{"id":167463,"date":"2024-07-08T09:11:18","date_gmt":"2024-07-08T09:11:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=167463"},"modified":"2024-07-08T09:12:04","modified_gmt":"2024-07-08T09:12:04","slug":"consejos-controvertidos-sobre-citas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/consejos-controvertidos-sobre-citas\/","title":{"rendered":"Los impopulares consejos de un terapeuta sobre las citas que est\u00e1n provocando un drama"},"content":{"rendered":"

Hoy en d\u00eda, las citas parecen un campo de minas. Intentas aprender todos los trucos y consejos que puedan ayudarte, pero cada vez te encuentras con opiniones diferentes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Puede ser bastante frustrante encontrar la manera de navegar por las citas y las relaciones.<\/strong> when everyone seems to have some opinion today. I\u2019ve also been confused too many times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While one person advises you to behave a certain way, the other is saying that\u2019s a major red flag. So who can I trust, damn it?!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfQuieres saber la respuesta? Algunos de los mejores consejos se consideran bastante controvertidos. <\/strong>\u00bfY qui\u00e9n es la persona m\u00e1s adecuada y fiable para hablar de esto si no es un terapeuta?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That\u2019s why I want to share with you the most unpopular (but effective) dating tips according to the therapist Jeff Guenther<\/a>. Comenz\u00f3 su v\u00eddeo<\/a> \u00a1con el consejo m\u00e1s controvertido!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. If it\u2019s meant to be, sleeping with them on a first date won\u2019t change anything<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

If you never heard people saying you shouldn\u2019t sleep with someone on a first date you\u2019ve probably been living under a rock! This became like an unwritten rule but turns out it\u2019s complete nonsense!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n

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Cr\u00e9dito: <\/strong>Tiktok<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

Jeff dice:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cA relationship is gonna happen whether or not you bang the first time you go out together. Sleep with them or don\u2019t sleep with them, it makes no difference\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

I think I agree with him. Sleeping with someone on a first date won\u2019t ruin your chances of developing a serious relationship as many believe. In the same way, not sleeping with them will not guarantee you\u2019ll end up having your happily ever after story. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sin embargo, no todo el mundo est\u00e1 de acuerdo en que sea un buen consejo:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cSleeping with someone on a first date has made me attach to people too quickly, in my experience.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Por otro lado, muchas personas admitieron en los comentarios que su aventura de una noche se convirti\u00f3 en una relaci\u00f3n duradera e incluso en matrimonio en algunos casos. Una mujer coment\u00f3:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cSlept with my partner on the 1st date and we\u2019ve been together now almost 13 years \ud83e\udd70\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ah\u00ed lo tienes. Que sepas que si alguien est\u00e1 realmente interesado en ti y quiere comprometerse, no tienes nada de qu\u00e9 preocuparte. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. It\u2019s okay to be direct and open about your needs early on<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Hay quien piensa que puede asustar a su pareja si le habla de sus necesidades y expectativas demasiado pronto. Pero en realidad a great way to see if they\u2019re the right person for you. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n

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Cr\u00e9dito: <\/strong>Tiktok<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

explica Jeff:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cBeing direct about your expectations allows your date to either show that they can step up or they can\u2019t. Great data to gather right from the start!\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Una mujer sigui\u00f3 este consejo y le fue muy bien:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cTrue! the moment I told this guy what I want, he delivers. so, I know now this is going somewhere.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You can\u2019t say this isn\u2019t smart! It\u2019s absurd to expect that someone magically knows everything we want and need, so why not say it loud and clear? If they have a problem with it, then they\u2019re probably not a good match. <\/strong>So, let\u2019s not waste each other\u2019s time and see if we\u2019re on the same page!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Deja que conozcan a tus amigos tan pronto como quieras<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Many say letting your date meet your friends is a serious big step you shouldn\u2019t make if you\u2019re not 100% sure about them.<\/p>\n\n\n

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Cr\u00e9dito: <\/strong>Tiktok<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

Jeff explica por qu\u00e9 deber\u00edas replante\u00e1rtelo:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cInvite them around your friends as soon as you want and ask your friends if they felt like you were acting like your authentic self around them.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Una mujer dijo su cita la sorprendi\u00f3 gratamente invitando a su grupo de amigos <\/strong>en su segunda cita. Ella coment\u00f3:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cI’m currently seeing a guy I met on Hinge and the second time we hung out, his entire friend group came! I thought it was sweet actually! It made me immediately cut off all of my other options!\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Isn\u2019t this a really good idea? Others can sometimes see things more clearly than you can, especially if you have butterflies in your stomach. Have your friends observe the vibe and if you\u2019re acting how you normally would <\/strong>to find out if they\u2019re right for you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. \u201cIf they wanted to, they would\u201d mindset is not the best <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

While this is a motto some people live by, others agree with the therapist that it\u2019s just an unrealistic expectation. He thinks things are more complicated than that:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201c\u2018If they wanted to, they would\u2019 is too simplistic and black and white, and doesn\u2019t allow for any nuance. Someone may really want you but not be super forward about it for a million reasons.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n

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Cr\u00e9dito: Tiktok<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

It\u2019s important to realize it takes time to build a connection and deserve someone to go above and beyond for you. Tienes que dar a la gente la oportunidad de demostrarte qui\u00e9nes son y lo que est\u00e1n dispuestos a hacer por ti. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Algunas personas en los comentarios estaban de acuerdo con este punto:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201c\u2018If they wanted to they would\u2019 but you\u2019ve never told them what you want\/need is soooo dumb.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Otra mujer a\u00f1adi\u00f3:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cYes! I hate that \u201cif they wanted to they would\u201d I get why it\u2019s a saying. But, not always the case.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

S\u00e9 sincero. Esta visi\u00f3n de un terapeuta probablemente te haya hecho replantearte muchas cosas, \u00bfverdad? Es una prueba m\u00e1s de que nunca te equivocar\u00e1s si conf\u00edas en tu instinto<\/strong> \u00a1y haciendo lo que tu coraz\u00f3n te dice que hagas! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 opina de estas opiniones? \u00bfSon v\u00e1lidas o no?<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Dating nowadays feels almost like a minefield. You are trying to learn as many tips & tricks that will help you but you encounter different opinions every time! It can be quite frustrating to figure out how to navigate dating and relationships when everyone seems to have some opinion today. I\u2019ve also been confused too…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":167468,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29814],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-167463","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29814,"label":"Stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/07\/Unpopular-Dating-Advice-From-A-Therapist-That-Is-Stirring-Up-Drama-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29814,"name":"Stories","slug":"stories","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29814,"taxonomy":"category","description":"","parent":29651,"count":242,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29814,"category_count":242,"category_description":"","cat_name":"Stories","category_nicename":"stories","category_parent":29651}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/167463","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=167463"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/167463\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":167469,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/167463\/revisions\/167469"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/167468"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=167463"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=167463"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=167463"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}