{"id":167069,"date":"2024-07-03T11:27:38","date_gmt":"2024-07-03T11:27:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=167069"},"modified":"2024-09-14T15:58:59","modified_gmt":"2024-09-14T15:58:59","slug":"cuando-te-sientas-poco-apreciado","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/cuando-te-sientas-poco-apreciado\/","title":{"rendered":"Pasaba de ella como de un mueble hasta que ella dijo basta"},"content":{"rendered":"

Relationships can be full of ups and downs but it\u2019s just the way they are. You know how they say: sometimes it feels like smooth sailing, and sometimes it feels as if you\u2019re on a boat in a storm.<\/strong> <\/em>You must know when to pull through the storm and when it\u2019s time to flee the boat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

La semana pasada estaba en Target y bumped into Lucy, my school friend, whom I hadn\u2019t seen in years.<\/strong> Quedamos en cenar y ponernos al d\u00eda.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We were at a nice Italian restaurant and just after we ordered, she opened up and told me about her relationship that seemed\u2026 <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nada m\u00e1s que un fatalidad y pesimismo<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

\u2013 \u201cI don\u2019t know how we got here. Not so long ago,<\/em> me miraba con amor y admiraci\u00f3n. <\/em><\/strong>Pude ver en sus ojos que realmente se preocupaba por m\u00ed. Era tan atento. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I came home from work feeling low, he would instantly notice it and ask me: \u2018Honey, are you feeling okay?\u2019<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Entonces, le contaba un malentendido con un compa\u00f1ero de trabajo que me hac\u00eda sentir triste, y <\/em>me llevaba a cenar o al cine para animarme. <\/em><\/strong>Eran los buenos tiempos.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Lately, we\u2019re just passing by, without even looking at each other. I can\u2019t take it anymore. I\u2019m so disappointed. <\/em>That\u2019s not the man I know. <\/em><\/strong>Mi frustraci\u00f3n se acumula cada d\u00eda.<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Una vez, cuando intent\u00e9 hablar seriamente con \u00e9l, parec\u00eda que habl\u00e1ramos idiomas distintos. Todo lo que dec\u00eda eran tonter\u00edas. Llegu\u00e9 a pensar que era una forma de gaslighting. <\/em>Aturdir tanto a una compa\u00f1era que acabe perdiendo la cabeza.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Other times, he just kept staring at his phone without even listening to what I said. He said he\u2019s busy, doesn\u2019t understand what I\u2019m trying to say, can I be more clear, and stuff like that.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I\u2019m so tired of trying to talk to him. It\u2019s all useless, and I am just exhausted. We live like roommates. No spark is left between us.<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019m wondering why he doesn\u2019t break up with me. <\/em><\/strong>Or maybe he\u2019s waiting for me to end it?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

What made him change so much? Or he didn\u2019t change? Maybe he was always like this. Maybe I was deluded for all these years.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

He doesn\u2019t openly criticize me but<\/em> se asegura de que me sienta mal conmigo mismo.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

De lo \u00fanico que habla (si es que alguna vez lo hace) es de s\u00ed mismo: de lo exitoso que es, de c\u00f3mo lo ascendieron y de c\u00f3mo por fin come comida sabrosa que \u00e9l mismo prepar\u00f3.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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A menudo se pone delante de un espejo con una confianza en s\u00ed mismo colosal, observ\u00e1ndose. Se nota que disfruta viendo el reflejo de su apuesto aspecto.<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Maybe he\u2019s cheating on me. That would explain everything.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yesterday, he said I don\u2019t iron his shirts properly so he will continue doing it. Now, even my ironing is not good enough for him.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

La semana pasada dijo que dormir\u00eda en un sof\u00e1. <\/em>He said I\u2019m snoring and it annoys him.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I don\u2019t know what to do! Should I just leave him?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ten\u00eda que ser yo quien lo dijera<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Estuvieron juntos cinco a\u00f1os, y obviously, the love was gone \u2013 at least for him.<\/strong> Simplemente ten\u00eda demasiado miedo de salir de su zona de confort o ten\u00eda miedo de volver a estar soltero, qui\u00e9n sabe.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Le dije que no perdiera m\u00e1s de su precioso tiempo, que recogiera sus cosas y se marchara.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u2013 \u201cJust admit yourself, it\u2019s not working and never will. He won\u2019t change back to a loving and caring boyfriend. You did everything you could, but now it\u2019s time to let it go. I\u2019m sorry, your relationship is over. It\u2019s just not declared yet.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Lucy parec\u00eda decepcionada, como si esperara que le diera alg\u00fan consejo m\u00e1gico que resolver\u00eda todos sus problemas de pareja <\/strong>y hacer que las cosas volvieran a ser como antes. Pero en lugar de eso, todo lo que obtuvo fue la fea verdad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hay momentos en los que tenemos que dejar de intentarlo y abrirnos a nuevas oportunidades, <\/strong>nuevas personas y nuevas relaciones.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After a couple of months, I bumped into Lucy again. She really looked happy, and then\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00a1Me ense\u00f1\u00f3 su anillo de compromiso!<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Conoci\u00f3 a su nuevo novio en vacaciones. Mantuvieron una relaci\u00f3n a distancia durante dos meses. Luego, \u00e9l se mud\u00f3 a nuestra ciudad, empezaron a vivir juntos y poco despu\u00e9s, \u00e9l le propuso matrimonio.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

En s\u00f3lo unos meses Lucy fue de sentirse poco apreciado y miserable a ser amado <\/strong>y toda emocionada por su boda.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A veces, basta con decir \u201cNO\u201d<\/em> o \u201cThat\u2019s enough\u201d <\/em>y cerrar esa puerta para que se abra otra.<\/strong> Primero debemos abandonar un lugar en el que nos sentimos desgraciados y liberarnos de la energ\u00eda de la decepci\u00f3n, y s\u00f3lo entonces podremos llegar a un lugar m\u00e1s feliz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Woman, I\u2019m telling you he\u2019s not worth it. Hay alguien m\u00e1s esper\u00e1ndote ah\u00ed fuera. <\/strong>Don\u2019t let him wait too long.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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