{"id":167457,"date":"2024-07-08T08:46:08","date_gmt":"2024-07-08T08:46:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=167457"},"modified":"2024-07-08T08:58:29","modified_gmt":"2024-07-08T08:58:29","slug":"el-socio-no-satisface-sus-necesidades","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/el-socio-no-satisface-sus-necesidades\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00bfEst\u00e1 usted necesitado o su pareja se queda corta?\u00a0"},"content":{"rendered":"

Having a partner that\u2019s not meeting your needs and always letting you down can be frustrating. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s completely normal to be confused and not know in which direction to go. Ser sincero con uno mismo y con la pareja siempre es un buen comienzo. <\/strong>If you\u2019re not sure what to do, don\u2019t worry! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

El terapeuta Jeff Guenther ha vuelto a dar con la soluci\u00f3n perfecta y ha publicado un v\u00eddeo<\/a> con 12 preguntas para la autorreflexi\u00f3n<\/strong> that will surely help you and give you some clarity! So sit down, prepare yourself to be honest, and let\u2019s start!<\/p>\n\n\n

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1. \u201cHas anyone ever been able to meet this need?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Jeff empez\u00f3 fuerte con esta pregunta. Puede ser dif\u00edcil preguntarse esto y dar una respuesta honesta y objetiva, pero realmente te ayudar\u00e1 a aclarar las cosas. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

La autorreflexi\u00f3n es realmente importante y poderosa <\/strong>y puede revelar si el problema reside en ti o en tu pareja. Por supuesto, lo m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil es echar la culpa a otro, pero tenemos que ser sinceros con nosotros mismos. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

2.  \u201cHave you clearly told them multiple times what the need is and how they can meet it?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

You probably heard this a million times but I\u2019m going to say it anyway \u2013 good communication is the key to successful relationships! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nadie lee la mente, as\u00ed que you can\u2019t expect your partner to know what you want if you don\u2019t make it clear.<\/strong> I remember when I got upset because my boyfriend wasn\u2019t helping me enough with household chores but I never said it bothered me!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despu\u00e9s de tener una conversaci\u00f3n abierta al respecto, las cosas han ido mucho mejor porque ahora \u00e9l sabe lo mucho que su ayuda significa para m\u00ed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. \u201cDoes your partner acknowledge that they aren\u2019t meeting your need and do they want to meet your need?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

If you openly discuss your needs with your partner and they are fully aware of them but still don\u2019t do anything to meet them, the problem might be in them. Ignoring your needs while knowing exactly what you want just means they don\u2019t respect you enough. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s important to know if they even want to meet your needs at all or if that\u2019s simply something they can\u2019t or won\u2019t do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

De cualquier manera, ser honestos entre nosotros puede decirte r\u00e1pidamente todo lo que necesitas saber<\/strong> para tomar una decisi\u00f3n importante sobre vuestra relaci\u00f3n. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. \u201cDo you have weekly check-ins regarding the unmet need?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

I started implementing weekly check-ins with my boyfriend and our relationship has never been stronger! It\u2019s an extremely useful and simple way of making sure you\u2019re on the same page all the time. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

El \u00fanico requisito es crear un espacio seguro en el que pod\u00e1is expresar claramente vuestras opiniones y ser sinceros el uno con el otro sin enfadaros ni herir vuestros sentimientos. Esto har\u00e1 que ambos os sint\u00e1is escuchados y valorados. <\/p>\n\n\n

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5.  \u201cDo they have an unmet need that you can work on meeting so there\u2019s an equal exchange of energies?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

This is another example of a question you need to answer while being real with yourself. If you expect everything from them but don\u2019t give anything in return, then that\u2019s not really fair. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tienes que ser capaz de corresponder a la misma energ\u00eda que recibes.<\/strong> Se merecen que se cumplan sus expectativas igual que t\u00fa. Construir una relaci\u00f3n feliz y sana es cosa de dos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. \u201cWhat steps have they taken to meet your need?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

If you haven\u2019t seen any change in their behavior since your conversation, that might be an issue. However, sometimes we can\u2019t see small improvements someone is making<\/strong> porque esperamos y deseamos el resultado final que solicitamos en primer lugar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

