{"id":166011,"date":"2024-06-25T10:43:44","date_gmt":"2024-06-25T10:43:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=166011"},"modified":"2024-07-08T09:20:54","modified_gmt":"2024-07-08T09:20:54","slug":"hombres-toxicos-que-pretendian-ser-amables","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/hombres-toxicos-que-pretendian-ser-amables\/","title":{"rendered":"Despu\u00e9s de estas historias sobre citas con \"un buen tipo\" quiero renunciar a los hombres"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Unas cuantas veces fui a una cita con alguien a quien consideraba un tipo realmente agradable, pero luego<strong> <\/strong>terminar\u00eda <strong>shocked by his behavior and toxicity after things didn\u2019t go the way he planned.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I was wondering if there\u2019s a way that you can recognize a toxic man in a \u201cnice guy\u201d disguise, and I asked all the women I knew to tell me all about their experiences.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Envi\u00e9 mensajes de texto a mis compa\u00f1eros de trabajo, amigos y conocidos compartiendo lo que me hab\u00eda sucedido y<strong> pidi\u00e9ndoles que respondieran con historias similares que yo pudiera utilizar para organizar alg\u00fan tipo de manual <\/strong>for unmasking \u201cwrong\u201d men who pretended to be nice.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Por lo que tengo, puedo decirte <strong>it\u2019s hard to tell at first glance,<\/strong> pero estas historias le recordar\u00e1n que debe mantener siempre los ojos bien abiertos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">1. <em>\u201cHe was hiding a strange cult membership\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"1200\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/big-message-in-chat.jpg\" alt=\"gran mensaje en el chat\" class=\"wp-image-166012\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/big-message-in-chat.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/big-message-in-chat-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/big-message-in-chat-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/big-message-in-chat-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/big-message-in-chat-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/big-message-in-chat-12x12.jpg 12w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/big-message-in-chat-728x728.jpg 728w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/big-message-in-chat-960x960.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/big-message-in-chat-1080x1080.jpg 1080w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1200px) 100vw, 1200px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">2. <em>\u201cHe thought my seductive attire was a message\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Conoc\u00ed a un chico simp\u00e1tico en la biblioteca e inmediatamente congeniamos. Sin embargo,<strong> despu\u00e9s de unas cuantas citas empez\u00f3 a actuar raro.<\/strong> Actually, when I think about it, he was awkward from the beginning. My friends didn\u2019t like him.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>En nuestra quinta cita, <strong>se enfad\u00f3 porque no estaba de humor para ligar despu\u00e9s de cenar.<\/strong> Empez\u00f3 a fanfarronear, a decirme lo exitoso que era y que deber\u00eda sentirme como si me hubiera tocado la loter\u00eda por salir con alguien tan especial como \u00e9l.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tambi\u00e9n me dijo <strong>Me visto demasiado provocativa y mi aspecto grita <\/strong><strong><em>\u201cTake me to bed\u201d<\/em><\/strong><strong>.<\/strong> Me fui a casa y dej\u00e9 de devolverle las llamadas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">3. <em>\u201cMy coworker was taking pictures of \u2018us\u2019\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"1200\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/message-from-employee.jpg\" alt=\"mensaje del empleado\" class=\"wp-image-166013\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/message-from-employee.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/message-from-employee-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/message-from-employee-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/message-from-employee-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/message-from-employee-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/message-from-employee-12x12.jpg 12w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/message-from-employee-728x728.jpg 728w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/message-from-employee-960x960.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/message-from-employee-1080x1080.jpg 1080w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1200px) 100vw, 1200px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">4. <em>\u201cI wanted to give you a chance even though you\u2019re not my type\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Nos conocimos el <em>Tinder<\/em> y despu\u00e9s de unas semanas tuvimos una cita. No paraba de hablarme de los tipos de mujeres que prefer\u00eda e incluso busc\u00f3 su tel\u00e9fono para <strong>mostrarme fotos de algunas mujeres hermosas en su galer\u00eda.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Todos eran altos, delgados, rubios y con el pelo corto. Yo no era de ese tipo. Yo era un poco regordeta y bajita, con el pelo largo y oscuro. <strong>Le pregunt\u00e9 por qu\u00e9 ten\u00eda una cita conmigo, ya que yo no era su tipo.<\/strong> Dijo que s\u00f3lo estaba siendo amable y que quer\u00eda darme una oportunidad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">5. <em>\u201cI could have any girl\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Estuvimos flirteando durante unas semanas, era un buen chico, pero nunca me invit\u00f3 a una cita. Entonces <strong>Empec\u00e9 a salir con alguien y se enfad\u00f3.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He told me he could have me if he wanted to, as he could have any girl he liked. But he didn\u2019t want to get physical with me because <strong>tuvo unas cuantas ligues que estaban mucho m\u00e1s buenas que yo.<\/strong> Lo bloque\u00e9.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">6. <em>\u201cMy inbox was cluttered with his angry messages\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"1200\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/big-mail.jpg\" alt=\"gran correo\" class=\"wp-image-166014\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/big-mail.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/big-mail-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/big-mail-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/big-mail-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/big-mail-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/big-mail-12x12.jpg 12w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/big-mail-728x728.jpg 728w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/big-mail-960x960.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/big-mail-1080x1080.jpg 1080w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1200px) 100vw, 1200px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">7. <em>\u201cI was thick and kinda cute\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Era una cita a ciegas. Se present\u00f3 con un sombrero de fieltro y <strong>explic\u00f3 que era un caballero que hab\u00eda tenido muy malas experiencias con mujeres guapas.<\/strong> Sigui\u00f3 hablando de s\u00ed mismo e hizo comentarios sobre mi aspecto grueso, pero algo mono.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Despu\u00e9s de unas copas, <strong>me dio consejos para perder peso<\/strong> y qu\u00e9 deb\u00eda ponerme para estar m\u00e1s elegante. Le dije que ten\u00eda que cuidar de una abuela enferma y no volv\u00ed a tener una cita a ciegas.