El momento en que mi marido y yo dijimos \u201cyes\u201d <\/em>en el altar, la gente empez\u00f3 a fastidiarnos. Fue lo m\u00e1s molesto de mi vida. Creo que es una experiencia universal para todos los reci\u00e9n casados. Y todos lo odiamos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Why are people so stuck on one way of doing things? I\u2019ve always wondered about that. Is it because las pel\u00edculas siempre retratan esta experiencia universal de casarse <\/strong>and how things should be going? Or because that\u2019s what they expect from us?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Sorry to disappoint you but things aren\u2019t exactly the same as they once were. Also, people are free to live how they want. Imagine that!<\/p>\n\n\n\n He aqu\u00ed algunas de las suposiciones m\u00e1s comunes (y molestas) que suele tener la gente. Empezar fuerte con:<\/p>\n\n\n\n En realidad, \u00a1todav\u00eda estamos lejos de nuestras vacaciones so\u00f1adas! La realidad es un poco diferente, por desgracia, y cruel. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Remember the laws in the USA? No paid vacation\u2026yeah. We spent tons of money on our wedding and necesitamos tiempo para recomponernos antes de ir a ninguna parte. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Also, planning a wedding and honeymoon at the same time is quite exhausting! It\u2019s just a lot to do and we already had a couple of pretty chaotic months. So for now on, our honeymoon is still on hold, but we can\u2019t wait to travel! <\/p>\n\n\n\n Si alguien esperara hasta el matrimonio, entonces esto podr\u00eda ser cierto, pero incluso entonces la gente necesita tiempo para adaptarse y explorar las cosas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n La mayor\u00eda de nosotros ya ten\u00edamos algo de acci\u00f3n o incluso viv\u00edamos juntos. Being married didn\u2019t magically change our <\/strong>rutina de dormitorio<\/em><\/strong>.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Of course, we have a more serious sense of commitment now but our worlds didn\u2019t turn upside down just because we got a paper saying we\u2019re official! <\/p>\n\n\n\n I don\u2019t know what it is about people asking newlyweds about having kids as soon as they get married. Firstly, it\u2019s an insanely inappropriate and awkward thing to ask, and secondly, that\u2019s not your business!<\/p>\n\n\n\n Algunas parejas pueden decidir que quieren que <\/strong>doble ingreso, sin hijos<\/em><\/strong> vida<\/strong>, which is perfectly fine by the way and we shouldn\u2019t judge it! Others may really want babies but can\u2019t have them for some reason and this question can only be hurtful. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Y entonces hay gente que quiere tener hijos, pero no de inmediato. <\/strong>Whatever the case, please for the love of God, never ask newlyweds if they\u2019re preparing for a new addition to the family.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Entiendo por qu\u00e9 la gente asume esto, pero no todo el mundo odia la vida en la ciudad. Las nuevas generaciones de a los j\u00f3venes les gusta vivir en una gran ciudad<\/strong> donde todo est\u00e1 disponible con un chasquido de dedos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You\u2019re craving pizza at 2 am? No problem, delivery will be there in seconds! You need something quickly from the store? There\u2019s one around the corner! It\u2019s simply more convenient <\/strong>y la gran ciudad ofrece numerosas oportunidades que queremos aprovechar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n However, maybe we\u2019ll appreciate the peace of the suburbs and the big green yard in front of the house when we get older. But for now, we\u2019re staying where we are!<\/p>\n\n\n\n I mean we\u2019re feeling pretty good and happy about being married. However, we don\u2019t think we instantly became better than everyone else.<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n Some people might not be married and living better lives than us. They probably don\u2019t argue about things like who forgot to buy toilet paper this time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Seguimos respetando a todo el mundo por igual. Pensar que nos consideramos superiores solo porque nos hemos casado es una tonter\u00eda y, desde luego, no es cierto.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00a1Oh, el viejo patriarcado! S\u00ed, los tiempos son definitivamente diferentes ahora, t\u00eda Brenda.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Don\u2019t get me wrong. We don\u2019t have anything against women who choose to have their husband’s last name or couples who get a completely new one, but like I said, everyone\u2019s different. