{"id":167795,"date":"2024-07-10T10:14:14","date_gmt":"2024-07-10T10:14:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=167795"},"modified":"2024-07-10T10:14:14","modified_gmt":"2024-07-10T10:14:14","slug":"la-atraccion-puede-aumentar-con-el-tiempo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/la-atraccion-puede-aumentar-con-el-tiempo\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00bfLa atracci\u00f3n puede crecer con el tiempo? Este hombre cree que deber\u00edas darle una oportunidad a ese chico"},"content":{"rendered":"

To tell you the truth, I didn\u2019t really like my fiance right after I met him. He was just not my type. Okay, he was really funny and easygoing, but esas no eran las cualidades que yo buscaba.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Prefer\u00eda hombres que entablaran conversaciones profundas sobre los problemas existenciales de la vida moderna y otros temas m\u00e1s serios. Sus chistes eran graciosos, pero no hab\u00eda chispa. <\/strong>Pens\u00e9, \u201cOkay, one date, and that\u2019s it.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, for some reason, I went on a second, and a third date\u2026 until I learned to appreciate his qualities and committed to a relationship. Apparently, I knew what I wanted but didn’t really know what I NEEDED.<\/strong> Por suerte, result\u00f3 ser lo mejor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mientras pensaba en why we tend to like those who\u2019re not good for us,<\/strong> y por qu\u00e9 nuestros deseos no est\u00e1n alineados con nuestras necesidades, me encontr\u00e9 con un v\u00eddeo<\/a> where\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Un entrenador de relaciones afirma que la atracci\u00f3n puede construirse con el tiempo<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Comienza con una afirmaci\u00f3n: las mujeres son conscientes de que existe un porcentaje considerable de hombres que realmente buscan una relaci\u00f3n comprometida,<\/strong> but\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cThe problem is most of you ladies don\u2019t wanna date these guys. And let’s be honest, alright, most single women that hire me for coaching tell me something like this. I know two or three guys that are super sweet and always treat me kindly but\u2026 I don\u2019t really like them.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Then he explains that while rejecting the idea of dating those they don\u2019t like, a las mujeres les cuesta hacerlo funcionar con los hombres que quieren.<\/strong> Oftentimes, these men ignore them and play games. He\u2019s not saying women should lower their standards:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cMy point is that attraction can build over time with someone if you give them a chance. But if you see you only keep falling for dishonest men, then beautiful, we\u2019ve got some healing to do.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

As\u00ed que, \u00bfdeber\u00edamos darle una oportunidad y ver if we can develop the attraction for men we don\u2019t like at first sight?<\/strong> \u00bfEs esto posible?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is an interesting argument, I would say, and worth considering. However, let\u2019s see what the public opinion on TikTok says about this standpoint.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Como opina un usuario:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIt\u2019s either there or it\u2019s not\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Some commenters believed this couldn’t be possible, and the relationship coach tried to reassure them diciendo que una chispa puede <\/strong>convertirse en un incendio<\/em><\/strong>.<\/strong> Someone suggested why he doesn’t try convincing men to date women they don\u2019t like. But there were also agreeable comments:<\/p>\n\n\n

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\"comentarios
Cr\u00e9dito: @save_the_messenger<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

Un usuario llamado Panashe<\/em>, made a funny observation about how it\u2019s impossible to build attraction with a guy who doesn\u2019t have it for her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Algunos comentaristas aderezaron la discusi\u00f3n intentando tambi\u00e9n ser graciosos:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cBut I am emotionally unavailable i have been like that since a kid. Is being emotionally unavailable a bad thing?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Hablando de disponibilidad emocional, Laura <\/em>cree los que no est\u00e1n disponibles emocionalmente son los mejores tipos. <\/strong>Still, the relationship coach claims such men don’t really exist.<\/p>\n\n\n

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\"debate
Cr\u00e9dito: @save_the_messenger<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

Supongo que cree que no est\u00e1n indisponibles cuando est\u00e1n con la persona adecuada. Todos podemos recordar al menos a un hombre que pretend\u00eda no estar comprometido, pero luego... conoci\u00f3 a alguien y, sorprendentemente, todo cambi\u00f3 para \u00e9l.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Un usuario, Creda_B, <\/em>agreed and confirmed that it\u2019s possible to build an attraction over time. Another user, Angie, <\/em>tenido una mala experiencia dando una oportunidad a a \u201cnice guy\u201d who turned out to be a dishonest person <\/strong>que la interpret\u00f3.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

TheSunsetTrash<\/em> said she can\u2019t force herself to like the guys who she knows are into a commitment, she simply finds them unattractive. At the same time, a los hombres atractivos no les molesta la idea de una relaci\u00f3n <\/strong>mientras que los que tienen menos \u00e9xito con las mujeres lo desean.<\/p>\n\n\n

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\"comentarios
Cr\u00e9dito: @save_the_messenger<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

Then, there\u2019s CLAUDIA J, <\/em>who believes that it\u2019s not possible:<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cUm Noooooooo, I know within the first 5 seconds of meeting someone. No attraction doesn’t build up. If I’m not physically attracted it’s Noooo.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Other comments confirm the same experience: if they don\u2019t feel it right at the beginning, there\u2019s no chance chemistry will develop over time,<\/strong> \u201cit\u2019s either there or it\u2019s not\u201d<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Some people admit they gave it a try, but it didn\u2019t work out, and there is the possibility that you build an attachment but not a real attraction.<\/p>\n\n\n

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\"comentarios
Cr\u00e9dito: @save_the_messenger<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

Pero entonces madremayo <\/em>Una visi\u00f3n diferente, seg\u00fan la cual las relaciones pueden salir mejor si \u201cstarted from the bottom and blossom into something beautiful.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

SAL’S <\/em>respondi\u00f3 a su nota sobre la curaci\u00f3n, preguntando qu\u00e9 quer\u00eda decir con eso. Quiero decir, realmente, \u00bfde qu\u00e9 tipo de curaci\u00f3n estaba hablando?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Luego, algunos comentarios lo dejaron m\u00e1s claro:<\/p>\n\n\n

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Cr\u00e9dito: @save_the_messenger<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 opina? \u00bfCree usted que buen tipo podr\u00eda valer la pena intentarlo<\/strong> even if you don\u2019t really like him?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Based on my experience, I would say, go for it girl! My fiance couldn\u2019t be further from what I preferred, and now he\u2019s the most attractive man in my eyes.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Every day, I think how thankful I am for having him in my life. I can\u2019t believe I even considered rejecting him when he invited me on a date.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

To tell you the truth, I didn\u2019t really like my fiance right after I met him. He was just not my type. Okay, he was really funny and easygoing, but those were not the qualities I was looking for. I preferred men who would engage in deep conversations about the existential problems of modern life…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":167801,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-167795","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/07\/Attraction-Can-Build-Over-Time-This-Man-Believes-You-Should-Give-That-Guy-A-Chance-1024x576.jpg",1024,576,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/167795","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=167795"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/167795\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":167808,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/167795\/revisions\/167808"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/167801"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=167795"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=167795"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=167795"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}