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">8. <em>\u201cHe thought the negging would take me to his bed\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Lo conoc\u00ed en <em>Bumble<\/em> and at first, I didn\u2019t know his age. After realizing he was ten years younger than me <strong>Intent\u00e9 explicarme educadamente y poner fin a nuestra comunicaci\u00f3n.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Eso le hizo cambiar el tono y <strong>me dijo que deber\u00eda alegrarme si alguien me quer\u00eda, ya que era una ni\u00f1a grande. <\/strong>Hab\u00eda m\u00e1s banderas rojas pero el negging fue la gota que colm\u00f3 el vaso. Le bloque\u00e9 para siempre.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">9. <em>\u201cPretended to be a nice guy and then called me \u2018a dummy\u2019\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"1200\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/message-from-friend.jpg\" alt=\"mensaje de un amigo\" class=\"wp-image-166015\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/message-from-friend.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/message-from-friend-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/message-from-friend-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/message-from-friend-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/message-from-friend-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/message-from-friend-12x12.jpg 12w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/message-from-friend-728x728.jpg 728w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/message-from-friend-960x960.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/message-from-friend-1080x1080.jpg 1080w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1200px) 100vw, 1200px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">10. <em>\u201cHe seemed laid back but then tried forcing me to put spiral\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Al principio, estaba tranquilo y relajado y no paraba de hablar de la libertad de hacer lo que quisi\u00e9ramos. Luego <strong>me pidi\u00f3 que pusiera una espiral para que pudi\u00e9ramos disfrutar el uno del otro despreocupadamente.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I didn\u2019t prefer foreign objects inside my body so I refused. Then <strong>le dio mucha importancia a mi menstruaci\u00f3n y empez\u00f3 a comportarse de forma agresiva.<\/strong> cuando \u00e9ramos \u00edntimos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>No tuve otra opci\u00f3n que dejarlo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">11. <em>\u201cI was forced on a date\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Nos conocimos trabajando como voluntarios en un santuario de animales. Le cont\u00e9 mi horrible ruptura y lo profundamente dolida que estaba. <strong>He knew I wasn&#8217;t over my ex yet.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Un d\u00eda, mi coche estaba en el taller y \u00e9l se ofreci\u00f3 a llevarme a casa. De repente me di cuenta de que iba en direcci\u00f3n contraria. Cuando<strong> Le pregunt\u00e9 ad\u00f3nde me llevaba y me dijo que \u00edbamos a una cita.<\/strong> Me qued\u00e9 estupefacta y le ped\u00ed amablemente que me llevara a casa, ya que no estaba interesada en \u00e9l.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He wouldn\u2019t give up so we ended up in a bar. I said, ok one drink and then he will take me home. He ordered a second round. <strong>No paraba de pedirle que me llevara a casa. <\/strong>I was so afraid but didn\u2019t know what to do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Entonces vi a mi amigo del colegio, me acerqu\u00e9 a \u00e9l, le expliqu\u00e9 todo y le pregunt\u00e9 si pod\u00eda llevarme. Me llev\u00f3. Dej\u00e9 el voluntariado, asustada de volver a encontrarme con \u00e9l.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">12. <em>\u201cI can\u2019t stand women who think macho is hot\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"1200\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/message-on-a-social-media.jpg\" alt=\"mensaje en una red social\" class=\"wp-image-166016\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/message-on-a-social-media.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/message-on-a-social-media-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/message-on-a-social-media-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/message-on-a-social-media-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/message-on-a-social-media-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/message-on-a-social-media-12x12.jpg 12w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/message-on-a-social-media-728x728.jpg 728w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/message-on-a-social-media-960x960.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/message-on-a-social-media-1080x1080.jpg 1080w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1200px) 100vw, 1200px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Historias de miedo, \u00bfverdad? Como ves, nunca puedes estar segura de si es realmente simp\u00e1tico o s\u00f3lo finge. Aseg\u00farate de prestar mucha atenci\u00f3n y f\u00edjate en los signos reveladores y en todas las banderas rojas desde el principio. Evita acabar en una relaci\u00f3n t\u00f3xica.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A few times I went on a date with someone who I considered a really nice guy, but then would end up shocked by his behavior and toxicity after things didn\u2019t go the way he planned. I was wondering if there\u2019s a way that you can recognize a toxic man in a \u201cnice guy\u201d disguise,&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":34,"featured_media":166017,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29649],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-166011","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-girl-talk"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29649,"label":"girl talk"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/After-These-Stories-About-Dates-With-A-Nice-Guy-I-Want-To-Give-Up-On-Men-1024x678.jpg",1024,678,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Inna Williams","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/inna\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29649,"name":"girl talk","slug":"girl-talk","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29649,"taxonomy":"category","description":"This place is reserved for all the spicy insights about the steamy details between the sheets, male fantasies and ways to make him crazy about you.","parent":29643,"count":180,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29649,"category_count":180,"category_description":"This place is reserved for all the spicy insights about the steamy details between the sheets, male fantasies and ways to make him crazy about you.","cat_name":"girl talk","category_nicename":"girl-talk","category_parent":29643}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/166011","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/34"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=166011"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/166011\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":166018,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/166011\/revisions\/166018"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/166017"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=166011"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=166011"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=166011"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}