{"id":167809,"date":"2024-07-10T10:35:45","date_gmt":"2024-07-10T10:35:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=167809"},"modified":"2024-07-10T10:35:45","modified_gmt":"2024-07-10T10:35:45","slug":"recuperar-la-identidad-tras-la-maternidad","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/recuperar-la-identidad-tras-la-maternidad\/","title":{"rendered":"C\u00f3mo recuper\u00e9 mi verdadero yo despu\u00e9s de perderme en el papel de madre"},"content":{"rendered":"

I\u2019m sitting on the edge of the sofa, cradling Miles, my newborn son in one hand while Jamie, my 2-year-old son clings to my leg. It\u2019s 8 am but I feel like I’ve lived a lifetime since dawn.<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Last night was tough \u2013 another sleepless struggle. The baby cried all night so I woke up a couple of times trying to soothe him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vivo como una madre soltera, para ser honesta. <\/strong>My husband and I are happily married but his work requires him to travel a lot and often he spends weeks on a business trip. Now he\u2019s in Japan for five days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019m left to handle the kids on my own<\/h2>\n\n\n
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\"mam\u00e1<\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

\u2013 \u201cHungry\u2026\u201d<\/em> Jamie murmura mir\u00e1ndome con sus grandes ojos. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Siento una punzada de culpabilidad. Quer\u00eda ser la madre perfecta, la que pod\u00eda hacer malabarismos con todo sin esfuerzo, <\/strong>the one who could give both of her kids all the attention they deserve, but the reality is far from that. It\u2019s all so hard.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2013 \u201cOkay sweetie.\u201d <\/em>Digo abrazando a Miles. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I go to the kitchen and make a simple breakfast for Jamie while trying to keep Miles calm. I try to overlook the remains of last night\u2019s dinner lying on the counter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Jamie desayuna y yo pongo a Miles un momento en la hamaca. Respiro hondo intentando disfrutar de un breve descanso. <\/strong>S\u00f3lo un par de minutos despu\u00e9s, Jamie quiere que juegue con \u00e9l y Miles empieza a quejarse de nuevo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019m so focused on my kids that I neglect my own needs and desires. Then, one day I get\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

El despertar en el espejo<\/h2>\n\n\n
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\"mujer<\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

Mi reflejo en el espejo al otro lado de la habitaci\u00f3n muestra una mujer desconocida mir\u00e1ndome fijamente.<\/strong> Apenas me reconozco: las ojeras enmarcan mis ojos cansados y mi pelo parece un desastre. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Me gustar\u00eda tener un momento para m\u00ed, sin el peso del agotamiento presion\u00e1ndome.<\/strong> Si pudiera descansar un poco.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I feel like crying, but I don\u2019t have time for that. <\/strong>As\u00ed que parpadeo para que no se me salten las l\u00e1grimas. Tengo que seguir adelante. Por Jamie. Por Miles. Por m\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2013 \u201cMommy needs a quick shower, okay?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Jamie nods and continues playing with his toys. I leave Miles in a bouncer, rush to the bathroom, leaving the door open so I can hear the kids. The warm shower feels so good, but it doesn\u2019t wash the fatigue away. I have to hurry. Miles\u2019s cry got louder.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Me envuelvo en una toalla y vuelvo corriendo al sal\u00f3n. Jamie intenta consolar a Miles, acarici\u00e1ndole la cabeza. La visi\u00f3n me hace sonre\u00edr y me da una peque\u00f1a oleada de fuerzas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2013 \u201cThank you Jamie.\u201d I say picking up Miles. I sit down with both of them, holding them close. Me siento agotada y abrumada, pero sigo haciendo todo lo que puedo.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

This has to change. I can\u2019t continue like this. I had lost touch with who I am outside of being a mom. Mis pasiones, aficiones e incluso mis aspiraciones profesionales parecen recuerdos lejanos.<\/strong> Oigo la voz en mi cabeza:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYou need to reconnect with yourself\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n
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\"ni\u00f1o<\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

Tengo que encontrar la manera de hacer que todo esto funcione. Tengo que recordar qui\u00e9n era antes de ser madre.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Paso a paso, momento a momento. <\/strong>\u201cI can do this.\u201d <\/em>Sigo dici\u00e9ndome.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Como dise\u00f1ador, Siempre he tenido buen ojo para la composici\u00f3n<\/strong> y siempre me atrajo de forma natural la disposici\u00f3n de elementos de forma visualmente agradable. Pero luego tuve hijos y abroch\u00e9 mis habilidades en el asiento de atr\u00e1s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2013 \u201cI might be a great photographer.\u201d <\/em>pienso para mis adentros.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Siempre me ha gustado la fotograf\u00eda, pero nunca he tenido tiempo de perfeccionarla. Now it\u2019s the right time to give it a try.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mientras paseo con los ni\u00f1os empiezo haciendo fotos de los alrededores. <\/strong>Los comparto en las redes sociales y recibo muchos comentarios de apoyo. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Primero tengo que reorganizar mi vida. Contrato a una canguro dos o tres d\u00edas por semana<\/strong> para tener tiempo de seguir mi pasi\u00f3n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ahora la fotograf\u00eda da sentido a mi vida y alegra mis d\u00edas.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I have to tell you that becoming a professional photographer wasn\u2019t an overnight process. It required small steps. I had to carve out time for reading about photography, took courses, and improved my skills in many other ways.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tuve que aprender a dar prioridad a mi bienestar sin sentirme culpable<\/strong> de no estar disponible 24 horas al d\u00eda, 7 d\u00edas a la semana, para mi familia. Me fij\u00e9 peque\u00f1as metas que me dieran un prop\u00f3sito.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cuando empec\u00e9 a darme prioridad a m\u00ed misma y a mis pasiones, not\u00e9 una transformaci\u00f3n. Me sent\u00ed con m\u00e1s energ\u00eda, seguro de m\u00ed mismo y realizado. <\/strong>This positive change didn\u2019t just benefit me, it also had an impact on my family. I became a happier and more present mother.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To all the moms out there who may feel lost or overwhelmed \u2013 it\u2019s okay to take time for yourself. Recuperar tu verdadero yo no es un acto ego\u00edsta,<\/strong> it\u2019s an essential part of being the best version of yourself for you and your family. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Remember, you are more than just a mom \u2013 eres un individuo \u00fanico con mucho que ofrecer al mundo. <\/strong>Para ser la mejor madre, primero tienes que estar bien T\u00da. El autocuidado es crucial, \u00a1mujer!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As\u00ed que da el primer paso. Abraza tu verdadero yo y disfruta del viaje de la maternidad. Te lo mereces.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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