00eda pegada a ti para siempre. <\/span><\/p>\n

The biggest problem was that you were present in my head, even when you weren\u2019t physically by my side. I was completely consumed by our past relationship, by everything we went through and by you. <\/span><\/p>\n

Y pens\u00e9 que nunca podr\u00eda superarte. Pens\u00e9 que nunca podr\u00eda seguir adelante con mi vida.<\/span><\/p>\n

Then I realized that I didn\u2019t allow myself to move on for good. Yes, I loved you, but I was even more consumed by guilt. You made me think I was the only one guilty for everything that went on between us and I blamed myself for our break-up. <\/span><\/p>\n

Me culp\u00e9 por todo lo malo que me hiciste, pensando que probablemente me lo merec\u00eda. Y me culpaba por la persona que eras, porque estaba convencida de que yo te hab\u00eda hecho as\u00ed.<\/span><\/p>\n

Pero sobre todo,<\/span> Me culp\u00e9 a m\u00ed mismo por siquiera pensar en seguir adelante.<\/b> Estaba segura de que podr\u00eda haber hecho m\u00e1s para salvarte de ti misma, de que podr\u00eda haber hecho m\u00e1s para que nuestra relaci\u00f3n funcionara y de que podr\u00eda haber hecho m\u00e1s por ti.<\/span><\/p>\n

En el fondo, sab\u00eda que estaba m\u00e1s que preparada para seguir adelante. Pero ten\u00eda miedo. Ten\u00eda miedo de que eso significara que te dejaba atr\u00e1s, que te dejaba sola para que lidiaras con tus propios problemas, para que lucharas sola tus batallas. <\/span><\/p>\n

I was afraid you would spend the rest of my life hating me for moving on and that was something I couldn\u2019t take.<\/span><\/p>\n

Pero<\/span> here I am asking you not to hate me for this. I am asking you to understand me and everything I\u2019ve been through.<\/b><\/p>\n

Te pido que te pongas en mi lugar.<\/b><\/p>\n

Imag\u00ednate que no eres feliz con alguien. Imag\u00ednate pasando los d\u00edas en una miseria constante, esperando que algo cambie. La realidad es que sabes que nada cambiar\u00e1 y que est\u00e1s esperando algo que nunca llegar\u00e1. <\/span><\/p>\n

But you still don\u2019t give up. You still try to make things better, <\/span>para mejorar su relaci\u00f3n<\/span><\/a>...para hacer algo de tu vida, aunque sepas que no tiene sentido.<\/span><\/p>\n

Eso fue exactamente lo que sent\u00ed contigo. \u00bfQu\u00e9 har\u00edas en mi lugar? Te alejar\u00edas de m\u00ed, sin mirar atr\u00e1s. <\/span>Lo habr\u00edas superado hace a\u00f1os.<\/b><\/p>\n

Y eso es exactamente lo que ten\u00eda que hacer.<\/span><\/p>\n

So please, don\u2019t hate me for leaving.<\/b><\/p>\n

I don\u2019t blame you for anything. I forgive you for everything you did to me, because I know you didn\u2019t know any better<\/span><\/a>. Te perdono por hacerme infeliz, te perdono por no tratarme bien.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t hate me for realizing my worth.<\/b> Because I am worthy and I am more than enough, despite everything you\u2019ve tried to convince me of. I am awesome and my value is great and that is something you could never see.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t hate me for realizing how strong and brave I am.<\/b> Porque pens\u00e9 que nunca tendr\u00eda la fuerza y el valor para alejarme de ti. Pero aqu\u00ed estoy, haciendo precisamente eso. <\/span><\/p>\n

And it helped me realize how powerful I really am. It helped me realize there is nothing I can\u2019t do, if I set my mind to it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t hate me because I am done <\/b>conformarse con menos<\/b><\/a>.<\/b> Porque tengo derecho a decir que quiero m\u00e1s. Tu amor a medias nunca fue suficiente para m\u00ed y por fin empiezo a entenderlo. Y por fin tengo el valor suficiente para admitirlo y decirlo en voz alta.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t hate me for finally loving myself more than I loved you.<\/b> Durante mucho tiempo, siempre te eleg\u00ed a ti antes que a m\u00ed. Pens\u00e9 que era la mayor prueba de mi amor, compromiso y devoci\u00f3n. <\/span><\/p>\n

Y pens\u00e9 que as\u00ed deb\u00edan ser las cosas. Pero entonces me di cuenta de que nunca me pon\u00edas a m\u00ed primero. Nunca me elegiste a m\u00ed antes que a nadie, y mucho menos a ti mismo. <\/span><\/p>\n

As\u00ed que decid\u00ed que ya era hora de que eligiera mi propia felicidad por encima de la tuya. Era hora de que por fin empezara a quererme a m\u00ed misma m\u00e1s de lo que te quer\u00eda a ti, y eso es algo por lo que nunca deber\u00eda sentirme culpable.<\/span><\/p>\n

As\u00ed que.., <\/span>please, don\u2019t hate me for moving on with my life.<\/b> En vez de eso, por favor, intenta entenderme. <\/span>Intentar comprender que era algo que ten\u00eda que hacer si quer\u00eda salvarme. Intenta comprender que era la \u00fanica opci\u00f3n que me quedaba.<\/b> <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

It took me a lot to give up on you. It took a lot of time and even more energy and patience. At first, I thought I would never make it. I was sure that I would stay stuck with you forever. The biggest problem was that you were present in my head, even when…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":16600,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29618],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-16599","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-moving-on"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29618,"label":"moving on"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/maria-badasian-539444-unsplash.jpg",800,571,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29618,"name":"moving on","slug":"moving-on","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29618,"taxonomy":"category","description":"When nothing else works - inspiring stories about moving on are bound to help you let go of people and situations you never thought you could live without.\r\n","parent":38,"count":200,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29618,"category_count":200,"category_description":"When nothing else works - inspiring stories about moving on are bound to help you let go of people and situations you never thought you could live without.\r\n","cat_name":"moving on","category_nicename":"moving-on","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16599","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=16599"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16599\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/16600"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=16599"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=16599"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=16599"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}