{"id":167953,"date":"2024-07-10T15:14:05","date_gmt":"2024-07-10T15:14:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=167953"},"modified":"2024-07-10T15:14:05","modified_gmt":"2024-07-10T15:14:05","slug":"ventajas-de-aguantar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/ventajas-de-aguantar\/","title":{"rendered":"Por qu\u00e9 romper puede no ser la mejor soluci\u00f3n aunque se sienta bien"},"content":{"rendered":"

It\u2019s completely normal that every relationship has its ups and downs. After all, they aren\u2019t all sunshine and rainbows. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I know you sometimes feel like you\u2019re enemies and not lovers. How do I know it? Well, I experienced the exact same thing. Every little thing he did started to annoy me. We\u2019ve been fighting nonstop and problems were just piling up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

En esas situaciones, it\u2019s natural to think the best thing you can do is break up<\/strong> y continuad con vuestras vidas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sin embargo, seguir adelante en cuanto las cosas se ponen dif\u00edciles no siempre es la mejor opci\u00f3n porque you\u2019re avoiding an opportunity to work on yourself <\/strong>y resolver los problemas enterrados en lo m\u00e1s profundo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Joe Kort (@drjoekort<\/a>\u00a1), psicoterapeuta, lo explic\u00f3 tan bien en un TikTok que seguro te har\u00e1 replantearte todo lo que sabes sobre las relaciones de pareja!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

La segunda etapa es el punto cr\u00edtico de toda relaci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Joe, the psychotherapist started a video talking about the first stage of every relationship. That is inevitably the best part which everyone enjoys. Why? Well because that\u2019s when we\u2019re still getting to know each other and there\u2019s no build-up resentment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Establecer un v\u00ednculo y crear una conexi\u00f3n es su prioridad al principio.<\/strong> It\u2019s all about the things that make you similar and interests you share. You also still try pretty hard to make the other person fall for you even more. Some people call this a fase de luna de miel.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lo que viene despu\u00e9s no es tan dulce y por eso la mayor\u00eda de las parejas rompen durante la segunda etapa.<\/strong> Joe lo describi\u00f3 como un lucha de poder<\/em>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cThe power struggle which is the second stage is all about differences and conflict arises and people start arguing and people start highlighting the differences between each other to the point if they don\u2019t know what they\u2019re doing breaking up is the best solution because it feels better.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n

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Cr\u00e9dito: @drjoekort<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n

Es l\u00f3gico que la gente quiera marcharse en esos momentos dif\u00edciles, porque a nadie le gusta que le pongan a prueba y descubrir que las personas son diferentes a las versiones ideales de ellas que imagin\u00e1bamos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sin embargo, this is not ideal because we\u2019re running away from confronting them and even ourselves alone<\/strong> cuando se trata de los problemas que tenemos. <\/p>\n\n\n

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Cr\u00e9dito: @drjoekort<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n

El psicoterapeuta dijo que esta es la etapa en la que afloran todos nuestros asuntos pendientes. <\/strong>It\u2019s also not rare we\u2019re triggering some old traumas which is normal because we\u2019re still getting to know each other and learning about our boundaries.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Podr\u00eda valer la pena intentarlo.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Joe insiste en la importancia de permanecer y trabajar juntos en nuestros problemas:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cSo you want to make sure that you\u2019re working through the power struggle and not abandoning yourself and the relationship just to feel better.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

He also said it\u2019s important to note that this advice is not applicable to every relationship:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cIf it\u2019s untreated addiction or somebody who\u2019s a narcissist and unwilling to work with you, that\u2019s different. But most other relationships, the power struggle is exactly what you need to heal and grow as individuals and as a couple.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Puede ser muy duro superar los traumas y las diferencias, pero si realmente os quer\u00e9is, eso se convierte en un peque\u00f1o obst\u00e1culo que hay que superar. Incluso si rompemos y seguimos adelante, hay una alta probabilidad de que vuelva a ocurrir lo mismo en nuestra pr\u00f3xima relaci\u00f3n.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tenemos que darnos cuenta de que trabajar en nosotros mismos no es lo m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil<\/strong>, it\u2019s absolutely required if we want to live fulfilled lives and have successful relationships with others. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Como dijo Joe, que nos permitan crecer individualmente y como pareja<\/strong> que es muy importante para construir una base s\u00f3lida. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mucha gente dijo en los comentarios que eran los \u00fanicos que hac\u00edan el trabajo. Por supuesto, some people are not ready or simply don\u2019t want to do the work<\/strong> and that\u2019s also fine. You don\u2019t deserve someone who won\u2019t fight for your love anyway.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Some said it\u2019s also important to know what the differences between you are because some things can\u2019t be worked through if you\u2019re simply not compatible.<\/p>\n\n\n

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In my case, my boyfriend and I realized we had differences but they weren\u2019t something that could keep us apart because our love was stronger. We were ready to find common ground and make it work and that\u2019s what we did!So if you\u2019re in the same situation don\u2019t give up easily, try to talk to your partner and see where they\u2019re standing.<\/strong> If it\u2019s clear they\u2019re pulling back and want to give up, don\u2019t waste your time and energy!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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