En ese caso, puede ser bueno preguntarles sobre sus progresos.<\/strong> Seeing the steps they\u2019ve taken to meet your needs can reassure you they haven\u2019t forgotten about you and are actively striving to make you happy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. \u201cEven if it’s slow all in all, are they making forward progress towards meeting that need?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Mientras que algunas cosas pueden cambiarse de la noche a la ma\u00f1ana, otras requieren m\u00e1s tiempo. Todo depende de la naturaleza de nuestras expectativas y necesidades. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Por eso la paciencia es vital para construir vuestra relaci\u00f3n y crecer juntos. <\/strong>Recuerdo que quer\u00eda que mi pareja fuera menos celosa y tuviera m\u00e1s confianza en s\u00ed misma. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes I was frustrated he didn\u2019t manage to change this immediately after our conversation. But I realized I was too harsh and he was actually putting in effort to change that even though building confidence is not so easy and requires time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. \u201cHave you given them positive reinforcement as they\u2019ve made forward progress?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

A menudo olvidamos que debemos apreciar todo lo que nuestra pareja hace por nosotros. Lo mismo ocurre con la satisfacci\u00f3n de nuestras necesidades. Creo que toda la narrativa de \u201cdoing the bare minimum\u201d<\/em> became a bit toxic because people now think they shouldn\u2019t appreciate the small gestures.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

El refuerzo positivo puede ser motivador y animarles a esforzarse a\u00fan m\u00e1s.<\/strong> Being thankful is important and shows our partner we notice their hard work and value it. At the end of the day, they\u2019re doing it to make us happy and satisfied so we should acknowledge it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. \u201cIs it a dealbreaker if they never meet that need?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Algunas expectativas o necesidades son obvias e imprescindibles en una relaci\u00f3n. Preg\u00fantate si ser\u00edas infeliz si nada cambiara y ellos siguieran siendo la misma persona que son ahora.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Necesitas tener una conversaci\u00f3n honesta contigo mismo y decidir si realmente vale la pena estar en esa relaci\u00f3n en caso de que nunca satisfagan esa necesidad.<\/strong> This can be a painful and hard decision to make but it\u2019s important you put your well-being first. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

10. \u201cCan you get that need met outside of your relationship?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

I always loved reading books and wanted to discuss them and have deep conversations about certain topics with my partner but he\u2019s more of a movie guy. I realized I also wouldn\u2019t like him to pressure me into loving sports all of a sudden and talking about football with him. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Me un\u00ed a un club de lectura y satisfice esta necesidad sin darle la lata ni causar un drama innecesario. Sometimes friends or some hobbies are all you need to get satisfaction your partner can\u2019t provide.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n

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Puedes tomar mi ejemplo y hacer lo mismo si tu necesidad espec\u00edfica puede satisfacerse fuera de una relaci\u00f3n rom\u00e1ntica. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

11. \u201cAre you satisfied with all the other needs that they meet for you?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Take a moment to think about other needs your partner is meeting for you. We often focus so much on the negatives and what we\u2019re missing that pasamos por alto las cosas positivas que nos encantan de ellos y que deber\u00edamos apreciar m\u00e1s. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Maybe your partner doesn\u2019t have what it takes to be spontaneous and plan some unexpected trip but he\u2019s really reliable and you can always trust him with important things and that\u2019s also important to you. We can\u2019t let one tiny thing ruin a whole view of our relationship. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

12. \u201cHave you developed anger and resentment that needs to be processed with them regarding the unmet need?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

This can be tricky. If you\u2019ve been nagging them about something for a long time and they still haven\u2019t changed anything, you\u2019ve probably built up resentment. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Esconder los pensamientos y las emociones bajo la alfombra puede convertirse en un gran problema. Aseg\u00farate de no ignorar tus frustraciones y hazles saber c\u00f3mo te sientes.<\/strong> If they don\u2019t validate your feelings and just ignore what you said, it might be time to say goodbye once and for all. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Having standards is as important as making sure you\u2019re not too needy or unrealistic. So before making any big decisions, sit alone with your thoughts, ask yourself these questions, and then decide on your next move.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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