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If that\u2019s what you like, then go for it! A algunos nos gustan mucho nuestros apellidos y queremos conservarlos.<\/strong> Adem\u00e1s, as\u00ed nos evitamos tanto papeleo aburrido y el engorro de tener que actualizar todos nuestros documentos personales.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019ll probably never convince my husband to go to opera with me. He\u2019ll probably never convince me to watch war or sci-fi movies. And guess what? We\u2019re still happily married!<\/p>\n\n\n\n Being married doesn\u2019t mean you suddenly have the same interests and hobbies<\/strong> y desechar tu vieja personalidad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I mean sure, we have some things in common, that\u2019s why we got married in the first place but we\u2019re far away from morphing into one person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n S\u00ed, definitivamente ahora venimos en un paquete. Cuando quieras salir con uno de nosotros, tendr\u00e1s a los dos, \u00a1lo siento! Por favor, s\u00e9 realista. Esto es una tonter\u00eda.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Seguimos teniendo vidas separadas.<\/strong> Don\u2019t think I can\u2019t go on a brunch with you just because my husband\u2019s out of town. Actually, please call me, I\u2019m bored in the house!<\/p>\n\n\n\n Marriage is all about finding a balance between spending time together and having some time apart. If we were together 24\/7 we wouldn\u2019t have a chance to ever miss each other, right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n A los pocos d\u00edas de mi boda, la gente empez\u00f3 a preguntarme: \u201dSo, what\u2019s it like?\u201d<\/em>esperando que les cuente alguna historia loca sobre c\u00f3mo nuestras vidas cambiaron dr\u00e1sticamente.<\/p>\n\n\n\n When I say that everything\u2019s pretty much the same, I always disappoint them with that answer. I\u2019m not sure what could possibly change<\/strong>, apart from magically finding my husband\u2019s dirty socks everywhere except in the laundry basket.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Oh yeah, we also got a ton of kitchen appliances as wedding gifts and we\u2019re trying to figure out how to use them!<\/p>\n\n\n\n People often assume that there\u2019s simply no way we can live on our own and be happy. If we\u2019re not transforming our home into a tiny human factory, we will get ourselves something a bit easier to keep alive, like a pet!<\/p>\n\n\n\n Okay, I\u2019m not going to lie and say probablemente sea cierto <\/strong>I mean, I don\u2019t have to go through torture for 9 months, pets are always there for cuddles (not cats though) and my husband and I don\u2019t need to argue about who\u2019ll change the diapers this time. <\/p>\n\n\n\n So yeah, we\u2019re definitely getting a pet. <\/p>\n\n\n\n There you have it. A free manual of things you shouldn\u2019t assume about newlyweds or ask them. Let\u2019s avoid awkward moments and leave stereotypical opinions behind us once and for all!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Do you know what the worst thing is when you get married? The pressure. Everyone has some expectations and assumptions you should blindly follow like there\u2019s only one right way of living. The moment my husband and I said \u201cyes\u201d at the altar, people started nagging us. It was the most annoying thing ever! 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Pasamos directamente del altar a nuestra luna de miel.<\/h2>\n\n\n
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2. We\u2019re so busy in bed, we don\u2019t even leave the bedroom!<\/h2>\n\n\n
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3. Nuestra casa se convirti\u00f3 en una peque\u00f1a f\u00e1brica de seres humanos.<\/h2>\n\n\n
![\"mujer](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/woman-hugging-man-while-sitting-on-bed.jpg\")
4. Goodbye city life, we\u2019re moving to the suburbs!<\/h2>\n\n\n
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5. We pity the people who still haven\u2019t tied the knot!<\/h2>\n\n\n
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6. \u00a1La esposa debe estar encantada con su nuevo apellido!<\/h2>\n\n\n
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7. B\u00e1sicamente, \u00a1nos convertimos en la misma persona!<\/h2>\n\n\n
![\"pareja](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/happy-couple-sitting-on-bed.jpg\")
8. We\u2019re glued to each other all the time!<\/h2>\n\n\n
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9. Things are so much different now that we\u2019re married!<\/h2>\n\n\n
![\"pareja](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/couple-drinking-coffee-on-the-patio.jpg\")
10. Since storks are not coming yet, we\u2019re adopting a pet!<\/h2>\n\n\n
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